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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 14:54:10 GMT -5
That doesn't seem fair. "You don't get to see your grandkids unless I am allowed to bring in a puppy and let them do damage to your rugs, furniture, shoes, whatever. Fuck you if you think it is your house." There are many solutions rather than pushing your host to accept your terms...or else. Yeah there is solutions, but Archie has waited too damn long for most if not all of them. Let the wife and kids go and Archie you stay home with the puppy. And eat cheese and drink beer on the couch in my undies for 4 days straight?? Oh, a man can dream all right.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 14:54:41 GMT -5
yes, we crate at home. yes we could bring a crate if mom agreed. What kind of dog is it? I have horses for dogs and no way would I want to break down the enormous crates we have and lug them around. It took two of us to carry each of them into the house when we got them. Golden spaniel mix. about 25 pounds right now.
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Post by Jaguar on Jun 29, 2017 14:54:58 GMT -5
Yeah there is solutions, but Archie has waited too damn long for most if not all of them. Let the wife and kids go and Archie you stay home with the puppy. And eat cheese and drink beer on the couch in my undies for 4 days straight?? Oh, a man can dream all right. See you know I'm right.
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Post by Shooby on Jun 29, 2017 14:55:36 GMT -5
My advice to all new dog owners, start boarding your dog when they are puppy. Find a wonderful dog spa/kennel and board your dog periodically just for a weekend even if you aren't going anywhere. We have an awesome pet spa that boards dogs, has doggie daycare. They have a small pool for the dogs, all the dogs play together, etc. It is a well kept place and the owner and staff truly love dogs. I have boarded my dog there and it isn't cheap but you often get what you pay for. I don't want to run around trying to find someone to watch my dog if we need to go out of town.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 29, 2017 14:55:49 GMT -5
I hope you get a real vacation. That sounds like a shit ton of togetherness. When my family goes on a vacation together, each of us rent a condo in the same place, and then we share meals, but we have our own space. Yup. In August we go the cape for a week with my inlaws and my sister in law, brother in law and family. At least the dog can come to that one too. I cherish the time it is just our nuclear family, away from everything. You are missing out. I'm just not that into my family or my husband's family. They are all nice and I love them and everything, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't hang out with any of them if they weren't family.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 29, 2017 14:59:58 GMT -5
I'm thinking about getting a puppy so I can skip some family shit.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jun 29, 2017 15:01:12 GMT -5
Remember that whole thread about your wife's anxiety and how to help? This wasn't it.
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Post by justme on Jun 29, 2017 15:01:20 GMT -5
I'm still stuck on taking vacation days to hang with the parents 45 minutes away.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 15:01:56 GMT -5
Remember that whole thread about your wife's anxiety and how to help? This wasn't it. I think she feels the same.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jun 29, 2017 15:05:46 GMT -5
Remember that whole thread about your wife's anxiety and how to help? This wasn't it. I think she feels the same. If I was your spouse, you'd be sleeping with one eye open. Honestly, I'd stay home and let you soak up all the "family fun" and enjoy my peace and quiet. But if she wants to go, you really screwed this up.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 29, 2017 15:09:15 GMT -5
What kind of dog is it? I have horses for dogs and no way would I want to break down the enormous crates we have and lug them around. It took two of us to carry each of them into the house when we got them. Golden spaniel mix. about 25 pounds right now. Oh. So not a huge mongrel. That crate shouldn't be that bad. Try carting my Dobermans around. Now that is a PITA.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 29, 2017 15:10:13 GMT -5
That reminds me that I have to get dog food this weekend. That 57 lb bag goes fast!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 29, 2017 15:16:19 GMT -5
Board the dog, end of discussion. You're welcome. so stand up to my wife and side with my mom. It is your mom's house. She told you no dog so that means no dog. I'm a huge dog lover but I certainly wouldn't want someone bringing their dog to my house that would pee/poop or damage anything. Your wife is being unreasonable. Tell her that MissTequila said so
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2017 15:21:12 GMT -5
I had the same problem with my parents and I advised them I wouldn't visit unless the dog came with and then followed through on it. A year and a half later they relented.
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Post by Rob Base 2.0 on Jun 29, 2017 15:23:54 GMT -5
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Post by swamp on Jun 29, 2017 15:24:10 GMT -5
I can't imagine she really wants to go.
I think she's looking for an out.
Or at least I would be.
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Post by spartyparty on Jun 29, 2017 15:24:38 GMT -5
Sorry if this has already been addressed, but has the puppy had a bordetella vaccine?? Boarding might be out of the question at this point...
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 29, 2017 15:26:03 GMT -5
Sorry if this has already been addressed, but has the puppy had a bordetella vaccine?? Boarding might be out of the question at this point... SPARTY!!!! How are you??
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 15:27:13 GMT -5
I can't imagine she really wants to go.
I think she's looking for an out.
Or at least I would be. She doesn't want to be left out. Is that the same thing as wanting to go?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 29, 2017 15:28:53 GMT -5
Phone your mom and guilt trip her, no grandchildren unless the puppy can come. Stand up to your mom, not your wife. Archie if you have known for a month about this, why haven't you done something about it before this ? Why is that even remotely ok? I wouldn't want a puppy in my house peeing/pooping and damaging things. If his wife doesn't want to come without the dog she can stay home. You don't get to push your animals on your host. And I absolutely love dogs but I still do not think this is acceptable behavior.
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Post by Shooby on Jun 29, 2017 15:33:40 GMT -5
I think it is very selfish to expect others to host your dog. When my SIL and DH's brother come, i put our dog in the other room. She is a bit afraid of dogs. Even though it is my house, i want her to feel comfortable. They aren't here that long so it's not a big deal. And I wouldn't think to take my dog to their house. I really dont' see why that is so difficult.
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Post by swamp on Jun 29, 2017 15:36:00 GMT -5
I can't imagine she really wants to go.
I think she's looking for an out.
Or at least I would be. She doesn't want to be left out. Is that the same thing as wanting to go? no.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 29, 2017 15:41:38 GMT -5
I think it is very selfish to expect others to host your dog.
Especially when it is a puppy who could do actual damage. Just no.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 15:45:02 GMT -5
She doesn't want to be left out. Is that the same thing as wanting to go? no. At any rate, it gets us to the same place. She wants to be there.
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Post by swamp on Jun 29, 2017 15:54:34 GMT -5
At any rate, it gets us to the same place. She wants to be there. are you sure?
Does she just think she has to be there?
Frankly, hanging out at my inlaws for a few days with my 3 little kids when I live 45 minutes away sounds like a nightmare to me.
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Post by Shooby on Jun 29, 2017 15:59:11 GMT -5
Sounds like the dog will become a convenient excuse not to do a lot of things.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jun 29, 2017 16:06:21 GMT -5
Archie, you started another thread about your wife being stressed to the max. Maybe this is her "excuse" for not having to sit around making smiley face, answering/talking about work, etc. Sounds like more stress on her part but that is JMHO. She's basically being forced to make a decision that is going to piss off someone.
Heck, maybe the parents threw in the dog hoping y'all would stay home - ok my evil twin surfaced with that comment.
If she really wanted to go she would just board the dog and be done with it or find some other alternative for the dog.
My take is she does not want to go.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 29, 2017 16:08:01 GMT -5
Archie, you started another thread about your wife being stressed to the max. Maybe this is her "excuse" for not having to sit around making smiley face, answering/talking about work, etc. Sounds like more stress on her part but that is JMHO. She's basically being forced to make a decision that is going to piss off someone.
Heck, maybe the parents threw in the dog hoping y'all would stay home - ok my evil twin surfaced with that comment.
If she really wanted to go she would just board the dog and be done with it or find some other alternative for the dog.
My take is she does not want to go. In which case she should be thanking me, not sending me long texts about how terrible I am, which is a separate issue.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jun 29, 2017 16:13:48 GMT -5
Archie, you started another thread about your wife being stressed to the max. Maybe this is her "excuse" for not having to sit around making smiley face, answering/talking about work, etc. Sounds like more stress on her part but that is JMHO. She's basically being forced to make a decision that is going to piss off someone.
Heck, maybe the parents threw in the dog hoping y'all would stay home - ok my evil twin surfaced with that comment.
If she really wanted to go she would just board the dog and be done with it or find some other alternative for the dog.
My take is she does not want to go. In which case she should be thanking me, not sending me long texts about how terrible I am, which is a separate issue. Ok, maybe I missed something since haven't read every post but what should she be thanking you for? Have you made a decision about going or not? I'm a bit confused but that's nothing new on my part.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 29, 2017 16:15:26 GMT -5
so stand up to my wife and side with my mom. It is your mom's house. She told you no dog so that means no dog. I'm a huge dog lover but I certainly wouldn't want someone bringing their dog to my house that would pee/poop or damage anything. Your wife is being unreasonable. Tell her that MissTequila said so Yeah! And with the word tequila in her name, she's gotta be a pretty reasonable person. Tell her Andi said so too.
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