spartan7886
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Post by spartan7886 on May 11, 2011 14:08:28 GMT -5
We registered at Macy's and BB&B. Since we got married in my hometown halfway across the country from where we were living, we actually wound up returning one bulky item on the registry there and buying it again when we got home so everything would fit in the car. One quirk of BB&B's registry policy we discovered was that every item we returned (most were duplicates where someone forgot to get it checked off the registry) was refunded at full price. I know for a fact the big item was purchased with a coupon. My mother never goes to BB&B without one. That inadvertently saved us $40, since we naturally used a coupon when we purchased it at home. I wouldn't recommend this as a money-making endeauvor, but it's another testament to their great registry policy.
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Post by sil on May 11, 2011 14:24:39 GMT -5
I would highly, highly suggest you get really nice daily dinnerware, unless you already have some.
********************************************************************************** We registered for 3 sets (12 settings total) So glad I did because Ive already broken a couple of pieces ( I am really clutzy/hard on dishes) and because 7 years later, its already hard to find matching pieces.
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Post by Colleenz on May 11, 2011 14:37:29 GMT -5
I did not register for it, but we recieved Calphalon cookware. Ten years later I still love this stuff!
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Post by Tiny on May 11, 2011 14:39:19 GMT -5
Where the Bride is registered doesn't go on the Wedding Invite! It goes on the Shower Invite! I've never been to a Wedding that wasn't preceded by a Shower. Is there some tradition that avoids the whole Wedding Shower extravaganza? OK, it's doesn't have to be an extravaganza.
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Post by clt4528 on May 11, 2011 14:58:39 GMT -5
DH and I had a blast registering (10 years ago now). Target and JCPenny's for us. Target was great for camping stuff, lawn games, etc as well as lots of practical items that were priced great. My favorite was at JCP where we picked what we felt was the tackiest Cookie Jar we could find that made us both laugh (Giant sized tropical fish). It is all well and good to have a few high priced items (we did) just be sure to balance things. I recently went shopping for a couple who had mostly high priced items (5 knives where each sold individually - the give together cost over $900 ![:o](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/shocked.png) ) when I live in basic middle class Ohio. She had page after page of expensive impractical items (young bride, never really lived on her own) so it made it hard to pick items because their few regular priced items we quickly snagged up (I was shopping 1 month before the wedding and they were already gone).
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Post by Firebird on May 11, 2011 15:11:05 GMT -5
Do I have to have a wedding shower? I'm not opposed to the idea, exactly, but at this particular moment the idea of planning yet another party makes my head want to explode.
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Post by thyme4change on May 11, 2011 15:12:25 GMT -5
The bride does not plan the wedding shower - someone else throws that one for you. I have known brides that do not have showers. No big deal.
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Post by clt4528 on May 11, 2011 15:26:25 GMT -5
Generally your bridesmaid, close friend, or relative take care of the bridal shower for you. I understand by etiquette rules it is not supposed to be a relative, but it often is anyways. Nothing says you have to have one, but they can be a fun time to get together with the women in your life. They don't all have to be stuffy and boring. My cousin had a bridal shower where there was a comedian hire to do a show and we all enjoyed a martini bar and food.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on May 11, 2011 15:33:14 GMT -5
I agree with some of the others, please, please register for some everyday china. I have some that I've gotten as gifts years later since the pattern was still available - it's Dansk which never goes out of style and it's very classic, plain white. I pair it with other pieces I've picked up at garage sales, thrift stores, etc. and it always looks wonderful. Lots of chefs and restauranteurs say you should always use white dinnerware as food looks better on it.
I don't know about that, but I do love the look of my plain white dishes.
If you know you like a certain type of pots and pans, you may want to register them too since they sometimes wear out or warp. I've got Le Crueset and I've had a few where the handles fell off or they had problems, so I've replaced a few over the years.
We've been to a few weddings in the past couple of years and it seems most of them have registered at BB&B or Target. I found it hard to shop from the registry at the stores, but on-line works fine.
Congratulations!
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 11, 2011 15:46:39 GMT -5
That made me laugh. My BIL, who I didn't know at that time, registered for 52" TV (it was about 8 yrs ago. The rest of the items were in $10-$50 range. One of these days I will ask him WHO exactly did he think was going to buy his this TV...
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Post by raeoflyte on May 11, 2011 16:10:07 GMT -5
I love the idea of registering at REI! ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/smiley.png)
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Post by kgb18 on May 11, 2011 18:58:56 GMT -5
Count me as another vote for the every day dishes. I don't know why, but there's something about eating from nice plates that just makes even a simple sandwich at lunch a little better. We got Correll because DH has a tendency to drop/break stuff. Correll is practically indestructible.
I also registered for some little kitchen things that weren't necessarily expensive, but I never wanted to spend money on them. I'm glad I did. I use some of them quite a bit, like the can strainer and a zester. We also got a sushi set (plates, chop sticks, place mats, a serving tray). And we use it a ton. We get take out from a local restaurant and set up our own little restaurant atmosphere at home.
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Post by happyscooter on May 12, 2011 6:32:30 GMT -5
I agree with the white dishes. You can use them at Christmas with red placemats instead of buying an extra set of dishes.
But if you choose to register for a set of china, as someone else on here said, be prepared to get a lot of smaller (cheaper) pieces. You will end up with 7 cups, 5 saucers, 1 plate, 2 salad bowls and 3 dessert plates. And you will have to purchase the other pieces. Or you will get the other pieces from your family for your next birthday, anniversary and Christmas gifts.
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Post by happyscooter on May 12, 2011 6:39:43 GMT -5
"It is all well and good to have a few high priced items (we did) just be sure to balance things. I recently went shopping for a couple who had mostly high priced items (5 knives where each sold individually - the give together cost over $900 ) when I live in basic middle class Ohio. She had page after page of expensive impractical items (young bride, never really lived on her own) so it made it hard to pick items because their few regular priced items we quickly snagged up (I was shopping 1 month before the wedding and they were already gone)."
I can tell you that when that happens to me, I pick up a set of white bath towels and white washcloths. At BB & B, they are about $30 a set. If the couple doesn't like them, they can exchange them, without a receipt. Anybody can use white towels, even if they stick them in their closet for 10 years and pull them out when the 'good stuff' gets ratty. The couples that really irk me are the ones who register for something that they would never pay the money for or have never used before. Had a relative register for a pillow for $50. Looked at the bed pillow, I wasn't going to buy it. What if no one else bought the other pillow? Anyway, another relative made the comment that the couple had NEVER slept on a $50 pillow in their life and why did they think they had to start now?
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Post by CarolinaKat on May 12, 2011 7:02:18 GMT -5
I agree with the white dishes. You can use them at Christmas with red placemats instead of buying an extra set of dishes. But if you choose to register for a set of china, as someone else on here said, be prepared to get a lot of smaller (cheaper) pieces. You will end up with 7 cups, 5 saucers, 1 plate, 2 salad bowls and 3 dessert plates. And you will have to purchase the other pieces. Or you will get the other pieces from your family for your next birthday, anniversary and Christmas gifts. My parents actually got so many plates (they picked a reasonable priced china set) they have enough to trade in for the more expensive pieces. My mother LOVES the teapot that they exchanged for, and the serving tray gets used every year. The extra gravy boat turned into a cream and sugar set etc...
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Post by ambellamy on May 12, 2011 16:11:51 GMT -5
We registerd at one store... B/B/B... were getting married on 7.9.11 this year and since i've lived in my condo for almost 2 years, we have a lot of what we need so we kept the wedding registry small... were hoping some people might give cash towards our honeymoon that way because they know we are delaying our honeymoon and going in September because we are paying for the wedding in cash.
We didn't enclose where we were registered with the invites, but mentioned it word of mouth and on the bridal shower invites (we have only 70 guests including the bridal party so all the women are invited to the shower, plus a few others so everyone will know where we are registered at.)
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Post by hoops902 on May 13, 2011 10:51:12 GMT -5
Go to BB&B. We did them and Target. We are very much in a similar situation, we've lived together for 3 years, have a house, and in general have everything we need. We decided we wanted towels, new sheets, some home decor stuff. Target had a lot of stuff that would have been great to register for had we needed to furnish a home (lamps, dishes, pots, pans, etc). We were kind of disappointed when we realized we only registered for a few things there. BB&B was great (particularly considering I didn't want to register there at first)...very simply for things like towels to register for X number and then just let people spend what they want to buying whatever quantity they wanted. On the downside, they were "very helpful" (or very hovering, depending on your view). We kind of just wanted to be left alone to look around. I imagine had I been 22 I would have enjoyed having the help though, so not exactly something I hold against them.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 13, 2011 10:57:34 GMT -5
Do I have to have a wedding shower?
Nope, there is no law that says you have to have one. If someone plans one for you though go along with it with a smile.
I would have been fine if I had not had one, but my MIL and SIL threw one for me. I had a nice time.
It was also helpful to me because DH's family is HUGE and having a lot of them in the same room and then having to write thank you notes for all of them really helped me to learn names.
The bride NEVER EVER plans her own shower, that is beyond tacky. Someone else throws it for you. The "books" say it has to be your bridal party but that doesn't really have to be the case.
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Post by Firebird on May 13, 2011 11:20:55 GMT -5
Nope, there is no law that says you have to have one. If someone plans one for you though go along with it with a smile.
Oh, I'll be perfectly happy to attend one if someone else plans it. I adore being the center of attention. I didn't realize the bride doesn't plan it, so it was the "OMG I have to plan another party?!" part that was bumming me out.
BB&B was great (particularly considering I didn't want to register there at first)...very simply for things like towels to register for X number and then just let people spend what they want to buying whatever quantity they wanted.
I'm really liking BB&B so far. It's difficult deciding what we truly need versus crap we won't use. We have some really nice pieces of furniture in our place (particularly our bed, a family heirloom, and our couch) so if I'm going to register for anything, I want it to be high quality. I'm having trouble finding low-priced items that I actually want in our place.
Champagne tastes on a beer budget, I know...
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Post by 973beachbum on May 13, 2011 11:21:01 GMT -5
I am at the point that the weddings we are attending are mostly niece's and nephews. A few are second marriages. But my best advice is to put some nice things on the list. I would do Macy's and JCPenny's. Both have a full range of $ amounts of things and a wide range of items. If I have to get dressed up to go to your wedding then I don't feel like I should have to wade through a list of brooms, garbage cans and toilet bowl brushes to find a wedding gift. ![](http://us.social.s-msn.com/s/images/emoticons/what_smile.gif) JMO ![;)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png) There used to be types of bridal showers. I don't know if they do that anymore. One type I remember was called a "Wishing Well" Shower. It meant that there would be a cardboard wising well there for small household items that you wouldn't really want to wrap, like a wooden juicer or a pasta fork etc. Everyone invited would buy a nice present like towels or glass set or whatever and wrap it. They would also each bring a couple of utensils or other gadget type things unwrapped and put them in the wishing well. Normally this was done for young couple who had never lived on their own.
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Post by Firebird on May 13, 2011 15:04:52 GMT -5
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Post by thyme4change on May 13, 2011 15:07:05 GMT -5
LOL - mine was 8 bucks.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 13, 2011 15:07:33 GMT -5
But Firebird you are a bride, you DESERVE a $90 paper towel holder! ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/tongue.png) At least that is what they try to tell you and the said thing is it seems like the majority fall for it.
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Post by Firebird on May 13, 2011 15:08:47 GMT -5
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Post by Firebird on May 13, 2011 15:09:21 GMT -5
But Firebird you are a bride, you DESERVE a $90 paper towel holder! ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/tongue.png) I told DF I deserved a wedding in the Westminster Abbey like the new princess, but he didn't go for it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 13, 2011 15:11:24 GMT -5
The "I deserve it" line doesn't fly with your fiance either? ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/tongue.png) If I had bought/rented everything that the wedding industry told me I had DESERVED, we'd probably still be paying off the bills! ![:o](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/shocked.png)
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Post by Firebird on May 13, 2011 15:15:08 GMT -5
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 13, 2011 15:28:03 GMT -5
Most stores offer you 10-20% off anything left on your registry after your wedding, so there's your justification. ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/tongue.png)
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Post by reader79 on May 13, 2011 15:29:36 GMT -5
Try to find Carl's old one.....
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Post by Firebird on May 13, 2011 15:35:10 GMT -5
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