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Post by movingforward on Aug 17, 2012 14:50:25 GMT -5
I learned it in 5th grade gym. They even brought out some belt contraption but sticky pads had already been invented by then. Feminine products were always in the bathroom, so by the time I got mine (on Thanksgiving, no less ) I already knew where to go and what to do. I learned about the belt contraption from Are You There God It's Me, Margaret. I learned lots of things from Judy Blume
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 14:52:34 GMT -5
Blah, blah, something something, don't like it, something or other, don't open it, blah, blah.
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Post by midjd on Aug 17, 2012 14:54:57 GMT -5
True... it is a thread about puberty, after all.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 15:00:52 GMT -5
I had sex ed in 6th grade and my mom asked me if I had any questions. I said no and got out the room as quickly as possible. I bought two books for my own daughter. I read them first and then she read them and we discussed them. It went very well. She was eight at the time and I made sure the books were age appropriate. My advice is to read reviews before buying. I could not have done it without the books.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 15:02:24 GMT -5
I'm wondering if I'm behind. My daughter is 10 and in 4th grade. She is a great reader, so maybe I should start there.
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Post by telephus44 on Aug 17, 2012 15:43:26 GMT -5
I don't remember a talk - but my mom dropped enough information that by the time I was 10 or 12 I knew what sex was, what my period was, where babies come from. I didn't get a lot of the "make sure you know what you're doing and be responsible" message, but never had an issue with the mechanics.
Not sure about my boys. I mean, I think Dad should handle that talk - but since the baby was born, DS#1 (age 5) has been asking some questions. I try to answer them biologically correctly but still age appropriate. He's not OVERLY interested, so I'm not sure if it's getting across, but I don't want him to think it's an awkward subject.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 15:57:00 GMT -5
I'm wondering if I'm behind. My daughter is 10 and in 4th grade. She is a great reader, so maybe I should start there. I don't think you are behind. I think it depends on the child. I did it then because she asked me a question. I answered her and then ordered the books immediately after for future reference.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 15:59:10 GMT -5
I had sex ed in 6th grade and my mom asked me if I had any questions. I said no and got out the room as quickly as possible. I bought two books for my own daughter. I read them first and then she read them and we discussed them. It went very well. She was eight at the time and I made sure the books were age appropriate. My advice is to read reviews before buying. I could not have done it without the books. LMAO!!!! I originally read your post as saying you had sex in 6th grade.. and I thought... wow! you got an early start! LMAO! I did not start then, but some boy was trying to teach me some things in the 5th grade. It's a good thing I thought he was icky.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 16:00:42 GMT -5
My daughter is pretty naive, and not "boy crazy" like some of her friends. She is so sweet, I just don't want to break her - you know?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 16:03:15 GMT -5
My daughter gets somewhat grossed out when DW and I have a 'good kiss' and she walks in...she jokes that it looks like we're "trying to eat each other's face." And that she never wants to kiss like that. I almost wrote out a contract for her at that exact moment and had her sign it...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 16:07:28 GMT -5
My daughter is pretty naive, and not "boy crazy" like some of her friends. She is so sweet, I just don't want to break her - you know? There are books out there that are not that explicit and would probably be a good fit for her. That is why I suggested reading the reviews. There were some out there that explained way too much for her age and they were definitely not what I was looking for. They were such a great help to me. This past school year she had "Puberty Education" and we talked everyday after her lessons. It was good for her that she already knew the information. Even though they didn't cover sex, I asked her if she remembered the information from the books (she is eleven now). I specifically said "do you remember how a baby is made?". She said "I'll answer you in two words mom, "insert here". LMAO! We both had a good laugh. ;D
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 17, 2012 16:47:37 GMT -5
Hah! I asked my mom, just to yank at her, about intercourse for the first time. She told me it was messy and it hurt-her exact words.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 17, 2012 16:57:39 GMT -5
When I was about 9 I got into an argument with a girl about where babies came from. I said the stomach and she said "No stupid! It comes out of your pu___!" I was all " Nuh Uh! Babies are too big to come out of there!" That's when my mom explained it all to me. She then said the girl (who was younger than me) was obviously of low class to know about such things at such a young age. I think she was really pissed that she had to explain it to me and was hoping to dodge that bullet until my teens.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 16:57:50 GMT -5
I hope my daughter is that witty! I could see my son saying it. LOL.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 16:59:02 GMT -5
My son thought that babies came from eating a lot, and then you went poo and out came a baby.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 17, 2012 17:00:51 GMT -5
LMAO!!! I would have preferred your son's explanation. It sounds more logical and less painful. ;D
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 17:01:39 GMT -5
You know - I told him that wasn't true - but he just couldn't grasp it, and we haven't talked about it since. I hope he doesn't still think that.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 17, 2012 17:03:29 GMT -5
Some girl is in for a surprise!! HAHAHAHA I just now read Fam's post about "Insert Here". Try that explanation when you think he is ready. ;D
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 19:19:28 GMT -5
I did such a poor job with "the talk" that afterwards my daughter said she thought she would get married and wait a few years afterwards to see if she "really" loved the guy first. She meant every word and may have done just that. However, she has three kids now so she must love him. Her grandmother did a much better job with the "period." Her sixth grade teacher was her grandmother's best friend. She called my daughter's grandmother to tell her. So she checked her out of school and took her shopping for lots and lots of clothes. My daughter is 35 and still thinks it was the most awesome day of her life.
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Post by vonna on Aug 17, 2012 20:22:37 GMT -5
Quote from thyme for change: I'm wondering if I'm behind. My daughter is 10 and in 4th grade.
Thyme -- I'm not trying to scare you -- but I started when I was 10. If I didn't know it was coming, it would have probably scared the $#!& outta me.
Kids are all so different! I basically follow my mom's lead of answering the questions as they come from my kids. My son asked early and often, my daughter seems oblivious. . . she is 7 and has asked very little.
I hope she asks before I feel like I HAVE to tell her . . .
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Post by msventoux on Aug 17, 2012 22:05:35 GMT -5
I'm in my 30's and still waiting for the talk from my mother. Sex and reproductive issues were never discussed when growing up. I was also homeschooled and lived out in the middle of nowhere, so there were no resources to figure things out on my own. I suppose the the only inkling I had that what was happening was normal was I had seen some movie (the Thornbirds?) where a young girl thought she was dying because she was hemorrhaging "down below" and someone had explained that what was happening was normal. So I figured even though I felt like crap and things were getting weird, at least I probably wasn't dying. Several months after that my mother finally noticed and put some newspaper article on my bed that was written by a pediatrician that briefly outlined the absolute basics. Gee, thanks mom!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 22:38:17 GMT -5
Its Perfectly Normal was a helpful book to leave lying around...
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 18, 2012 7:42:41 GMT -5
I still remember a GF of mine saying how lucky I was to have a boy, this is before DD was born, because I didn't have to tell him this stuff. I was like, WTF? More than half the world is women including his mother. He needs to know that it happens. No, it doesn't happen to him but it happens to girls/women he knows or will know. He needs to be aware and to not be an immature jerk about it.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 18, 2012 8:00:23 GMT -5
Well apparently the book we've been reading to ds is working. Last night at my grandmothers ds is drawing a picture. I couldn't understand what he was saying it was. Me: An egg and a plum? DS: No Me: an egg and a perm? DS: No--where babies come from! Me: Oh...an egg and a sperm (for the benefit of others in the room). It could have been so much worse, and at least it my mom who gave me the book to read to him.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 18, 2012 13:01:23 GMT -5
I don't recall a one specific "talk." It was a while ago, but I think my parents gave me a book to do most of it. I also remember a few times I had questions about a specific topic and they'd answer it matter of factly. I do remember they never made me feel ashamed or embarrased about asking it, and they understood my curiosity. Plus we had sex ed fairly early (7th grade? maybe 6th?)
Though in high school, before I left for college, my dad did set me down and talk out one final warning about the dangers of sex and using a condom be careful that some women may try and trap you with a baby.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2012 13:24:06 GMT -5
I still don't know where babies come from.
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Post by NastyWoman on Aug 18, 2012 15:39:21 GMT -5
Boobies is a vulgar word? Have these people ever watched TV? Read a magazine, a book? Seen an ad? Where do they find these idiots and we allow them to tie up our courts? Holy cr*p batman!
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Post by weltschmerz on Aug 18, 2012 18:06:31 GMT -5
You're not allowed to heart blue-footed sea birds? What's this world coming to?
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