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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 15, 2019 15:17:51 GMT -5
But then they will be immune to cancer!
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Post by geenamercile on Feb 15, 2019 19:19:50 GMT -5
I don't know if I am just sensitive and overall drained or if DH is being an ass about the way he is saying things, but either way I could use a wine buddy tonight.
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Post by chapeau on Feb 15, 2019 20:00:34 GMT -5
I don't know if I am just sensitive and overall drained or if DH is being an ass about the way he is saying things, but either way I could use a wine buddy tonight. I’m in long distance, but that’s probably not quite what you had in mind. Aunt Flo showed up two weeks early after being a week late, which might mean it’s only a week early? I want to stuff my face with all the carbs, but I’m trying to be good...
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 15, 2019 20:13:29 GMT -5
I don't know if I am just sensitive and overall drained or if DH is being an ass about the way he is saying things, but either way I could use a wine buddy tonight. I vote he's being an ass. I'm in too for long distance. At least when I'm off work that is which feels like it will never come.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 15, 2019 20:40:58 GMT -5
Movers came today and put the beds together and moved some other things around for me. The kids are so excited, and honestly so am I. I need to buy a lot more bedding though. And actual beds for the top bunks.
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Post by cktc on Feb 15, 2019 21:12:58 GMT -5
I'm on my second glass. I hope you feel better soon, geena.
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Post by geenamercile on Feb 16, 2019 14:56:14 GMT -5
I think Dh still has something up his butt. However, I am waiting for pizza and then we are taking the girls to the park. Not sure which one but taking advantage of the nicer weather. Never did have any wine last night. Might tonight.
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Post by geenamercile on Feb 18, 2019 9:44:56 GMT -5
Hello,
A question for you all. Do you mind when other people tell your kids what to do. I am not talking about big things, although I would guess that we would define big things in different ways. What started this conversation with DH is we had some friends over, YDD was eating a chocolate chip granola bar on the couch for dessert and left the wrapper on the couch. One of our guest reminder her to throw it away. This bugged DH. It isn't that DH and I wouldn't have reminded her, we were just cleaning the kitchen from dinner at the time, and the guest saw it first. This apparently bugged DH or I (I don't want to say who is on what side right now) and lead to the conversation this morning that it annoys one of us when anyone else tells the girls what to do. That others should not tell our girls what to do. The other one sees this not as a big deal. Thoughts and ideas?
Edit to add- I say not big things because we are in agreement that on big things it is up to us and no one else to tell our daughters what to do.
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Post by steph08 on Feb 18, 2019 9:49:40 GMT -5
It depends who says it if it bugs me. My parents or in-laws, usually no because they are around a lot. My brother/SIL were home last week and said stuff to the kids once or twice, and it really bugged me. I think I might have told the kids to ignore it. Hahahha. (It was something like don't be so loud or something. I can't help that my two year old talks nonstop when yours is a grumpbutt most of the time).
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Post by swamp on Feb 18, 2019 9:52:19 GMT -5
If the guest said, "hey, you stupid pig, clean up after yourself, no wonder you have no friends," or something rude like that, I'd be livid. Don't berate my kids. But if it was simply, "you need to pick up your wrapper" I'd thank the guest. I nag enough. Someone else can take a turn.
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Post by financialpeace on Feb 18, 2019 11:15:15 GMT -5
It would bug me but not enough to say anything. If it happened in someone else’s house it wouldn’t bug me. But I don’t think other people should be telling my kids what to do in my/their own house.
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Post by geenamercile on Feb 18, 2019 13:02:05 GMT -5
It annoyed DH, it didn't annoy me. My thoughts is that this person has been here enough where they know our expectations and rules. They have most likely heard us tell YDD the same thing a thousand times before, so it isn't like they were trying to set a new rule. Also this is someone who we have let watch the girls before. And it was in a rude way just a, don't forget to put that in the trash comment. It did come out that apparently it annoys DH when we are at other people's houses too. We will figure this out.
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Post by chapeau on Feb 18, 2019 13:04:33 GMT -5
Like others, it depends who and to some degree where it is. My mom and dad spend lots of time with DD. If they correct her at their house, I don’t care. Different houses have different rules. DD gets that. When my sister, who doesn’t have kids, corrects her at my house, it really annoys me. (This is the same sister who drew 19-month-old DD’s attention to her very fancy and fragile Christmas tree after I’d spent literally 2 hours keeping DD away from it, then yelled at DD when she touched an ornament. What did she think would happen exactly? Oh, right, she told her “we don’t look with our hands, we use our eyes”. And that’s why our other sister is DD’s guardian.) DD doesn’t touch much at this sister’s house.
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Post by gs11rmb on Feb 19, 2019 7:55:25 GMT -5
I wouldn't be bothered by that situation. From your description it doesn't sound as if the adult was berating your child in any way. Also, I know this board is often used to vent about spouses and the annoying things they do but that is just a small part of an overall relationship. With that qualification, geenamercile the impression I get of your husband is that he is the sort of person who likes to find fault and at times is almost actively looking to be offended. You've mentioned before that he is depressed and I'm wondering if that is playing into his reaction, which does seem very disproportionate to the situation described.
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Post by oped on Feb 19, 2019 8:07:56 GMT -5
Like others, it depends who and to some degree where it is. My mom and dad spend lots of time with DD. If they correct her at their house, I don’t care. Different houses have different rules. DD gets that. When my sister, who doesn’t have kids, corrects her at my house, it really annoys me. (This is the same sister who drew 19-month-old DD’s attention to her very fancy and fragile Christmas tree after I’d spent literally 2 hours keeping DD away from it, then yelled at DD when she touched an ornament. What did she think would happen exactly? Oh, right, she told her “we don’t look with our hands, we use our eyes”. And that’s why our other sister is DD’s guardian.) DD doesn’t touch much at this sister’s house. Yes, but speaking from experience, this is more about your relationship with your sister than anything else Telling a kid to remember to pick up their trash. Gah. Maybe I’ve been living in too much of a village but I’m with swamp. If you see something say something. Gives me a break.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 19, 2019 8:47:00 GMT -5
Yes, PLEASE point out to my kids to pick their shit up. Maybe if a few more people point out to them that they should do it they'll finally assimilate the information.
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Post by chapeau on Feb 19, 2019 9:52:12 GMT -5
Like others, it depends who and to some degree where it is. My mom and dad spend lots of time with DD. If they correct her at their house, I don’t care. Different houses have different rules. DD gets that. When my sister, who doesn’t have kids, corrects her at my house, it really annoys me. (This is the same sister who drew 19-month-old DD’s attention to her very fancy and fragile Christmas tree after I’d spent literally 2 hours keeping DD away from it, then yelled at DD when she touched an ornament. What did she think would happen exactly? Oh, right, she told her “we don’t look with our hands, we use our eyes”. And that’s why our other sister is DD’s guardian.) DD doesn’t touch much at this sister’s house. Yes, but speaking from experience, this is more about your relationship with your sister than anything else Telling a kid to remember to pick up their trash. Gah. Maybe I’ve been living in too much of a village but I’m with swamp. If you see something say something. Gives me a break. Oh, yeah, it’s about our relationship. Although being a mom has taught me to ignore 90% of what she says and does, which has immensely improved our relationship.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 19, 2019 13:43:39 GMT -5
It wouldn’t bother DH or me if someone told our kids to pick up trash, toys, whatever. C times us out half the time, so maybe he’d hear someone else’s voice?!?! 🤷♀️
I’m sure there are a few people that it would bother me if they said something, but in general, if someone is hanging out at my house for whatever reason, we’re likely close enough for them to tell my kid to do something.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 19, 2019 14:21:31 GMT -5
C's been mildly complaining of a sore throat since Thursday. Nothing that stopped him from activities though until yesterday when he got the red cheeks and glassy eyes. Now he has the sore throat, stuffy nose, stomach ache and low grade fever. So what are the chances I've exposed a boat load of people to strep because for once I didn't run him into the doctor at the first sniffle?
Doctors office doesn't have any openings until the 28th. I called Children's nurses line and they agreed to take him into urgent care for a strep test.
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Post by Pants on Feb 19, 2019 14:29:02 GMT -5
C's been mildly complaining of a sore throat since Thursday. Nothing that stopped him from activities though until yesterday when he got the red cheeks and glassy eyes. Now he has the sore throat, stuffy nose, stomach ache and low grade fever. So what are the chances I've exposed a boat load of people to strep because for once I didn't run him into the doctor at the first sniffle? Doctors office doesn't have any openings until the 28th. I called Children's nurses line and they agreed to take him into urgent care for a strep test. I say 50/50. That's what you get for having active children and a family life. I find it helps if everyone just stays in the house 24/7.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Feb 19, 2019 15:00:21 GMT -5
C's been mildly complaining of a sore throat since Thursday. Nothing that stopped him from activities though until yesterday when he got the red cheeks and glassy eyes. Now he has the sore throat, stuffy nose, stomach ache and low grade fever. So what are the chances I've exposed a boat load of people to strep because for once I didn't run him into the doctor at the first sniffle? Doctors office doesn't have any openings until the 28th. I called Children's nurses line and they agreed to take him into urgent care for a strep test. I say 50/50. That's what you get for having active children and a family life. I find it helps if everyone just stays in the house 24/7. but then the rate of family homicide and violence might increase... but I guess that would take care of the issue of spreading strep.
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Post by Pants on Feb 19, 2019 15:48:15 GMT -5
I say 50/50. That's what you get for having active children and a family life. I find it helps if everyone just stays in the house 24/7. but then the rate of family homicide and violence might increase... but I guess that would take care of the issue of spreading strep. Touche.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 19, 2019 18:42:38 GMT -5
No strep. Just a virus, so I've only spread regular kid germs across town.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 20, 2019 11:41:31 GMT -5
Another snow day...blech. So thankful we can take C to M’s daycare, even if it means I have to hear him complain he doesn’t want to go.
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Post by cktc on Feb 20, 2019 12:17:28 GMT -5
Has anyone dealt with diastasis recti? I'm considering Mutu system, Tupler, or physical therapy. Would love some unbiased experience.
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Post by andi9899 on Feb 20, 2019 13:52:29 GMT -5
I don't know if I am just sensitive and overall drained or if DH is being an ass about the way he is saying things, but either way I could use a wine buddy tonight. I'll be drinking vodka, but I'm in.
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Post by geenamercile on Feb 20, 2019 14:21:45 GMT -5
Waiting for YDD and friends to get cold. I am the parental figure right now as the sled. There is a nice layer of ice on the snow for supper fast rides.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Feb 20, 2019 15:34:01 GMT -5
I don't know if I am just sensitive and overall drained or if DH is being an ass about the way he is saying things, but either way I could use a wine buddy tonight. I'll be drinking vodka, but I'm in. I'm drinking orange juice, sadly no vodka, and hiding upstairs so I don't beat DH to death so I'm in.
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Post by andi9899 on Feb 20, 2019 15:53:46 GMT -5
I'll be drinking vodka, but I'm in. I'm drinking orange juice, sadly no vodka, and hiding upstairs so I don't beat DH to death so I'm in. That's ok. I'll drink enough vodka for the both of us. I'm a good friend like that.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Feb 20, 2019 16:05:41 GMT -5
I'm drinking orange juice, sadly no vodka, and hiding upstairs so I don't beat DH to death so I'm in. That's ok. I'll drink enough vodka for the both of us. I'm a good friend like that. Thanks
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