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Post by qofcc on Jun 17, 2011 12:37:12 GMT -5
I didn't want to hijack the other thread, but I have to respond to your statement...
I would never pay to go to school to be a mechanic. I could get a job tommorow in that industry without schooling if i wanted to turn wrenches for a living. I struggle with this, i want to stick with traditional woman careers, when i could easily make better money driving a truck or repairing cars or even semis.
If you could easily do this, why wouldn't you? At least for a year or two until you can get your finances in order. Then you could start looking for another office job near home if you weren't happy with what you were doing. It sounds like you have a low level administrative job without any room for advancement, it's not like it would be career suicide to go do something different for a while, then come back. Even if you just found a job closer to home, the savings in gas would be tremendous.
You said your ex is a mechanic and works for your brother. Would your brother hire you?
Also, if your ex is such a hot shot mechanic making a huge salary, why are you only getting $75/mo in child support?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 17, 2011 12:40:11 GMT -5
You apparently missed hte post where she said she prefers to stick to more "female" job positions. It's at the end of the same post you copied.
i want to stick with traditional woman careers, when i could easily make better money driving a truck or repairing cars or even semis
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Post by CarolinaKat on Jun 17, 2011 12:45:45 GMT -5
Oh... Should I be apologizing for being an engineer? *rolls eyes*
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 17, 2011 12:48:01 GMT -5
Be proud that you are so smart that you can be an engineer.
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Post by chiver78 on Jun 17, 2011 12:48:20 GMT -5
Oh... Should I be apologizing for being an engineer? *rolls eyes* I'm with Kat.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 17, 2011 12:48:52 GMT -5
I was really curious what a "traditional woman career" is. Maybe Amieko might like to translate?
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Post by illinicheme on Jun 17, 2011 12:51:37 GMT -5
I was really curious what a "traditional woman career" is. Maybe Amieko might like to translate?
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Post by midjd on Jun 17, 2011 12:52:28 GMT -5
Geisha?
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Post by chiver78 on Jun 17, 2011 12:53:38 GMT -5
prostitute? it is the oldest profession, after all.....
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Post by qofcc on Jun 17, 2011 12:54:59 GMT -5
No, I saw where she says he PREFERS to stick with more female jobs, but as a temporary solution, this could work. Do the job that makes the most money now, then do what you prefer when you can afford it.
I like sitting at a desk in a clean quiet office, but if I could make more money doing home renovations (which I also have some aptitude for, but doesn't pay as well), I'd do it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 17, 2011 12:57:02 GMT -5
No, I saw where she says he PREFERS to stick with more female jobs, but as a temporary solution, this could work. Do the job that makes the most money now, then do what you prefer when you can afford it.
And in how many threads exactly has she taken any advice that means doing something she does not want to do (sell Herbie, get rid of the smart phone etc)?
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Post by swamp on Jun 17, 2011 13:06:31 GMT -5
Oh... Should I be apologizing for being an engineer? *rolls eyes* As soon as I apologize for being a lawyer and my sister apologizes for being a doctor.
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Post by swamp on Jun 17, 2011 13:06:57 GMT -5
I was really curious what a "traditional woman career" is. Maybe Amieko might like to translate? <<water on the monitor>>
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Post by swasat on Jun 17, 2011 13:23:49 GMT -5
I didn't want to hijack the other thread, but I have to respond to your statement... Also, if your ex is such a hot shot mechanic making a huge salary, why are you only getting $75/mo in child support? I wonder about that too. In one of her previous threads she said that she a hot shot life with her ex. They used to take multiple vacations a year to exotic places, had a huge 3400 sqft house, basically she lead a lavish lifestyle. Now, how many mechanics do you know who would make enough for that kind of lifestyle? Sure, if you are a mechanic with BMW or Mercedes, I can totally see that. But somehow I am having a hard time believing that doxie's ex was in that league. Because if he is, then doxie's brother (her ex's boss) is even richer. Then how come doxie downgraded so much to marry a truck driver? I know I know.... love and all that jazz....but still very hard to digest given all the details of the story.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jun 17, 2011 13:28:12 GMT -5
I struggle with this, i want to stick with traditional woman careers, when i could easily make better money driving a truck or repairing cars or even semis. LOL! Now it makes sense. Wow, you've been waiting a long time for this huh? Fine, I'll help you out. You have our permission to leave your husband since he refuses to make enough money to support you in the lifestyle you want without you having to work. Obviously all of your friends are stay at home spouses or work "traditional female jobs" (i.e. low paying inconsequential work) but it doesn't matter because their men support them. That's why you spend more time finding jobs for your husband than you do for yourself. Unfortunately, you chose to marry a guy that's happy with any job that lets him earn slightly more than minimum wage like his redneck family, so now you're screwed. It's OK. I understand. Leave his sorry butt already, and go find prince charming. He's totally out there too, and he's just dying to find a chick with three kids who works a crappy low wage job and has a pile of bills. That's like the dream... and stuff.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 17, 2011 13:29:51 GMT -5
Wow Dark, you are as good as IowaSwirl at translating threads!
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Post by midjd on Jun 17, 2011 13:32:30 GMT -5
If her ex works for Cummins, it's entirely possible he makes a pretty hefty salary. I live in the city in which Cummins is headquartered, and their employees are very well-compensated (plus terrific benefits). I was actually hoping DH could get hired on there after he graduates, though he's not training to be a diesel mechanic.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 17, 2011 13:32:53 GMT -5
I didn't want to hijack the other thread, but I have to respond to your statement... Also, if your ex is such a hot shot mechanic making a huge salary, why are you only getting $75/mo in child support? I wonder about that too. In one of her previous threads she said that she a hot shot life with her ex. They used to take multiple vacations a year to exotic places, had a huge 3400 sqft house, basically she lead a lavish lifestyle. Now, how many mechanics do you know who would make enough for that kind of lifestyle? Sure, if you are a mechanic with BMW or Mercedes, I can totally see that. But somehow I am having a hard time believing that doxie's ex was in that league. Because if he is, then doxie's brother (her ex's boss) is even richer. Then how come doxie downgraded so much to marry a truck driver? I know I know.... love and all that jazz....but still very hard to digest given all the details of the story. DH's cousin's husband works on the BIG boat/yacht engines in the Great Lakes. Last time we were up there, they were showing off their house - on 4 acres of land, with koi pond, gazebo, and 4 car garage with a $100K Corvette in it, motorcycle and 2 other vehicles. He wanted that particular model because it was only made in 1 City and was a limited edition, I know because I asked.
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Post by swamp on Jun 17, 2011 13:34:21 GMT -5
I didn't want to hijack the other thread, but I have to respond to your statement... Also, if your ex is such a hot shot mechanic making a huge salary, why are you only getting $75/mo in child support? I wonder about that too. In one of her previous threads she said that she a hot shot life with her ex. They used to take multiple vacations a year to exotic places, had a huge 3400 sqft house, basically she lead a lavish lifestyle. Now, how many mechanics do you know who would make enough for that kind of lifestyle? Sure, if you are a mechanic with BMW or Mercedes, I can totally see that. But somehow I am having a hard time believing that doxie's ex was in that league. Because if he is, then doxie's brother (her ex's boss) is even richer. Then how come doxie downgraded so much to marry a truck driver? I know I know.... love and all that jazz....but still very hard to digest given all the details of the story. I know 2, but they own the shops. They started out as 1 man shows in their home garages, but have done very well for themselves.
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Post by kent on Jun 17, 2011 13:35:00 GMT -5
prostitute? it is the oldest profession, after all..... I disagree that it's the oldest, it's the second oldest. The oldest is dominated by men.......begging for "it"
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jun 17, 2011 13:36:04 GMT -5
Wow Dark, you are as good as IowaSwirl at translating threads! No, I'm just familiar with the attitude. In my experience it's pretty common among poor to lower middle class white girls. Ironically most of the ones I see chasing this lifestyle were raised by single mothers after dad split, but for whatever reason their only apparent goal in life is to find some schmuck that'll father a few kids, not treat them like total crap, and let them stay home or work crappy jobs for life. It never seems to cross their minds that their prince charming can leave one day, which puts them with a couple kids and no job skills raising their brood in crappy Section 8 houses with the help of welfare programs so they can grow up and repeat the cycle.
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Post by swasat on Jun 17, 2011 13:37:41 GMT -5
swamp, see thats what I am saying. If you OWN the shop, then of course you are into big bucks. But doxi'e husband works for her brother.
And from she has said he is an auto mechanic, not a yacht mechanic (which is heavy duty engineering). Also, as per her, he has never been to college. Heavy engines such as boats, yachts and planes are serviced by engineers, not mechanics.
ETA: Not engineers per se, but certifications and marine mechanics training etc. is a qualification usually required to be a yacht mechanic.
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Post by swamp on Jun 17, 2011 13:40:27 GMT -5
Wow Dark, you are as good as IowaSwirl at translating threads! No, I'm just familiar with the attitude. In my experience it's pretty common among poor to lower middle class white girls. Ironically most of the ones I see chasing this lifestyle were raised by single mothers after dad split, but for whatever reason their only apparent goal in life is to find some schmuck that'll father a few kids, not treat them like total crap, and let them stay home or work crappy jobs for life. It never seems to cross their minds that their prince charming can leave one day, which puts them with a couple kids, no job skills, and raising their kids in crappy Section 8 houses to grow up and repeat the cycle. I was raised pretty blue collar, but I really don't get that mentality. I'm not going to rely on some schmuck to support me and my kids, I want to be able to suppport myself, and I am.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 17, 2011 13:43:31 GMT -5
swamp, see thats what I am saying. If you OWN the shop, then of course you are into big bucks. But doxi'e husband works for her brother. And from she has said he is an auto mechanic, not a yacht mechanic (which is heavy duty engineering). Also, as per her, he has never been to college. Heavy engines such as boats, yachts and planes are serviced by engineers, not mechanics. I have no idea what qualifications DH's cousin's husband has to work on the boat engines. All I know for sure is what I saw in the house/garage and that the family gossip just says that he has serious money from the boats. Also, he bought and renovated a bar for DH's cousin to run (I guess it's what she wanted to do) and supposedly that's making money too. They could be in debt up to their eyeballs for all I know, if they are that's not making the rounds. ;D They do live in what I think is fairly LCOLA area too.
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Post by swasat on Jun 17, 2011 13:47:04 GMT -5
Quite possible Wisconsin Beth. Not saying that its not possible. It just doesn't all add up in doxie's case, given all the back story.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jun 17, 2011 13:47:28 GMT -5
I was raised pretty blue collar, but I really don't get that mentality. I was raised by a poor single mother, section 8, food stamps, Medicaid, the works, and I don't really understand the mentality either. I mean, I've seen it enough to know that it's out there, I just don't get why girls choose the lifestyle. Hell, my sister did. Almost every time I talk to my mom she wonders why my sister spent her whole life watching my mom struggle, then went out and made all the same mistakes. I'd love to be able to explain it, but I just can't. Our childhood ranged from so-so to really frakin horrible at times. For the life of me I can't figure out why the hell my sister wants to raise her kids the same way.
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Post by midjd on Jun 17, 2011 13:49:57 GMT -5
Of all the little implausibilities, I don't think raking in big bucks at Cummins is one of them (though that wouldn't explain the low child support). They have a lot, a LOT of money, and their employees are very well compensated.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 17, 2011 13:52:09 GMT -5
Quite possible Wisconsin Beth. Not saying that its not possible. It just doesn't all add up in doxie's case, given all the back story. I know. And in Doxie's defense, it's not always easy to figure out what portion of your backstory/history needs to be mentioned but once it does become apparent, it ought to be addressed...
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 17, 2011 13:53:48 GMT -5
I was raised pretty blue collar, but I really don't get that mentality. I was raised by a poor single mother, section 8, food stamps, Medicaid, the works, and I don't really understand the mentality either. I mean, I've seen it enough to know that it's out there, I just don't get why girls choose the lifestyle. Hell, my sister did. Almost every time I talk to my mom she wonders why my sister spent her whole life watching my mom struggle, then went out and made all the same mistakes. I'd love to be able to explain it, but I just can't. Our childhood ranged from so-so to really frakin horrible at times. For the life of me I can't figure out why the hell my sister wants to raise her kids the same way. Dark, she's doing what she knows. Maybe stepping outside that path is too scary or something.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jun 17, 2011 14:00:29 GMT -5
Now, how many mechanics do you know who would make enough for that kind of lifestyle?
Actually, my cousin does. He owns his own garage and does very well. His house isn't that large and their vacations aren't exotic, but my cousin tends to spend his money on new and expensive cars every year - paid in cash.
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