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Post by andi9899 on Jul 22, 2020 9:40:36 GMT -5
They should absolutely issue you a laptop (I really can't imagine anyone on a desktop anymore). Really? I hate working on a laptop and don't even want one for work. I work with large spreadsheets and use split screens all the time. My eyes are bad enough as it is. I have dual monitors and work on a laptop.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2020 9:54:36 GMT -5
Really? I hate working on a laptop and don't even want one for work. I work with large spreadsheets and use split screens all the time. My eyes are bad enough as it is. I have dual monitors and work on a laptop. But if I'm just going to have a separate monitors at home and dock a laptop into that stuff I might as well bring my PC back and forth because it's all set up like I want and has a lot of stuff saved on the desktop that I use a lot. It's tiny. Literally fits in my lunch box.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 22, 2020 10:04:16 GMT -5
I have dual monitors and work on a laptop. But if I'm just going to have a separate monitors at home and dock a laptop into that stuff I might as well bring my PC back and forth because it's all set up like I want and has a lot of stuff saved on the desktop that I use a lot. It's tiny. Literally fits in my lunch box.
That's pretty cool. I was picturing you lugging an enormous tower with tons of chords. I like that.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2020 10:09:58 GMT -5
But if I'm just going to have a separate monitors at home and dock a laptop into that stuff I might as well bring my PC back and forth because it's all set up like I want and has a lot of stuff saved on the desktop that I use a lot. It's tiny. Literally fits in my lunch box.
That's pretty cool. I was picturing you lugging an enormous tower with tons of chords. I like that. No. Right now when I go back and forth, I take everything, monitor, keyboard and all, and get in in one printer paper box, which really isn't that bad even with having to walk a half a block and up a flight of steps, but I'd rather not do that on a daily basis. Although the extra exercise wouldn't hurt!
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Post by oped on Jul 22, 2020 10:47:14 GMT -5
Ok. Ok. But I'm liking this idea for small offices, maybe rent an outdoor modular unit and provide a teacher for a small group of kids to keep parents at work part time at least. Even if the teacher just oversaw cyber...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2020 11:12:47 GMT -5
I'm thinking a lot of people are going to be shocked when it's announced everything is online. I was pretty floored that the hybrid model was just 3 days in class the first two weeks that's for sure. I really thought it would be a situation where 2-3 days a week he would be in school on a rotating basis. I suppose for most that would be more inconvenient than always home, but it would help me a lot.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jul 22, 2020 11:23:08 GMT -5
I definitely recommend the chair and monitors for home. When we had to get new stuff for security compliance, I ordered myself a mouse for home. I brought my headset home with me in March and I haven't been back to the office since then.
I purchased a headset for my husband. I keep offering to buy a second chair but he says there's no room.
Having a good set up makes a real difference.
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Post by tcu2003 on Jul 22, 2020 11:34:49 GMT -5
Ditto the recommendation to get monitors and a keyboard and mouse for home - plus a chair! It waited for almost 2 months to get a chair and I should have gotten it the first week I was home.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2020 11:47:02 GMT -5
I definitely need a good chair. I just have a wooden kitchen table chair that I throw a cushion on to save my butt. When I came back to the office and sat down I was like, "Ahhhhhh...I missed you".
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Post by stillmovingforward on Jul 22, 2020 13:12:34 GMT -5
I also recommend home monitors and a chair. I bring my mouse with me but it's my mouse, not work's. That all makes life so much easier.
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Post by stillmovingforward on Jul 22, 2020 13:17:32 GMT -5
Poptart- honeymoon period. Just sayin'. Therapy is the devil is a common theme in abusive families so don't think that's going to doom him. You keep going. Don't mention him going. Feel free to discuss in front of him what your therapist says, recommends, agreements and disagreements, etc. He'll realize they are interesting and helpful but it will take a while. Maybe even a few years. Don't push it but be open. I said the same thing. Then the kids came back into state care. And then.... well, it just snuck up on me 😂 and I DO adore preteens and teens!
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Post by anciana on Jul 22, 2020 13:32:36 GMT -5
What a year this has already been for you, Poptart! Wishing you all the best and hoping you can come here with questions as many of the ladies have been through some of similar issues and can help. Hang in there!
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Post by finnime on Jul 22, 2020 14:31:30 GMT -5
Poptart, you're taking on a burden out of love. Good for you, and good for your nephew. It will be extremely challenging, but it is the right path to take.
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Post by bean29 on Jul 22, 2020 15:08:55 GMT -5
They should absolutely issue you a laptop (I really can't imagine anyone on a desktop anymore). The other stuff would be really nice if they helped you out on, but I'd start looking for since this isn't going anywhere. Maybe watch Craigslist if you don't want to pay full price and aren't too picky. But buy a good chair. Even the $60 ones from Amazon seem good enough to me. Scheduling - does in office stuff have to be done daily, or could it be done every other week? Wondering if you could go in on weekends when ex2.0 has carrot? I couldn't leave the kids alone every day which probably makes me a bit helicopter-y but that would definitely be a problem for me. I feel good about myself letting them stay 15 minutes home alone if I'm just running to the atm. Lol. My last employer had everyone on desktops and had to scramble to get people hooked up to work from home. When quarantine started, people were taking desktops home to use. I'm so glad I left when I did. I've missed technology. They also have some people still in the office while my current employer has said we're working from home until a vaccine comes out, so it could be a lot longer. This virus is showing a lot of people their employer's true colors. Are you still selling insurance? I know it can be done virtually/over the phone, but DH has a lot of customers who use cash and like the face to face model. How do you get your leads?
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 22, 2020 15:12:22 GMT -5
My last employer had everyone on desktops and had to scramble to get people hooked up to work from home. When quarantine started, people were taking desktops home to use. I'm so glad I left when I did. I've missed technology. They also have some people still in the office while my current employer has said we're working from home until a vaccine comes out, so it could be a lot longer. This virus is showing a lot of people their employer's true colors. Are you still selling insurance? I know it can be done virtually/over the phone, but DH has a lot of customers who use cash and like the face to face model. How do you get your leads? I haven't been in sales for a few years. I still maintain my licenses, but I don't use them. I'm still in insurance, just not sales. When I got my leads I did it by networking and referrals. Nobody's really doing the pay cash and sit across the desk thing anymore. At least not around here. I haven't collected a cash premium payment in at least 5 years.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 22, 2020 15:23:32 GMT -5
I have dual monitors and work on a laptop. But if I'm just going to have a separate monitors at home and dock a laptop into that stuff I might as well bring my PC back and forth because it's all set up like I want and has a lot of stuff saved on the desktop that I use a lot. It's tiny. Literally fits in my lunch box.
I have a docking station and 2 monitors at work and at home. Just plug the laptop into the docking station and it's exactly how I want it no matter where I am. I was rarely in the office before all this so plenty of other people use my desk and also just plug in when theyre using it. I bought my own home equipment because I didn't want to deal with returning a ton of stuff if I left. Setting up and taking down are miserable.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2020 15:37:48 GMT -5
Very few people here are issued laptops so despite it being a very large company they don't have many. Basically the account managers and select engineering folks. I know IT and regulatory are stressing out with everyone at home on personal wifi and all the unsecured access to computers right now. That's why I don't think the WFH thing will stick with us after the covid restrictions go away. We're under a lot of regulations with all the military stuff we do, and people are printing out classified government specs and prints at their kitchen tables now.
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Post by bean29 on Jul 22, 2020 16:28:03 GMT -5
Are you still selling insurance? I know it can be done virtually/over the phone, but DH has a lot of customers who use cash and like the face to face model. How do you get your leads? I haven't been in sales for a few years. I still maintain my licenses, but I don't use them. I'm still in insurance, just not sales. When I got my leads I did it by networking and referrals. Nobody's really doing the pay cash and sit across the desk thing anymore. At least not around here. I haven't collected a cash premium payment in at least 5 years. Last weekend I probably only had 2,000 in cash - but I have already gone to the bank with over 10,000. He is getting more CC payments now with the pandemic, but a lot of his customers are still paying cash. All the agents are supposed to be open on Saturday, he generally is the only one in the area that opens on Saturday, so I yelled at him again last weekend that he should only take cash payments by appointment on Saturday. Technically they are all supposed to take payments from anyone else's customers, but customers can call the 800 # to make a cc payment, so if he is open, he is handling other agents business and not getting paid for it.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 22, 2020 16:35:52 GMT -5
Very few people here are issued laptops so despite it being a very large company they don't have many. Basically the account managers and select engineering folks. I know IT and regulatory are stressing out with everyone at home on personal wifi and all the unsecured access to computers right now. That's why I don't think the WFH thing will stick with us after the covid restrictions go away. We're under a lot of regulations with all the military stuff we do, and people are printing out classified government specs and prints at their kitchen tables now. They can make it more secure but I get that it isn't easy, cheap, or in their plan. We aren't doing government or medical contracts, but we have to be secure. Work VPN for all at home access and unless it involves a physical cable they've taken access away from us and we have to call IT. I about died when I couldn't set up my own printer, but to make sure you aren't connecting to anything else they locked down access to even the most mundane tasks to admin only.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2020 17:17:19 GMT -5
Except I need to print and scan actual government prints for how to build their assemblies as part of my job. I am totally breaking all the laws printing this stuff at home, but right now everyone is looking the other way.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Jul 22, 2020 17:56:19 GMT -5
Me: who's been cutting their hair in the bathroom? 7yo: why? What's the big deal about cutting your hair? Me: it's really easy to make yourself look really stupid real quick Dh: (snickers)
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2020 20:56:50 GMT -5
I may or may not have just flung a pan of burnt eggs out the front door of my house. It was that or hit DS upside the head with the pan.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 22, 2020 21:24:04 GMT -5
I may or may not have just flung a pan of burnt eggs out the front door of my house. It was that or hit DS upside the head with the pan. You gotta do what you gotta do. There have been plenty of times I've had to walk away/slam a door/ break something to avoid beating the ever loving shit out of one of the girls. No judgment.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 22, 2020 21:34:18 GMT -5
I may or may not have just flung a pan of burnt eggs out the front door of my house. It was that or hit DS upside the head with the pan. Oh the street I live on has seen many things flung out my and my parents door.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2020 21:50:39 GMT -5
That makes me feel a little less crazy. DS decided he was in a cooking mood tonight and nothing went right and he was making my life miserable because of it. First he tried making augratin potatoes, and I was apparently hiding the butter from him in drawer so he had to figure out some kind of substitution for his sauce which didn't work out so he took them to the chickens but he's just being way overly dramatic and pissed off about this. So then he decides to make his specialty which are omelets, but "somebody lost his favorite spatula" and it was all downhill from there. Suddenly it was an emergency that he find this and he's whipping all the cupboard doors open meanwhile the eggs are burning. He tried getting them out but they were all stuck on for whatever reason and on and on he's flipping out. Meanwhile it's 9pm and I'm trying to just chill out and watch TV. Finally I just got up and took the pan and chucked it out the front door. I needed it to stop. Of course he is all mad and saying how I don't care that he's feeling totally useless and unable to do anything. Does constantly yelling and banging things and blaming other people help that? Hey, I got a 1.2% raise today while my coworkers got 3.5%. I'm feeling pretty inadequate myself dude! He's snapped out of it now and is back to being pleasant. He keeps going in and out of the house and asked where an extension cord was. Maybe he's planning on blowing the house up with me in it?
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Post by CCL on Jul 22, 2020 23:20:54 GMT -5
Sounds like he might have too much time on his hands since he's no longer working.
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Post by finnime on Jul 23, 2020 6:18:04 GMT -5
That makes me feel a little less crazy. DS decided he was in a cooking mood tonight and nothing went right and he was making my life miserable because of it. First he tried making augratin potatoes, and I was apparently hiding the butter from him in drawer so he had to figure out some kind of substitution for his sauce which didn't work out so he took them to the chickens but he's just being way overly dramatic and pissed off about this. So then he decides to make his specialty which are omelets, but "somebody lost his favorite spatula" and it was all downhill from there. Suddenly it was an emergency that he find this and he's whipping all the cupboard doors open meanwhile the eggs are burning. He tried getting them out but they were all stuck on for whatever reason and on and on he's flipping out. Meanwhile it's 9pm and I'm trying to just chill out and watch TV. Finally I just got up and took the pan and chucked it out the front door. I needed it to stop. Of course he is all mad and saying how I don't care that he's feeling totally useless and unable to do anything. Does constantly yelling and banging things and blaming other people help that? Hey, I got a 1.2% raise today while my coworkers got 3.5%. I'm feeling pretty inadequate myself dude! He's snapped out of it now and is back to being pleasant. He keeps going in and out of the house and asked where an extension cord was. Maybe he's planning on blowing the house up with me in it? He's 18. It will end, oh, by the time he's 21 or so. That's the real, secret reason we send them away to college at this age. Sorry about your raise.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 23, 2020 6:31:54 GMT -5
Between the time on his hands and moving to college looming, I'd guess he is a bit stressed.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 23, 2020 7:20:37 GMT -5
Gwen turns 10 today. I hung up a banner on the door frame and left her a birthday present for when she woke up. God I am short even standing on a chair I still didn't get the banner high enough to not have to limbo under. So I told DH when he gets up to watch his head so he doesn't walk right into it and rip it down.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 23, 2020 7:54:15 GMT -5
Happy Birthday Gwen!
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