ArchietheDragon
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 12:33:21 GMT -5
We are staying at my parents from this Saturday through Tuesday. A month ago my parents called me and asked me to not bring the dog. I said ok. Wife told me the dog was coming or she would stay home with the dog and that I needed to talk with my parents to rectify, to which I said I would. I have not. I do not want to ask my parents to bring the dog. My wife does not really want to stay home. Other than ignoring the situation, which has currently not gone well, what should I do? Can't I just stay home with the dog? Now that would be a vacation.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2017 12:39:28 GMT -5
Suggest it!
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Tennesseer
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 29, 2017 12:42:05 GMT -5
Stay at a pet friendly hotel/motel.
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 29, 2017 12:43:37 GMT -5
Board the dog.
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 29, 2017 12:43:37 GMT -5
Why do they not want the dog?
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 29, 2017 12:45:41 GMT -5
If you *really* want to stay home - do it. The dog is certainly a convenient excuse.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 12:46:18 GMT -5
Why do they not want the dog? Mostly because they don't want her to pee and poop on the rugsor chew on anything. |
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 29, 2017 12:47:29 GMT -5
Why do they not want the dog? Mostly because they don't want her to pee and poop on the rugsor chew on anything. Fair enough. Stay home.  |
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Post by alabamagal on Jun 29, 2017 12:49:39 GMT -5
Dog lover here. The homeowner can limit what pets they allow in their home. Board the dog.
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Post by pooks on Jun 29, 2017 12:52:33 GMT -5
Don't stay at your parents. Stay at a hotel that accepts pets or camp. Or just let your wife stay home, maybe you are reading her wrong and she doesn't want to go. Or cancel the whole trip.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 29, 2017 12:55:31 GMT -5
Archie-how far away do your folks live?
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 12:56:18 GMT -5
Archie-how far away do your folks live? . 45 minutes |
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 29, 2017 12:57:55 GMT -5
Archie-how far away do your folks live? . 45 minutes Is it important that we should know why your folks want you to stay with them seeing they live so close to you? |
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 13:00:23 GMT -5
Is it important that we should know why your folks want you to stay with them seeing they live so close to you? We do an annual vacation with them, brother, sister and families. It used to be in RI at the beach but has been at their new house the last couple of years |
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Post by siralynn on Jun 29, 2017 13:02:22 GMT -5
Is it important that we should know why your folks want you to stay with them seeing they live so close to you? At 45 min, I would definitely just go back and forth each day. (Granted, my sense of distance is skewed, because 45 min is significantly less than my one-way commute.....) |
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Post by Rob Base 2.0 on Jun 29, 2017 13:07:04 GMT -5
pretend to get sick the day of the trip. Ever watched Ferris Bueller day off? Some good tips on faking illness.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 29, 2017 13:07:45 GMT -5
I was thinking maybe the kids could stay with their grandparents the whole time while Mr. and Mrs. Archie stay for the days but go home at nights. A little one-on-one evening time. But if it is the whole extended family, the grandparents, aunts an uncles may not like the responsibility of taking care of Archie's kids in addition to tending to their own at night.
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Post by Tiny on Jun 29, 2017 13:14:55 GMT -5
Oh man... it's the 4th of July - which means the never ending explosions have already started. Your poor dog.
I'd either a.) Board the Dog b.) Leave the dog with someone else (another relative or a neighbor)? c.) leave the dog home but find someone to stop and check the dog (and your house, and pick up the mail, etc) AND since you are 45 mins away - stop by once daily. (think of it as 3 hour "vacation" from your vacation).
I'd respect the wishes of your parents (hosts) and not bring the dog.
FWIW: I hate it when my brother brings his dog along without some warning - I have cats (and food and water and litter boxes). It's stressful when he shows up with the dog and it bursts into the house and I haven't had time to move the food/water and block off the room with the litter boxes. The cats are capable of avoiding the dog on their own - and the dog is not a problem (with a little pre-prep before it arrives). |
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Post by Jaguar on Jun 29, 2017 13:20:05 GMT -5
Board the dog, end of discussion. You're welcome.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 13:21:20 GMT -5
i hear archie. this whole thing where the wife wants you to insist things to your parents that you don't agree with is really a fantastic situation to be in. I wouldn't want my kid to bring a puppy. I also get your wife's thing about this being another thing to add stress and manage. is it reasonable for you to mostly go with the kids and your wife to get quiet time at home and join for part of the day (while leaving dog at home)? would she get depressive with some alone time each day, or would she recharge a little bit with just her and the dog there in the AM and then come over in the afternoon/evening to join the big ho-down and play with the kids? my wife isn't depressed, BUT i do frequently take the kids to my parents and do stuff to give her a little break. or I take one of the two with me which makes it way less overwhelming for her My wife would blow her stack if I actually asked her to stay home with the dog, even just part of the time. |
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Post by dee27 on Jun 29, 2017 13:21:57 GMT -5
Board the dog.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 13:22:39 GMT -5
Board the dog, end of discussion. You're welcome. so stand up to my wife and side with my mom. |
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 29, 2017 13:23:43 GMT -5
I have dogs. But if someone specifically told me not to bring them to their house, I wouldn't bring them. I actually don't take them to other people's houses anyway. Either leave the dog at home, board it, or stay home. Don't ask again.
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 29, 2017 13:23:44 GMT -5
Are you kidding? Leave kids there overnight and make the drive. Sleep in, have sex, a mini vacation. Or get a dog friendly hotel room for just you two and the dog.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 29, 2017 13:26:07 GMT -5
Board the dog, end of discussion. You're welcome. so stand up to my wife and side with my mom. It's not siding with anyone. They don't want the dog. It's their house. That's it. Your wife should have some respect for their house and not try that "the dog comes with or I don't" shit. Who exactly does she think she is? |
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Post by swasat on Jun 29, 2017 13:26:47 GMT -5
Board the dog, end of discussion. You're welcome. so stand up to my wife and side with my mom. Well, your wife cannot actually DEMAND that they allow the dog in their home, specially if they have made it clear they don't want to. So I don't take this as standing up to your wife. More as agreeing to your host's wishes. I equate this to wedding etiquette. If kids are not invited to a wedding and there is no way we can leave the kids behind, we decline the invitation. I am not going to demand that the bride and groom adjust their expectations according to my needs .... |
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Post by Rob Base 2.0 on Jun 29, 2017 13:27:31 GMT -5
hire some actors to come to ur house dressed as police. Have them pretend to "take u down to the station". then return a few hours later and explain that the police consider u a suspect and u arent allowed to leave town.
your rep with the neighbors may go down slightly though (if they see the po-po take u away). but i suspect if they know u well they wont be too surprised.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 29, 2017 13:28:50 GMT -5
i hear archie. this whole thing where the wife wants you to insist things to your parents that you don't agree with is really a fantastic situation to be in. I wouldn't want my kid to bring a puppy. I also get your wife's thing about this being another thing to add stress and manage. is it reasonable for you to mostly go with the kids and your wife to get quiet time at home and join for part of the day (while leaving dog at home)? would she get depressive with some alone time each day, or would she recharge a little bit with just her and the dog there in the AM and then come over in the afternoon/evening to join the big ho-down and play with the kids? my wife isn't depressed, BUT i do frequently take the kids to my parents and do stuff to give her a little break. or I take one of the two with me which makes it way less overwhelming for her My wife would blow her stack if I actually asked her to stay home with the dog, even just part of the time. Archie-if you all will be staying with the folks Tuesday night (4th of July), I would not leave the dog at home because of all the noise from the fireworks. It may be best to board the dog as the kennel may have a way of masking the noise from the fireworks. But having said that, it is probably too late to find a kennel which has a vacancy. Use the excuse of you staying with the dog at home during the overnight hours because of the noise from fireworks. The 4th of July and fireworks are a terrible night for animals. |
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Post by dee27 on Jun 29, 2017 13:29:03 GMT -5
Are you kidding? Leave kids there overnight and make the drive. Sleep in, have sex, a mini vacation. Or get a dog friendly hotel room for just you two and the dog. You cannot leave the dog alone in the pet friendly hotel room if you are out for the day. Bringing the puppy would create the problem of who stays with the dog when the family goes to mom's house. |
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 29, 2017 13:30:10 GMT -5
I forgot it was a puppy. This may not be a good year to go. At all.
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