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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2013 16:54:42 GMT -5
I know one couple that is so happily married, they do everything together, and everyone thinks they are the happiest couple and he's ACTUALLY GAY!!
Maybe they are happy? I couldn't tolerate the conditions some couples put up with and I'm sure there are people that would have never gone through what I did with my husband without walking either.
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imawino
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Post by imawino on Mar 1, 2013 17:03:56 GMT -5
DH doesn't care how many vacations I go on alone as long as he gets laid 3x a week. I'm pretty sure he said that was the magic number. Or maybe it was every other day. LMFAO! That's my sweetie's # as well. Though he prefers 3 + a bj, then all is right in his world.
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Post by ihearyou2 on Mar 1, 2013 18:28:35 GMT -5
Exactly.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 1, 2013 19:29:47 GMT -5
Purty funny, two separate issues here, lets' try this one more time.
1. Going on vacations separately, in and of iteself it means nothing. I would still think once again that your preference would be to be with your loved one which was why I called it weird when others chose otherwise simply because they could.
2. There is a larger conversation which is seen in relationships that are fraying where your focus is more on yourself then the relationship. This is a very simple concept AND BTW in the larger picture someone who wants to go on vacations by themselves or with "friends" this COULD be a sign along with plenty of other signs that something could be wrong in the relationship. Once again people in and of itself it means NOTHING but in the scheme of the larger picture of things it could be an important detail. I have some friends who had their "spouses" off on vacations and there was other stuff going on.
I hope that puts it into perspective. The visceral reaction though from some of you makes me feel like you're feeling guilty about something, I'm available in PM if you want to unburden your soul. but you said that it is weird when couples who spend more than a weekend apart... suddenly it means nothing. People who want to go with a friend COULD be a problem... but it could also be that they love being with their friends (or family), have spent multiple years traveling with their friends (or family) and genuinely love the experience. Couldn't it be said that there are signs in a relationship if a couple just can't be apart for longer than a weekend... or if they feel disconnected from their spouse if they don't talk to them multiple times in a work day?
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 1, 2013 19:37:49 GMT -5
my husband has been away on business all weekand we didn't communicate once during the work day today... which probably means disastrous things for our marriage... but he'll hold my hand the entire way home from the airport while he sighs and tells me how glad he is to be home and we plan out our weekend and I'll jump his bones the minute we get home. my marriage is so sucky.
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Post by susanb on Mar 1, 2013 20:44:50 GMT -5
DH and I really enjoy traveling together.
However, he less time than I do and isn't interested in going many places. For example, he doesn't like to travel internationally. So, I take trips without him every year, going to visit friends or going on a trip with my mom. Since I really like to go places, it seems like a better solution than staying home.
He travels without me every summer to go to his hometown. I love him when he is gone, just as much (if not more), than when he is here.
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Post by Works4me on Mar 2, 2013 1:36:42 GMT -5
All the talk of spouses who like to camp reminds me of a very dear male friend who died a few years ago. He was country redneck (his words) and I am more educated suburbs - my idea of roughing it is no room service and camping our is opening the window at the Biltmore... Anyway he was into camping and fishing and such for like a week at a time!!! My idea of hell!!! Loved hearing his stories but had NO desire to go. Anyway several months ago I had really been missing my friend and I had a dream about him. Rather a nightmare - we were camplin/fishing/freezing our arses off - in my dream I remember thinking, "Sure is good to see my dead friend but damn this caming/fishing stuff is WORSE than I thought!" Freud would have a Field Day with that one.
I grew up with a mother who liked to travel and a father who is a home body. She went to Europe with her sister and they both were happier for it. Interesting concept of never doing anything significant w/o one's spouse.
Several years ago there was a Saturday Night Live sketch about a toilet built for two - seated side by side, shoulders touching but facing opposite directions ... anyone else remember that?
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Post by ❤ mollymouser ❤ on Mar 2, 2013 2:12:42 GMT -5
My wonderful DH travels a lot for work (without me) and has been to some very interesting places: Afghanistan, Iraq, Qatar, Kuwait, Saudi Arabia, Egypt, England, Ireland, Scotland, Uzebekistan, Turkey, Germany, Ukraine, Italy, Spain, Greenland, Iceland, Canada, Curacao, Colombia and Panama. I did get to go visit him for 2 weeks in Colombia, but the FARC were having a bombfest during that period and I spent most of the time locked down in the hotel room. When we drove around, it was in an armored embassy car with an armed driver ~ who wasn't really the shopping and sightseeing sort. On the way home, I spent hours clearing customs in Miami as custom officers carefully unwrapped and examined every single knick knack I'd manage to buy. (Apparently I look like a drug smuggler!) I decided that it's probably best that he go on these work trips alone most of the time. Though we don't travel anywhere as extensively TOGETHER, we do like spending vacations together when we can. We're separate so much the rest of the time, being with each other on vacation is our cup of tea.
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