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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2019 13:17:55 GMT -5
Thank you swamp, that's very helpful and gives me a lot to think about.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 10, 2019 16:16:03 GMT -5
Tired. Keep having bad dreams. First one I was attacked after fir some reason deciding to change my clothes in the middle of East Broadway.
Last night a crazy lady broke into our house and I had to chase her down.
I would like my brain to please stop with the metaphors. I get it I'm feeling vulnerable in all areas of my life and feel like I can't trust people to do right by me.
I should so become a dream analyzer.😝
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 10, 2019 19:18:39 GMT -5
Tired. Keep having bad dreams. First one I was attacked after fir some reason deciding to change my clothes in the middle of East Broadway. Last night a crazy lady broke into our house and I had to chase her down. I would like my brain to please stop with the metaphors. I get it I'm feeling vulnerable in all areas of my life and feel like I can't trust people to do right by me. I should so become a dream analyzer.😝 --- just for the record: this is a friendly suportive virtual hug. I am NOT the crazy lady that broke into your house in your dreams.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 10, 2019 19:26:17 GMT -5
Tired. Keep having bad dreams. First one I was attacked after fir some reason deciding to change my clothes in the middle of East Broadway. Last night a crazy lady broke into our house and I had to chase her down. I would like my brain to please stop with the metaphors. I get it I'm feeling vulnerable in all areas of my life and feel like I can't trust people to do right by me. I should so become a dream analyzer.😝 --- just for the record: this is a friendly suport virtual hug. I am NOT the crazy lady that broke into your house in your dreams. She looked like a crazy lady who applied at my great uncle's restaurant while I was in college. If that was you 😮 My brain retains that but forgets what year DH was born.😒
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 10, 2019 19:49:17 GMT -5
Drama, is there anything that's guaranteed to put you to sleep? Melatonin? Booze? Musicals? Trashy romances? Dvds on how to bowl? Golf? Can you try one of those?
ETA I didn't mean to use my monthly allotment of question marks in one post...
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 10, 2019 19:55:18 GMT -5
Nope. The closest I ever came to working in a restaurant was in an icecream parlor and that was... Holy Sh*t... about 14 years before you were even born. Note that appearances (and math) to the contrary I am only 39 yo
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 10, 2019 21:58:36 GMT -5
I took a week off work. Tried to keep up here on my phone, but also tried to really unplug. It was a nice week. Mutt and Drama--big hugs. Dh and I had a good week. We had a real date night, scheduled a babysitter, good dinner walked to dessert. Still home by 8pm because we are apparently horribly old but it was fun. We started on this list: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/open-gently/201310/36-questions-bring-you-closer-togetherand got about half way through. I'll edit out the rest of the family history questions on our next date night as those got pretty old for dh. It brought out a different perspective though for talking about some of the same old stuff we always talk about though.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 10, 2019 22:08:01 GMT -5
Drama, is there anything that's guaranteed to put you to sleep? Melatonin? Booze? Musicals? Trashy romances? Dvds on how to bowl? Golf? Can you try one of those? ETA I didn't mean to use my monthly allotment of question marks in one post... aww, I miss Loony's campaign to conserve the commas!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 10, 2019 22:09:49 GMT -5
Drama, is there anything that's guaranteed to put you to sleep? Melatonin? Booze? Musicals? Trashy romances? Dvds on how to bowl? Golf? Can you try one of those? ETA I didn't mean to use my monthly allotment of question marks in one post... I sleep I just sleep hard and have gone back to having bizzaro dreams. I can have dreams that become their own miniseries. I got a whole Supernatural theme that goes back to when DH and I started dating. I need a day to recharge. Turns out I had a personal day granted in December. Since I can't take time off I never checked and neither did my boss. She got a call from HR saying I need to burn it and it has to be before the end of the month. So I'll be off on the 25th. It'll be nice to have a three day weekend without holiday stuff along for the ride.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2019 22:28:00 GMT -5
Drama, is there anything that's guaranteed to put you to sleep? Melatonin? Booze? Musicals? Trashy romances? Dvds on how to bowl? Golf? Can you try one of those? ETA I didn't mean to use my monthly allotment of question marks in one post... I sleep I just sleep hard and have gone back to having bizzaro dreams. I can have dreams that become their own miniseries. I got a whole Supernatural theme that goes back to when DH and I started dating. I need a day to recharge. Turns out I had a personal day granted in December. Since I can't take time off I never checked and neither did my boss. She got a call from HR saying I need to burn it and it has to be before the end of the month. So I'll be off on the 25th. It'll be nice to have a three day weekend without holiday stuff along for the ride. I hate my dreams. Wherever I am is a mess and I have to pack or clean or whatever. They aren't difficult to interpret. I get annoyed because I "work" all night trying to clean up whatever mess. It is a fully physically exhzuztinb!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 11, 2019 7:59:21 GMT -5
Drama, is there anything that's guaranteed to put you to sleep? Melatonin? Booze? Musicals? Trashy romances? Dvds on how to bowl? Golf? Can you try one of those? ETA I didn't mean to use my monthly allotment of question marks in one post... I sleep I just sleep hard and have gone back to having bizzaro dreams. I can have dreams that become their own miniseries. I got a whole Supernatural theme that goes back to when DH and I started dating. I need a day to recharge. Turns out I had a personal day granted in December. Since I can't take time off I never checked and neither did my boss. She got a call from HR saying I need to burn it and it has to be before the end of the month. So I'll be off on the 25th. It'll be nice to have a three day weekend without holiday stuff along for the ride. Then stay away from the melatonin. A side effect is vivid dreams.
I'm so glad you get a day off. It's a you day, right? No kids, no H. Just you doing whatever makes you feel better.
I booked the kids into the evening hours ninja kid camp on 1/25/19. It's 530-830 so we too will be done with date night early.
And in much happier news, Jayme Closs, the missing girl from Barron, WI, was found yesterday. Alive. She's been missing since Oct. when her parents were murdered. I"m assuming she's gone through hell but the suspect was arrested. I hope they toss the book at him.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 11, 2019 10:32:44 GMT -5
And in much happier news, Jayme Closs, the missing girl from Barron, WI, was found yesterday. Alive. She's been missing since Oct. when her parents were murdered. I"m assuming she's gone through hell but the suspect was arrested. I hope they toss the book at him.
The best news I've heard in a long time. While she is found, I'm sure she has a lot of trauma to deal with. I'm with you on the suspect.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 11, 2019 13:12:22 GMT -5
He's booked on 2 rounds of homicide and kidnapping at this point. He's 21.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jan 11, 2019 13:58:16 GMT -5
21... WTF happened in his life to turn him into that sort of person.
I heard the news this morning and my first thought was that's wonderful. My second thought was that after the rejoicing I really hope someone focuses on that girl's mental health. She is going to need so much assistance to fully recover from this trauma and go on to lead a happy life.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 11, 2019 14:04:27 GMT -5
I know. I hope she gets it. I'm not sure what resources are easily available to her in NW Wisconsin.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jan 11, 2019 14:07:47 GMT -5
Drama, is there anything that's guaranteed to put you to sleep? Melatonin? Booze? Musicals? Trashy romances? Dvds on how to bowl? Golf? Can you try one of those? ETA I didn't mean to use my monthly allotment of question marks in one post... aww, I miss Loony's campaign to conserve the commas! I thought it was save the dots? Or was that Deb?
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 11, 2019 14:09:15 GMT -5
aww, I miss Loony's campaign to conserve the commas! I thought it was save the dots? Or was that Deb? I thought that was Deb, at least towards the end anyway, along with weird font colors and sizes.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2019 15:04:02 GMT -5
Why do I not remember Deb?
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 11, 2019 15:06:07 GMT -5
Why do I not remember Deb? I'm not sure she posted on WIR. And I think it came to a head when you were in crisis mode with X2.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 11, 2019 15:45:03 GMT -5
aww, I miss Loony's campaign to conserve the commas! I thought it was save the dots? Or was that Deb? and that induced me to use ellipses all the time (I am just a little contrarian)...
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Post by geenamercile on Jan 11, 2019 16:01:28 GMT -5
Wondering how the toilets in my house get clog so much, and why no one plunges them. Really what I wanted to do this morning getting ready for work.
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Post by debthaven on Jan 11, 2019 17:11:01 GMT -5
Question, Ladies ... how child-proof is your parents' (ie the grandparents') home? I find it hilarious that DH and I are planning to REpurchase child safety locks. Not for everywhere, but certainly for the cabinet under the sink where we keep our cleaning products. I know we can move them elsewhere, but DS1/DDIL/Baby! live abroad and only spend a few weeks a year here. Baby! emptied pasta/cocoa/plenty of other things but we finally figured out a way to tie up the pantry cabinets. We CANNOT tie up the cleaning products cabinet. Also, at 18 months Baby! is never alone but I know he could be alone in future as he gets older. Over Christmas DS1 (Baby!'s dad) asked us to put the stair guards back on. We declined (not sure we even have them anymore, but even if we do, it's nyet).
Baby! is 18 months now, but Gd willing there will be other grandchildren in the future.
Just curious to know what other grandparents do.
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Post by Works4me on Jan 11, 2019 17:22:56 GMT -5
It depends on how important it is to you to have them visit. My thinking is that the easier it is for the parents, the more they will want to visit. I'd consider baby proofing for the times they are there - stair guards, cabinet latches, no breakables within reach, etc. This would mean that the parents aren't having to hover and follow their toddler 24/7 thus making their time with you more pleasant and relaxing. YMMV
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Post by debthaven on Jan 11, 2019 17:28:27 GMT -5
It is EXTREMELY important to us for them to visit. No breakables within reach, cabinet latches, absolutely no problem. We have a new kitchen and did not think to keep the latches that were in the old one when we replaced it 2.5 years ago (so before DDIL got pregnant). I did not think of getting new ones before they came for Christmas. My bad. I have promised to get some before their next trip here, and I definitely will.
Stairs guards, frankly not so sure. I prefer to spend time teaching Baby! how to go up and down stairs safely (and I have more time/patience for that than his parents).
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Post by cktc on Jan 11, 2019 17:39:26 GMT -5
No babyproofing for our parents, but we don't spend a lot of time at any of their places, a few hours at most. They are also older, live 2 hours away, and don't babysit.
I know a lot of grandparents who are more involved, babysitting, doing overnights, etc... and they fully babyproof, or at least gates and cabinet locks, not sure if furniture is mounted.
As a parent it's exhausting visiting non-baby proofed homes so I avoid it as much as possible. I pretty much can't set the baby down. DS is almost 3 and follows directions well enough now and he won't be putting everything in his mouth, but at least up until it was tough with him too. If you can I'd at least baby proof 1 room.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jan 11, 2019 17:40:55 GMT -5
My parents had the kids quite a bit when they were little, but they rarely babyproofed. It didn't bother me because they watched the kids more closely than we do when they are at home (or did...at 6 and 9, no more baby proofing). Now they only have a sunken living room. I would guess that if they had stairs, we would definitely want gates at the top and bottom, but baby locks on cabinets and door knobs...we didn't require that. No reason to. My mom always had my Grandma with when the kids were small and my dad was often around. Even though my Grandma couldn't pick up the kids, just keeping them entertained was enough to keep them out of trouble most of time.
So long story short in my opinoin yes gates on the stairs, no to any other babyproofing.
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Post by cktc on Jan 11, 2019 17:48:15 GMT -5
It is EXTREMELY important to us for them to visit. No breakables within reach, cabinet latches, absolutely no problem. We have a new kitchen and did not think to keep the latches that were in the old one when we replaced it 2.5 years ago (so before DDIL got pregnant). I did not think of getting new ones before they came for Christmas. My bad. I have promised to get some before their next trip here. Stairs guards, frankly not so sure. I prefer to spend time teaching Baby! how to go up and down stairs safely (and I have more time for that than his parents). I'd be ok with the stair thing if the main living areas are on the ground floor. It's easy enough to keep them from going up. You can even improvise and block the stairs with a pack n play. It's only the falling down that worries me and if bedroom doors shut that wouldn't be an issue.
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Post by debthaven on Jan 11, 2019 17:54:02 GMT -5
I'd be ok with the stair thing if the main living areas are on the ground floor. They absolutely are. The only things upstairs are Baby's Aunt's and Uncle's bedrooms and our bedroom. Also I can tie ropes around the banisters to prevent small people from going up. Didn't do it this trip because I knew stairs were an issue and I had the time/patience to try to teach Baby! how to negotiate stairs safely. Will definitely look into stair guards for the future since that seems important to several of you. ETA: We do not keep Baby! overnight without his parents because they live in Boston, and we live in a suburb of Paris. So when they visit, they all visit together. We do babysit Baby! for hours at a time either during the day or at night but we never have him overnight or for days since they all live in the US.
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Jan 11, 2019 18:15:06 GMT -5
I had the ultrasound on my breast today. It was only a cyst. I am so relieved. I am hoping for a much more calm year this year.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 11, 2019 18:19:33 GMT -5
I don't think I can handle the idea of ropes to keep a kid from falling through a banister...sorry Debt. That would be a hard pass for me. And a gate at the top of the stairs is a must. No matter how much you teach a baby, there are going to be accidents and some accidents you can't recover from. If baby sleeps upstairs, wandering downstairs before adults wake up could be one of them.
Stairs are really the only baby proofing either of our parents did. No one kept our kids overnight or more than 4-8 hours at a time without us. My in laws scare the heck out of me now watching them with my nephew. Apparently we can just open a hot oven without any care about where the wild toddler is. Seriously almost killed me. We never even latched our own cabinets but all cleaning supplies and sharps are kept out of reach.
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