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Post by whoisjohngalt on Aug 17, 2012 13:04:50 GMT -5
Yep, my thoughts exactly and I have 3 boys, so........
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 13:05:39 GMT -5
That is our plan - but I think it is more of a cop-out than a belief. My husband doesn't want to have the talk with our daughter, and I'm not really sure what to say to my son.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Aug 17, 2012 13:06:49 GMT -5
OK, that makes way more sense now. I switched from helping mine bathe to yelling through the door to quit screwing around and hurry up when they were about 5.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 13:08:27 GMT -5
My talk was more about "personal responsibility" than the biological aspect of it
Pop wanted me to TOTALLY understand that i was responsible for my decisions, and that he would kick the crap out of me, if i screwed up and got a girl pregnant...he wanted me to go on to bigger and better things
I was 14, and he presented me with a box of condoms....and two books (dont remember the names, but they were erotica)
That was my talk...
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Aug 17, 2012 13:08:37 GMT -5
I was just asking. Maybe it's different for dads with girls. My daughters would have been horrified to have me see them naked by that age.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 17, 2012 13:09:40 GMT -5
I don't remember having "the talk" with mom. We did do some period thing at school. And when I was about 25, we (Mom and 5 kids) were all at Mom's house on a Good Friday, dying Easter eggs and somehow the topic came up. And my Mom said Dad had been waiting for my older brother to come to him. Except he never did. For some reason we were all howling. I think my parents were relieved we never came to them.
I'm trying to do better by my kids, which admittedly is a low bar to meet...
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 13:10:19 GMT -5
My kids are both horrified when someone sees them naked now - but they never close their doors when they change. How is this my fault?
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Post by Colleenz on Aug 17, 2012 13:10:50 GMT -5
DS is 6 and is very insistent that no one look at his peenus . He only got that way in kindergarten, so I suspect it was a school thing.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 13:13:31 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 13:14:13 GMT -5
Never had the talk, and I know I got pregnant from a toilet seat. Does your baby eat sh|t?
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Post by movingforward on Aug 17, 2012 13:19:00 GMT -5
I was 9 yrs old when my mom talked to me about sex. One of my classmates told a joke that I didn't understand and I went home and told it to my mom and asked her to explain it to me. When she told me the specifics regarding the actual "act" of sex I remember thinking why would anyone want to do that
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 13:19:18 GMT -5
With the exception of the professional family portrait we had done, there hasn't been a minute that I have seen my son when he hands are not on his groin area since he was about 3.
This morning he was holding it when he was getting on the bus, so I whispered for him to remove his hand. He answered "But it hurts" - I guess he was trying to climb the basketball pole and cracked his nuts.
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Post by jarhead1976 on Aug 17, 2012 13:20:57 GMT -5
Lol , Archie. My Dad, RIP " son your getting older and there is something your mother wants me to talk to you about so here it goes, don't put your dick in anything you don't want to marry ". The End Now my reply , " but Dad I want to marry them all! It took him 30 minutes to stop laughing.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 13:21:30 GMT -5
DS is 5 and is constantly holding his too! I ask him if he has to go to the bathroom and he says "nah, I just like touching it".
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 17, 2012 13:26:38 GMT -5
I gave DS a book in 6 th grade that explained it all very well. I read it first. He'd have been embarrassed if I had said anything to him. When I gave it to him I told him to ask any questions he had afterward and he was concerned about getting hair DOWN THERE and under his pits. Kept telling me he'd shave it off. I told him that since all the boys would be the same way, I doubted he'd want to shave it off, the hair, I mean. But that was it for him. DS was easier as it just happened gradually so as she asked, I answered. She was less than thrilled about periods, though, not that I blame her. I hated them as well. What a nuisance.
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Post by Colleenz on Aug 17, 2012 13:26:38 GMT -5
Thanks Thyme and Beer. At least I know DS isn't the only one...
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 17, 2012 13:27:06 GMT -5
DS is 5 and is constantly holding his too! I ask him if he has to go to the bathroom and he says "nah, I just like touching it". That's what my husband says too. Jarhead, LMAO!!!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 13:27:57 GMT -5
LOL POM! So much for him ever "growing out of it".
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 17, 2012 13:28:12 GMT -5
Not by a long shot! The only thing I told DS was that he had to touch himself in private because it wasn't polite to do things like that in public. For the most part, he remembered. Sometimes I had to remind him that what he was doing was a private activity.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 13:29:54 GMT -5
So, did anyone's Mom tell them the real story? That they are messy and a hassle? All I got was how 'beautiful' it was to become a woman. If I had known what I was in for - I might have handled it a little better.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 13:33:57 GMT -5
I learned it in 5th grade gym. They even brought out some belt contraption but sticky pads had already been invented by then. Feminine products were always in the bathroom, so by the time I got mine (on Thanksgiving, no less ) I already knew where to go and what to do.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 17, 2012 13:39:32 GMT -5
I bet you and I are around the same age. I remember my mother hadn't quite transitioned to the sticky pads yet, so they felt it was important to teach the old "tried and true" method. And that lasted about 1 pad.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Aug 17, 2012 13:42:36 GMT -5
It's almost lunch time on the west coast, could we get a break from the bleeding vagina talk for a bit? Thanks.
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Post by midjd on Aug 17, 2012 13:43:52 GMT -5
It's almost lunch time on the west coast, could we get a break from the bleeding vagina talk for a bit? Thanks. I think you're the first person to use the words "blood" or "vagina" in this conversation
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 13:44:01 GMT -5
It's almost lunch time on the west coast, could we get a break from the bleeding vagina talk for a bit? Thanks. I wiped myself after my bowel movement yesterday and the toilet tissue came back bloody. Why does that happen sometimes? I didn't eat anything sharp. I didn't have any more or different bowel movement than normal. The body is a strange thing.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 17, 2012 13:45:39 GMT -5
It's almost lunch time on the west coast, could we get a break from the bleeding vagina talk for a bit? Thanks. I wiped myself after my bowel movement yesterday and the toilet tissue came back bloody. Why does that happen sometimes? I didn't eat anything sharp. I didn't have any more or different bowel movement than normal. The body is a strange thing. Well, it's not vagina talk...
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 17, 2012 13:45:59 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that, Archie. You need to stop putting things up there and it should stop.
My best friend helped me out because she was already a "woman" and knew the ropes and had an older sister who helped her.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 17, 2012 13:46:00 GMT -5
It's almost lunch time on the west coast, could we get a break from the bleeding vagina talk for a bit? Thanks. <<throws tampons at Dark>> Shut up you big baby! Beth MM.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Aug 17, 2012 13:46:30 GMT -5
I was the first person to type them, but they've been implied in all the posts about pads, first periods, and whatnot.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 13:48:31 GMT -5
I wiped myself after my bowel movement yesterday and the toilet tissue came back bloody. Why does that happen sometimes? I didn't eat anything sharp. I didn't have any more or different bowel movement than normal. The body is a strange thing. It was probably the ass pennies that did that... ha!
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