The kid thread: Planning, pregnancy & parenting

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Aug 6, 2018 14:57:08 GMT -5 WholeLottaNothin said:

I go back and forth between wanting to cry and wanting to punch things. They saw something on a CT scan. I had another seizure on Friday night while I was making dinner. I fell backwards and hit my head on the counter behind me. That was what prompted the CT scan. The person who reads the CT scans thought they saw something. No place around here does MRI's on the weekend, so I went home. Now I have to wait for insurance approval before they will schedule me one. I've been basically useless at work and home.

Oh my! So scary and frustrating. I'm so sorry. I hope you get answers soon. 

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Aug 6, 2018 10:06:48 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Thing 1 turns 21 in February. Over the weekend I asked her if she wanted me to take her to the bar. She said no and that I'm annoying when I'm drunk. I happen to think I'm fun. Oh well.

Mine turns 21 in January. She thinks I should take her out. I don't want to. I want her to stay 20 forever. Actually 12. I want them to be eight and twelve forever. 

[muttleynfelix]

Aug 6, 2018 14:57:08 GMT -5 WholeLottaNothin said:

I go back and forth between wanting to cry and wanting to punch things. They saw something on a CT scan. I had another seizure on Friday night while I was making dinner. I fell backwards and hit my head on the counter behind me. That was what prompted the CT scan. The person who reads the CT scans thought they saw something. No place around here does MRI's on the weekend, so I went home. Now I have to wait for insurance approval before they will schedule me one. I've been basically useless at work and home.

Hugs...praying for you.

[andi9899]

Aug 6, 2018 16:17:44 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Aug 6, 2018 10:06:48 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Thing 1 turns 21 in February. Over the weekend I asked her if she wanted me to take her to the bar. She said no and that I'm annoying when I'm drunk. I happen to think I'm fun. Oh well.

Mine turns 21 in January. She thinks I should take her out. I don't want to. I want her to stay 20 forever. Actually 12. I want them to be eight and twelve forever. 

Not I. I just got the last one out of my house. I'm ready to do things just for me!

[Works4me]

Waiting on insurance is the absolute worst! Sending positive thoughts and prayers!

[steph08]

Sending lots of good thoughts, nuttin!!

[chapeau]

Sending thoughts and prayers, nuttin’ Hoping the insurance company gets approvals taken care of in record time.

[Pants]

Nuttin - I am so, so sorry this is happening. Please be as kind to yourself as you can while you wait for your fickuing insurance to get their fucking acts together.

[ners]

Hope the insurance company approves quickly and you can get scheduled.  Hugs nuttin

[alabamagal]

Hugs nuttin. I know it is scary.

I know of several people who have gone through similar problems with good outcomes.

[gs11rmb]

WholeLottaNothin I am so sorry this is happening to you.  Back in February I had a 'suspicious' mammogram.  My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer at 45 and died at 48.  I'm 44, so...

It turned out to be a benign cyst but those few weeks of waiting for insurance and scheduling the sonogram, biopsy, etc. were just awful.   I told no-one apart from my husband and I didn't even post about it here for fear that that made if somehow real.  I got through it by mentally talking myself 'off the cliff' and saying (often out loud) that everything was going to be fine.  If the news was bad, then medical treatment has advanced significantly and long-term it will be fine.

I know this is a different suspicion but just keep telling yourself that everything will be fine, take deep breaths and keep moving forward.

Best wishes, thoughts and prayers.

[chiver78]

Aug 6, 2018 14:35:22 GMT -5 WholeLottaNothin said:

Long story short, I may have a brain tumor. Seriously? Seriously? FML. And my insurance is taking for-ever to approve more tests.

how scary and frustrating at the same time    

sending hugs and love. 

[raeoflyte]

Oh @wholelottanothin, I'm so sorry this is happening.  I really wish there were better words.  

Document every conversation you have with the insurance company (and if someone can help you make those calls that's great too, but make sure they are also documenting everything and keeping you in the loop in real time).  I email myself and dh with every insurance call so I can refer back to them when needed. 

Of course I hope you don't end up needing to do much on that front.  Hopefully your doctor is already pushing on that and it sails through and has good news.    

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Aug 6, 2018 16:17:44 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Aug 6, 2018 10:06:48 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Thing 1 turns 21 in February. Over the weekend I asked her if she wanted me to take her to the bar. She said no and that I'm annoying when I'm drunk. I happen to think I'm fun. Oh well.

Mine turns 21 in January. She thinks I should take her out. I don't want to. I want her to stay 20 forever. Actually 12. I want them to be eight and twelve forever. 

I'm taking DS to take his drivers test on Thursday and it kind of hit me that this is the beginning of the end.   I was seriously thinking screw it, he can wait until 17 and I'll cart him around another year...I was using the insurance cost as an excuse, but really it's because I'm not ready for him to be on his own.

We're still going, but I'm not quite as happy about it as I thought I'd be.  I'm also not discouraging going to one of the local colleges so much like I was before either. 

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Aug 6, 2018 15:50:29 GMT -5 mmhmm said:

Aug 6, 2018 14:57:08 GMT -5 WholeLottaNothin said:

I go back and forth between wanting to cry and wanting to punch things. They saw something on a CT scan. I had another seizure on Friday night while I was making dinner. I fell backwards and hit my head on the counter behind me. That was what prompted the CT scan. The person who reads the CT scans thought they saw something. No place around here does MRI's on the weekend, so I went home. Now I have to wait for insurance approval before they will schedule me one. I've been basically useless at work and home.

Oh, dear, love! I can only imagine what you're going through. Waiting while something like this looms is pure torture so, of course, you're beside yourself - and you have every right to be. Here's hoping approval will be given quickly so you can have your fears relieved. In the meantime, we're here for you and you'll certainly be in my thoughts.

Really sorry you're dealing with this WholeLottaNothin .  Not knowing what's going on is the worst.  Go ahead and cry and punch things.  I would. 

[cael]

WholeLottaNothin I'm so sorry, that's scary! I hope your insurance gets their shit together and you can be seen soon and get some answers

[NastyWoman]

WholeLottaNothin

[NastyWoman]

Aug 7, 2018 17:16:15 GMT -5 @bamafan1954 said:

wyouser , I am so sorry.  I hope you get some answers soon.

What did I miss? I don't see anything that wyouser posted that was sad.  Did it get deleted or is this just a typo? 

[alabamagal]

My 6 year old niece is apparently a grocery shopping shamer. I took her to grocery store and at checkout she looked at the lady behind me and said “look at all those lunchables. She must have a thousand kids.” Lunchables are not bought in their house. The lady behind me had 6, so she went on to explain that they were buy 3 get 3 free.

[MJ2.0]

Nuttin  I really hope you get answers soon

[MJ2.0]

I'm winning mom of the year tonight. Why? Because the camp I was so eager to get DS into turns out to be a complete shit show. He's  being outright bullied by one boy (has hit DS multiple times and apparently told DS he hates him -he'd only been there 3 days at that point so not sure how that's possible). He is apparently  also being picked on by other kids. He lost his lunch box 2 days into camp and today he was missing his swim top/rash guard. Apparently other kids are taking his stuff and running away or hiding it or who knows what. And what breaks my heart is that DS let the kids see his stuff because he said he has that be nice so he can make friends. Obviously we are in talks  with  the  camp, but I can't  see this improving. X told me DS keeps asking if he has to go back. So now we have to scramble to  find alternative care for the  rest of the  summer, and that's $1500 wasted. DS really likes the activities too, but this place is  clearly not working  out.

[Deleted]

Aug 7, 2018 17:37:27 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Aug 7, 2018 17:16:15 GMT -5 @bamafan1954 said:

wyouser , I am so sorry.  I hope you get some answers soon.

What did I miss? I don't see anything that wyouser posted that was sad.  Did it get deleted or is this just a typo? 

I tagged the wrong person.  Sorry, WholeLottaNothin.

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Aug 7, 2018 18:48:47 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I'm winning mom of the year tonight. Why? Because the camp I was so eager to get DS into turns out to be a complete shit show. He's  being outright bullied by one boy (has hit DS multiple times and apparently told DS he hates him -he'd only been there 3 days at that point so not sure how that's possible). He is apparently  also being picked on by other kids. He lost his lunch box 2 days into camp and today he was missing his swim top/rash guard. Apparently other kids are taking his stuff and running away or hiding it or who knows what. And what breaks my heart is that DS let the kids see his stuff because he said he has that be nice so he can make friends. Obviously we are in talks  with  the  camp, but I can't  see this improving. X told me DS keeps asking if he has to go back. So now we have to scramble to  find alternative care for the  rest of the  summer, and that's $1500 wasted. DS really likes the activities too, but this place is  clearly not working  out.

I think I would be holding the camp responsible for some of this.  Demand a partial refund, or insist that bullying will not be tolerated and you will call them out on social media for the way they have allowed your son to be treated.

You can still win "Mom of the Year" if you get pissed off enough.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Aug 7, 2018 18:48:47 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I'm winning mom of the year tonight. Why? Because the camp I was so eager to get DS into turns out to be a complete shit show. He's  being outright bullied by one boy (has hit DS multiple times and apparently told DS he hates him -he'd only been there 3 days at that point so not sure how that's possible). He is apparently  also being picked on by other kids. He lost his lunch box 2 days into camp and today he was missing his swim top/rash guard. Apparently other kids are taking his stuff and running away or hiding it or who knows what. And what breaks my heart is that DS let the kids see his stuff because he said he has that be nice so he can make friends. Obviously we are in talks  with  the  camp, but I can't  see this improving. X told me DS keeps asking if he has to go back. So now we have to scramble to  find alternative care for the  rest of the  summer, and that's $1500 wasted. DS really likes the activities too, but this place is  clearly not working  out.

Id be meeting with the camp directors and demanding a full refund plus replacing my kids stuff.

[MJ2.0]

X and I are going there tomorrow to raise hell. DS will stay with X's mom tomorrow. I've asked my mom about her Thursdays and Fridays for the month and she'll  get back to me tomorrow morning. I also reached out to his old camp to see if they have openings through the end of the month. It's a bit too young for him, but the director knows and loves him and he likes helping the little kids. We'll  figure something  out. And yes, you better believe  I'm demanding money back. I might cancel my membership.

[CCL]

Aug 7, 2018 19:17:22 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Aug 7, 2018 18:48:47 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I'm winning mom of the year tonight. Why? Because the camp I was so eager to get DS into turns out to be a complete shit show. He's  being outright bullied by one boy (has hit DS multiple times and apparently told DS he hates him -he'd only been there 3 days at that point so not sure how that's possible). He is apparently  also being picked on by other kids. He lost his lunch box 2 days into camp and today he was missing his swim top/rash guard. Apparently other kids are taking his stuff and running away or hiding it or who knows what. And what breaks my heart is that DS let the kids see his stuff because he said he has that be nice so he can make friends. Obviously we are in talks  with  the  camp, but I can't  see this improving. X told me DS keeps asking if he has to go back. So now we have to scramble to  find alternative care for the  rest of the  summer, and that's $1500 wasted. DS really likes the activities too, but this place is  clearly not working  out.

Id be meeting with the camp directors and demanding a full refund plus replacing my kids stuff.

Exactly!

[geenamercile]

MJ- Good luck, and hopefully with some direct involvement with the people running the camp this can stop.  However, when it comes to camps and daycare the staff, at least here, doesn't always have the training to help the kids work through these issues.  I am going avoid stepping on my soap box about the quantifications needed for day care and camp leaders.  Hopefully, you can get a full refund and get into a better place.

Wholelottaofnothing- Good luck, and keeping my fingers crossed for you.


I am seriously about to run away and become single.  I am not sure there isn't a person in this house that I am not ready to tell to fend for themselves and deal with life.  

[NastyWoman]

MJ2.0 did you go to the camp already? How did that go? I hope you kicked some serious *ss

[bean29]

Yeah Jenna, your Son is only about 7 right? The kids really should be under pretty constant supervision. Who isn’t doing their job?

[bean29]

Aug 8, 2018 10:26:48 GMT -5 geenamercile said:

MJ- Good luck, and hopefully with some direct involvement with the people running the camp this can stop.  However, when it comes to camps and daycare the staff, at least here, doesn't always have the training to help the kids work through these issues.  I am going avoid stepping on my soap box about the quantifications needed for day care and camp leaders.  Hopefully, you can get a full refund and get into a better place.

Wholelottaofnothing- Good luck, and keeping my fingers crossed for you.


I am seriously about to run away and become single.  I am not sure there isn't a person in this house that I am not ready to tell to fend for themselves and deal with life.  

I don’t know what kind of job your DH has, but I came to the realization that DH was running a decent sized Ins. Agency with 3 employees, and he is very good at his job. His money instincts left me wondering if he was a lurker on our boards. I finally decided to stop micromanaging his decisions that affected out joint finances. I started giving my opinions, stating my desires, but leaving ultimate decision up to him. Now, he seems to seek out my opinion and include me in decision making process instead of going around me and presenting me with a done deal.