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Post by Firebird on Jun 29, 2012 17:15:39 GMT -5
And FWIW, solving money problems is a FANTASTIC way to rid yourself of one of the things that makes romance hard to keep alive. I don't mean that in a PBPaul "you're stupid for being a W2 earner" way. I'm just speculating that as the leading cause of divorce, having a money system that works for you eliminates the cause of many a contentious argument.
Word. DH and I get along much better when the money is under control and flowing nicely. I wonder why.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jun 29, 2012 17:16:14 GMT -5
You encouraged me to get fat on two different threads? Nope, this one was joking with somebody else.
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Post by Firebird on Jun 29, 2012 17:21:59 GMT -5
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jun 29, 2012 17:24:28 GMT -5
Aww... you can still get fat if you want. You don't need my permission. Feel better now, or do we have to hug?
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Post by Firebird on Jun 29, 2012 17:27:25 GMT -5
I know your game, mister. Keep your "hugs" and your "drinks" to yourself por favor.
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Post by Opti on Jun 29, 2012 18:07:26 GMT -5
Deleted. It's been brought to my attention that tensions are high today and making fun of a woman's weight/looks (even if you totally don't mean it) is either mean or suicidal depending on the woman in question. Kudos to Loop or whomever got you to realize this.
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Post by Opti on Jun 29, 2012 18:21:59 GMT -5
...:::"This is the BEST thing you can say about YOUR WIFE???!?":::... No, it was one of the three questions in the sentence prior to the one I quoted. And this is YM, so complimenting someone's money skills is the highest form of praise that can be given. Seriously? While I admire some people's apparent money skills I feel on a message board I can't judge how much of that is true or not. I can tell if a poster is fair, knows how to read posts and reply to them appropriately, whether they can write well, etc. I can admire and respect their understanding of a subject. I hope P&Mers don't think the highest praise they can get is being a great politician. I will say love language or no. Anyone especially a lover who thought the highest praise he could give me was Optimist is better at X than she used to be is not someone who gets it. I'd probably lose some respect or belief in their people skills and seriously question whether they loved me at all. While Cawaiu hasn't revealed much of why he likes his wife he does admit a big part of it is pure physicality. How she looks and their adult time together. Speaking only for myself, as a poster, I can't think of one thing you've ever said that fits into the category of why I am with this person(DW). What I love about her. (Or what I respect and admire about her if you want to use that particular love language.)
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 30, 2012 9:46:49 GMT -5
Well, he married her knowing her weaknesses and decided to do it anyway. He certainly had enough people telling him not to. I hope it works out for him. DF married a woman he didn't love and then decided hendidn't even like because by the time he figured it out, she was living with him with her two kids and he didn't know show to get rid of them all nicely. Now he thinks it was a stupid reason to get married Nd then I told him it was but his personali being what is it and was at the time, he'd do the same thing again given the same circumstances.
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 30, 2012 9:48:13 GMT -5
How many times do we all repeat the same thing over and over again, hoping for a better outcome. It takes someone knocking us upside the head and saying dumbass, it didn't work the last ten times you did it, do something else!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2012 14:04:38 GMT -5
...:::"I imagine being married to someone who behaves like a 5 year old would be a complete turn off... ":::... Apparently supporting the household financially, cooking like a pro, cleaning, and putting her needs first are ALSO complete turn offs. ...:::"Have either of you ever decided to put on your big kid panties and have an actual discussion about issues that are bothering you?":::... You must be new here. ...:::"Make an effort not to let yourself totally go physically.":::... Good one! Totally agree. And beating on your chest and lording your male superiority over her at every turn is HOT!!! You teally need a giant dose of grow the fuck up. And I've been around long enough to have heard the contempt you've had for her for years now. You both must have zero self esteem to have actually gone through with the wedding. Miss M, I have never been more turned on by you as I am right now! Of course it could be the wine I am drinking! I have mentioned that it is cheaper than water here right?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2012 14:06:36 GMT -5
Sorry did not bother reading all 6 pages but for us right now I want to say a BIG THANK YOU to the writter of 50 shades of Grey. That book have brought out some crazy kinkiness out of my wife and my wife was already kinky to begin with.
I mean she mentionned tying her up that I would have never thought of bringing up myself. Another example was yesterday she was reading the book on her ipad while I was driving to my parents house and by the time we got there the book already took care of the foreplay part for me and all I had to do is take her to to the final stretch.
Besides that I don't know... 9 years later I still desire her like I did at 18. I am not crazy about 2 become 1 theory because I love my wife because she is the total opposite of me and offers me a different view of things. I believe in two get toget to built a life. I believe in having seperate identities, seperate hobbies and being able to spend time apart but also be able to spend hours/days together without driving each other crazy.
Sorry nothing annoys me more than my friends that cannot get together with just the guys because everywhere they go they have to bring the girlfriend/fiancee or wife. Dude, where are your balls? Same goes for woman also.
And while we had our ups and downs, I still believe that my wife is my best friend, the one I can count on at all times and the person that choose to love me no matter how big of a dick I have been to her and vice versa.
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Post by iamme on Jul 2, 2012 14:51:39 GMT -5
And while we had our ups and downs, I still believe that my wife is my best friend, the one I can count on at all times and the person that choose to love me no matter how big of a dick I have been to her and vice versa. fixed
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Post by swamp on Jul 2, 2012 20:32:41 GMT -5
Sorry did not bother reading all 6 pages but for us right now I want to say a BIG THANK YOU to the writter of 50 shades of Grey. That book have brought out some crazy kinkiness out of my wife and my wife was already kinky to begin with. I mean she mentionned tying her up that I would have never thought of bringing up myself. Another example was yesterday she was reading the book on her ipad while I was driving to my parents house and by the time we got there the book already took care of the foreplay part for me and all I had to do is take her to to the final Honey, if she's never asked you to tie her up, she's not that kinky.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jul 2, 2012 20:36:09 GMT -5
<<Makes a note to pick up a copy of 50 Shades of Grey>> Save your time and money. It's seriously the worst piece of shit ever. It makes Twilight look like Shakespeare.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2012 20:57:18 GMT -5
<<Makes a note to pick up a copy of 50 Shades of Grey>> Save your time and money. It's seriously the worst piece of shit ever. It makes Twilight look like Shakespeare. Yeah, I keep hearing that it's poorly written.
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Post by swamp on Jul 2, 2012 20:59:17 GMT -5
I've heard the ideas on how to keep romance alive outweigh thencrap writing. I know a few people who are "doing a chapter a day"
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 2, 2012 21:04:07 GMT -5
Well, we keep our love alive by not lying to each other or trying to trick each other. I think the main thing is that we'd rather the other be happy than ourselves and since we each make the others happiness our main goal, it works out that we both are happy. Great sex is nice but the trust feeling must be there. I couldn't even fake an orgasm with a person that I felt didn't have my best interests at heart.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jul 2, 2012 21:16:40 GMT -5
Save your time and money. It's seriously the worst piece of shit ever. It makes Twilight look like Shakespeare. Yeah, I keep hearing that it's poorly written. It's laughable. The main character is from Seattle and talks like a Brit and it's obvious the thesaurus was in heavy use; "envisaged" was used way too much. Even the supposedly hot sex scenes are a joke. Aside from the fact that the writer totally has the BDSM thing wrong, for such a "risque" book, she can't even use the word vagina. Really? Vagina is not a dirty word; stop referring to it as "my sex"! WTF? Watch "Secretary" or read Anais Nin instead.
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Post by quince on Jul 2, 2012 21:16:42 GMT -5
Sorry did not bother reading all 6 pages but for us right now I want to say a BIG THANK YOU to the writter of 50 shades of Grey. That book have brought out some crazy kinkiness out of my wife and my wife was already kinky to begin with. I mean she mentionned tying her up that I would have never thought of bringing up myself. Another example was yesterday she was reading the book on her ipad while I was driving to my parents house and by the time we got there the book already took care of the foreplay part for me and all I had to do is take her to to the final Honey, if she's never asked you to tie her up, she's not that kinky.
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Post by susanb on Jul 3, 2012 2:11:58 GMT -5
A friend sent me something from a newspaper article (Steve Kalas was the author) that I really like. The article is all about the marriage vows that we didn't explicit say, but that we need to make and keep to have a good marriage. My favorite is:
"I promise never to stop showing up for my own life. I promise not to become dull and boring. I promise to feed my brain, to nurture my own continued development as a person. I will learn. I will nurture a life of vitality, health and enthusiasm."
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2012 2:17:06 GMT -5
Yeah, I keep hearing that it's poorly written. It's laughable. The main character is from Seattle and talks like a Brit and it's obvious the thesaurus was in heavy use; "envisaged" was used way too much. Even the supposedly hot sex scenes are a joke. Aside from the fact that the writer totally has the BDSM thing wrong, for such a "risque" book, she can't even use the word vagina. Really? Vagina is not a dirty word; stop referring to it as "my sex"! WTF? Watch "Secretary" or read Anais Nin instead. I am so glad I didn't waste my money on this. I usually take my book ques of what NOT to read from my cousin. Usually if my cousin is ranting and raving how awesome a book is...then I know it won't be a book I would enjoy. She LOVES the Fifty Shades of Grey series. She also LOVED Eat, Pray, Love. I hated that book and never even finished it.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 3, 2012 7:59:10 GMT -5
That movie just sucked. I never glanced at my watch so many times since Sherlock Holmes! Actually, I left that one.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2012 9:11:08 GMT -5
Sorry did not bother reading all 6 pages but for us right now I want to say a BIG THANK YOU to the writter of 50 shades of Grey. That book have brought out some crazy kinkiness out of my wife and my wife was already kinky to begin with. I mean she mentionned tying her up that I would have never thought of bringing up myself. Another example was yesterday she was reading the book on her ipad while I was driving to my parents house and by the time we got there the book already took care of the foreplay part for me and all I had to do is take her to to the final Honey, if she's never asked you to tie her up, she's not that kinky. LOL that would be my fault. She knows that my biological father use to tie me up to beat me so always thought/figured I would be against that. I told her I was open to tying her up as long as it does not venture into inflicting pain category. I know some folks get off on that but the moment it involves pain, beating and blood.... I am OUT!
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Post by Firebird on Jul 3, 2012 10:37:12 GMT -5
Watch "Secretary" or read Anais Nin instead. Karma!
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 4, 2012 8:01:47 GMT -5
How to keep the romance alive? Want to.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jul 4, 2012 17:02:11 GMT -5
Isn't "50 shades of grey" a trilogy (or at least, has a sequel)? Its a derivative work anyway, and those seem to be crapped out left and right these days.
...:::"...stop referring to it as "my sex"!":::...
I thought this was actually standard phrasing in romance novels. I read one or two just to see what they were about, and the use of terminology was very consistent.
Although 50 shades breaks one rule that I noticed: grey's mother is in the picture. I was told that in romance novels, the man's mother is either dead, or queen of a far away nation who never meddles. After all, its supposed to be fantasy, right?
I did wince a bit when my mother told me she was reading it. Of course that book has definitely brought the genre into far more "acceptable" and "mainstream" territories for general consumption.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2012 17:28:59 GMT -5
Message deleted by debthaven2.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jul 4, 2012 17:45:46 GMT -5
Awh don't delete. Go ahead, say it.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2012 18:14:53 GMT -5
OK. This is the short version LOL.
My kids won't wince at that from me. Not because I won't say it, but because I won't read that crap. I didn't read the Twilight series either, although I generally really love young adult fiction, and I actually spent 23 years of my life writing about it. I am old enough, and enough of a feminist, and a pragmatist, to know that women can do most things men can do, if not all of them. The dependency issues I have read about for both Bella and the woman in this Mommy Porn series sicken me.
Although I refuse to read these books on principle, I do read a lot of literary reviews of them, because I am at heart a literature major, and by trade, a print journalist, and currently, a university English professor. So tendencies, especially literary ones, fascinate me. It is commonly said that people don't read anymore, so when they do, it's all good. So yes, I can understand that people may say that "I just don't understand" because I haven't actually read Twilight (I have read several long excerpts) or the Fifty Shades books.
Maybe so. But all I know at 52 is, life is short, and I don't WANT to waste what's left of mine reading that poorly-written shite!!!
I HATE the "dumbing down" of people. I hate books that are poorly written. I hate the fact that people need to read things rather than use their own imagination.
More than anything else, I hate the fact that the current best-sellers are geared towards the lowest common denominator.
There was a time when Umberto Eco and Italo Calvino and a host of other writers like them were on the NYT best-seller list. Now it's all about vampires and mommy porn. Ack.
And I totally agree with whoever said that if you have to read about getting tied up to think about it, you are sorely lacking in imagination. Either it works for you or it doesn't, but I can't imagine having to read about it in order to decide to try it out.
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