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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 9:51:38 GMT -5
My wife took my kids shopping at the outlets for new school clothes. I asked her how much she spent and she told me $200. I look at the credit bill and it is $600.
How mad should I be? Should I file for divorce?
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Post by Opti on Aug 22, 2012 9:53:58 GMT -5
I don't know. But if you want our resident expert's help perhaps you could spell his name correctly in the thread title?
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Aug 22, 2012 9:55:19 GMT -5
Maybe she misunderstood the question.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 9:55:52 GMT -5
Maybe she misunderstood the question. ROFL!
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Aug 22, 2012 9:57:18 GMT -5
Well? It's possible. You men don't always ask the right ones. Maybe she thought you meant, "How much did you spend on underwear and socks."
See?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 9:57:54 GMT -5
Well? It's possible. You men don't always ask the right ones. Maybe she thought you meant, "How much did you spend on underwear and socks." See? Yeah, maybe that is what she thought. LOL.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Aug 22, 2012 9:58:50 GMT -5
Could be a hundred explanations.
And I've used them all.
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Post by midjd on Aug 22, 2012 9:59:24 GMT -5
Take it out of her allowance
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 9:59:48 GMT -5
What are your general rules for making independent spending decisions? As an example, if I went out shopping for a pair of $300 shoes, I'd tell DH and he'd say, "Good". If I came home with 2 pair because I couldn't make up my mind, he'd still say, "Good" because we can afford it and he knows I've figured out how to fit it into the budget and still take care of our financial priorities.
If spending another $400 really throws off your financial priorities and she didn't call you and let you know, then yeah, you need to talk. And the fact that she told you $200 and it's $600 would really be a red flag. I've never lied to DH about what I spent even though I manage all the finances and he'd never know.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Aug 22, 2012 9:59:56 GMT -5
See? There you go. You men. You automatically assume she's lying when it's probably all a biiiiiiig misunderstanding.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 10:00:13 GMT -5
My wife took my kids shopping at the outlets for new school clothes. I asked her how much she spent and she told me $200. I look at the credit bill and it is $600. How mad should I be? Should I file for divorce? Take away the credit card for lying I am not her dad.
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Post by midjd on Aug 22, 2012 10:00:23 GMT -5
And why do your kids need school clothes? Aren't they like 1 and 3?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 10:02:46 GMT -5
Take it out of her allowance I am not her dad.
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Post by Waffle on Aug 22, 2012 10:03:44 GMT -5
Maybe $200 was at the outlet mall and $400 was elsewhere. I'm with the you must have asked the wrong question camp.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 10:04:10 GMT -5
What are your general rules for making independent spending decisions? As an example, if I went out shopping for a pair of $300 shoes, I'd tell DH and he'd say, "Good". If I came home with 2 pair because I couldn't make up my mind, he'd still say, "Good" because we can afford it and he knows I've figured out how to fit it into the budget and still take care of our financial priorities. If spending another $400 really throws off your financial priorities and she didn't call you and let you know, then yeah, you need to talk. And the fact that she told you $200 and it's $600 would really be a red flag. I've never lied to DH about what I spent even though I manage all the finances and he'd never know. We each can spend as we see fit. I always give her the "evil eye" whenever she spend money, though, so she doesn't like to tell me what she spent.
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Post by shanendoah on Aug 22, 2012 10:04:28 GMT -5
Maybe $200 was on the kids' school clothes and $400 was on a gift for you...
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Post by midjd on Aug 22, 2012 10:04:45 GMT -5
Seems like a stupid thing to lie about if she knows you're going to see the CC bill... or did she count on paying it off before you noticed?
Have you discussed it with her at all?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 10:04:52 GMT -5
And why do your kids need school clothes? Aren't they like 1 and 3? yes. But each are growing out of their clothes and we must not have enough hammydowns left.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Aug 22, 2012 10:04:54 GMT -5
Now don't you feel badly?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 10:05:37 GMT -5
Seems like a stupid thing to lie about if she knows you're going to see the CC bill... or did she count on paying it off before you noticed? Have you discussed it with her at all? No. I just sent her an email that said. "sheesh. Don't tell me you spent $200 when you spent $600."
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Post by milee on Aug 22, 2012 10:05:44 GMT -5
What are your general rules for making independent spending decisions? As an example, if I went out shopping for a pair of $300 shoes, I'd tell DH and he'd say, "Good". If I came home with 2 pair because I couldn't make up my mind, he'd still say, "Good" because we can afford it and he knows I've figured out how to fit it into the budget and still take care of our financial priorities. If spending another $400 really throws off your financial priorities and she didn't call you and let you know, then yeah, you need to talk. And the fact that she told you $200 and it's $600 would really be a red flag. I've never lied to DH about what I spent even though I manage all the finances and he'd never know. We each can spend as we see fit. I always give her the "evil eye" whenever she spend money, though, so she doesn't like to tell me what she spent. So it sounds like she's operating perfectly within the defined system them. What's the problem?
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Aug 22, 2012 10:06:03 GMT -5
Correct!
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Aug 22, 2012 10:07:36 GMT -5
Ok. Now are you sure you understood her correctly? Were you watching a game on the tv and maybe THOUGHT you heard her say $200 when she really said $600. They do sound a lot alike.
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Post by lurkyloo on Aug 22, 2012 10:08:13 GMT -5
I think the problem is Archie doesn't make enough money. His wife should divorce him and find someone who makes more.
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Post by midjd on Aug 22, 2012 10:08:16 GMT -5
Didn't this happen before, with furniture or something? If all you do is give her the "evil eye" when she overspends, she probably figures whatever she's getting for the money is worth you being mad briefly.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 10:11:44 GMT -5
Didn't this happen before, with furniture or something? If all you do is give her the "evil eye" when she overspends, she probably figures whatever she's getting for the money is worth you being mad briefly. yes and yes
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2012 10:13:48 GMT -5
I know that my actions have helped create the system we have, but it still pisses me off when what she tells me is that much different than what she actually spent. Usually the two numbers are closer together.
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Post by midjd on Aug 22, 2012 10:17:47 GMT -5
I think that would piss most people off.
Why don't you talk to her about it? Just because this is the system you have doesn't mean things can't change.
Otherwise I suspect as your girls get older (and more expensive) a lot of resentment will build.
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Post by milee on Aug 22, 2012 10:20:14 GMT -5
I was joking in my prior post because I know a lot of your posts are tongue in cheek, but reading your response on how your actions helped create the system you have, think maybe there's at least a subtext of real frustration there.
If so, want to talk about it? What do you think would be a good solution? Is this something where you and your wife agree 98% of the time and most of the time you can live with the 2%, but now you're thinking the 2% is more of an irritant than you thought? Or are things changing and going down a road you see ending badly?
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 22, 2012 10:21:08 GMT -5
Have you taken into account that women are bad at math?
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