Depression Support

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Hi Busymom! We have had a lot of tragic deaths in our community in the past year or two. My son lost a couple of friends. Some of the parents of his friends died and who were our friends. Life is fleeting. We truly have to get up and make the best of every day.

[busymom]

Yup! Every day is a gift. So sorry for the losses you've experienced. I'm kinda dreading later this fall. My DN is slated to go to Afghanistan. But, he got thru his last deployment, so I'm trying to think positive.


The rain has stopped here, and the sun is shining. That's probably why I feel more energetic now.

[MittenKitten]

Oh yeah I have a huge problem with SAD, starting in adolesence. My 9 YO son also suffers from it. Last winter was tough for both of us. This year I am hoping to use my lightbox more and get more exercise in. In fact my son is earning his last belt before black in Karate and should have done it this spring (you can only graduate in March or Sept) and with SAD he just couldn't do it. So now we are graduating a week from tomorrow. We both take vitamin D, him 1000 units a day, me 5000. I may up his. At least I know what he is suffering from and can try to help. My mom did nothing for me.

busy: Great to hear from you. Our schedule just got started earlier but really hasn't changed since he went to Fraser in the afternoon the whole summer. BUT next year when he starts 1st grade it will be completely different. I will have to utilize more staffing hours then. Did you have a good summer?

[busymom]

Summer went WAY too fast. I was mostly dealing with getting DD ready for college, and dealing with my Mom's declining health, & her house. DS did get summer school, but now that school is in session, & DD is at college, I've got a regular therapy schedule for him, in addition to school.

I don't like the days getting shorter right now. I like to go for walks in the early evening, and it was already pitch black outside by 8 p.m. I remember visiting a friend in MO in the winter awhile back, & how surprised I was that even in the winter, they have more daylight hours than we do. I guess when I retire I'd better head somewhere with longer days in the winter.

Congrats to your son!

[roygrip]

Sept 6, 2012 22:06:37 GMT -5 ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ said:

Scottish Lassie, my prayers, thoughts and condolences, to you and yours on both the addiction and deppression fronts. I know addiction well, the two can run hand in hand. Sadly..... No amount of "help" be it intervention, 12 step, DR, etc. Will help unless the one afflicted choses help. This is why any "recovery" can only offer maybe 20% success. In real terms for every addict like myself who manages to get some clean time, 11 plus yrs in my case, 5 more will die of the disease. That is so very sad. Prayers to all.

Thank you, Roy - your words mean a lot - unfortunately, his addiction (alchohol) did end up killing him - a few months ago (which contributed to my depression). He didn't have the strength or willpower to fight his own demons - no matter how much help was offered AND given - by everyone including the professionals. I wish you well on your path forward and know in my heart of hearts that you have the strength to continue going in the right direction.

Blessed be to you.

Thank you! If it wasn't for my higher power, my God concept, none of it would be possible. I believe that, it works for me.


On the note of Sparkle. How sad. What a wonderful lady she was. Always up, always her beautiful flowers. My prayers.

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Here ya go, this says depressed mom's have shorter kids:

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Hi everyone. I haven't been in here for months, and it was very sad to come back to hear about Sparkle. It has reminded me that whether we are in-real-life friends, or online friends, a family is built on caring for one another. When one of the family is gone, it does have an effect on us. She will truly be missed.
On the subject of depression, I have been dealing with it now for a couple years, but more in the past few months. I was just told by my doctor that I have "situational depression". To me that sounds like a very minor form, but depression just the same. Because if you can't get yourself out of the "situation", for whatever reason, then you stay locked in the depression.
Has anyone else had this type depression?

[MittenKitten]

Could all of you give your prayers to my sister and her dog? He is at the vet with Pancreatitis and my not survive. He is only 20 months and is a sweet dog. My sister will be devestated if anything happens to him.

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Aww, i am sorry to hear about your sister's pooch.

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Sept 12, 2012 8:39:27 GMT -5 @darla4444 said:

Hi everyone. I haven't been in here for months, and it was very sad to come back to hear about Sparkle. It has reminded me that whether we are in-real-life friends, or online friends, a family is built on caring for one another. When one of the family is gone, it does have an effect on us. She will truly be missed.
On the subject of depression, I have been dealing with it now for a couple years, but more in the past few months. I was just told by my doctor that I have "situational depression". To me that sounds like a very minor form, but depression just the same. Because if you can't get yourself out of the "situation", for whatever reason, then you stay locked in the depression.
Has anyone else had this type depression?

Hi darla! I do think it helps to try identify what some of the causes might be. If it is situational, then are there things you can do to alter the situation even in small ways? But, i think that situations are one issue, but learning how we react is another and helpful to work on.

[Reckless Roselia]

Hello Darla,

I haven't been in here for months, and it was very sad to come back to hear about Sparkle. It has reminded me that whether we are in-real-life friends, or online friends, a family is built on caring for one another. When one of the family is gone, it does have an effect on us. She will truly be missed.

Indeed, Sparkle was a lovely caring and honest lady and no one has had anything bad to speak of her since her death. That speaks lots. Even though as an online friend, I saw her as a real person with feelings.

I was once mocked for possessing feelings and being of a caring nature for my online friends (and for wanting a little cyber family desperately) by someone that shows they too care for their online mates but of course it has to be fake given when that person can sling insults like that at me. I don't think this level of cruelness and hypocrisy can ever leave me. Sparkle helped me through it or a depressed soul I may have been.

Has anyone else had this type depression?

Yes and it's easy to rise out of it, i.e. by changing the situations.

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To forgive is divine.

[Reckless Roselia]

Sept 12, 2012 13:01:41 GMT -5 @shooby said:

To forgive is divine.

I'm not a goddess. Maybe I can forgive but to arrogant people?

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Forgiveness isn't dependent on the recipient.

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Hi shooby and Roselia....I do know what situation is causing it, and it's an important but difficult one to change. It involves moving 2,000 miles away, leaving a couple family members, to be closer to a few others. It's a much-needed move, but one that requires a lot of planning, and the emotions are all over the place right now. They say go where your heart is, but if your heart is in more than one place makes it more difficult.
Shooby, I do agree with you...learning how to react, how to turn a negative into a positive, is definitely something to work on.

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Darla - I think maybe your heart is telling you to really assess your situation. And, then decide what you want/need to do and make some decisions and push on. But, in reality moving is really never as good as you think it is and isn't as bad as you think it is and vice versa. I mean, we tend to see the grass as greener. But, if you can't move, then determine to "bloom where you are planted" and realize there are Seasons of your life and maybe later on will be a better time to make the move. But, until then, try to live each day with zeal. And, understand, that being happy doesn't mean you never feel depressed. I think that is a big misunderstand, or at least it was for me. I have to allow that i will feel those days, but i allow myself a period of time to feel it, then get up and get moving because focusing on it for longer periods only fuels the depression.

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shooby, I've been going back and forth with the moving idea for 2 years, then suddenly I realized it's what I want and need. I do agree with you, that sometimes we think the grass is greener. I have taken all that into account. I like your quote "bloom where you are planted"...very good. I also believe in the idea that we receive in our lives, what and when it is meant to be. I've tried several ways to make this move, but none worked. But I am working on one now that seems to be the key. Time will tell.
I like your attitude, allowing yourself those down days/times, and not feeling guilty, just being...then when you feel better, you get up and get on with life. Your last line is very true. Thank you for your input, I appreciate it.
Roselia, it's too bad that you were mocked just because of being caring about online friends. I think most, if not all, the people in here would say that they care about people in here. Every one is a real person, with real feelings. I'm so glad Sparkle was there to help you through that time. She was definitely one of the best.

[Reckless Roselia]

Roselia, it's too bad that you were mocked just because of being caring about online friends. I think most, if not all, the people in here would say that they care about people in here. Every one is a real person, with real feelings. I'm so glad Sparkle was there to help you through that time. She was definitely one of the best.

I wish people would stop being insensitive and self centred. I was made to believe that I was really bad for only caring. Sparkle saw what was going on and she only supported the truth.

I cannot stand hypocrites and liars. Makes my blood boil. But it ain't worth it.

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We are all hypocrites.

[Reckless Roselia]

Sept 12, 2012 14:42:55 GMT -5 @shooby said:

We are all hypocrites.

And we all tell a lil white lie here and there, no?

Humans do make mistakes without a doubt but the best thing is to rectify them.

I cannot tolerate high levels of hypocrisy because with that comes many nasty things.

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Thanks for the K Roselia
I agree with you both...we all can be hypocrites at times, and do tell little white lies, but the most important thing is not hurting anyone while doing it. And as you said, if we unintentionally hurt someone, we need to rectify the situation.
Liars are near the top of my list to avoid. If someone lies to me once, I find it hard to trust them again. But that's just me, how I was raised.

[Reckless Roselia]

Liars are near the top of my list to avoid. If someone lies to me once, I find it hard to trust them again. But that's just me, how I was raised.

Indeed Darla, trust is like a mirror. Once shattered, it cannot be fixed and if so the crack will always be visible. I don't know how people can lie and not feel guilty.

In fact do people with a guilty conscious tend to become more depressed? Just a thought.

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I think the chronic liars don't have a guilty conscience. I used to know one, lied about everything, told his lies like it was a true story. He even started believing his own lies. And it was very easy to get caught up in them. I think a liar may become depressed if they get caught often enough in their lies, and can't seem to stop themselves. At some point you'd think they would start realizing it isn't working. It must be like a sickness when they are so out of control with doing it.

[Reckless Roselia]

Aha, we're dealing with sociopaths here. Not nice people.

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The person I mentioned is not very nice, personally speaking. I don't know if I'd call him a sociopath, as I prefer not to generalize or label, not knowing the description of that type well enough.

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I don't know. You can choose to focus on the hurts and ill wills of others toward you or you can understand that you also have hurt others intentionally or unintentionally along the way of life as well. We have all made mistakes.

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I agree with you shooby. I have forgiven long ago, moved on, and have no hurt or ill will toward this person. I know I have made mistakes, I'm a flawed being like everyone else. And the feeling of peace after you can find it in your heart to forgive, is the best reward.

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Where are ya darla?

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How are peeps doing?

[busymom]

Better. I made DS take a nap (he was getting crabby) & then I took one at the same time.


Lotsa housework to catch up on. What is it anyway, about feeling better when your house is organized? DH could frankly care less. If I wasn't around, the junk would be knee-high.