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Post by suesinfl on Oct 8, 2017 11:27:56 GMT -5
Pants, I think it is wonderful that you want to donate your unused embryos. Just make sure you and your DH on the same page. No wishy washy or straddling the fence.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 8, 2017 6:04:01 GMT -5
Last night was the half of a French Dip sandwich, DD was working and DS was at his friend's house. For today I threw a beef roast in the crockpot for beef stew and in another crockpot I put in a lemon/pepper pork roast.
I have plenty of frozen veggis so I think we're good for a couple of days.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 6, 2017 20:02:08 GMT -5
Best laugh I've had all day, thank you.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 6, 2017 17:09:52 GMT -5
So annoyed at one of our neighbors, and no idea which one. In our mailbox today, was a handwritten note on 8.5x11 copy paper basically saying our yard looks terrible and our neighbors would appreciate it if we would mow more than 2x per week (yeah, right, who has that kind of time?!), trim our trees, put new mulch down and something else. Hours later and I'm still irate - seriously to whatever busybody left the note. We are nowhere near breaking any HOA covenants or rules, so get over yourself. DH and I both work full time, have two young children, and are doing the best we can. The lawn and flower beds may not be perfect, but they're not terrible either. Argh. More than 2x a week I'm lucky to have mine mowed once a month.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 6, 2017 6:02:52 GMT -5
Went out to dinner tonight to "celebrate" our anniversary. I think DH said 5 words to me the whole time. Most depressing dinner ever. T and A are both sick. T has been up every few hours the last few nights. I've messed up pretty bad at work this week. Life isn't so hot right now. It's 8pm and I would love to go to bed now. Maybe in the guest room. But then I'd have to do the laundry first. Sam, lots of hugs! But why do you think that everything is your responsibility? Let the laundry pile up. You want to rest, you REST. You don't feel like talking, DON'T talk. Things messed up with DH, let them be, it's not on YOU to solve everything. He is an adult too, let him adult!! You don't have to baby him for anything. You focus on YOU. Don't hate me for this.... but your DH knows he can get away with treating you like crap. He has done it numerous times before and so he is doing it just one more time. Put a stop to taking his shit Sam...for yourself and for your kids. They are watching, and learning unhealthy relationship patterns.
Sam please read this again and again and again until you can repeat it by heart. I KNOW you don't want your kids to be in a relationship like this. My DD had two relationships early on (14-16) that I had to step in to because of her accepting bad behavior that resembled her father's treatment of me. DS, so far is not mimicking any of those behaviors, thank heavens. All of that to say, no matter how young, how much you hide, children are like sponges and pick up things that you would never think of.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 5, 2017 8:23:41 GMT -5
It's Perfectly Normal by Robie Hariris. robieharris.com/?page_id=186It's a wonderful book for pre-teens and teens. It was challenged by several communities to ban it from public libraries, including my own. The people that were trying to ban it were over 60 or very religious. I would recommend reading it first, but I felt that it was age appropriate for my kids. Just don't do like my mother did when I started my period, all she said was do you want pads or tampons. UM, how the hell did I know. Of course it was not as bad as on the night before my wedding when she said "I hope you don't get pregnant right away". Well gee, thanks for any education on that matter.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 5, 2017 7:02:24 GMT -5
Wishing that the two specialists would call to schedule appointments. I can't sleep, I'm tired, but can't shut my brain down. My stomach and feet look like I'm 9+ months pregnant and I'm in pain. Yesterday DD called to ask if I could pick her up lunch since she ONLY gets 1/2 hour for lunch at school. I'm proud of myself because I told her no and that she should have packed something for a "just in case" scenario. I also to DS that he would have to ride the bus to school this week and find a way home from practice. Neither were happy because my reactions are totally out of the norm. Oh well, get use to it. Last night DD broke another one of my plates and instead of getting mad I just said thank you, one last thing to pack up and get rid of. My depression is taking over and so is my "I don't give a damn anymore". It makes me sad.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 5, 2017 6:47:49 GMT -5
Khan academy has good online help in math and science.
This site saved my life with the math help.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 5, 2017 5:38:36 GMT -5
NomoreDramaQ1015 and Sam_2.0 and others. I hope that today brings you fewer troubles and lots of sunshine for greater times.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 4, 2017 17:32:21 GMT -5
Drama, I'm to hear the DH is ok, but if these were prescribed by the dumbass doctor that he has been going to and thinks this doctor walks on water, I'd be lining up a lawyer. Now I don't believe in suing just because, but this doctor is not doing his job/profession well.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 4, 2017 15:30:06 GMT -5
andi, check to see if she can attend a virtual school for math only since she is doing well in her other classes. The CC here will accept a GED to be accepted into the college, but there are placement tests than need to be taken. Which may actually help her and then she can finish at a university.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 4, 2017 15:24:32 GMT -5
Hugs Drama.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 4, 2017 14:38:21 GMT -5
Drama, I'm sorry you are going through this, I've BTDT and it is emotionally exhausting. It's actually easier now that I'm no longer married because I know that it's just me and I'm not expecting someone else to step up. Is there a way for you to give him the responsibility to pay some of the smaller/insufficient bills? Say like the cable, making sure the cars are gassed up on the weekends for the upcoming week, etc.? What about fixing lunches, going to the grocery store with a detailed list and only have enough money to buy what is on the list, putting the food away, etc. Just anything to give you some breathing room. You have a lot on your plate and you need him to step up and help. Hugs.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 4, 2017 4:43:14 GMT -5
Sue hugs and best wishes to you. I know recently there was some talk of having your DD who is still living at home move out. While there have been some tensions between both of you, and having not to long ago parented a college a kid, I totally get the the whole tension thing. However; you might want to reconsider her moving because you may wish to have a second licensed driver in the household. She could possibly drive you to and from treatment if necessary or help with toting you DS to his activities. Thank you Sharon. I'm now regretting those rants. I do want her here and I think what ever the outcome is, she will be here as she's really not wanting to go. I'm her soft landing in case things go south. To be honest, I don't want to depend on her too much, I'm not sure she can/want to handle the responsibility.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 21:21:30 GMT -5
There are so many things that you peeps have posted as never have done or from the other thread that you have done. My list of haven't done is getting very, very long.
I have never left the US other than 3 hours into Canada. I have also never driven on the west coast of FL past Cedar Key.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 21:15:29 GMT -5
My friend and I went swimming in a river very well known for alligators and snakes and were told NOT to enter the water. It would have been fine except my dad asked why we were wet (after a 2 mile walk home) and I said "she jumped in and then WE got out". My dad was not a happy camper and neither was I after the punishment.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 21:08:02 GMT -5
Sam, sometimes there are times to draw the line in the sand. Your opinions and beliefs are yours, not anyone else's. If trying to conform to others make you uncomfortable by going against what you believe, that's when I would draw the line in the sand.
I know that you are trying to make this work, but he has to give a little to, it should not be on you to live up to others standards.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 20:56:31 GMT -5
And the day just keeps getting better....NOT. DD's best friend's father has brain cancer and has only a couple of weeks to live. DD and DS's father has diabetes (for years now) and has not been taking care of himself so now he's on insulin injections and has an ulcer on his foot along with diabetes foot neuropathy. Will this never end
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 19:00:16 GMT -5
Hey, VB, I've been divorced for about 13 years now. Unfortunately I'm a very introverted person, so I have no one to talk to. Um. Excuse me. You have us. Or did you forget? LOL, that was the first time I laughed today. Thank you all for your support, I'm really scared. I know not to dwell until the consults are complete, it's just that my doctor was not too optimistic and she's been practicing medicine for many years.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 18:28:30 GMT -5
Don't know why my reply to Iggy didn't post. I'm trying the cheese taco shells this weekend. I think the kids will love them.
Dinner for me was a quarter of the steak burrito that I bought after the CT scan. I had not eaten since about 4 p.m. yesterday and was starving and craving Mexican. I didn't want Taco Bell, so I tried a new place in town. I will be back there again. I still have left overs for tomorrow, that thing was huge.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 18:22:58 GMT -5
Last night we grilled a rib eye. It was in the manager's special bin at $5.03. I served it with corn niblets @ $1.67 and green beans @ .80. I've got a beef roast in the Crock Pot with enchilada sauce and onion powder. I'll make shredded cheddar "taco shells" to serve it in after I pull it. Low Carb Cheese Taco Shells Total cost about $17 for numerous servings. The last few weeks I have been trying diligently to stay out of the store since my September shopping trip. Since moving in to the new place, I've spent an average of $510 on groceries per month compared to my usual $300. Granted, that includes an open house in July, fall celebration party last month, and restocking the pantry and freezer, but still. Haven't yet planned out the rest of the
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 18:18:32 GMT -5
Busymom, unfortunately there is no one that I’m close enough to, to talk about this.
Oped, thank you, but not now. Just have patience with my ramblings.
Jag, right now they don’t know, but it is either stomach, intestinal, or liver. They are leaning more towards liver because of the symptoms and the CT scan.
Bean, I go through multiple mamos and paps each year because for false/positives, so I’m used to being called back. But the first and second time it scared the crap out of me. Years ago I did have cervical cancer that the doctors were able to just clip the few cells and have not had a problem since.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 18:17:47 GMT -5
Busymom, unfortunately there is no one that I’m close enough to, to talk about this. Oped, thank you, but not now. Just have patience with my ramblings. Jag, right now they don’t know, but it is either stomach, intestinal, or liver. They are leaning more towards liver because of the symptoms and the CT scan. Bean, I go through multiple mamos and paps each year because for false/positives, so I’m used to being called back. But the first and second time it scared the crap out of me. Years ago I did have cervical cancer that the doctors were able to just clip the few cells and have not had a problem since. Thank you for your support, I really need it.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 16:14:45 GMT -5
Hey, VB, I've been divorced for about 13 years now. Unfortunately I'm a very introverted person, so I have no one to talk to.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 16:12:06 GMT -5
Sam, that is so sad, have you called him on it yet. I would, you need to let him know that he cannot keep pushing the boundaries on how he treats you.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 16:07:44 GMT -5
I have several issues going on, but there is a greater than 50% chance (more like 100%) I have cancer in my abdomen area. Exactly where, I don't know yet. I have to see a gastro Dr. and a hematologist. That will happen this week.
When would you tell your kids (30, 20, and 15) and two sisters that you are not close too and they live 3-4 hours south. At this point I have no intention of saying anything until I have more results. But if those results do come back positive, I'm not sure when to tell them.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 3, 2017 16:00:10 GMT -5
Skinny dipped in a local beach then drove home butt naked while going down main street in a topless jeep. Granted I was 20 and it was after midnight.
Those were some fun times.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 1, 2017 18:35:47 GMT -5
MPL, I can't tell you how many times my kids went through that when they were younger. They learn who to depend on and who will always be there for them, even if they miss out on things.
It's hard, God it's hard to watch them heartbroken, even when they don't show it on the outside. Some things kids never forget and it makes them stronger. I had to learn to not pick up the slack, so to speak. The disappoint in a child's eyes is heartbreaking. I cannot remember how many times I would cry in my room after dealing with the X breaking his promises.
The sad thing is my kids are now 20 and 14 and their father still does stupid things. He forgot DD's birthday last Sunday. That hurt big time.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 1, 2017 18:23:06 GMT -5
Ex 2.0 just texted me about church tomorrow! It's 9pm and he's first asking if he can take him to mass for Rite of Enrollment. I'm ignoring it for awhile. I kind of wish we would have went out of town for the night. "Um, no. Sorry, I did not know about this earlier, so we made plans".
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