How expensive can a divorce be

[Wisconsin Beth]

May 10, 2012 11:13:24 GMT -5 quotequeen said:

May 10, 2012 11:12:29 GMT -5 swamp said:

Since you're a woman, you're an emotional and irrational ninny who spends her salary on floral spray wall hangings.

WTF are floral spray wall hangings?

I'm picturing those chintz type flowers/Fleur de lis you see in some bathrooms around here. <Beth shudders.>

[Miss Tequila]

"What he wants is completely unreasonable - the woman is 27 - give her some kids so her life can have some meaning already!! "

LOL...luckily I had my first at 27...phew, I just squeaked her out in time

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May 10, 2012 11:14:56 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

May 10, 2012 11:12:29 GMT -5 swamp said:

Since you're a woman, you're an emotional and irrational ninny who spends her salary on floral spray wall hangings.

Shit does that mean I'm not a woman since I spent $2k on football tickets this week?

Damn. Now that is grounds for divorce.

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May 10, 2012 11:14:56 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

May 10, 2012 11:12:29 GMT -5 swamp said:

Since you're a woman, you're an emotional and irrational ninny who spends her salary on floral spray wall hangings.

Shit does that mean I'm not a woman since I spent $2k on football tickets this week?

no, that just makes you crazy.

[Taxman10]

May 10, 2012 11:13:46 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

May 10, 2012 11:12:29 GMT -5 swamp said:

Since you're a woman, you're an emotional and irrational ninny who spends her salary on floral spray wall hangings.

I don't even know what that is.... do I have to turn in my chick card?

no, you had a baby - you can keep your chick card...you do have to buy a pair of reasonably priced Mom Jeans though.

[swamp]

She wants it all without having to work

Don't we all.

[Firebird]

What I saw was 18 pages of what an evil bitch she is and that once HE decided that they shouldn't have kids yet it was over.

It IS over when one person says no (or at least it bloody well should be) on a matter like children.

It amazes me that there are people who think it's totally okay to put one over on a spouse because they'll presumably love the baby once it arrives. That's an absolutely vile thing to do. Sure, it completely violates any notion of marital trust - but more than that, you are risking the possibility of giving YOUR CHILD a mother or a father who didn't really and truly want them.

If you're okay with that possibility, then you have no fucking business bringing a child into the world.

[Deleted]

May 10, 2012 11:15:34 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

"What he wants is completely unreasonable - the woman is 27 - give her some kids so her life can have some meaning already!! "

LOL...luckily I had my first at 27...phew, I just squeaked her out in time

damn, I had mine at 28.


<<gets in the car to do a Thelma and Loiuse>>

[wvugurl26]

May 10, 2012 11:15:43 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

May 10, 2012 11:14:56 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

Shit does that mean I'm not a woman since I spent $2k on football tickets this week?

Damn. Now that is grounds for divorce.

Good thing I'm not married.

Oh damn I fail again manless and childless!

[Wisconsin Beth]

May 10, 2012 11:16:08 GMT -5 swamp said:

She wants it all without having to work

Don't we all.

Hell yes. But I think most of us figure out in our late teens/early 20s that we CAN'T have it all.

[swamp]

floral spray wall hanging:



ETA: Damn, that's big. Sorry.

[wvugurl26]

May 10, 2012 11:16:08 GMT -5 swamp said:

She wants it all without having to work

Don't we all.

Yeah but since I didn't win the mega millions jackpot I drag my ass into work.

[Deleted]

Marriage needs to be a partnership. People saying the financial goals are just HIS goals couldn't be more wrong. She wants to have kids. They cost money. His goals are her goals, or at least they should be.

This a cultural thing Carl? It seems white women are in to waiting these days and having fewer kids (backed up by statistics). She is bowing to cultural pressure?

[Taxman10]

May 10, 2012 11:14:47 GMT -5 midjd said:

He's not throwing some wishy washy I want to be set financially statement out there.

Like this? "I never had an "age" for wanting to be a dad, it has always been when I felt financially stable/ready."

Sure, he gives examples of what I presume would get him there (car loan/CCs paid off, etc.) but I'd bet a decent amount of money that even after those boxes are checked, there will be something else. Her student loans, for example. Or if she leases a Mini under their new separate finances deal, until THAT's paid off.

Maybe I'm wrong... but I pushed back having kids for the same reasons, and it's easy to keep pushing the date back when what you thought would make you feel financially set, doesn't...

I get Carl's desire to be finanically stable but if it is just he doesn't want kids right now period he needs to tell Mrs C that and let her decide if that is a dealbreaker for her or not.

By moving the goal posts around this is where they've ended up.

I'm not saying her actions are remotely acceptable, but I can see why they ended up here just based on what little we know from Carl's previous threads, especially the ones about kids.

In one he even announced he was tossing the condoms, then came back and said he changed his mind.

Either he wants kids now or he doesn't want kids now. Mrs. C clearly wants them NOW. He needs to give her a straight answer.

Exactly.

Exactly QQ, MidJD, Swamp and I all agree...just like always!!

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May 10, 2012 11:16:03 GMT -5 Taxman10 said:

May 10, 2012 11:13:46 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

I don't even know what that is.... do I have to turn in my chick card?

no, you had a baby - you can keep your chick card...you do have to buy a pair of reasonably priced Mom Jeans though.

okay, but can the jeans be bootcut, and can they make me look like I have an ass?

[Miss Tequila]

"Shit does that mean I'm not a woman since I spent $2k on football tickets this week? "

Football tickets have nothing to do with it...but that penis you're shoving in your panties does...

[wvugurl26]

May 10, 2012 11:15:34 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

"What he wants is completely unreasonable - the woman is 27 - give her some kids so her life can have some meaning already!! "

LOL...luckily I had my first at 27...phew, I just squeaked her out in time

I'd have to be way pregnant to squeak one out in time. My birthday's in July.

[midjd]

It amazes me that there are people who think it's totally okay to put one over on a spouse because they'll presumably love the baby once it arrives

Are you talking Mrs. C, or posters on this thread? I don't think anyone has said she had the right to do what she did... I don't believe that, but I am a little sympathetic to her POV because I can see how she'd easily get mixed messages from some of his past actions. And I question whether they actually agreed to anything, or (as in his last post) Cawaiu gave her his demands, end of story...

[Miss Tequila]

"and can they make me look like I have an ass"

You're married...we all know you have an ass

[wvugurl26]

May 10, 2012 11:18:41 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

"Shit does that mean I'm not a woman since I spent $2k on football tickets this week? "

Football tickets have nothing to do with it...but that penis you're shoving in your panties does...

You said you wouldn't tell!

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May 10, 2012 11:17:39 GMT -5 swamp said:

floral spray wall hanging:

1992 just called - they want their wall decor back.

[quotequeen]

May 10, 2012 11:17:39 GMT -5 swamp said:

floral spray wall hanging:



ETA: Damn, that's big. Sorry.

It's possible to spend my whole salary on those?

[wvugurl26]

May 10, 2012 11:22:03 GMT -5 quotequeen said:

May 10, 2012 11:17:39 GMT -5 swamp said:

floral spray wall hanging:



ETA: Damn, that's big. Sorry.

It's possible to spend my whole salary on those?

Maybe not your salary....

[Deleted]

May 10, 2012 11:19:49 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

May 10, 2012 11:17:39 GMT -5 swamp said:

floral spray wall hanging:

1992 just called - they want their wall decor back.

It is 1992 in northern NY.

[Deleted]

May 10, 2012 11:19:37 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

"and can they make me look like I have an ass"

You're married...we all know you have an ass

[Deleted]

Remind me to never go North of Boston.

[swamp]

It's possible to spend my whole salary on those

I hope not, but SF seems to think so. The purchase may have to be supplemented by tchotchkes, thingamajigs, and doodads, though.

[Angel!]

May 10, 2012 10:57:24 GMT -5 TheHaitian said:

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- She knows my stance about her being a stay at home parent and it hasn't change in 4 years married: ain't gonna happen. Temporarily after the baby is born (up to a year) I am ok with, permanently? NO! Last week I reiterate it and she called me a selfish jerk.

Just my 2 cents, but I think you are setting yourself up for failure with this. A year will turn into several years at least unless she just takes a leave of absence from a job. She won't want to find a job & you won't be able to force her. Seeing as she does manipulate to get what she wants, I bet she will do the same with this issue.

[Firebird]

May 10, 2012 9:16:13 GMT -5 whoisjohngalt said:

she is right in the sense that yea if she has gotten pregnant right now I would probably would have been perfectly ok with it and happy about it.

OK, this is CARL'S quote, so why is everyone so hung up on "oh, this is life altering" "one person can't decide to have a baby", blah blah blah when he doesn't seem to have a problem with that....

Lena

Because he still has a problem with her lying to him about it. Why is it confusing that some would find this magnitude of deception upsetting?

[Taxman10]

May 10, 2012 11:22:42 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

May 10, 2012 11:19:49 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

1992 just called - they want their wall decor back.

It is 1992 in northern NY.