copy/pasted my post from WIRR

Things are about to be shaken up in our household... my H has decided to leave his job that he's had since he graduated high school. (14 years ago). You may remember he works for my uncle in telecommunications/security/networking. A job presented itself at our children's school corp in the IT dept and they wanted him to apply (his company now handles a lot of their contracted work). The contract is for 240 days a year, with 2 weeks vacation/2 weeks leave, retirement, medical/dental, and the ability to work from home at times. They were able to match what he is making now- so it's a lateral move financially. The job will allow him to be home more and work a set 8-3 schedule, instead of 8-whenever his day is done. This probably all reads so wonderfully, but of course there is a downside. 1. He's leaving a family business, where he is basically #2 in the company behind my uncle. 2. My uncle/his boss offered him $15,000 more a year to stay. $15,000. It stings the financial coordinator side of me to know he walked away from such a big raise. I know he has not been happy at his job for awhile and ultimately his happiness is the most important thing. Change is very hard for me. With my anxiety disorder and my panic attacks, you can imagine how this has affected me. We thoroughly discussed both sides before he made his decision, but it still feels so weird to me that the life we've had since before we were married is going to be different after this month ends. The school board still has to officially approve his hiring, once that happens he will finish out this month at his current job and start the new job 7/1.



Another change that will throw me for awhile: going to bi-weekly pay. He's paid weekly now so I've never had to stretch a check. And the way his contract works, his actual annual salary is $10,000 less than what it is. He's "picked up" extra responsibilities that pay out separately, so that $10,000 is divided up and only paid out on the 2nd check of the month. So, not only am I going to have to completely redo our budget, but I won't even know for a month or so what his 1st pay & 2nd pay will be. Cue more panic. We will make it work. We will make it work. We will make it work. But until this becomes normal to me, I am a hot hot mess.