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Post by anciana on Jun 10, 2020 13:14:29 GMT -5
We're sending them to at least 1 of the ninja camps for kids. It's 4 hours, 4 days a week. We've got some camping planned but it's going to be a boring summer I think. Supposedly we're at Stage 3 for reopening but a lot of the people I know aren't willing to risk it. I think DH would like to get away this summer, a week, or at least a weekend, would do us all so much good but I don't know that will happen. Things have opened here as our numbers are pretty good right now so kids competitive sports have started with some limited outdoor trainings. The kids are well spaced out by coaches during the practice but they don't know any better but to group when they get their bags/water. At least it's been windy
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 13, 2020 7:27:50 GMT -5
C asked that he and I come up with an activity or something that we share/do together. That all we do now is fight about screen time which isn't entirely wrong. He and dh have his fish tank.
Walks and bike rides are my latest form of torture. He does them and enjoys most of them, but that won't be it. I read with him every night, so that's not going to be it.
I told him to think of ideas too, I just can't come up with much. He helps in the yard and garden but it's not a passion. He has minimal interest in jiu jitsu anymore, hates writing, doesn't do a ton of art.
We've been stuck on the diabetic alert dog as we try to find the right breed/er but that will primarily be he and I so probably need to pick that up again.
Any other ideas because a dog is still a ways out.
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Post by finnime on Jun 13, 2020 9:28:37 GMT -5
Suggestions: (Learn and) play Go together.
Make a joint art work: take turns contributing a brush stroke or shape to a piece until you have something you like. Or both do clay work--sculpture. My son wasn't really into art either but he really enjoyed doing these things with me.
Play badminton or table tennis or foosball.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 13, 2020 12:17:11 GMT -5
K and DH are involved in searching for buried treasure in a park. There's a book called "The Secret" and Josh Gates has done several episodes on it, including finding the one in Boston. But there's one in our City and we're not sure if there are any by you. It's also a lot of screen time doing research and then walking around trying to figure out clues.
K likes to cook/bake with me.
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Post by azucena on Jun 13, 2020 12:57:43 GMT -5
Rae fwiw I'm right there with you with constantly fighting about screen time. We just had a long discussion with both girls during lunch about how it's reached a point where they really need to choose gratitude and joy rather than just focus on the things we say no about. It was a good conversation but we will see what sticks.
Sometimes the best way to connect in a relationship is to learn something new together - hobby, language, game, etc. Even just the act of trying is good. This week our family had a water gun fight, played wiffle ball, and watched an outdoor movie. Dd11 had to be made to join each of these activities but once she was involved she enjoyed herself.
Speaking as much to you as I am reiterating to myself.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 13, 2020 16:10:46 GMT -5
We came up with woodworking. Tomorrow we'll build some floating shelves for his room. He doesn't care what we build as long as he gets to use the drill, and I have lots of projects that I'd love his help with. I'm pretty excited and he seems to be too.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2020 16:22:49 GMT -5
C asked that he and I come up with an activity or something that we share/do together. That all we do now is fight about screen time which isn't entirely wrong. He and dh have his fish tank. Walks and bike rides are my latest form of torture. He does them and enjoys most of them, but that won't be it. I read with him every night, so that's not going to be it. I told him to think of ideas too, I just can't come up with much. He helps in the yard and garden but it's not a passion. He has minimal interest in jiu jitsu anymore, hates writing, doesn't do a ton of art. We've been stuck on the diabetic alert dog as we try to find the right breed/er but that will primarily be he and I so probably need to pick that up again. Any other ideas because a dog is still a ways out. Geocaching. Got a fire pit? Hot dogs for supper, then pitch a tent in your back yard and sleep outside. No fire pit? Pitch a tent a sleep outside anyway.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 13, 2020 16:42:16 GMT -5
Rae fwiw I'm right there with you with constantly fighting about screen time. We just had a long discussion with both girls during lunch about how it's reached a point where they really need to choose gratitude and joy rather than just focus on the things we say no about. It was a good conversation but we will see what sticks. Sometimes the best way to connect in a relationship is to learn something new together - hobby, language, game, etc. Even just the act of trying is good. This week our family had a water gun fight, played wiffle ball, and watched an outdoor movie. Dd11 had to be made to join each of these activities but once she was involved she enjoyed herself. Speaking as much to you as I am reiterating to myself. You're nicer than me. My conversations have been more along the lines : I will take everything, EVERYTHING! good away if I hear one more complaint out of anyone! I've decided that I wasn't cut out for isolation parenting. I'm much better with a village of other adults involved, plus the ability to tap out every now and then.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 13, 2020 17:05:33 GMT -5
Yeah I'm at the I will burn everything and sell you to the gypsies stage of isolation parenting.
Sick of summer since it started in March this year. Then nothing for the kids is open. The zoo is out because they expect masks and you have to walk the entire zoo that's 3.5 miles non stop in 90 degrees. No thanks.
Pool is out unless I want to fight for a reservation which I don't. Children's Museum is not reopening anytime soon.
I'm running out of ways to entertain them.
Gwen started cooking. Abby has turned into.the most hostile yogis I've ever seen. We have a wading pool in the backyard.
We've decided to try fishing on Sundays to get us out of the house.
I signed them up for dance in.the fall. I'm willing to take my chances at this point.
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Post by taz157 on Jun 13, 2020 22:44:03 GMT -5
We came up with woodworking. Tomorrow we'll build some floating shelves for his room. He doesn't care what we build as long as he gets to use the drill, and I have lots of projects that I'd love his help with. I'm pretty excited and he seems to be too. DD helped DH with electrical work yesterday. It was more putting ends on speaker wire and the like. She was excited and had a great time. DH was quite proud of her.
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Post by azucena on Jun 15, 2020 7:29:34 GMT -5
Rae fwiw I'm right there with you with constantly fighting about screen time. We just had a long discussion with both girls during lunch about how it's reached a point where they really need to choose gratitude and joy rather than just focus on the things we say no about. It was a good conversation but we will see what sticks. Sometimes the best way to connect in a relationship is to learn something new together - hobby, language, game, etc. Even just the act of trying is good. This week our family had a water gun fight, played wiffle ball, and watched an outdoor movie. Dd11 had to be made to join each of these activities but once she was involved she enjoyed herself. Speaking as much to you as I am reiterating to myself. You're nicer than me. My conversations have been more along the lines : I will take everything, EVERYTHING! good away if I hear one more complaint out of anyone! I've decided that I wasn't cut out for isolation parenting. I'm much better with a village of other adults involved, plus the ability to tap out every now and then. Oh, I've definitely lost my temper multiple times particularly at bedtime. When do they reach the stage where they go to bed and stay in bed cuz 11 and 7 ain't it?! I just saw us make a little bit of headway when we brought it up at lunchtime when we weren't already mid-argument or tired at the end of the day. And, when we gave them something else to focus on instead of just saying - for the love of God stop whining and complaining about everything! One big meltdown this weekend when DD7 saw her friend coming back from the neighborhood pool which just re-opened at 25% capacity. We're going to wait that out yet. Cases are rising in StL as restrictions are being loosened. I just let her vent and cry and agreed with her that this continues to suck. We did break quarantine for the first time by letting them play with their cousins yesterday. DH and I had a risk vs reward discussion and decided to take the risk. My niece is special needs so sister has been careful although not quite as strict as us. We let them play outside and only use our downstairs bathroom and only their 3 yr old gave us knee hugs because who can resist that and it's just so wrong to try to tell her not to. They had an epic water fight which ended in all 5 of them sitting in those big storage totes filled with water and laughing about their how their individual "pools" fit them - in DD11 case it really didn't LOL.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 15, 2020 7:36:42 GMT -5
Yeah, C is regressing somewhat with bedtime. He used to be my 'fall asleep within 10 minutes" kid but now he's up and down for an hour + every night. Somehow the kids moved their bedtime to 9pm without us noticing. He's also worried and asking about "things getting better" which I'm not sure if he's talking social unrest or COVID or both. We just keep trying to reassure him.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 15, 2020 8:49:24 GMT -5
Abby had the mother of all tantrums yesterday to where we had to cut our fishing trip short and take her home. She's totally regressing behavior wise. We're at the point where we'd normally be in August before school starts. I am sick of summer already.
DH and I discussed it and decided she's going to Kids & Co three times a week from now on. He's been letting her skirt it if she does not want to go but I think her staying home all day since March is not good for her. She's become really co-dependent on Gwen which is driving Gwen crazy and DH needs some space to get work done. I think it would be healthier for her to be around kids her own age for a few days a week.
IDK what we will do if school doesn't start.
We have a kid in the neighborhood who has decided the girls are her new best friends. I told Gwen for now suck it up she's desperate for interaction just like every other kid on the planet right now. Pretty sure our daily walks are the highlights of that kids' day right now.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2020 11:43:44 GMT -5
Ugh. Got into another shouting match with DS. I am so behind at work (last night I worked until midnight off the clock), and him playing video games with his friends online drives me nuts and I can't focus. It's all this yelling and talking and I go in there over and over and tell him to keep it down and that lasts like 2 minutes. This time he actually got in the car and left which he never does. At least it's quiet now.
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Post by stillmovingforward on Jun 16, 2020 22:51:20 GMT -5
Sounds perfectly normal and healthy. Especially great that he left instead of continued to engage. Sorry, it sucks but it's normal.
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Post by azucena on Jun 17, 2020 20:06:19 GMT -5
Does my husband want an air fryer for father's day?
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 17, 2020 20:51:18 GMT -5
If you have room for it, then I think he'd love it. I'm waffling between a small propane fire pit or a hydroponics system dh found on Craigslist he's been talking about for weeks.
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Post by cktc on Jun 17, 2020 21:03:24 GMT -5
Does my husband want an air fryer for father's day? That would be a no from my DH. He's just getting a Dadalorian t-shirt though and I don't care if he likes it :-P
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Post by crazycat on Jun 18, 2020 0:07:40 GMT -5
We got DH a Traeger grill from Costco . He already put it together and used it . We couldn’t hide it and give it to him on Sunday cuz we have nowhere to hide it .
He is beyond happy .
And will get more gifts on Sunday .
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Post by azucena on Jun 18, 2020 7:34:01 GMT -5
He's been doing most of the cooking during quarantine since I'm working. He loved his old school fryer in college and early 20s. I was looking at bread machines since his broke a few weeks ago. He would use it at least twice a month and was using it more this spring since we were home. Apparently mid-priced bread machines are still out of stock a lot of places. He'll likely get another one when he thinks about it.
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Post by steph08 on Jun 18, 2020 7:52:03 GMT -5
I just want it known that I am alone in my house for the first time in more than three months. Alone! Alone! Alone!
My mom took the kids overnight (she retired at the end of May), and DH is at work. I can work and do meetings today without having to make snacks, change the TV channel, break up fights, go outside to play, etc.
Ahhhhhhhh.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jun 18, 2020 7:54:36 GMT -5
I just want it known that I am alone in my house for the first time in more than three months. Alone! Alone! Alone! My mom took the kids overnight (she retired at the end of May), and DH is at work. I can work and do meetings today without having to make snacks, change the TV channel, break up fights, go outside to play, etc. Ahhhhhhhh. I am so jealous
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 18, 2020 8:39:25 GMT -5
I just want it known that I am alone in my house for the first time in more than three months. Alone! Alone! Alone! My mom took the kids overnight (she retired at the end of May), and DH is at work. I can work and do meetings today without having to make snacks, change the TV channel, break up fights, go outside to play, etc. Ahhhhhhhh. That sounds delightful! I hope you can take a long lunch and just wander around your empty house.
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Post by steph08 on Jun 18, 2020 12:20:55 GMT -5
They're back! Wahhhhh
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Post by stillmovingforward on Jun 19, 2020 10:41:52 GMT -5
My DD2 who is 21, just informed me that she has realized this past year how terrible she was to my DH and I when she was younger! DH was NOT at his best during those years (for those that remember, I was making plans for leaving with the kids due to his behavior brought on in part, by the behavior of DD2 and DS2.). But it's amazing for her to realize and verbalize how damaging and terrible her behavior was. Im really proud of her. She's amazed I stuck with her. She WAS pretty bad.
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Post by tcu2003 on Jun 19, 2020 12:02:31 GMT -5
Nothing like realizing this morning that I never put dinner leftovers away from yesterday - whoops. At least today is trash day so it was easy to and get out of the house.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 19, 2020 12:59:32 GMT -5
I just shoved the entire pan into the fridge last night. I wasn't up to dealing with putting it into a container.
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Post by alabamagal on Jun 20, 2020 14:28:49 GMT -5
My DD2 who is 21, just informed me that she has realized this past year how terrible she was to my DH and I when she was younger! DH was NOT at his best during those years (for those that remember, I was making plans for leaving with the kids due to his behavior brought on in part, by the behavior of DD2 and DS2.). But it's amazing for her to realize and verbalize how damaging and terrible her behavior was. Im really proud of her. She's amazed I stuck with her. She WAS pretty bad. My DD said same thing, but when she was 25 or 26. All my kids were generally good kids, and are nice, responsible young adults. But there were still plenty of “teenage moments” to deal with.
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Post by stillmovingforward on Jun 20, 2020 15:29:55 GMT -5
My younger 2 were not. We had the cops at our house, I had my skull cracked, 1 ended up in jail for a few days, threats, critical medicine hidden, etc. Once they turned 18 and they graduated, it simmered down as they understood I would kicked them out but they were still very unpleasant. This was an excellent realization she made. She's also been very well behaved this summer (home from college). We're both happy. I'm happy she's grown up so much, she's happy I never kicked her out or gave up on her (remember, I adopted them at 8 years old from foster care, I was thier foster mother. Foster care was going to split her and her brother as no one was willing to adopt them both. They were a handful!).
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Post by tcu2003 on Jun 21, 2020 12:47:06 GMT -5
Happy Father’s Day to Carl and any other dads who may lurk on here. Hope you have a wonderful day!
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