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Post by minnesotapaintlady on May 26, 2021 11:06:27 GMT -5
I hope we don't hit our deductible. That would be like 7K in sessions.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 26, 2021 11:19:06 GMT -5
K has belonged to a book club all school year. She's really enjoyed it and was super excited when the teacher said they'd have a picnic today. Thank goodness one of the other kids texted asking where K was because we had the times wrong. K would have been heartbroken to miss it. She made these book smores to take too, with homemade marshmellow and everything.
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Post by geenamercile on May 26, 2021 14:42:49 GMT -5
You insurance might still help due to negotiated rates.
YDD made the travel soccer team. It starts in the fall but here is to a new experience.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 27, 2021 10:40:58 GMT -5
Gwen is a good egg. Gwen suspects her one friend experiences food poverty so when she was over yesterday and it was approaching dinner time Gwen quietly told DH that if she was still here when it was ready she'd let her friend eat her dinner and she'd eat ramen. By that point I already suspected mom was going to be a no show since it was 7:30 so I made enough for everyone.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on May 28, 2021 16:18:49 GMT -5
I took Carrot to urgent care today. My god they were slow. I'm going to have to work until 7pm to make up the lost hours or lose my holiday pay. Anyhow, they gave him a script for Pepcid AC or something similar and a referral to an ENT doc for an endoscopy because they can't see anything just looking in his throat at urgent care (which I figured). ENT doc said it's common and often times goes away on it's own, and agrees there's a good chance it's anxiety related. We're going to try the script while on vacation and see if that helps. Carrot said, he kind of figured it was in his head, but he wanted to hear someone else say it...so...worth the urgent care bill for that I guess. Not so sure I want to pay for an endoscopy too on top of that so I'm hoping the pills work!
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Post by azucena on May 28, 2021 20:11:22 GMT -5
Gwen is a good egg. Gwen suspects her one friend experiences food poverty so when she was over yesterday and it was approaching dinner time Gwen quietly told DH that if she was still here when it was ready she'd let her friend eat her dinner and she'd eat ramen. By that point I already suspected mom was going to be a no show since it was 7:30 so I made enough for everyone. Drama - be the house where this friend can come for food and normalcy. My house was that in hs for my then boyfriend who became DH. My mom realized that she needed to feed him before I figured out that there often wasn't food at his house. He took to showing up before mealtimes, complimenting the heck out of her cooking which even she will say isn't always great, and doing the dishes. No small feat when there were 2 adults, 5 kids, him, and no dishwasher. He has since told her more than once how much he appreciated it. My family didn't have much extra to feed a teen boy but my mom made it work.
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Post by azucena on May 28, 2021 20:17:07 GMT -5
At a cabin from thurs to tues to make an extra long weekend with dd12 and two of her friends. Their moms are coming for one night but couldn't take as much time off work. Fishing, swimming, hiking, and a crazy game of hide and seek. Spoons card game and Alexa for the rainy part of today. Bowling at SIUC student center. Tomorrow will be 55 and rainy so might see cruella or go to arcade. They keep randomly saying we are 8th graders now and then flipping back to kid stuff like floor is lava. I love it! Aldi instacart delivered groceries - my first time doing that and worth it. We are about 30 mins from town so cooking here the whole time. They are making lunches - grilled cheese today - and I'm making dinner - stir fry from a frozen kit and added a can of chicken. We have a stack of pg-13 movies to get thru including sleepless in Seattle So glad I planned this trip a few months ago even if the other moms weren't able to come as long.
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Post by geenamercile on May 29, 2021 10:48:36 GMT -5
8th graders are a fun year if you can handle the mental whip lash from them going between kid mode and young adult mode.
Well I paid the deposit for the youngest to be on the travel team for soccer next year. This was the first year she could try out for it and she made it. She has been playing soccer for the last 5 years. Not sure what to expect. Over all upfront cost it was about twice as much as the rec teams at 1250. We have to provide transportation at this age. I am thinking for the farther away games (4 to 5 hours) we will get hotel rooms and do some site seeing as well on those weekends. I think the up in skill level will be good for her. So any hints or things to expect would be helpful.
I don't have a lot planned for us this summer. I think a lot of it will be a we will see what happens.
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Post by azucena on May 29, 2021 20:42:48 GMT -5
The whiplash is real but I love the juxtaposition of seeing their future selves and their childhood selves in the same hour.
Weekend is going off the rails a bit as DD started puking at 4 and has been sick several times since. Poor kiddo is so upset about "messing up the weekend" as if she chose to get sick. Hoping she wakes up better and that no one else gets it.
The other two moms came this afternoon so we will see what happens overnight and go from there.
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Post by taz157 on May 29, 2021 21:45:34 GMT -5
Why are some people dumbasses? It would be nice if one of them wasn’t married to your BIL.
I’m 7 months pregnant and I’ve gained 15 pounds so far. When I saw my SIL yesterday, one of the first words out of her mouth was I was getting fat. FWIW, I definitely look pregnant, not is she fat or pregnant type. My SIL is just a dumbass. She then proceeded to talk about herself looking pregnant even though she’s had a hysterectomy, endometriosis, and her son is 19. My DD asked me afterwards if she was pregnant (I told her no and she can’t get pregnant anymore.) My SIL is just a dumbass. This is the same SIL who basically told me last year that it’s a good thing I miscarried because you wouldn’t want to have a baby during a pandemic. My SIL is a dumbass.
I told DH about this last night after he told me some complaints about his brother (SIL’s husband) and his stay at their house the night before. Let’s just say, we won’t be seeing them much or staying at their house anytime soon we decided to head west for the weekend.
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Post by alabamagal on May 30, 2021 5:15:57 GMT -5
Why are some people dumbasses? It would be nice if one of them wasn’t married to your BIL. I’m 7 months pregnant and I’ve gained 15 pounds so far. When I saw my SIL yesterday, one of the first words out of her mouth was I was getting fat. FWIW, I definitely look pregnant, not is she fat or pregnant type. My SIL is just a dumbass. She then proceeded to talk about herself looking pregnant even though she’s had a hysterectomy, endometriosis, and her son is 19. My DD asked me afterwards if she was pregnant (I told her no and she can’t get pregnant anymore.) My SIL is just a dumbass. This is the same SIL who basically told me last year that it’s a good thing I miscarried because you wouldn’t want to have a baby during a pandemic. My SIL is a dumbass. I told DH about this last night after he told me some complaints about his brother (SIL’s husband) and his stay at their house the night before. Let’s just say, we won’t be seeing them much or staying at their house anytime soon we decided to head west for the weekend. You can’t choose family, and in-laws just come with the package. Since I do not have a sister, I always looked forward to getting SIL. Unfortunately I am 0 for 3 is SIL department. One brother married this horrible narcissist and is finally divorced. Other brothers wife is tolerable but we will never be close. And DH has one sister who is horrible and he does not even speak to.
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Post by finnime on May 30, 2021 6:49:32 GMT -5
She is wholly a dumbass, Taz. Good you're getting away from there.
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Post by stillmovingforward on May 30, 2021 15:04:43 GMT -5
Why are some people dumbasses? It would be nice if one of them wasn’t married to your BIL. I’m 7 months pregnant and I’ve gained 15 pounds so far. When I saw my SIL yesterday, one of the first words out of her mouth was I was getting fat. FWIW, I definitely look pregnant, not is she fat or pregnant type. My SIL is just a dumbass. She then proceeded to talk about herself looking pregnant even though she’s had a hysterectomy, endometriosis, and her son is 19. My DD asked me afterwards if she was pregnant (I told her no and she can’t get pregnant anymore.) My SIL is just a dumbass. This is the same SIL who basically told me last year that it’s a good thing I miscarried because you wouldn’t want to have a baby during a pandemic. My SIL is a dumbass. I told DH about this last night after he told me some complaints about his brother (SIL’s husband) and his stay at their house the night before. Let’s just say, we won’t be seeing them much or staying at their house anytime soon we decided to head west for the weekend. You can’t choose family, and in-laws just come with the package. Since I do not have a sister, I always looked forward to getting SIL. Unfortunately I am 0 for 3 is SIL department. One brother married this horrible narcissist and is finally divorced. Other brothers wife is tolerable but we will never be close. And DH has one sister who is horrible and he does not even speak to. Same here. DB married and divorced a brilliant but self-centered woman. Doesn't look like he'll have a significant other again. DH is the only good one from his family. The women are highly questionable and I can barely be civil to them. FWIW - they most likely think I am a stuck-up liberal bitch who got what she deserves with a gay son. I'll take that happily!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 3, 2021 14:20:05 GMT -5
We bought a new couch over the weekend. DH and K moved the old couch out front and we're hoping someone will pick it up. I love the new couch. IT's L shaped and a smokey grey in color. It fits beautifully in the living room. We're thinking about Ottomans now. And my sister volunteered to paint the living room. It's currently beige. I'm feeling overprotective of the new couch and paint though.
I went thru my jeans drawers and tossed a bunch of them. I've lost about 75 lbs. since my diagnosis so some of them I didn't need to zip or button, they just slid off.
I weeked thru books too. My sister took 3 boxes of them for Goodwill. I've got a few more to go, then that bookshelf will be empty. K is debating if she wants it for her room or not. My niece agreed to work with K on sanding and painting it, if she does want it.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 4, 2021 14:46:09 GMT -5
Dh bought C the Nintendo lego set with the tv on wednesday evening, and he finished it before noon today. He loves doing that over screens, but holy moly it gets expensive. He freaks out on used kits where you have to sort through all the pieces instead of just opening 1 bag at a time. Dh said its still cheaper than lego camp which is accurate. Told ds he better get more lawn mowing clients.
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Post by geenamercile on Jun 6, 2021 8:19:11 GMT -5
Youngest and I had a good day yesterday, we went on a hike in a national park up to a water fall. Jumped in some swimming holes to stay cool as we walked. I am going to have to get a better hiking back pack, because she wants to do it again. Trying to think of things for us to do this summer.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 6, 2021 17:18:30 GMT -5
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Post by azucena on Jun 8, 2021 15:46:12 GMT -5
How do you handle it when your kid loses her mind over something immaterial? She's literally crying over spilt milk as she was trying to make a worms in dirt kit that I bought at the grocery store. She has been dying to make it - just needs to add milk and spilled a bit. Now she is in full on tantrum mode and downright inconsolable.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 8, 2021 17:08:49 GMT -5
How do you handle it when your kid loses her mind over something immaterial? She's literally crying over spilt milk as she was trying to make a worms in dirt kit that I bought at the grocery store. She has been dying to make it - just needs to add milk and spilled a bit. Now she is in full on tantrum mode and downright inconsolable. How old? Gwen is getting to that age where she cries at the drop of a hat. I assure her, and DH, it's a normal phase. Get it out of your system. And yes we talk about perspective and how could we handle this better? I don't want her being an emotional stump like my parents but I don't want her sole coping mechanism to be crying like mine is either. The bar is pretty low. Not getting angry at her over it puts me miles ahead in the parenting department. I want to do better though. I told DH wait six more years. Abby will be 12 and I'll be entering perimenopause. He may have to move.
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Post by tcu2003 on Jun 8, 2021 19:49:31 GMT -5
A friend in another state (I’m in the middle of the US/she’s in Philly area) just told me her husband is now on hospice (colon cancer), and they celebrated Father’s Day early. He turned 40 a few months ago, and she’ll be 40 this summer. They have two little girls, ages 6 and 8. ☹️😢
We know each other through volunteering in our of professional organization since we were students/early career. Pre-COVID l, we usually saw each other 1-2 times per year at their big meetings. With her permission, I reached out to our mutual friends about a month ago with an update about what was going on in her life, and gathered donations and was able to PayPal her money for whatever she needed to use it on. She’s also been giving me updates, so I’ve shared those updates with our mutual friends via email so she doesn’t have to update so many people.
Any suggestions on other specific ways I can offer to help? I can only imagine how much she’s hurting and trying to hold it all together. I thought about asking if the girls needed new books, art supplies, etc, but didn’t know if that would even be helpful. I also know that when someone says “let me know how I can help,” without offering concrete things, the offer of help doesn’t often get taken.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jun 9, 2021 6:56:11 GMT -5
tcu2003 I'm sorry about your friend's husband. It doesn't sound as if he has very much time left so maybe after he passes you could offer to organize a meal train for the family. Right now they are so caught up in the day-to-day situation but once it's all over they'll be sitting at home trying to pick up the pieces. Having food that's already prepared might be very helpful.
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Post by azucena on Jun 9, 2021 8:42:14 GMT -5
Meals and a housecleaner so they can just focus on time together. So, so sad. Drama - this is DD8 so it's not hormones yet. She's going to be a late bloomer. We will be reading the AG body book this summer to prepare. This is more perfectionist tendencies Too often she has grand ideas that her 8 yo body just can't carry out yet. Yesterday was DD12's bad pms day. I use the phrase 'remember to be graceful to yourself and others esp today'.
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Post by geenamercile on Jun 17, 2021 13:51:50 GMT -5
Well Summer break started with my 2005 Mini cooper acting up when I got home from my out of town trip this weekend. I am not sure what is wrong with it, but I parked it and I am just getting a new car and then I will figure out what to do with it. Not worth trading in. So the girls and I are starting break out with staying at home. We did walk to town today for lunch and ice cream. Oldest brought her money to shop at some of the other shops. Girl had more walking money then I did. So she got some chocolate at the fancy chocolate place. She also wanted some bath stuff so we went to one of the places but she decided against the 41 dollar bubble bath in a wine bottle and we left that shop for one with a little more reasonable prices. I seriously thought she was going to get it at one moment. I could tell that the youngest was bummed that she didn't have money to buy stuff to come home with, but she spends her money as soon as she gets it. The oldest is a saver. Now we are relaxing at home.
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Post by bean29 on Jun 17, 2021 16:46:14 GMT -5
Greenamercile, I am so sorry that your car chose to die when new cars and used cars are in short supply. My Car died about 2 months ago, needed a repair that cost a few thousand $$. DH had it fixed by someone in the "neighborhood", so he got it done for around $2,000 instead of $4,000. Something to do with the AWD I think. Now it needs new calipers b/c we let it sit so long. He is driving it until he decides if he is going to replace them or it is going to be OK. I am due for a new car, but I prefer to wait until I can negotiate for a better deal.
We were using his Dad's old car. It has a check engine light on, but it seems to be running ok. DH also has a Mustang he drives in good weather, but he does not use it if the weather is bad. Basically he drives it from May 15 until about Sept 15, but he only owes about 5,000 on it. The Dealership offered him More than he paid for it originally 4 years ago when he had the oil changed recently. We will probably sell it in a few years, but he is keeping it for now.
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Post by geenamercile on Jun 17, 2021 19:57:11 GMT -5
I used the Carva website and it was pretty easy, I feel like I got a decent deal over all. Now I am just waiting for delivery, it had to be reschedule due to transportation issues, but should be here Tuesday. I can see where if you needed to get a car now it would be an issue, but I am on summer break and can make it work while I wait.
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Post by tcu2003 on Jun 20, 2021 23:14:35 GMT -5
Not sure how I pulled this off, but DH took both kids to his parents’ house this afternoon and I got the house to myself! I did boring adulting while they were gone like organizing the kid art supplies, laundry, and ironing, and made snickerdoodles (DH’s Father’s Day dessert request) and dinner, but it was blissfully silent at my house for a few hours.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 21, 2021 7:32:08 GMT -5
So I'm having an internal debate with myself that I wanted to ask other parents about. We had Gwen's friend B all weekend (which is a story itself). We took her to Adventureland with us and had a great time. The kid is very polite, is great with Abby and overall we like her.
I noticed this morning that my make-up has gone missing from the bathroom. We're talking about $70 between the make up and my brushes. The fact that it is missing coincides with the time that she was finally picked up by her mother.
I am having Gwen turn the house upside down looking for it maybe they were playing with it and it's buried in their room somewhere. I certainly do not want to think that B took it.
But it has crossed my mind. My question is how do I handle that? If Gwen cannot find it I plan on having her ask if B has seen it because it has gone missing with the assumption we're hoping she knows where it is in the house.
So what do I do if we don't find it? I really like this kid otherwise and she seems to be a good kid. She doesn't have a lot and I can see a 10 year old something impulsive after seeing how much stuff her friends have. (which is another issue we have to address). If she did take it I would expect her to give it back but not sure how to go about that. I can certainly afford to buy new stuff but the returning it is more I want her to learn a lesson AND send a message to my kids in case they ever get the idea to do something stupid.
I wouldn't not invite her over to our house anymore but I would make sure to put certain things away from now on. If it happened a second time then I would not allow her back over.
I feel terrible even thinking it but it is odd that it was in the bathroom all weekend and disappeared after she left. Does it make me a bad person? I figure it'd make me a bad person if I rushed to finger pointing but it isn't unreasonable to question is it?
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