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Post by raeoflyte on Mar 24, 2023 8:51:11 GMT -5
Last day before spring break and I contemplated keeping the kids home. They're not going to learn anything today and I really didn't want to pack lunches. But I soldiered through. Lol.
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Post by taz157 on Mar 24, 2023 21:48:31 GMT -5
I talked to my brother for over an hour tonight. He needed a good vent convo. He has 2 DDs. His oldest DD is 10 (11 in June) and is having stomach/digestive issues but can’t figure out why. She’s had blood work and other tests done to try narrow it down, which comes back with “can’t find anything”. On Tuesday, she’s getting a scope done and a colonoscopy. Hopefully something will give an answer.
Last week, he had to put 1 of their dogs to sleep. The dog was 17 and it had been time but didn’t want to do it but couldn’t not do it. His wife refused to take the dog to get it done so it fell to him. They still have another dog (that’s 14) that seems to be doing okay. (They’ve had these dogs since they were 1-2 years old.)
His FIL is having health issues but not sure what’s going on. His girls are involved in a hobby that the FIL is heavily involved in. At the moment, the girls are still going to compete but who knows.
Basically, there’s a lot of stressful things going in but ultimately, his oldest DD isn’t feeling great and he doesn’t know why. He just wants to know why them go from there.
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Post by raeoflyte on Mar 25, 2023 10:31:30 GMT -5
I hope they find some answers for your niece Taz.
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Post by taz157 on Mar 25, 2023 21:06:00 GMT -5
My brother just called me to tell me that my niece has Covid now. She had been feeling pretty good earlier today too.
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Post by raeoflyte on Mar 25, 2023 22:33:09 GMT -5
Babysat nephews tonight. 3yo was shrieking when we got there - unhappy about a diaper change but also saying "it hurts!" They didn't know what was up with him, he calmed down as soon as he started down the stairs.
But he barely left the couch all night. Went out and drove their little car around the yard a few times but held his hand behind his back the whole time. Refused an ice pack, would say he had an owie but not where and got angry anytime we tried to look. I picnic'd with him on the couch to get him to eat dinner which he pretty much did 1 handed. Apparently he fell earlier in the day. I wanted to call my sil but we didn't have any new info they didn't have when they left and they're much less reactive then we were.
She texted us that he's asleep now so hopefully he's better in the morning.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 29, 2023 9:30:06 GMT -5
Had a long talk with Gwen yesterday. It was a series of fiascos that ended with in school suspension today. Which I thought was rather extreme but whatever she did the crime she does the time. So we were discussing her behavior yesterday and she started in again on "Well do you like Abby more than you like me?" This time I said yes as of right now I do like Abby more than you. Your behavior has been atrocious, you are pushing your boundaries and you have been downright mean to both DH and myself in regards to some of your commentary. That is not humor it is being a bitch. That being said I love you. You are my kid and I will ALWAYS love you no matter how much of a butthole you are. I said you can not like someone and still love them at the same time. I said there are days I don't like Abby. There are days I don't like DH and there are days he doesn't like me. That doesn't mean we don't still love each other. I told her to knock it off with that because it is trying to guilt us into not enforcing boundaries with her. I said that is our job as her parents and yesterday's fiasco is why it's important. We accept there are days she is not going to like us because of it. Raising her right is more important than her liking us all the time. Pre-teens man.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 29, 2023 9:36:18 GMT -5
I talked to my brother for over an hour tonight. He needed a good vent convo. He has 2 DDs. His oldest DD is 10 (11 in June) and is having stomach/digestive issues but can’t figure out why. She’s had blood work and other tests done to try narrow it down, which comes back with “can’t find anything”. On Tuesday, she’s getting a scope done and a colonoscopy. Hopefully something will give an answer. Basically, there’s a lot of stressful things going in but ultimately, his oldest DD isn’t feeling great and he doesn’t know why. He just wants to know why them go from there. Any chance your niece’s stomach issues are related to anxiety?
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 29, 2023 9:36:45 GMT -5
Hugs, drama. I am not looking forward to the middle school and teen years, especially with DD.
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Post by taz157 on Mar 29, 2023 10:19:39 GMT -5
I talked to my brother for over an hour tonight. He needed a good vent convo. He has 2 DDs. His oldest DD is 10 (11 in June) and is having stomach/digestive issues but can’t figure out why. She’s had blood work and other tests done to try narrow it down, which comes back with “can’t find anything”. On Tuesday, she’s getting a scope done and a colonoscopy. Hopefully something will give an answer. Basically, there’s a lot of stressful things going in but ultimately, his oldest DD isn’t feeling great and he doesn’t know why. He just wants to know why them go from there. Any chance your niece’s stomach issues are related to anxiety? They are looking into that too. Right now, they are stumped. With her having Covid, she has to wait until she’s 2 weeks symptom free before it can be scheduled for her to get it done.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 29, 2023 13:37:00 GMT -5
Talking to my therapist about Gwen and she said the teen years go by so fast. I think they go by fast because if they didn't the human race would have gone extinct because no kid would live past them.
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Post by chen35 on Mar 29, 2023 18:36:53 GMT -5
Talking to my therapist about Gwen and she said the teen years go by so fast. I think they go by fast because if they didn't the human race would have gone extinct because no kid would live past them. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but so far adult children (ages 18-23) are way worse 😂
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Mar 29, 2023 21:15:33 GMT -5
My daughter will be 32yo this year and she is going through something where she is kind of demanding that I randomly call her and tell her I love her, for the past week or so. Yesterday we were on the phone and I asked her what all of that is about, and reminded her that I have never had a problem telling her I love her randomly, she is the one that didn’t want me to be affectionate with her, and when I hugged and loved on DS, she said we were weird. To this day, I ask her if I can hug her, respecting her boundaries, when if I want to hug DS, I just open my arms if he doesn’t reach for me first.
She said she doesn’t like being hugged, but she wants to be the kind of person that can accept hugs….. and somehow that is my fault and it should make sense to me?
I don’t have an issue with someone I love telling me what they want or need from me, but I am still pretty much confused by DD.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Mar 30, 2023 11:09:06 GMT -5
Talking to my therapist about Gwen and she said the teen years go by so fast. I think they go by fast because if they didn't the human race would have gone extinct because no kid would live past them. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but so far adult children (ages 18-23) are way worse 😂 Right??
Although, I have to say I can ignore what's going on with the 20 year old a lot more because it's happening 100 miles away.
I told Carrot that even if he goes to college at one of the local schools he's living in the dorm!
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Post by taz157 on Mar 30, 2023 22:28:48 GMT -5
Having kids with a 10 year age gap is pretty interesting at times. DD1 has no school tomorrow, but DH and I still have to work while DD2 is at daycare. DH works from home while we are required to be at the office. Most likely DD1 will be playing on her iPad most of the day and talking with a friend at some point. Meanwhile, she has a craft room (that she can turn the tv on), a game room that has darts, an arcade machine, and a pinball machine, but I'm sure most of it won't be used. If it's a nice day out, she may always play with some neighborhood kids. Of course Spring Break is next weekend so she'll be off next Thursday to the Monday after Easter. I think we'll be going to my ILs house for some of it. I definitely can't take off the whole time either but should be able to swing 1 or 2 days off. DD2 is at the stage that she gets into every f*!king thing you don't want her too. My IL's house is also a million degrees in comparison to normal people. I looked at the weather and there's a chance of rain most of the time too. Finding something to keep them both entertained at the same time will be challenging. DD1 tends to be a pretty good sport, but she's also 11 and acts like an 11 year old. DH and I tend to be homebodies and DD1 isn't at times while DD2 still naps after lunch. O.M.G. if she doesn't nap too!
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Post by finnime on Mar 31, 2023 3:06:59 GMT -5
My kids are 8 years apart. I remember those days, taz157. Best to you!
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 5, 2023 17:58:36 GMT -5
Dc has been angry at pretty much everything that comes out of my mouth for days. Argues about everything, doesnt want to go to activities. They say they're not angry with me and don't know what they are angry at but this is exhausting. Please let this be short lived and not a glimpse into puberty.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 6, 2023 11:21:24 GMT -5
So in Adventures of Shit you never thought you'd deal with until you became a parent.
One of Abby's little friend's took a lighter from her apartment and we did not know it. DH went outside leaving them alone for a few minutes. I came in the house to find them hiding in my bedroom and they get super quiet when I walk in. Instantly suspicious I asked what are you doing in here? "Just sitting!".
Uh huh, get out of my room.
A few minutes later I swear I can smell something burning. I ask DH to smell and he agrees but we cannot find the source. DH confronted Abby who broke down into tears and confessed.
The little shits lit toilet paper on fire in my bedroom! When they heard me coming they blew it out and threw it under the bed.
I don't think I've ever been that angry in my life.
We had a long talk with her about how fucking stupid that was and DH talked to the other girls' mother.
I told Abby that if I ever find out she did something like this again I will end her. Then I will chase down and end her friends too I don't care they aren't my kids. I wanted her to truly understand how livid we were and how serious the situation was.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Apr 6, 2023 11:42:53 GMT -5
Reminds me of the stories my grandma once told me of the time my uncle decided his closet would make a nice fireplace. Come to think of it, we have a lot of fire stories in our family between all my cousins. I was a bit of a bug myself, but at least knew to only light things up OUTSIDE.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 6, 2023 13:22:32 GMT -5
The younger brother of one of the guys I dated in high school set their hours on fire playing with matches in a closet. The fire department came and they had to vacate for some time.
Definitely impress on those kids they will never do that again.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 6, 2023 13:26:11 GMT -5
The younger brother of one of the guys I dated in high school set their hours on fire playing with matches in a closet. The fire department came and they had to vacate for some time. Definitely impress on those kids they will never do that again. She noticed I was vibrating when we were talking to her. DH pointed out it was because it was taking massive effort to control my temper. He reminded her I am my dad's daughter and if she thinks my dad yells it ain't nothing compared to what mommy wants to unleash right now. She got the message.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 6, 2023 14:12:23 GMT -5
I feel like I couldn't move past why it was in your bedroom? Of all the places to fly under the radar, mom's bedroom isn't it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 6, 2023 14:18:46 GMT -5
I feel like I couldn't move past why it was in your bedroom? Of all the places to fly under the radar, mom's bedroom isn't it. They like to hang out in there because my bed is bigger. The girls have bunk beds and usually Gwen is hiding in there trying to get away from them. Abby claims my bedroom for privacy sometimes which is usually fine by me. Probably shouldn't be I suppose in hindsight I should have kept my bedroom locked. None of her friends are currently welcome in our house. Not all of them are responsible for what happened but DH and I are burnt out on ALL their shit. Coming close to burning my house down was the icing on the cake. Someone else's parents can handle them for awhile. When we do allow it they will be supervised at all times. No closed doors. One of us has to be present with them at all times or they have to go home or follow us wherever we are going. As DH pointed out he left them for all of five minutes to take Wilbur potty. He should be able to go in our own backyard without having to worry about our house burning down.
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Post by finnime on Apr 6, 2023 14:45:07 GMT -5
Hoo, boy, Drama, I'm very glad it didn't catch your bed or anything else on fire. When my DD was just a bit older than Abby she decided to "smudge" the house to get rid of bad spirits or some such shit. She lit some sage on fire and walked around the house. When I got home it smelled like pot to me. She didn't know what I was talking about. We did both survive her pre-teen and teen years but it was close.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 6, 2023 15:15:34 GMT -5
I feel like I couldn't move past why it was in your bedroom? Of all the places to fly under the radar, mom's bedroom isn't it. They like to hang out in there because my bed is bigger. The girls have bunk beds and usually Gwen is hiding in there trying to get away from them. Abby claims my bedroom for privacy sometimes which is usually fine by me. Probably shouldn't be I suppose in hindsight I should have kept my bedroom locked. None of her friends are currently welcome in our house. Not all of them are responsible for what happened but DH and I are burnt out on ALL their shit. Coming close to burning my house down was the icing on the cake. Someone else's parents can handle them for awhile. When we do allow it they will be supervised at all times. No closed doors. One of us has to be present with them at all times or they have to go home or follow us wherever we are going. As DH pointed out he left them for all of five minutes to take Wilbur potty. He should be able to go in our own backyard without having to worry about our house burning down. Yeah, there'd have to be a lot of work to regain the privilege of having friends over after that.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 6, 2023 15:16:07 GMT -5
Hoo, boy, Drama, I'm very glad it didn't catch your bed or anything else on fire. When my DD was just a bit older than Abby she decided to "smudge" the house to get rid of bad spirits or some such shit. She lit some sage on fire and walked around the house. When I got home it smelled like pot to me. She didn't know what I was talking about. We did both survive her pre-teen and teen years but it was close. Dh and I did that when we got the keys to our first apartment. Almost got evicted before we moved in.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Apr 14, 2023 18:03:03 GMT -5
The only good thing about pre-teens is they're old enough that you can just walk out of the house and leave them alone to their own devices for awhile. That fact is all thats keeping Carrot alive tonight.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Apr 14, 2023 21:24:55 GMT -5
Well, it worked. I came home two hours later to a completely different kid than the one I left. Thank God. We went from him wanting to drop out of school (or at least quit THAT school with the "awful" teachers, refusing to do any homework to punish me for taking away his PS5 and threatening to quit absolutely everything to a pleasant kid that finished the two assignments he was supposed to have turned in today and that I PROMISED his teacher he was going to have in...and he didn't. I still am skeptical that he finished them to her satisfaction so he might still have to skip Jazz band to stay after school on Monday to meet with her if they're not, but at least he's snapped out of demon child mode.
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Post by anciana on Apr 15, 2023 13:23:27 GMT -5
Well, it worked. I came home two hours later to a completely different kid than the one I left. Thank God. We went from him wanting to drop out of school (or at least quit THAT school with the "awful" teachers, refusing to do any homework to punish me for taking away his PS5 and threatening to quit absolutely everything to a pleasant kid that finished the two assignments he was supposed to have turned in today and that I PROMISED his teacher he was going to have in...and he didn't. I still am skeptical that he finished them to her satisfaction so he might still have to skip Jazz band to stay after school on Monday to meet with her if they're not, but at least he's snapped out of demon child mode. Keeping my fingers crossed for you and Carrot that everything goes smoothly! Hang in there!
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Post by giramomma on Apr 16, 2023 7:47:51 GMT -5
I'm sorry. I don't have any sage words of advice other than I feel you. It didn't start with DS until 14ish, though. It does get better.
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Post by taz157 on Apr 16, 2023 18:25:45 GMT -5
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