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Post by ArchietheDragon on Aug 21, 2017 15:25:01 GMT -5
My wife has been having panic attack about the new job for the past couple of days now. It goes between having to leave Carly, to not being able to do the job and getting fired, to her not being good at office politics and hating etc. it varies.. Telling her to relax does not seem to be working. She is literally driving herself insane doing this. If you figure it out please let me know the answer.
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TheHaitian
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Post by TheHaitian on Aug 21, 2017 15:43:46 GMT -5
My wife has been having panic attack about the new job for the past couple of days now. It goes between having to leave Carly, to not being able to do the job and getting fired, to her not being good at office politics and hating etc. it varies.. Telling her to relax does not seem to be working. She is literally driving herself insane doing this. If you figure it out please let me know the answer. Hey Archie, I have a question for you... What will be the taxes implications if a couple goes from contributions 36k/year to their retirement account and now contribute enough to get the match or $6,480/year. How much of that 30k difference will they net?
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Post by gooddecisions on Aug 21, 2017 15:46:37 GMT -5
If you figure it out please let me know the answer. Hey Archie, I have a question for you... What will be the taxes implications if a couple goes from contributions 36k/year to their retirement account and now contribute enough to get the match or $6,480/year. How much of that 30k difference will they net? 30k x your tax bracket - 30k is the rough calculation.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Aug 21, 2017 15:48:36 GMT -5
If you figure it out please let me know the answer. Hey Archie, I have a question for you... What will be the taxes implications if a couple goes from contributions 36k/year to their retirement account and now contribute enough to get the match or $6,480/year. How much of that 30k difference will they net? Depends on how you filled out your W-4s and what your marginal tax rate is, but 75% is a good estimate, so you should see an additional $22,500, net, in your paychecks.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2017 18:48:23 GMT -5
Hey Archie, I have a question for you... What will be the taxes implications if a couple goes from contributions 36k/year to their retirement account and now contribute enough to get the match or $6,480/year. How much of that 30k difference will they net? Depends on how you filled out your W-4s and what your marginal tax rate is, but 75% is a good estimate, so you should see an additional $22,500, net, in your paychecks. But is she now having to pay SS, etc? There are some slightly more complicated implications than your question implies.
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Post by midjd on Aug 21, 2017 19:15:28 GMT -5
I want to clarify my earlier comment, since I can't fully delete it. My point, poorly expressed, is that for some people, platitudes go in one ear and out the other, especially when you're dealing with enough anxiety to be having daily panic attacks.
I assume The Haitian is already being supportive, reassuring, and comforting. I'm not suggesting he continue to be anything but that. But sometimes it takes hearing things in a reframed way to really "hear" them. Clearly her employer thinks she can do the job, she impressed them enough for them to beg her to work after she turned them down. That's all I meant.
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Post by cktc on Aug 22, 2017 14:46:17 GMT -5
My wife has been having panic attack about the new job for the past couple of days now. It goes between having to leave Carly, to not being able to do the job and getting fired, to her not being good at office politics and hating etc. it varies.. Telling her to relax does not seem to be working. She is literally driving herself insane doing this. The only time I want to hear "relax" is when it's followed by "I'll take care of it for you." Give her a pep talk, some reassurance, let her know you will be there to help in anyway you can. Her anxiety will likely linger until she gets her new footing, but she'll be less likely to dwell on it once she feels she's been heard.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 22, 2017 14:58:09 GMT -5
Panic attacks/guilt about leaving your baby are normal. I had them too.
Then I also had running around in my head all the YM talk about "working mothers" and was convinced that I was going to be fired at any second because I took a day off for a WBV or because they didn't like me taking time out to pump during the day. I felt that I was going to have to be at 120% instead of my normal 100% if I had any hopes of keeping my job.
Your wife has the added bonus of not only going back to work but going back to work at a NEW job. Which is also totally normal to be stressed about, nobody likes being the new kid on the block.
Telling me to relax makes me want to punch people, if it was that easy I totally would do it. I don't settle down until my boogey men are put to the test and I am confronted with evidence that they were all in my head.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 22, 2017 15:23:42 GMT -5
Got myself a job, and I'm underwhelmed. The only saving grace is that it starts at 8:30, which is kinda perfect. I can drop off the kids at school and not worry about daycare beforehand.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 22, 2017 15:28:15 GMT -5
Hey, it's a job. Gotta make money, not love the place.
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Post by chiver78 on Aug 23, 2017 6:58:51 GMT -5
dear recruiter, I work 2nd shift an hour from home. please don't call me before 8am, especially if you can't be bothered to leave a voicemail when I ignore the call. I have already spoken to 3 different people from your office, so I don't know which of you to ask for if I call back the main number I saw and chose to ignore.
grr...
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Post by suesinfl on Aug 23, 2017 8:25:12 GMT -5
.....and then when you call, no one knows who to transfer you to.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 23, 2017 13:51:55 GMT -5
My DD is doing the same thing. The job that's been offered to her hasn't posted yet. She hasn't even taken her Pance yet. She's sure she'll flunk it and not be able to take it again for 3 months. She wants to take it earlier but theres no spots open earlier. On and on, making more worry and stress for herself. If I say you're worrying about things that haven't happen and are in the future so stop, I don't understand. Sigh. It's true. I don't understand and I honestly don't care. She's draining me and I've got enough on my plate with the house and my aunt. My other aunts are overwhelmed as well. One has vision problems and the other is caring for a sick husband and worried about finances if he ever dies.
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Post by suesinfl on Aug 23, 2017 16:23:44 GMT -5
Zib, you can't solve all of their problems, so let it go. Easier said than done, but you do what you have to do to take care of yourself.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 24, 2017 10:57:19 GMT -5
Any thoughts?
I will be heading to Vegas in November for KronosWorks Conference. My backup is also going. We will NOT be sharing a hotel room as that is against City code for business travel. The City is required to fly me in and out. There's no issue with me staying a couple of days extra.
So dh and I are planning on flying out a couple of days early. Current plan is he'll hang out with me, do the Meet and Greet on Sunday night and fly home on Monday and deal with the kids. However,his company is looking into research with a Kronos product. Dh was formally told today he's on the team for assessing this product. So he's made his boss aware of the conference. If they send him, how do we address the hotel and reimbursement of it? I'm assuming they'd pay the air fare and conference fees.
Tell my boss and see what they say and follow that?
Be proactive and talk to the budget person who handles this stuff?
Have dh's company pay?
Split the difference? Which will get messy and painful VERY fast?
Hope dh's company decides to not send him?
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 24, 2017 11:13:36 GMT -5
Since his company would be scheduling after yours, I would just have him tell his company that he doesn't need a hotel as he has a place to stay there already. I wouldn't put the brakes on your company scheduling things though because you don't want to get to a point where the conference hotel is booked.
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Post by Works4me on Aug 24, 2017 11:19:03 GMT -5
How do your employers cover travel expenses, i.e. cash advance, reimbursement, company credit card or Are you given per diem or reimbursed for costs? Are receipts required? Because you work for a local government entity, it seems especially prudent to know what the policies are.
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Wisconsin Beth
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 24, 2017 11:29:39 GMT -5
The conference fees went on a city credit card. Hotel and air fare is I pay and they reimburse after the conference. A few depts have travel cards for stuff like this but not mine.
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Post by alabamagal on Aug 24, 2017 11:56:50 GMT -5
Beth, the easiest to do is just have one of you not get a hotel room. But you might want to check on your policies. It may be against policy for you to stay in a hotel room paid for by a private company (even if you are staying with DH).
When I worked as a contractor for the military and we were on a trip with federal employees the federal employees had to get their own rental car and we had to get ours. Even though our company was reimbursed by the government.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 25, 2017 8:19:10 GMT -5
Thanks everyone.
I told dh that he HAS to talk to his boss about sending him or not because we have to make child care arrangements for the extra days he'd be there. The rest will be figured out in time but child care overnights needs to be planned in advance.
He thinks they will balk at the cost of the conference, which is their right. But if they decide at t he last minute, dh gets to figure out the child care...
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 25, 2017 10:38:50 GMT -5
Three weeks and still nothing. Not going to follow up because nothing good has ever come from me following up. I'll just keep plugging along as normal it's not like anything changes if I don't get it.
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Post by chiver78 on Aug 25, 2017 11:14:08 GMT -5
still nothing from the place nearby, that I had an awesome phone screen with. but, BUT, in coming home from walking the pups this morning on the canal, I noticed a sign up on the main road that included the logo of a company that keeps popping up in my indeed searches. it isn't pharma, but it's still engineering....and close enough that I could ride my bike to work. I think I'm going to have to throw my hat in the ring for those listings, too.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Aug 25, 2017 18:40:02 GMT -5
I already figured I didn't get the church job.
Received the most impersonal rejection letter ever. My name was only on the envelope. It was addressed to Applicant and signed by the XYZ Committee. No names.
They prayed about it and decided I wasn't the right person. I dodged a bullet big time.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Aug 25, 2017 20:10:56 GMT -5
I already figured I didn't get the church job. Received the most impersonal rejection letter ever. My name was only on the envelope. It was addressed to Applicant and signed by the XYZ Committee. No names. They prayed about it and decided I wasn't the right person. I dodged a bullet big time. They PRAYED about it? Oooooookay. I know it's a church job but if that's how they pick the best person for the job, you're right, you dodged something there. Bullet, chalice, Holy water....
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Post by TheOtherMe on Aug 26, 2017 9:03:57 GMT -5
I already figured I didn't get the church job. Received the most impersonal rejection letter ever. My name was only on the envelope. It was addressed to Applicant and signed by the XYZ Committee. No names. They prayed about it and decided I wasn't the right person. I dodged a bullet big time. They PRAYED about it? Oooooookay. I know it's a church job but if that's how they pick the best person for the job, you're right, you dodged something there. Bullet, chalice, Holy water.... That is what the reject letter said! The last church job I had never mentioned they prayed about who to hire. I actually think at that one I was the only applicant, but still. They never required me to do anything when it came to the church services. I think this job would probably have wanted me to attend their services, making it a 6 day a week job. No thanks.
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Post by debthaven on Aug 27, 2017 15:52:40 GMT -5
OMG TheOtherMe that's crazy! Don't be too surprised in a few months or weeks if you find out they prayed again and decided you were right for the job.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Aug 27, 2017 16:54:06 GMT -5
OMG TheOtherMe that's crazy! Don't be too surprised in a few months or weeks if you find out they prayed again and decided you were right for the job. I am keeping this letter as a reminder as to why I won't work for them should that happen.
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Post by TheHaitian on Aug 27, 2017 18:26:50 GMT -5
I need a new job.... how can I transfer to a hospital or university ?
Really like my wife job 10% retirement contribution.
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Post by dee27 on Aug 27, 2017 18:29:29 GMT -5
OMG TheOtherMe that's crazy! Don't be too surprised in a few months or weeks if you find out they prayed again and decided you were right for the job. I am keeping this letter as a reminder as to why I won't work for them should that happen. You did dodge a bullet!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 28, 2017 8:00:34 GMT -5
so I did actually follow through with an inquiry about that job opening at my former employer. The HR director was able to get me an interview with the hiring managers. They already kind of knew who I was and remembered working with my team (they still do!). Salary-wise, it is definitely a step back - not unmanageable though due to the lack of tolls to commute. But it is a temp-to-perm position. That wasn't indicated when I first looked at the posting. They changed it mid last week to reflect the temp-to-perm status. The recruiter for that position (she was actually the one who initially hired me) said they could speed up the "perm" process for the right internal/former internal candidate, but the whole thing felt pretty anti-climactic. I think I had a good interview, but I am not jazzed about the temp-to-perm thing. I don't think I'll get it, and that's okay with me. I'd LOOOOOOVE to get back to being closer to home and working better hours with people who actually know what they're doing, but they'd have to make it permanent for me to even consider taking it. It's just too risky otherwise.
In the meantime, I am definitely signing up for the online APICS class. It's apparently the thing to have now in supply chain. I'm considering Lean/Six Sigma or PMP cert later.
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