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Post by thyme4change on Feb 27, 2013 12:24:12 GMT -5
Do you vacation without your family or your spouse? (Family, being your kids if they are still at home.)
I can't stand to travel without my husband. I do it for business, and twice I went away on a "girl's weekend" and it just doesn't interest me that much. Spending that much money and time away from my family just does not interest me. I also don't really like to travel without my children, but my husband and I will do a single night here and there. We talked about a 3 day weekend once, but it didn't happen. I don't think he wants to be away from our kids anymore than I do.
We know lots of people that travel without their spouse. One of the big reasons I've heard is that someone needs to be home to take care of the dog (seriously?) My husband was asked to go on a week long beer tour of German - umm - NFW! If my husband is going to use up precious vacation time and travel internationally to drink beer, like hell he is leaving me at home.
Are you a habitual "Guy's Weekend" or "Girl's Weekend" type of traveler or do you save travel as a family / marital activity?
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Post by swamp on Feb 27, 2013 12:25:25 GMT -5
I do one Girl's weekend a year. In theory, I think I'd like to travel without the family, but in reality, I think I'd miss them.
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Post by vonna on Feb 27, 2013 12:31:20 GMT -5
We usually travel as a family, but sometimes just as a "partial" family. The last is example of that is DH and DD went to his mom's 75th birthday party on the opposite coast. I stayed home with DS because he had too much going on with school to take off the days, and even though he is old enough to stay at home by himself, I didn't want him to feel "deserted."
Much easier to pull the second grader out for a few days than it is to pull the Senior out.
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Post by ihearyou2 on Feb 27, 2013 12:32:50 GMT -5
A weekend or an extended weekend without a spouse is fine. A longer vacation with one parent and a couple of kids happens typically for family events. One spouse going off for more then the weekend alone is weird to me.
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Post by steph08 on Feb 27, 2013 12:36:28 GMT -5
Umm, ya seriously. We have 4. Pawning four off on someone is way too much, and pawning two off on my parents and two off on my in-laws isn't really fair to them. So we go on vacation together once every few years. It is just too much for other people to handle. When we just had two, it was easier, but four is a lot and DH doesn't want to kennel them.
Last year I went on 4 vacations - 1 with my brother, 1 with my DH, 1 with my parents, and 1 with my brother and my parents. DH and I actually went to the beach for a whole week, it was the longest vacation we have ever taken together.
My DH doesn't like to travel to the same places that I like to travel. I like Europe, he doesn't; so I went with my brother. I like Disney, he doesn't; so I went with my parents and brother/SIL.
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Post by thyme4change on Feb 27, 2013 12:38:04 GMT -5
Ever heard of a dog-sitter? You pay them, so it isn't really "pawning."
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Feb 27, 2013 12:38:40 GMT -5
DH is retired, and I am not, so he has more time to travel. He also likes to go to out-of-town car shows. I'd prefer to watch grass grow than spend endless hours looking at cars. So every so often, he'll go out of town for an overnight or a long weekend to show one of his cars, run them on a track, or teach at a racing weekend. That's fine by me. He spent forty-five years in the workforce and the military, and never had this kind of opportunity. And he really has no other vices to speak of, besides me. And when he is gone, I get to do fun stuff, like volunteer work, clean the oven, the windows, trim the hedges... I go out of town on business once a year. Don't do the girls' weekend thing ever. I do go away overnight for swim meets, and may add some distance runs to that as my training progresses and I need to find races longer than 5K and 10K. I don't feel guilty or bad about the separations, and don't think he should. It's fun to get back together and talk about what we did that didn't involve each other.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2013 12:39:02 GMT -5
well I went on an overnight trip to AC with my two friends for my 30th birthday, and I went to FL with my mom, my mom's friend, and my aunt on Feb 10-13 to celebrate my turning 30 and her turning 60. I didn't miss DH or DS at all on the AC trip, and I missed them a little bit on the FL trip. It was nice to get away from feeling like I could never relax or do anything that I wanted to do.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2013 12:43:01 GMT -5
exactly! I have spent WAAAAY too much time being joined at the hip with DH, meaning there are things that I missed out on doing. As long as he is supportive of the occasional time away, I don't see a problem. And I've told him many times that he is welcome to take some time away too.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2013 12:44:05 GMT -5
I went away for a week this past summer. It was cost prohibitive for DH and the kids to go across country to my friends wedding, and there wasn't any kid friendly activities on the itinerary anyway. DH takes a yearly 4 day golf vacation with the guys and I have girls-only weekends occasionally. Oh my! Now that I think about it, I don't think he and I have taken more than an overnight together since the kids were born.
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Post by steph08 on Feb 27, 2013 12:45:12 GMT -5
Ever heard of a dog-sitter? You pay them, so it isn't really "pawning." I think asking anyone to take on 4 dogs is a lot, and I don't particularly trust anyone besides my parents or in-laws with them, and even then I worry when we are away. I am more than happy to send them to a kennel, but DH won't hear of it.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Feb 27, 2013 12:45:35 GMT -5
well I went on an overnight trip to AC with my two friends for my 30th birthday, and I went to FL with my mom, my mom's friend, and my aunt on Feb 10-13 to celebrate my turning 30 and her turning 60. I didn't miss DH or DS at all on the AC trip, and I missed them a little bit on the FL trip. It was nice to get away from feeling like I could never relax or do anything that I wanted to do. Good point, MJ. I'll be away this coming weekend, at a meet. DH has two car-related things Saturday (one breakfast meeting and one afternoon car show/dinner), plus a whole lot of NASCAR to watch. I get to see an old friend this weekend, catch up on what he's up to and have dinner (that I don't have to cook ) and conversation. Neither of us has to put the other through the decision of doing what the other is doing and missing out on what we enjoy.
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Post by thyme4change on Feb 27, 2013 12:47:05 GMT -5
Who said anything about feeling guilty? I just don't enjoy traveling with others as much as I like traveling with my husband.[/span]
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Post by ihearyou2 on Feb 27, 2013 12:48:55 GMT -5
Ever heard of a dog-sitter? You pay them, so it isn't really "pawning." I think asking anyone to take on 4 dogs is a lot, and I don't particularly trust anyone besides my parents or in-laws with them, and even then I worry when we are away. I am more than happy to send them to a kennel, but DH won't hear of it. They get paid to watch your dogs, they really don't mind.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Feb 27, 2013 12:49:54 GMT -5
Ever heard of a dog-sitter? You pay them, so it isn't really "pawning." I think asking anyone to take on 4 dogs is a lot, and I don't particularly trust anyone besides my parents or in-laws with them, and even then I worry when we are away. I am more than happy to send them to a kennel, but DH won't hear of it. I have an awesome pet sitter, but I have cats. I would not wish four dogs on anyone, unless they were actually going to live at my house with the dogs while I was away. That's a lot more food, water, grooming and pooping than I'd want to deal with. And I'm with Steph's DH. No way in hell am I boarding my animals, with the possible exception of boarding them at my vet's, and even then, I'd have to be utterly desperate and totally out of options.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2013 12:50:44 GMT -5
I love to travel, DH doesn't. So when we would travel, he would usually get sick in transit and then spend most of the time not having a good time. Who wants to put up with that every single time you want to go somewhere?
He has gotten a lot better, but those memories are still pretty fresh.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Feb 27, 2013 12:51:58 GMT -5
Who said anything about feeling guilty? I just don't enjoy traveling with others as much as I like traveling with my husband. [/span][/quote] I did, but didn't mention that it should extend to anyone else. Just a general statement.
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Post by swamp on Feb 27, 2013 12:52:15 GMT -5
I love to travel, DH doesn't. So when we would travel, he would usually get sick in transit and then spend most of the time not having a good time. Who wants to put up with that every single time you want to go somewhere? He has gotten a lot better, but those memories are still pretty fresh. I think I would have left him wherever you went.
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Post by midjd on Feb 27, 2013 12:55:14 GMT -5
DH goes on a 4-day fishing trip with his dad and about 20 other guys (mostly his dad's family from Hazard, KY) every December. He loves it, whereas waking up at 4am to sit on a cold boat with a bunch of rednecks may be the closest thing I'll find to hell on earth. I always miss him, but the quiet time at home is also nice.
Other than work travel and the occasional overnight "girl trip," I don't really vacation alone. Then again, we haven't been on more than a weekend trip in the almost 8 years we've been together, so we're not big vacationers to begin with.
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Post by swamp on Feb 27, 2013 12:56:53 GMT -5
Last year, DH went to Orlando for a conference for 4 days. It was heaven. I wish he would travel more often.
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Post by steph08 on Feb 27, 2013 12:59:10 GMT -5
I think asking anyone to take on 4 dogs is a lot, and I don't particularly trust anyone besides my parents or in-laws with them, and even then I worry when we are away. I am more than happy to send them to a kennel, but DH won't hear of it. They get paid to watch your dogs, they really don't mind. Have you met my dogs?
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Post by thyme4change on Feb 27, 2013 13:02:35 GMT -5
I just saw the movie Marley & Me, and I can't not think about that dog sitter. LOL.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Feb 27, 2013 13:05:59 GMT -5
I spent most of my 20s traveling with my friends. Many summers in Europe and around the US. I loved it and miss those 3 week long trips desperately. I enjoy traveling with my DH. it is fun, but it is different. I have zero issue traveling without him- I usually have a girls weekend or two, fly across country and visit my family for 5-7 days, take a road trip etc. without him. He goes fishing with his dad/uncles for 8 days without me. I have a 10 day trip to Europe with a friend planned for this fall. and a road trip to South Dakota (a friend's home state) planned this summer. Sure- I miss him when I'm gone, but not enough to keep me from going. I'm certainly not a clingy wife by any means. In fact, my DH has become much more of a homebody since we got married, I'm often trying to ship him off and get him to go out with his friends. I love my husband, but also think there is great value in having separate lives as well. oh... and it also helps that I get 6 weeks vacation and DH is only 1 year into a new job and only gets like 2.5 weeks.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Feb 27, 2013 13:08:55 GMT -5
Last year, DH went to Orlando for a conference for 4 days. It was heaven. I wish he would travel more often. DH left Sunday for Minneapolis and won't be back until Friday. and I would be in heaven if our dog didn't turn into a needy toddler when one of us is out of town. I'll be ready for him to be back on friday- the trash can is almost full and it needs to be taken out to the dumpster!
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Post by swamp on Feb 27, 2013 13:10:10 GMT -5
You can take the trash out. I promise, you won't die.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Feb 27, 2013 13:12:29 GMT -5
One spouse going off for more then the weekend alone is weird to me. Out of curiosity- why is that weird to you??
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Post by ihearyou2 on Feb 27, 2013 13:14:18 GMT -5
One spouse going off for more then the weekend alone is weird to me. Out of curiosity- why is that weird to you?? You get such little time to be able to spend on extended vacations, who else would you want to spend those unique moments with, if not your most loved one?
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Feb 27, 2013 13:15:33 GMT -5
You can take the trash out. I promise, you won't die. oh, i know i *CAN*- i just don't want to... it is one of my wonderful perks of being married. If there was some kind of odor I would have it out in a heartbeat. I hate smells worse than a trip to the dumpster.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2013 13:22:52 GMT -5
My husband normally takes two or three trips a year without me. A couple long weekends hiking or kayaking in the boundary waters with a buddy of his and usually once a year fishing trip to Canada with his brothers, last year they blew that one off because he hadn't been at his new job long his brother's wife was pregnant and we blew through all his vacation in January and February, but they're planning again for Memorial week. Yay! I LOVE having the place to myself during that time.
I usually go somewhere with just my Mom and the boys over 4th of July week. Last year older son wanted to see the caves in KY, so we did a driving loop and in 4 days hit 7 states, LOL We went up the Sears Tower, toured the caves, the St. Louis Arch and the Amana Colonies in IA. LOL I don't generally go anywhere without the kids because DH can't handle the school/daycare schedule with his work hours, but once they little one gets older I plan on joining my Mom and her sisters on their girls weeks again. My Mom has access to timeshares all over and they book a different place every October.
DS travels a lot without either of us as well. He goes with Grandma and Grandpa, the scouts and his Dad. This year he started saving his money for a trip to Key West with the scouts. He won't be old enough for a couple years, but it costs $1300.
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Post by giramomma on Feb 27, 2013 13:25:21 GMT -5
My husband normally takes two or three trips a year without me. A couple long weekends hiking or kayaking in the boundary waters with a buddy of his and usually once a year f DS travels a lot without either of us as well. He goes with Grandma and Grandpa, the scouts and his Dad. This year he started saving his money for a trip to Key West with the scouts. He won't be old enough for a couple years, but it costs $1300. You should try to get your DS to Philmont. My H took 2 groups of scouts there. He loves it.
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