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Post by wvugurl26 on Mar 3, 2021 17:37:48 GMT -5
That's the post I assumed they were talking about. It's all good as long as the mister forgot too.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 3, 2021 18:40:18 GMT -5
That was the post on me forgetting that yesterday was my 20th anniversary, right, Yes, that was the one I saw. Congratulations on your 20th anniversary!
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Post by anciana on Mar 5, 2021 12:52:04 GMT -5
Sorry, different Beth Oh, no, so still no news
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Mar 8, 2021 20:07:52 GMT -5
I think I might have to leave the parent Facebook group for my son's college. I like being in the loop about what's going on, but they're starting to drive me a little batty with their overprotective hovering. Every day now it's something else where they're ranting about "What is the U going to do about this?!?" Crime off campus is a big one. Then yesterday they were all in freak out mode about the Derek Chauvin trial starting. Today there was a gas leak in the dorms and the students were evacuated for 5 hours. Good lord. Get a grip people. Reading the posts you'd think they were left out in -20 weather to starve to death. They were calling Res Life, calling the campus police, sending emails to the president. It was a gorgeous upper 50 degree day. My son took a walk then got together with some friends for bowling in the student union. He said it beat going to class on such a nice day.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 9, 2021 8:52:50 GMT -5
My professor nephew and professor niece in law would tell you helicopter parents are the bane of college professors. It isn't the student contacting them about grades, papers, etc., it's the parents.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Mar 9, 2021 9:46:17 GMT -5
It's pretty crazy and they're constantly berating the school, the administration, the teachers, the president...god I would hate to be the president. One parent posted yesterday how she called the campus PD asking about when her kid could get back in her dorm room and said they treated her rudely and acted as if she was overreacting. I'm sitting here thinking...uh...you very much are. They are dealing with 5 huge buildings with an unknown gas smell coming from them and you're worried about your kid needing her phone charger. WTH?
My kid is quite used to "shit happens...deal with it".
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 9, 2021 11:12:11 GMT -5
I am betting you have not called a professor for an extension on your son's paper or lab work. It's up to him to deal with his assignments.
My family professors wonder how much the student is actually doing on the paper--or is it mom and dad.
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Post by CCL on Mar 9, 2021 11:31:16 GMT -5
I wouldn't even know if my kids didn't have an assignment done. No reason why I'd need to know. It's up to them to figure it out.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Mar 9, 2021 11:37:59 GMT -5
No. Definitely not! When DS was setting up the online portal for parent access I told him I didn't want to even be able to see his grades outside of the final transcript (which I didn't really insist on being on either, he just included it). I mainly just needed all the financial access. You can actually have it where they see EVERYTHING. Yeah...I don't need to know all his test grades and see if he skips a class or misses an assignment.
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Post by stillmovingforward on Mar 9, 2021 12:10:32 GMT -5
And this is why we never joined any of that when our kids went off to college! It's a circle of hell.
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Post by gs11rmb on Mar 9, 2021 13:33:44 GMT -5
My professor nephew and professor niece in law would tell you helicopter parents are the bane of college professors. It isn't the student contacting them about grades, papers, etc., it's the parents. I used to work in the Dean's Office for the College of Arts and Sciences at a university. My favourite story was of the parent who didn't want her 'child' reading inappropriate materials in English class. I can no longer remember the work but it was by a standard American playwright and nothing that would be considered controversial. My office was next door to the science dean and I overheard him counseling a young professor on how to deal with parents outraged that their children were being taught about the big bang theory . Until then, I had no idea that parents would be involved in the college experience!
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Mar 9, 2021 14:28:22 GMT -5
I have enough to worry about making sure the 5th grader is doing his homework. The college kid is on his own there. If not passing classes starts to be an issue then he's going to start losing funding. I'm pretty sure I've driven that into his skull and he's smart enough to realize he's got it pretty good right now.
The only thing I have stepped in on is going over his course registrations with him. His advisor basically approved him taking a course he didn't need last Fall and because he has no leway in his program it's going to mean taking a summer class or a heavy semester to make it up. That annoyed me a bit, so when he registered for spring he had me look it over before he met with his advisor. He's starting to figure out all the requirements on his own now though and has been looking at the 4 year plan for next year. Last summer he was pretty clueless.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 9, 2021 16:41:29 GMT -5
Nephew and wife have been told what to do by Athletic Department at Alabama, but not at any other university where they have taught, a grad student who needed an A to gradate and he never came to class or turned in papers because he worked, parents who said their kid needed an A to keep their scholarship, and why can't you extend time for papers and test them at a different time because of xyz. It's ridiculous. I paid for my own college with no parental help. I didn't like that back then everything was sent to my parents address with their name on it. I paid for it and they were my grades. Of course, mom opened it "because it was addressed to us"
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Mar 9, 2021 17:05:57 GMT -5
I didn't like that back then everything was sent to my parents address with their name on it. I paid for it and they were my grades. Of course, mom opened it "because it was addressed to us" Yeah. That's weird and nothing like that happens today. I can't even pay on his account without him granting me access. Nothing comes in the mail from the school in my name...honestly nothing really comes in the mail at all anymore even for him. They do all the correspondence by email.
I paid my own way through too, but man it was different back then. For starters, my parents just stopped claiming me on their taxes when I turned 18 and I was magically "Independent" for FAFSA and got enough grants to pay all my tuition which was so much cheaper then anyhow. DS was talking about taking a summer class and I about threw up. One 3 credit class was going to be nearly $2500! Tuition was $32/credit when I went. I could have taken a full load all year for $2500.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 9, 2021 17:14:18 GMT -5
I worked for a year before doing any kind of college when I finally realized I had no money to attend college. Then I went to a junior college 4 evenings a week for 3 years.
I didn't like the slow progress and had saved some money by then. I had been off parents tax return since high school graduation.
No problems qualifying as independent and even at a private college, I paid nothing like college costs today. It was about $3K per year and books were right at $100 per semester. Grad school out of state was about the same but housing cost more.
I did 3 years of undergrad work in 2 calendar years, including summer and I worked. My grades were high enough that I kept getting more and more grants and the last semester cost me $100 and no loans.
I know the privacy rules have changed on what parents can access. Even in grad school, everything came to me in my grad student housing, not to my parents back in Iowa.
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Post by oped on Mar 10, 2021 17:49:07 GMT -5
A friend and I were walking today and decided if my son and her daughter would procreate the baby would have the worlds best hair. Somehow this argument did not convince them.
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Post by Poptart on Mar 13, 2021 15:13:27 GMT -5
Sigh, I hate dealing with nephews mom. The latest blow out was due to the fact that she claimed him on her taxes even though he lived with us for most of the year, keep in mind that she got all of the stimulus money even though she did not have any of the children. She never offered any of the money and we never asked, but then on top of that she claims him and I'm sure his other siblings on her taxes?! Gaaah. When I told her she was not entitled to claim him her response was "don't they pay you to take care of him?", "you need my permission to claim him". Should I just claim him and let the chips fall where they may? I don't want to antagonize her but I feel that it's unfair for her to claim a child that was not in her custody and for whom she did not provide support for.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Mar 13, 2021 16:17:45 GMT -5
Poptart I looked into this for a friend last year. She went to file and baby daddy had claimed kid. He was not supposed to. She contacted his accountant who told her that baby daddy was allowed to claim kid. Not according to the IRS he wasn't. She did have to paper file. It kicked it out electronically since the kid had been claimed. From what I read, once processing the paper file, the IRS would send a letter asking for proof of support. My friend had all that documentation. I'm sure you do as well.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Mar 13, 2021 16:22:29 GMT -5
Sigh, I hate dealing with nephews mom. The latest blow out was due to the fact that she claimed him on her taxes even though he lived with us for most of the year, keep in mind that she got all of the stimulus money even though she did not have any of the children. She never offered any of the money and we never asked, but then on top of that she claims him and I'm sure his other siblings on her taxes?! Gaaah. When I told her she was not entitled to claim him her response was "don't they pay you to take care of him?", "you need my permission to claim him". Should I just claim him and let the chips fall where they may? I don't want to antagonize her but I feel that it's unfair for her to claim a child that was not in her custody and for whom she did not provide support for. Who is "they"? If you do claim him and she already has your return will be rejected and you'll have to paper file, but I might just to make her life miserable. The IRS will investigate and determine who has the right to claim him and if she was already issued a refund they will amend her return and she'll have to pay anything back that she got from claiming him. Also she is wrong that she has to give permission for you to claim him.
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Post by Poptart on Mar 13, 2021 17:27:07 GMT -5
minnesotapaintlady the wonderful state of California pays us a stipend to care for him, it comes out to $12,000 a year and she seems to believe that's adequate compensation and it's not, there's no amount of money that she or anyone else could give me and my family to compensate us for taking care of him, and we have never asked her to provide anything for him, and she of course has never offered. wvugurl26 I called our accountant and she said the same thing, I have to paper file and write a letter stating that the child was placed in the home through DCFS, I also have to provide proof. I'm pretty sure she's going to be screwed if she did claim all five kids and the IRS finds out that all the kids have been in foster care for almost a year.
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Post by NastyWoman on Mar 13, 2021 18:19:03 GMT -5
minnesotapaintlady the wonderful state of California pays us a stipend to care for him, it comes out to $12,000 a year and she seems to believe that's adequate compensation and it's not, there's no amount of money that she or anyone else could give me and my family to compensate us for taking care of him, and we have never asked her to provide anything for him, and she of course has never offered. wvugurl26 I called our accountant and she said the same thing, I have to paper file and write a letter stating that the child was placed in the home through DCFS, I also have to provide proof. I'm pretty sure she's going to be screwed if she did claim all five kids and the IRS finds out that all the kids have been in foster care for almost a year. What can I say? It couldn't happen to a nicer more deserving person. She really is a steamy smelly pile of you-know-what
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Mar 13, 2021 21:17:20 GMT -5
minnesotapaintlady the wonderful state of California pays us a stipend to care for him, it comes out to $12,000 a year and she seems to believe that's adequate compensation and it's not, there's no amount of money that she or anyone else could give me and my family to compensate us for taking care of him, and we have never asked her to provide anything for him, and she of course has never offered. wvugurl26 I called our accountant and she said the same thing, I have to paper file and write a letter stating that the child was placed in the home through DCFS, I also have to provide proof. I'm pretty sure she's going to be screwed if she did claim all five kids and the IRS finds out that all the kids have been in foster care for almost a year. They were placed with DCFS? Yeah. She's screwed. I was thinking you'd have to go through the trouble of having to prove he was living with you, but that won't be an issue! Claim him for sure. It would be worth the aggravation to me. I'm all for taking advantage of every tax loophole there is...but legally...fraud pisses me off.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Mar 15, 2021 8:52:16 GMT -5
Blech. Tater tot got the same soccer coach as last time, who was a bit of a covidiot, and a lot of the other players parents on that team were covidiots, too. We had requested the previous coach, who was awesome. At least this coach really likes TT, whereas the other coach probably thought he was a bit of a pita. Admittedly, TT is a bit of a pita, but he tore up the field last season, which is why the latest coach is excited to have him.
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Post by gs11rmb on Mar 15, 2021 8:59:11 GMT -5
My girls are back in school today for the first time in a whole year. The district closed on 3/13/2020 and, like everyone else, we thought it would only be for 2-3 weeks. They are doing A/B cohorts so it's only two days for the next three weeks but I'll take it and rejoice .
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Post by Lizard Queen on Mar 15, 2021 9:34:55 GMT -5
My kids have been in school all year, but they have a day off today for no reason. It was originally supposed to be a half day, but they probably added it because there was only one snow day this year. And the time change, is my guess.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Mar 15, 2021 12:39:18 GMT -5
We're back to all online this week because Carrot is quarantining after FL. I don't miss this. I'm trying to work and keep him working at the same time, but it's not going well.
Tomorrow or Wednesday I'll take him in to get tested and he can go back on Monday (assuming he's negative of course). I don't think he was very high risk for exposure anyhow. They stayed at a Hyatt timeshare and it was very empty. All the pictures of the beach and the pool area were just Carrot and Grandpa and many, many empty beach chairs. My mom is too cheap to take them out to restaurants and packed a bunch of food and made one trip to the grocery store there and one stop at a 5 guys, but he did hang out with his two cousins that came down from Clearwater last Sunday.
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Post by giramomma on Mar 15, 2021 21:48:41 GMT -5
The girls are going back in 4 weeks. I'm not sure how many days each of them will be going back. The peanut will be going back 5 days...DD1, maybe 4. DS will be going back to school in about 7-8 weeks, but just two days a week.
I have no clue when I'll be expected to work in the office again. I may be scarce just because of our family's scheduling, anyway.
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Post by taz157 on Mar 15, 2021 22:16:10 GMT -5
DD could go back to school a month ago but we decided to keep her home because of DH’s health issue. Today the school day increased to normal time and more kids are there everyday (evidently - I think many are still on A/B days). In her class of 20, 11 kids were there today. (I’ll ask her how many are there tomorrow.) Needless to say, she was really bummed and upset that she’s not back. She does know more of the reason why she’s staying home but still upset. It didn’t help that she missed 2 things she was looking forward to last year but didn’t do because of no school.
One year ago this past Saturday was her last day in school. I get the feeling that she’s going to be home for the rest of the school year but I hope she can go back starting next year. 🤞🙏
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 16, 2021 10:00:43 GMT -5
Funny M story. At daycare yesterday they drew a picture and were asked what makes them happy. Her answer is “I feel happy every day and sometimes I don’t.“ She then tells her teacher she feels sad when she wants more hugs and C doesn’t give them to her. LOLOLOLOL - pretty sure her big brother has never denied her a hug as he’s my hugger. It’s the opposite - he’ll ask her for a hug and she’ll tell him no or you can’t touch me. 😂🤣
But - I am glad she knows she can tell people no and that they can’t touch her without permission.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 18, 2021 10:58:25 GMT -5
Annoyed a little with Gwen's gymnastics studio. Gwen went through a growth spurt and her leotard now leaves very little to the imagination. Not anyone's fault it happens. My annoyance is more when I asked I was told it is too late to exchange. I just got the thing last Thursday. I found orange biker shorts that match her costume on Amazon. That will take care of the lower half. I'll need to sew or adhere a boob kercheif to the top. I suppose there are all sorts of things about the dance costume world I know nothing about but in my brain it would make sense to get costumes in so if there are major issues you have time to fix it/send them back. Kids grow randomly so wouldn't it make sense to have a buffer of some sort so we could exchange/order a new one? I'd pay for a new one I have no problems with that. IDK just one of those little things I get easily annoyed with nowadays and in a normal life would be water off the back. Gwen is almost as tall as me (which isn't saying much lol) and she can fit into my clothes. That hurts my fragile ego. I am not THAT tiny!
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