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Post by bean29 on Jul 1, 2021 9:22:03 GMT -5
Drama (and TCU) my kids were brought up being told that we invited friends and family to celebrate the event (Birthday, Christmas etc., but everyone had different financial situations and obligations. We told the kids that gifts were nice and they should always be gracious and thank the gift giver for their gifts even if it was not something they wanted/needed or if they did not get a gift it was not something to be commented on. I apparently was more diligent in reviewing this mandate with my kids than I remember b/c now that they are adults both kids have reminded me of this if I asked what they received from various friends and relatives for Graduation gifts. I would just explain to your DD that her Grandma can not afford to give her regular gifts, and if she does she may deny herself something she really needs to allow room in her budget for DD's wants. Dh and I feel that my Mother does not have to watch her budget too closely - but I know she does, so I try not to push her to overspend. I don't think my DD and her friends ever touched my makeup. I have always used Clinique- it may be that they just were not very interested...but I always bought DD whatever makeup she wanted. I have told my DD not to share makeup, but I don't know if she does or not. I am going to ask her just out of curiosity. DD has one friend that is Indian, another that is Black, DD is half Mexican, and her other good friend from the neighborhood is a white girl like me. The may not have shared makeup just b/c their skin tones were all different. We do know of several relatives that my MIL has always claimed stole stuff from her house when they visited. We also have relatives that have less income than us, and had relatives with drinking or addiction problems. I always tried to take all our coins the the bank and have them counted and deposited before a party. Our Bedroom Door has a lock, and I usually lock my bedroom during a party. MIL also locks her bedroom during parties and always gives me the key and tells me to lock my purse when I come in during a party. My kids rooms have locks, and they were told when they were kids that their toys were expensive and or fragile and they did not have to let their cousins play with their stuff. They could choose to kick everyone out of their rooms and lock the doors if they wanted, but I really preferred they just locked the doors at the beginning. When my DD was college age, I could not always get her to clean her room put her clothing away, and sometimes she might have been studying or doing and on-line exam...so I just told her if she did not get her room cleaned in time for the party, she needed to lock her door. My husband lost his wedding ring and another ring after a family party. He swears one of my adult nephews took it. My SIL (His step mother) says his brother stole her and her DH's Wedding rings, so it is possible someone took it. If someone did, I think it was the brother, not the one DH accuses. I choose to think we lost them. It has been many years, so we don't expect to ever see them again, but this is part of the reason my skin is so thick - we lock the doors if we feel like it, and don't worry about what anyone thinks. I also try to go through the part of my house and cull out anything that might walk away and put it in the locked area. You are doing good with teaching your kids the value of money - I was a parental failure in that realm, so I think they are going to have to struggle a bit more as adults. DD just culled her closet, and she probably tossed some nice stuff. I would have sent it to you to go through for you or your DD if the timing was better. Try e-bay for a used purse for DD. Just look at the pics closely. My DD would shop at Goodwill for items to complete a Halloween Costume or maybe something for sprit week. We were not big on thrift stores, but never taught our kids to scorn used stuff. Grandma would go to rummage sales with them when she babysat for them, and my Husband and I would occasionally shop a garage sale. Most of our kids stuff was new, but every so often they got something slightly used. The friends do share stuff back and forth too. You can try to tell them that you are trying to "Save the Planet" by Re-using and Re-cycling too. I understand kids screw up, but if I ever thought an adult stole anything from my house they would not be coming back. I don't care a bit who it is! The one with Drug Addiction Problems is not welcome. We have one family member who has maintained sobriety for well over 10 years. He really never wronged us, his past is in the past, but I prefer not to give a thief the opportunity to take something. I have a Sister-in-law that my MIL says used to steal from her. MIL once had something go missing, and she found it a few days later in my Nephew’s diaper bag. There were numerous issues though. DH has a cousin that will come and stay with MIL and every time they leave something is missing. It won’t necessarily be valuable, just annoying-things like a brand new tube of toothpaste still in the box, or some dishtowels etc.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 1, 2021 13:14:03 GMT -5
Well fun times at the doc. What we thought was going to be a routine in and out physical took a turn for the terrible when the whole "looks like you're due for 3 shots" words got thrown out there. I don't know who was shocked more. Carrot or me. I'm like, "uh...I didn't think he needed any until before going into 7th grade?". She said we do them any time after age 11. Eli goes, "BUT I JUST TURNED! I'M BARELY 11 AND I WAS BORN EARLY!" I was tempted to say, we'd wait until next year, because the thought of giving him three stressed me out too, but honestly I think that would have made it worse. Just get er' done.
It was not fun. We had the Busy Bee, the numbing cream and lots and lots of coaxing. The first took forever, the 2nd not much better, but by the 3rd, he was pretty much "Fuck it, just stick me so I can go home". He pretty much was on death's door in excruciating pain until we got out into the parking lot, then he was starting to act like he'd just won a great battle. I'm happy to say we did not have to call in the big nurses to hold him down which is what they were going to do.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 2, 2021 11:38:57 GMT -5
No cameras down the throat at the ENT today! But he thinks Carrot should have his tonsils removed. All the doctors have commented over the years how big they are and this doc feels it's what is causing his symptoms. He asked me if he had sleep apnea and before our vacation I would have said no, but after 10 nights of sharing a hotel bed with him it's a most definite, YES. I was pinching him and telling him to breathe all the time. He said it wasn't urgent and didn't need to be done at all, but he's recommending it. So, now I get to go back and forth in my head about what to do or not do here until I go nuts.
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Post by azucena on Jul 2, 2021 13:04:59 GMT -5
Sleep apnea needs to be addressed bc it causes sleep deprivation which is no joke. I can't imagine trying to learn in school after nights where you stop breathing repeatedly.
Sucks that it means more medical interventions for him given his extreme anxiety.
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Post by finnime on Jul 2, 2021 13:35:21 GMT -5
If it cures the apnea, it's a good choice. Hope he likes ice cream.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 2, 2021 13:36:43 GMT -5
Carrot was kind of freaking in the office and I said, "well, they're not going to do it right NOW we're just talking about it". He said, "that's what I thought about the shots too!"
We both like the doc a lot and I told him straight up, there is no way you are going to get an IV in this kid while he's conscious. He said, the nurses and anesthesiologist "wing it" and sometimes they just wheel them back to the OR and drop a nitrous mask on them before they do anything which made Carrot feel better. I told him he might want to lend me the nitrous tank to get him there the morning of. Glad he had that cavity filled earlier this year. It took them forever to get the mask on him because he was sure the gas was going to kill him, but now he knows laughing gas is not so bad so he might let them do that without a fight...might.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 2, 2021 17:52:03 GMT -5
Gwen cleaned the entire living room including inside the couch and underneath it. She did her room yesterday. I haven't figured out what she's trying to avoid getting into trouble for but it must be a doozy.
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Post by azucena on Jul 4, 2021 11:48:11 GMT -5
Successfully complete AG younger girl body book with DD8 this weekend. She will be 9 in Aug and likely 2+ years from puberty, but she started asking questions about dd12 in April which included why are there tiny diapers in their bathroom cabinet (ie pads). I told her that was a long conversation that we would have soon. Mission accomplished. That book makes it so easy, painless, and hardly embarrassing. She's currently re-reading it and asking follow up questions. Plus she wore a panty liner all day yesterday just to see what it was like. She was wearing underwear only for a good part of the day as per her usual lol.
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Post by finnime on Jul 5, 2021 5:09:16 GMT -5
You're a good mom, azucena . I talked with my DD beginning fairly early, when she was about 8. I didn't want to err like my own mother, who didn't explain or provide any information to me even when I hit early puberty just after I turned 10. Even the school didn't show the special filmstrip sponsored by Kotex until 6th grade. So I had no idea what was happening to my body. ETA: I just remembered our girl's health unit in 6th grade, when the topic of menstruation was presented. One girl was disgusted and very definitely declared, "I'm not doing that!" Still laughing at the memory.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 5, 2021 8:59:55 GMT -5
You're a good mom, azucena . I talked with my DD beginning fairly early, when she was about 8. I didn't want to err like my own mother, who didn't explain or provide any information to me even when I hit early puberty just after I turned 10. Even the school didn't show the special filmstrip sponsored by Kotex until 6th grade. So I had no idea what was happening to my body. ETA: I just remembered our girl's health unit in 6th grade, when the topic of menstruation was presented. One girl was disgusted and very definitely declared, "I'm not doing that!" Still laughing at the memory. OMG if only it was that easy. I've been on the Mirena since I had Gwen. I haven't had a real period in 11 years and it's been FANTASTIC. I encourage Gwen to get one or whatever they offer by the time she needs it. Maybe the sexism over the topic will be over by then and we can have a better understanding and even better products. Hopefully on every street corner in free vending machines.
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Post by geenamercile on Jul 6, 2021 15:09:43 GMT -5
I just had to talk to youngest today about the fact that you do not ask someone if they are on their period. We have a neighbor who's daughter is like another sister and youngest asked if they could go to six flags with us tomorrow. I said sure to her asking them. Apparently asking if they had finished since we are planning to go to the water park, was a good idea to her. And YDD hasn't started yet, I think we have another year or 2, but we will see. She did just turn 10.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 6, 2021 21:03:33 GMT -5
When do girls start wearing training bras? Yes, I know I’m a girl but I can’t remember. Moms to girls-When do you have your girls start? Personally, I don’t think my DD needs one (she turns 10 in a month). She’s been complaining that her chest/breast area hurts and the buds have started I believe, but I don’t think they are getting bigger. Her 10 year old doctor’s visit is coming up in about 7 weeks and I plan to ask then too.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 6, 2021 21:16:31 GMT -5
Gwen started when I could see them through her shirts and she started to becomeself conscious. She'll be 11 in three weeks.
We are members of the itty bitty titty committee so I'm not worried about support. I rarely wear mine anymore except when I don't want my nerps showing or I think whatever I'm wearing looks better with some shape underneath.
I don't really care if she wears one either provided I can't see through her shirt. 10 years old is too young for that plus like it or not girl boobs are considered obscene so some situations require coverage.
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Post by justme on Jul 7, 2021 1:09:24 GMT -5
Not that the alternative is to let Carrot wait a decade, but as someone who got their tonsils out in their mid 20s - take them out early! For whatever reason it's infinitely more painful as an adult and I was on liquid vicodin for almost two weeks, there were days it didn't cover all the pain, and I had a scary as shit complication. Luckily my work was cool so the mandatory two weeks off wasn't an issue and I had short term disability to cover it.
Only downside is eating a ton of ice cream is no longer recommended.
Maybe bribe him with video games/ control of the TV for a week? I'm not even sure if kids need a week, lucky little things.
BTW In case they don't mention it - drinking liquids helps a lot. My dad was a good nurse and even woke me up to take sips. Helped a ton until the complication that couldn't have been prevented.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jul 7, 2021 7:23:17 GMT -5
When do girls start wearing training bras? Yes, I know I’m a girl but I can’t remember. Moms to girls-When do you have your girls start? Personally, I don’t think my DD needs one (she turns 10 in a month). She’s been complaining that her chest/breast area hurts and the buds have started I believe, but I don’t think they are getting bigger. Her 10 year old doctor’s visit is coming up in about 7 weeks and I plan to ask then too. My oldest was 9 or 10. Just the little cloth ones from Target were fine for at least a year. She then moved onto the ones with more padding. Right now (she'll be 13 on Sunday) she wears either the sports bra type or 'proper' ones.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 7, 2021 8:02:39 GMT -5
Not that the alternative is to let Carrot wait a decade, but as someone who got their tonsils out in their mid 20s - take them out early! For whatever reason it's infinitely more painful as an adult and I was on liquid vicodin for almost two weeks, there were days it didn't cover all the pain, and I had a scary as shit complication. My sister was a teenager when she got her tonsils out. She was pretty out of it for a week. I have one friend who had hers out as an adult. She was down and out for 2 weeks and her mom had to come from out of state to help her.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 7, 2021 8:39:37 GMT -5
Not that the alternative is to let Carrot wait a decade, but as someone who got their tonsils out in their mid 20s - take them out early! This is one of those times when I really wish I wasn't an only parent. I mean, I'm NOT, but really I am in that I don't have someone to just sit and talk this out with over a glass of wine in the evening and reach a joint decision. Sometimes that's a good thing because no arguing about parenting choices either, but I've been really struggling with this one. The last two nights I have sat in his room for like an hour listening to him breathe and damned if he hasn't been quiet and peaceful the entire time with no sign of apnea.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jul 7, 2021 9:00:37 GMT -5
I'd recommend going ahead and getting them removed now. They're not going to get smaller and the chances are high he'll have increasing problems as he gets older.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 7, 2021 9:09:44 GMT -5
I've been googling way too much. It's freaking me out and making me more unsure. But, if I want to get them done, I should call today and he told me they typically need about two week's notice to schedule. Last week of July works best for not interfering with school and still being able to do his planned week at grandparents mid-August. Once school starts getting an entire 7-10 days he can be laid up is not so easy.
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Post by finnime on Jul 7, 2021 9:29:32 GMT -5
Go ahead and schedule, then, minnesotapaintlady. If you change your mind no harm done. My DS had his tonsils out at age 7, day surgery. He was in no particular pain after 2 days; I gave him Tylenol. It was a good thing for him. His tonsils were so large that his speech was affected.
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Post by azucena on Jul 7, 2021 9:58:44 GMT -5
When do girls start wearing training bras? Yes, I know I’m a girl but I can’t remember. Moms to girls-When do you have your girls start? Personally, I don’t think my DD needs one (she turns 10 in a month). She’s been complaining that her chest/breast area hurts and the buds have started I believe, but I don’t think they are getting bigger. Her 10 year old doctor’s visit is coming up in about 7 weeks and I plan to ask then too. My DD started wearing one the summer she was turning 10. She was interested, I could tell puberty was knocking, and I figured it was best to practice during the summer. She didn't wear it consistently at first but adjusted pretty quickly. We had great luck shopping at target - lots of choices, good prices, so I could let her pick several styles because really that's the only way she was going to learn. I had her wear a white shirt which encouraged her to buy neutral ones which means she doesn't have to think in the morning about which ones might show thru. She started her period 4 months later, so I was glad we were past the initial bra stage. My mom waited until I actually 'needed' one, and it was mortifying because I was 13 and the last one in the locker rooms without coverage. I resorted to 'borrowing' my friends spaghetti strap tank tops so I had straps under my shirts too. I vowed I'd err on the early side as I don't see any harm in that. Have you talked thru the AG body book with her? I really can't recommend it enough. I think the ache is likely the beginning of growth. One thing I learned with DD12 is that I should have described cramps better as an indicator of starting. She had a couple of days of 'stomach aches' in the two months of school before she started. Looking back that was a signal bc I would go pick her up after the school called and she'd eat just fine. So I explained it to DD8 as 'stomach aches' that are below the stomach area, like in the pic that showed the uterus, and I'll know to ask that question this time through. Unless her body changes dramatically, she's at least 2 years away, and she'll turn 9 in a couple of weeks. Taz - FWIW, along with these conversations I keep telling my girls to come to me with any question but esp about this body stuff. I said their friends are going to get so many things wrong even by accident so they should double check with me and I will answer anything. Got the oral question from DD12 last week. Sure enough friends' rumors were wacky!
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Post by azucena on Jul 7, 2021 10:09:31 GMT -5
DD12 and DD8 and I recently watched season 39 of survivor on paramount+. One of the contestants Dan would rub a couple of the women's shoulders, touch their hair, and put his head in their laps. It was clear that these were unwanted touches. DH was a little surprised that I let the girls continue watching, but man did it really open up all the conversations that we need to be having. One of the women complained to the producers and to an older female contestant, and there were off-camera discussions to tell him to knock it off. He continued to push the line. The most creeped out woman was voted off (she was a power player besides) and then the other younger women backed off their complaints and recanted a bit. From my view point it was so much like unfortunate real life/workplace repercussions. That was more difficult to explain to my girls, but they could understand that it was hard to come fwd and way easier to let it slide.
That part of the storyline passed and then lo and behold, Dan left the show suddenly a few weeks later in an incident they didn't discuss on-screen. Looking it up online, he touched a female crew members thigh and was officially kicked off. My girls could understand that was a clear boundary - thighs are close to private parts. Shoulders and hair were harder for them to think thru but they could see the woman's discomfort. We talked about that creepy feeling that you need to listen to and trust.
It came up again in the reunion show, and Survivor issued an apology for not taking it as seriously as they should have initially.
Great lessons - powerful stuff that I hope stays with them even though they are so young.
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Post by anciana on Jul 7, 2021 11:11:31 GMT -5
DD12 and DD8 and I recently watched season 39 of survivor on paramount+. One of the contestants Dan would rub a couple of the women's shoulders, touch their hair, and put his head in their laps. It was clear that these were unwanted touches. DH was a little surprised that I let the girls continue watching, but man did it really open up all the conversations that we need to be having. One of the women complained to the producers and to an older female contestant, and there were off-camera discussions to tell him to knock it off. He continued to push the line. The most creeped out woman was voted off (she was a power player besides) and then the other younger women backed off their complaints and recanted a bit. From my view point it was so much like unfortunate real life/workplace repercussions. That was more difficult to explain to my girls, but they could understand that it was hard to come fwd and way easier to let it slide. That part of the storyline passed and then lo and behold, Dan left the show suddenly a few weeks later in an incident they didn't discuss on-screen. Looking it up online, he touched a female crew members thigh and was officially kicked off. My girls could understand that was a clear boundary - thighs are close to private parts. Shoulders and hair were harder for them to think thru but they could see the woman's discomfort. We talked about that creepy feeling that you need to listen to and trust.It came up again in the reunion show, and Survivor issued an apology for not taking it as seriously as they should have initially. Great lessons - powerful stuff that I hope stays with them even though they are so young.Could I ask you what did you tell your girls to do with that creepy feeling? Listening and trusting that feeling is real, yes, but what should they do? And what was the lesson that they got form that situation? My kids have told me about some of the things that happened in middle school and high school, and I have stories of my own. It was mostly what some of the boys have done to make the girls feel uncomfortable. I've heard that they were reported to the school but then "the school didn't do anything". I am leaving that in quotation marks because I don't know for a fact what the school did or didn't do. But the feeling I get from my kids is that the adults/authorities are not doing what is necessary for everyone to feel comfortable. And it's a sad realization.
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Post by azucena on Jul 7, 2021 12:50:19 GMT -5
First and foremost, I stressed removing themselves from the creepy situation as quickly as possible. Make their 'no' clear and if that isn't enough be prepared to say it again and again, draw attention to the situation (ie cause a huge scene), and even defend themselves physically. We even went so far as to say that we know that they are told over and over not to hit or be violent but their personal safety and well-being is the exception to this.
We gave the example that if something happens at school and they have made their no clear and the bad behavior continues - if they get physical in defense (hit, kick, etc) and end up getting in trouble with school authorities, we will have their backs and stand up for them. We said we would sort out the details with them at that point. It's unfortunate that we have to word things that way, but girls hear over and over again to 'be nice'. I want them to know that nice doesn't mean going against their personal boundaries.
Then, we talked about telling a trusted grownup. Hopefully us, but if they feel they can't for some reason, we have named 3 other adult women that we trust that they can go to at any time. These women know and have agreed to this setup and I'm named as that woman for two of their daughters. They also know that I will pick them up from school if they hit up the nurse and claim headache for a severe situation.
We stress how important it is to standup for their friends as well. It's usually easier for an onlooker to stand up rather than the girl being picked on. We've seen this lesson play out in practice for both girls. I've had the conversation in front of their closer friends so that we're building a group mentality where they can all stick up for each other.
We also keep talking about if their friends bring one of these serious problems to their attention that they need to come to us for help. Bullying, body image, drugs, suicide are the examples we give. We've taught DD12 to do the same with DD8 - if their conversations turn to these mature topics, pls defer to us. DD8 was asking DD12 questions about a homeless person a few nights ago, and DD12 brought her out to punt to us which worked great.
I appreciate any feedback on this approach as I feel like I'm winging it most of the time. But I think the key is not to avoid the tough topics. DD8 hit me in the car just now asking if women's periods stop when they don't want any more babies. I briefly described menopause and will circle back in Aug when we have the birds/bees talk. She was really putting together the pieces of I still get one but have been pretty honest that we're not having any more babies. Hyperemesis made the two of them hard-fought gifts, and DH's vas closed that chapter but of course those are the adult details.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 7, 2021 13:04:50 GMT -5
First and foremost, I stressed removing themselves from the creepy situation as quickly as possible. Make their 'no' clear and if that isn't enough be prepared to say it again and again, draw attention to the situation (ie cause a huge scene), and even defend themselves physically. We even went so far as to say that we know that they are told over and over not to hit or be violent but their personal safety and well-being is the exception to this. We gave the example that if something happens at school and they have made their no clear and the bad behavior continues - if they get physical in defense (hit, kick, etc) and end up getting in trouble with school authorities, we will have their backs and stand up for them. We said we would sort out the details with them at that point. It's unfortunate that we have to word things that way, but girls hear over and over again to 'be nice'. I want them to know that nice doesn't mean going against their personal boundaries. Then, we talked about telling a trusted grownup. Hopefully us, but if they feel they can't for some reason, we have named 3 other adult women that we trust that they can go to at any time. These women know and have agreed to this setup and I'm named as that woman for two of their daughters. They also know that I will pick them up from school if they hit up the nurse and claim headache for a severe situation. We stress how important it is to standup for their friends as well. It's usually easier for an onlooker to stand up rather than the girl being picked on. We've seen this lesson play out in practice for both girls. I've had the conversation in front of their closer friends so that we're building a group mentality where they can all stick up for each other. We also keep talking about if their friends bring one of these serious problems to their attention that they need to come to us for help. Bullying, body image, drugs, suicide are the examples we give. We've taught DD12 to do the same with DD8 - if their conversations turn to these mature topics, pls defer to us. DD8 was asking DD12 questions about a homeless person a few nights ago, and DD12 brought her out to punt to us which worked great. I appreciate any feedback on this approach as I feel like I'm winging it most of the time. But I think the key is not to avoid the tough topics. DD8 hit me in the car just now asking if women's periods stop when they don't want any more babies. I briefly described menopause and will circle back in Aug when we have the birds/bees talk. She was really putting together the pieces of I still get one but have been pretty honest that we're not having any more babies. Hyperemesis made the two of them hard-fought gifts, and DH's vas closed that chapter but of course those are the adult details. Again I wish. I've been honest with Gwen that I, and science as a whole, have no freaking clue why we menstrate, do so once a month and continue to do so for so long into our lives. Why doesn't science know? Because it hasn't been interested in those pesky female questions it's much more important to know why men can't get a boner and how to fix it.
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Post by anciana on Jul 7, 2021 13:20:23 GMT -5
Thank you for your response, azucena! I have used many of those in conversations with my kids and I am always looking for more ideas. Yes, trying to keep themselves and their friends safe, avoiding unsafe situations, standing up for themselves and others, telling someone who can help. I am at times surprised by the lessons that actually stick and the ones that don't. I wish the world was safer for everyone because I've learned how many people carry hurt from early ages throughout their lives and how much it can affect them.
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Post by steph08 on Jul 7, 2021 13:54:35 GMT -5
I've been googling way too much. It's freaking me out and making me more unsure. But, if I want to get them done, I should call today and he told me they typically need about two week's notice to schedule. Last week of July works best for not interfering with school and still being able to do his planned week at grandparents mid-August. Once school starts getting an entire 7-10 days he can be laid up is not so easy. I highly doubt he would be laid up for 7-10 days. I had mine out at 11. I had them out on Good Friday and had to stay overnight because I threw up blood on my way to be discharged (normal occurrence after tonsillectomy). Otherwise I would have went home the same day. I was back in school on Monday or Tuesday after the holiday.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jul 7, 2021 14:07:54 GMT -5
My niece had hers out a few years ago. She did fine. She had to miss 2 weeks of school because the surgeon was super strict about her staying inside for 2 weeks post surgery.
My mom works in OR where he operates and she said he never has to bring patients back for complications.
I'm guessing most aren't as strict as him post surgery. He's also one of the top 2 ENTs I've had and I've had a bunch due to all of my issues. He's got no bedside manner at all but he's amazingly good at what he does.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 7, 2021 14:29:25 GMT -5
I've been googling way too much. It's freaking me out and making me more unsure. But, if I want to get them done, I should call today and he told me they typically need about two week's notice to schedule. Last week of July works best for not interfering with school and still being able to do his planned week at grandparents mid-August. Once school starts getting an entire 7-10 days he can be laid up is not so easy. I highly doubt he would be laid up for 7-10 days. I had mine out at 11. I had them out on Good Friday and had to stay overnight because I threw up blood on my way to be discharged (normal occurrence after tonsillectomy). Otherwise I would have went home the same day. I was back in school on Monday or Tuesday after the holiday. I'm just going by the range he gave me to be safe. Apparently there's a lot of variation in recovery, but he did say to expect a good 7 days of downtime. He is supposed to go home the same day. He said you arrive early morning and leave early afternoon.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 7, 2021 14:30:44 GMT -5
I did call and left a message to make an appointment, but it's been 4 hours now and nobody has called me back yet.
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