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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2023 17:00:12 GMT -5
What is he spending all this money on and how? Is he internet shopping? He doesn't strike me as very tech savvy. He doesn't drive the car to go to a store I think. Fast food when he can get away from Mister. The vending machines at the hospital. ATM withdrawals that Mister doesn’t know where the money went. Mister set up a budget for him before he even came here, to try to get the bills caught up. Mister pays for his medicine. He lost his glasses a couple weeks ago. Mister bought him so more glasses. If his Dad thinks he has money to spend instead of paying his bills, he can buy his own medicine and glasses. If Mister stays DONE like he was yesterday, they are going to lose everything. And he’s been telling his Dad since he first found out that the mortgage payments were behind, that they are NOT coming over here if he fucks around and loses their house. He does really stupid stuff. Over the summer, on my day off work, Mister called me from work and asked me to go get his Dad from Xfinity. Brother had wrecked Mom’s car some months before and I guess they didn’t have insurance because it never got fixed or replaced. Well, I’m sure it was totaled, but it never got replaced. Then the parents had a wreck in Dad’s car and it had serious damage, and I thought he must’ve drove it anyway and it quit on him near Xfinity. Noooooo, when I picked him up, he said he’d taken an Uber to Xfinity, because he’d bought the latest IPhone from them the week before and had already broke the screen. He was going to just BUY THE SAME PHONE AGAIN! Fortunately, the lady at Xfinity was a good soul imo and said “sir, I can’t let you do that, take your phone to the Apple Store and get it fixed.” So that’s where he wanted me to take him, to the Apple store, and I did. That’s not what Mister told me, that’s what his Dad told me out of his own mouth, that he was going just buy another phone that cost over $1k, to replace the one he’d had less than a week and broke.All the things that are wrong in that last paragraph pretty much sums up how he makes horrible financial decisions. Sorry if I'm being too blunt but dad's financial behaviors indicate far more than just a sloppy attitude towards $$. It indicates one of the most profound senses of entitlement to other people's money I've ever encountered. And it will continue exactly as long as it takes for other people to stop playing personal banker for him and his wife. On the cars, I suspect they aren't able to get insurance what with two cars seriously damaged/totalled AND bad credit. I wonder if they caused damage or injuries to someone else in the wrecks and that's out there too. Didn't mom have to have some sort of PT for an auto accident and owe the rehab place $$ ?
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 10, 2023 17:09:20 GMT -5
I see in my informed delivery that a check is supposed to be arriving for NIL today. They better deliver it. Post office just opened and I am going to make a pre-emptive call. Made the pre-emptive call. Postmaster assured me it was with my mail to be delivered. It was delivered today and I have deposited. The company took the return to sender mail and put it in another envelope. I hope the Postmaster and my carrier know now that a "Russian" does get mail in this town. She is not Russian and that is racist and doesn't matter. The job of the USPS is to deliver the mail as addressed. They didn't do that.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 10, 2023 17:12:09 GMT -5
Make sure you are writing this down somewhere in case Mister's parents end up needing to move somewhere with more assistance or into a senior apartment. If Mister has access to their bank statements it wouldn't be a bad idea for him to start printing them off and filing them away. It may not be the same every where but I know here the senior apartments have really strict rules about who they will allow and not allow to move into their complexes. It isn't just in regards to health either. I probably could get top government security clearance easier than approval for a senior apartment. On the one hand I get having strict requirements from a liability stand point and they aren't running a charity. On the other I imagine that a good chunk of people exploring that option aren't people who are like YMers they are more like Mister's parents. Mister being able to tell the intake people the full story vs whatever comes out of his parents' mouth will help them better understand if they can serve his parents needs when/if the time comes and it sounds like it's going to be coming pretty fast. I would definitely consult an elder care lawyer. As he will find out like both Gira, myself and my dad did there isn't shit he can do to prevent the impending implosion but they CAN walk him through what the fall out plan is and work with him in regards to anything he's personally entangled with that could come back to haunt him. They can also help point him towards some resources for his parents that may be able to help them with things like their house. Still can't make them drink but at least mister will have peace that he attempted to lead them to water. It's all you can do otherwise you'll end up in a hospital bed right next to them due to stress. I'd also suggest Mister sit with himself and have an honest discussion with himself (and you and maybe his brother too) about what he is and isn't willing to do to help his parents from here on out. He has ever right to set boundaries with them. Some old people are so stubborn that they can't see the tree for the forest and will unfortunately learn the hard way. And I get it to an extent it's generational trauma, "how they were raised" "it was the depression" blah blah blah. However like in the case of my grandmother she's 87 years old you are telling me her ass at any point in her life couldn't have learned new tricks? Nope at some point she chose to be a mean old stubborn bat and now it's come back to haunt her. I am tired of old people getting a free pass for treating family like we exist to serve them while actively, and in some cases deliberately, sabotaging any efforts on our part to do. I will say she did floor me during one of her lucid moments when she admitted she screwed my dad over in regards to all this. I wish he had been with me to hear her say it. I think that would have done a lot for him to hear her take ownership.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 10, 2023 17:19:54 GMT -5
I have looked in to moving back to Boulder in low income senior housing. I don't qualify because I took my Social Security. Otherwise I would.
Here it isn't even close to qualifying for low income senior housing because I make way too much money from my pension.
Of course, I'm no longer trying to move back to Boulder or I wouldn't have done the bathroom renovation.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 10, 2023 17:23:20 GMT -5
Yeah I was ready to die to end the pain before they removed my gallbladder. Anything was better than that. I was admitted to the hospital and then got to wait a day and a half for a surgeon to get me on their schedule. My mom made it through the last 6 weeks of nursing school on a liquid diet trying to baby her gallbladder. It flared up Christmas and was gone before New Years. I would not wish that pain on anyone. I would not wish gallbladder pain on anyone either. The last time I was in the ER, I said I can't keep going on like this, so they had a shrink evaluate me. I needed the gallbladder out, not a shrink. That's how bad the pain can be. I did want to die if something could not be fixed. I do sometimes have bad days if I eat too much of the wrong thing but it's nothing like every few days and intense pain.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jan 10, 2023 17:25:46 GMT -5
I have looked in to moving back to Boulder in low income senior housing. I don't qualify because I took my Social Security. Otherwise I would. Here it isn't even close to qualifying for low income senior housing because I make way too much money from my pension. Of course, I'm no longer trying to move back to Boulder or I wouldn't have done the bathroom renovation. I should look into senior housing. I've tried to find info online before and I just find a bunch of ads, with no information. Any suggestions?
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jan 10, 2023 17:30:40 GMT -5
Fast food when he can get away from Mister. The vending machines at the hospital. ATM withdrawals that Mister doesn’t know where the money went. Mister set up a budget for him before he even came here, to try to get the bills caught up. Mister pays for his medicine. He lost his glasses a couple weeks ago. Mister bought him so more glasses. If his Dad thinks he has money to spend instead of paying his bills, he can buy his own medicine and glasses. If Mister stays DONE like he was yesterday, they are going to lose everything. And he’s been telling his Dad since he first found out that the mortgage payments were behind, that they are NOT coming over here if he fucks around and loses their house. He does really stupid stuff. Over the summer, on my day off work, Mister called me from work and asked me to go get his Dad from Xfinity. Brother had wrecked Mom’s car some months before and I guess they didn’t have insurance because it never got fixed or replaced. Well, I’m sure it was totaled, but it never got replaced. Then the parents had a wreck in Dad’s car and it had serious damage, and I thought he must’ve drove it anyway and it quit on him near Xfinity. Noooooo, when I picked him up, he said he’d taken an Uber to Xfinity, because he’d bought the latest IPhone from them the week before and had already broke the screen. He was going to just BUY THE SAME PHONE AGAIN! Fortunately, the lady at Xfinity was a good soul imo and said “sir, I can’t let you do that, take your phone to the Apple Store and get it fixed.” So that’s where he wanted me to take him, to the Apple store, and I did. That’s not what Mister told me, that’s what his Dad told me out of his own mouth, that he was going just buy another phone that cost over $1k, to replace the one he’d had less than a week and broke.All the things that are wrong in that last paragraph pretty much sums up how he makes horrible financial decisions. Sorry if I'm being too blunt but dad's financial behaviors indicate far more than just a sloppy attitude towards $$. It indicates one of the most profound senses of entitlement to other people's money I've ever encountered. And it will continue exactly as long as it takes for other people to stop playing personal banker for him and his wife. On the cars, I suspect they aren't able to get insurance what with two cars seriously damaged/totalled AND bad credit. I wonder if they caused damage or injuries to someone else in the wrecks and that's out there too. Didn't mom have to have some sort of PT for an auto accident and owe the rehab place $$ ? No, that would be my Mom lol. Mister’s Dad is bad, but he is an amateur compared to my Mom. Yes, Mom had to go to physical therapy because of the wreck in Dad’s car. There was another car involved in the wreck, and I want to say the other driver was at fault. So thinking about it now, Idk how insurance played into it. Maybe insurance totaled the car and paid them, but it wasn’t enough to buy another car with. I really don’t know. I just ASSumed they didn’t have insurance on either car, and I shouldn’t have made that assumption. With the phone, that was after he’d refinanced the house again, so I guess he felt like he had some money. Never mind they needed a car. He went and bought a car with a payment, and the payment was more than he and Mom had discussed and she’d said they could afford. Mom was upset with him about it.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2023 17:30:40 GMT -5
Make sure you are writing this down somewhere in case Mister's parents end up needing to move somewhere with more assistance or into a senior apartment. If Mister has access to their bank statements it wouldn't be a bad idea for him to start printing them off and filing them away. I t may not be the same every where but I know here the senior apartments have really strict rules about who they will allow and not allow to move into their complexes. It isn't just in regards to health either. I probably could get top government security clearance easier than approval for a senior apartment. On the one hand I get having strict requirements from a liability stand point and they aren't running a charity. On the other I imagine that a good chunk of people exploring that option aren't people who are like YMers they are more like Mister's parents. Mister being able to tell the intake people the full story vs whatever comes out of his parents' mouth will help them better understand if they can serve his parents needs when/if the time comes and it sounds like it's going to be coming pretty fast. I would definitely consult an elder care lawyer. As he will find out like both Gira, myself and my dad did there isn't shit he can do to prevent the impending implosion but they CAN walk him through what the fall out plan is and work with him in regards to anything he's personally entangled with that could come back to haunt him. They can also help point him towards some resources for his parents that may be able to help them with things like their house. Still can't make them drink but at least mister will have peace that he attempted to lead them to water. It's all you can do otherwise you'll end up in a hospital bed right next to them due to stress. I'd also suggest Mister sit with himself and have an honest discussion with himself (and you and maybe his brother too) about what he is and isn't willing to do to help his parents from here on out. He has ever right to set boundaries with them. Some old people are so stubborn that they can't see the tree for the forest and will unfortunately learn the hard way. And I get it to an extent it's generational trauma, "how they were raised" "it was the depression" blah blah blah. However like in the case of my grandmother she's 87 years old you are telling me her ass at any point in her life couldn't have learned new tricks? Nope at some point she chose to be a mean old stubborn bat and now it's come back to haunt her. I am tired of old people getting a free pass for treating family like we exist to serve them while actively, and in some cases deliberately, sabotaging any efforts on our part to do. I will say she did floor me during one of her lucid moments when she admitted she screwed my dad over in regards to all this. I wish he had been with me to hear her say it. I think that would have done a lot for him to hear her take ownership. DH and I have looked at a couple of active senior apartments and this is a question I pushed hard on. A lot of folks have a down-on-their-luck son, daughter, nephew whatever and I have no intention of moving into an apartment only to find someone's family member just out of rehab etc has moved in next door. Yeah, I'm a bitch that way but at the price point we're looking at I don't intend to encounter problems with unlisted tenants or encounter someone's weird uncle in the gym
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Post by weltschmerz on Jan 10, 2023 17:30:51 GMT -5
I was in the ER 3 times in 4 months with pains in my stomach. I have a high threshold, but it was AWFUL. The first 2 times I was unemployed and had no insurance. The third time I was employed with insurance. I drank some nasty stuff and they took images that were inconclusive. Doctor came in later to tell me that they were "pretty sure" it was my gall bladder and did the surgery the next morning. I hate the health care system in the US. They only did imaging when you came in with insurance? That's absolutely criminal! What are people without insurance supposed to do? Curl up and die? Kill themselves?
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 10, 2023 17:31:07 GMT -5
Low income senior housing in Boulder is through the city housing department.
Here that is where I would start and they can refer you to the complexes.
We have several senior living complexes here. Some are for low income and some are market value. They have different services in each.
In the past I have called the various complexes to find out the ins and outs.
It was always a no because of cats but there are several here who are now pet friendly.
My parents lived in a place with independent living and assisted living. They had a cap on the number of days another family member could stay there.
Now when mom was dying, they didn't care how much we were there and I know it was the same way for other families when their loved one who lived there was in hospice and dying.
My parents' apartment had no place to sleep. We slept in the recliner or on the love seat, which was too short for adults to spread out.
My aunt and uncle lived in senior housing. Their daughter was afraid of her own shadow and preferred staying with them and not her own home. Other tenants complained and she was told she could not stay overnight unless there was a medical emergency with her parents or her parents had to move out.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 10, 2023 18:27:41 GMT -5
Pizza Hut is bringing back the Big New Yorker.
Proof it did exist. I was starting to think it was a fever dream because so few people remember it.
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Post by giramomma on Jan 10, 2023 18:52:09 GMT -5
I'm so tired I can't even cut and paste accurrately.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jan 10, 2023 19:36:28 GMT -5
Mister made spaghetti a few weeks ago. When I was growing tomatoes, before I gave up because stupid squirrels kept eating them, I’d started dicing them and freezing them. I weighed them so I would have batches close to the same amount that’s in the canned tomatoes we buy.
Mister used some for the first time in his spaghetti a few weeks ago. The spaghetti was so good! He thinks it was so good because of the home grown tomatoes, so he’s been talking about building me a small enclosed gardening bed to keep critters out, so I can grow them again, and other vegetables. Today he told me to show him what I would like. He is pretty handy, but he has always said he sucks at measuring (idk how that is difficult lol), so when we’ve done stuff around the house that requires measuring, I’ve always done that part lol.
But he has a good buddy that likes working with wood and building stuff (and knows how to measure!), the one that made the coffee table in our den for us. So Mister said he’ll probably ask him to help build it. I don’t think I have the patience to help do something like that. But who knows, if his friend is willing to teach me, I might end up enjoying doing that kind of stuff. I use to hate painting, but once I learned how to do it correctly, I found I kind of enjoy doing it.
Anyway, if Mister does get it built, I would be happy to try growing vegetables again. I got so discouraged about the squirrels eating all my tomatoes, that I haven’t tried to grow anything since then.
Mister and everybody I gave tomatoes to when I had them, said they were delicious and tasted better than the ones in the grocery store. I don’t really eat raw tomatoes, but I do use them for cooking. I just chose them as my first venture into growing vegetables because they’re supposed to be fairly easy. I’d planned to try other stuff too, but the damn squirrels threw me off eating ALL of the tomatoes, and I gave up on the whole idea of growing vegetables.
Mister and I both have a lot of stuff going on, so I’m reigning myself in and not getting too excited, so I won’t be disappointed if it doesn’t get done this spring. But if it does, I will be happy!
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Post by cooper88 on Jan 10, 2023 19:40:43 GMT -5
I took chicken thighs out of the freezer this morning. I'm feeling uninspired. Maybe I'll just season them up and throw them in the air fryer. It's too windy to fire up the grill.
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Post by CCL on Jan 10, 2023 19:51:08 GMT -5
My Dr. visit this morning….. Now he wants me to do a CT scan. They could’ve called me during the last 5 months and told me they were setting that up. That could’ve BEEN done. But whatever, I’ll do the CT scan, of course, but then what? Wait another 3 months to discuss the results and find out what’s next? I am SO disgusted. I asked,” in the meantime, what can I do about the pain? “ He said we just have to see what the CT scan results are. I told him that the kind of job I have, this is not something I can work through, and I’m missing so much work that I’m already in trouble with my job, and at the rate I’m going I might end up getting fired. He said “oh no, we don’t want that. That’s a good job”. Well HELP ME! I’ve been calling and calling your office, trying to get this addressed so I can either feel better or at least have some documentation for my job. When your nurse could be bothered to return my calls, I explained to her that I can’t work like this. I’ve gone to my PCP a few weeks ago, to see if she could recommend something until I got to my appointment today. My partner even called your office on my behalf (he said, yes, he remembers that!), I’m not sure what else I was supposed to do to other than go to the Doctor that’s supposed to be helping me with this, YOU, to try to get some relief or at least some documentation for my job that I’m having medical issues and not just being trifling. Nobody even returned my calls when I left messages trying to see what I needed to do about whatever other tests your nurse told my partner I needed to get done. He said he can’t give me any documentation for my job until he has a diagnosis and just kept talking about how they’ve been so booked up. I didn’t start cussing or yelling, but I was SO mad. Hopefully I can get the CT scan scheduled for the next couple of days. I’m thinking that when the results come back from that, if I don’t hear from him, I’m going to try to find another GI doctor and just have them get my records from this one. Does that sound like a bad plan? He asked if I’ve lost weight. Just a few pounds, my weight fluctuates. He pressed around my abdomen and asked if it hurt. No. He said, well, if you’d lost a lot of weight or your abdomen was tender to the touch, that would mean it’s something serious. WTF?! It is serious to ME, regardless, because it fucking hurts and I can’t do my fucking job, standing on my feet all day lifting and carrying heavy shit because of the pain and the fact that I spend half my damn day in the bathroom! I could probably deal with the nausea at work, but NOT the other stuff. And I just realized he didn’t say anything else about the tests his nurse told Mister I needed to have done, even though I brought it up. His nurse told Mister she didn’t advise going to the ER. I don’t want to go there anyway, because it’s cooties in the ER, and a million people, with all this crap going around. I'm sorry they are being so uncooperative. I would have insisted they schedule the CT scan while I was still there at the office.
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Post by CCL on Jan 10, 2023 19:53:30 GMT -5
Fast food when he can get away from Mister. The vending machines at the hospital. ATM withdrawals that Mister doesn’t know where the money went. Mister set up a budget for him before he even came here, to try to get the bills caught up. Mister pays for his medicine. He lost his glasses a couple weeks ago. Mister bought him so more glasses. If his Dad thinks he has money to spend instead of paying his bills, he can buy his own medicine and glasses. If Mister stays DONE like he was yesterday, they are going to lose everything. And he’s been telling his Dad since he first found out that the mortgage payments were behind, that they are NOT coming over here if he fucks around and loses their house. He does really stupid stuff. Over the summer, on my day off work, Mister called me from work and asked me to go get his Dad from Xfinity. Brother had wrecked Mom’s car some months before and I guess they didn’t have insurance because it never got fixed or replaced. Well, I’m sure it was totaled, but it never got replaced. Then the parents had a wreck in Dad’s car and it had serious damage, and I thought he must’ve drove it anyway and it quit on him near Xfinity. Noooooo, when I picked him up, he said he’d taken an Uber to Xfinity, because he’d bought the latest IPhone from them the week before and had already broke the screen. He was going to just BUY THE SAME PHONE AGAIN! Fortunately, the lady at Xfinity was a good soul imo and said “sir, I can’t let you do that, take your phone to the Apple Store and get it fixed.” So that’s where he wanted me to take him, to the Apple store, and I did. That’s not what Mister told me, that’s what his Dad told me out of his own mouth, that he was going just buy another phone that cost over $1k, to replace the one he’d had less than a week and broke.All the things that are wrong in that last paragraph pretty much sums up how he makes horrible financial decisions. Sorry if I'm being too blunt but dad's financial behaviors indicate far more than just a sloppy attitude towards $$. It indicates one of the most profound senses of entitlement to other people's money I've ever encountered. And it will continue exactly as long as it takes for other people to stop playing personal banker for him and his wife. On the cars, I suspect they aren't able to get insurance what with two cars seriously damaged/totalled AND bad credit. I wonder if they caused damage or injuries to someone else in the wrecks and that's out there too. Didn't mom have to have some sort of PT for an auto accident and owe the rehab place $$ ? Oh I've known a few who were worse.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2023 20:34:48 GMT -5
Supper was late, my bad, so I'm going to start fixing at 3:30/4:00 going forward. DH is doing some sort of intermittent fasting thing, but I don't know the timing, just that he needs to eat early for that and medication timing and acid reflux while sleeping. Too bad he can't actually honestly share the timing of anything but that would deprive him of something to bash me about, wouldn't it?
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Post by busymom on Jan 10, 2023 20:38:34 GMT -5
I was in the ER 3 times in 4 months with pains in my stomach. I have a high threshold, but it was AWFUL. The first 2 times I was unemployed and had no insurance. The third time I was employed with insurance. I drank some nasty stuff and they took images that were inconclusive. Doctor came in later to tell me that they were "pretty sure" it was my gall bladder and did the surgery the next morning. I hate the health care system in the US. They only did imaging when you came in with insurance? That's absolutely criminal! What are people without insurance supposed to do? Curl up and die? Kill themselves? Welcome to the United States. If you don't have insurance, especially in the Southern states who didn't want to sign onto the ACA, you're basically screwed. They MIGHT give you some pain killers and send you home. They basically wash their hands of those without insurance. And still, we have too many citizens who don't want to try a national healthcare system, because it's "socialism".
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Post by Opti on Jan 10, 2023 20:42:48 GMT -5
Got lucky, was able to get my scrip filled even though I arrived at the pharmacy about 15 minutes before close. Would have been there earlier but I was less lucky with laundry etc. Now if only Moon Shadow would give me some time before whining for yet more food.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jan 10, 2023 20:47:51 GMT -5
soupandstew - Wow. He has special dietary needs and times then he can't be civil to you. Maybe make some large batches of what he can eat so he can get it when he's ready. Or, is that too much to ask?
I know what that is like to suddenly get snapped at.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jan 10, 2023 20:48:18 GMT -5
My Dr. visit this morning….. Now he wants me to do a CT scan. They could’ve called me during the last 5 months and told me they were setting that up. That could’ve BEEN done. But whatever, I’ll do the CT scan, of course, but then what? Wait another 3 months to discuss the results and find out what’s next? I am SO disgusted. I asked,” in the meantime, what can I do about the pain? “ He said we just have to see what the CT scan results are. I told him that the kind of job I have, this is not something I can work through, and I’m missing so much work that I’m already in trouble with my job, and at the rate I’m going I might end up getting fired. He said “oh no, we don’t want that. That’s a good job”. Well HELP ME! I’ve been calling and calling your office, trying to get this addressed so I can either feel better or at least have some documentation for my job. When your nurse could be bothered to return my calls, I explained to her that I can’t work like this. I’ve gone to my PCP a few weeks ago, to see if she could recommend something until I got to my appointment today. My partner even called your office on my behalf (he said, yes, he remembers that!), I’m not sure what else I was supposed to do to other than go to the Doctor that’s supposed to be helping me with this, YOU, to try to get some relief or at least some documentation for my job that I’m having medical issues and not just being trifling. Nobody even returned my calls when I left messages trying to see what I needed to do about whatever other tests your nurse told my partner I needed to get done. He said he can’t give me any documentation for my job until he has a diagnosis and just kept talking about how they’ve been so booked up. I didn’t start cussing or yelling, but I was SO mad. Hopefully I can get the CT scan scheduled for the next couple of days. I’m thinking that when the results come back from that, if I don’t hear from him, I’m going to try to find another GI doctor and just have them get my records from this one. Does that sound like a bad plan? He asked if I’ve lost weight. Just a few pounds, my weight fluctuates. He pressed around my abdomen and asked if it hurt. No. He said, well, if you’d lost a lot of weight or your abdomen was tender to the touch, that would mean it’s something serious. WTF?! It is serious to ME, regardless, because it fucking hurts and I can’t do my fucking job, standing on my feet all day lifting and carrying heavy shit because of the pain and the fact that I spend half my damn day in the bathroom! I could probably deal with the nausea at work, but NOT the other stuff. And I just realized he didn’t say anything else about the tests his nurse told Mister I needed to have done, even though I brought it up. His nurse told Mister she didn’t advise going to the ER. I don’t want to go there anyway, because it’s cooties in the ER, and a million people, with all this crap going around. I'm sorry they are being so uncooperative. I would have insisted they schedule the CT scan while I was still there at the office. This office is a GI Specialist office affiliated with a big hospital and healthcare system here. The hospital has a huge campus with several buildings, and this office is located in one of those buildings. All that to say, it’s not like this Doctor is running his own practice by himself, and can’t keep up, he works for this huge healthcare system, all of his stuff has the hospital systems logos on it, which makes me even more surprised about this fiasco. When I checked in today, the lady at the desk handed me what she said was a “thank you” card from the hospital system. I might not be using the correct words to describe what I’m calling the hospital and healthcare “system”. Anyway, the card says on the back that they would like to hear my feedback on the survey they will be sending me. Oh really? Somebody might want to intercept that survey email, because I have some stuff to say! Lol So when the Dr. orders tests, someone from the hospital system’s “referral center” calls me to schedule the test either on the campus where this Doctor works, or at one of their other hospitals. Someone actually called while I was still at the doctor, (after he’d left the room) to get some information to schedule the CT scan and ask me which location was convenient for me, what day of the week I prefer, and whether I prefer morning or afternoon. I said ASAP, whatever day and time, at whatever location has the first availability. She said she had to get authorization from my insurance, and after that, she would call me back with an appointment. So their system is on point with getting tests scheduled quickly, at least that’s been my experience so far. She called me back later this afternoon and said authorization is pending with my insurance company. I asked how long does it usually take for them to get their shit together? Yes, I actually said that because I’m so irritated. She laughed and told me 24 to 48 hours usually, when they don’t authorize it immediately and leave it “pending”. I told her I appreciated her calling me to tell me why there was a delay in scheduling it. So now I wait. But at least she called me to tell me why I’m waiting. What I’m about to say now is TMI, so feel free to stop reading now. Mister thinks it’s hilarious that I have to take a stool sample back to the lab. It’s funny to him because he knows how I am and knew how horrified I was about it when I told him I had to do it. Not only do I not do well with other people’s bodily fluids and stuff, I prefer not to have to handle my own like that. So it’s been all kinds of jokes this evening, from both of us. I told Mister if Boy still had worms, I’d take them his poop and ask the Doctor, can I get some documentation for my job now sir? I’m trying to laugh to keep from crying about this whole ordeal.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jan 10, 2023 20:51:20 GMT -5
Supper was late, my bad, so I'm going to start fixing at 3:30/4:00 going forward. DH is doing some sort of intermittent fasting thing, but I don't know the timing, just that he needs to eat early for that and medication timing and acid reflux while sleeping. Too bad he can't actually honestly share the timing of anything but that would deprive him of something to bash me about, wouldn't it? I can come pinch him really hard and tell him he better be nice, OR ELSE, if you like.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jan 10, 2023 21:02:21 GMT -5
I hope they get the additional tests scheduled quickly pink and get you some relief. Fill out the survey. Someone needs to hear about your difficulty scheduling tests, the follow up appointment and so on.
My gallbladder issues did show on the CT scan. I also had to refrain from kicking the doctor who pressed on my abdomen. I think it can be different for different people though.
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Post by flamingo on Jan 10, 2023 21:45:31 GMT -5
How is today only Tuesday? This week is already killing me and I still have 3 hellish days left I can hardly wait to see how many more meetings I have just dripping with condescension from the higher up’s. Uughhh.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jan 10, 2023 21:57:38 GMT -5
Man, I thought I had issues with DD and me at times. Also with docs, but after reading you folks problems my life looks simple.
I have noticed there are all kinds of problems making appointments and with procedures since covid. I'm thinking a lot of long time employees that kept things moving either left to find other work or retired, it still hasn't worked it's way out. Mine has not gone smoothly, but being retired I have time to call, reschedule, and deal with it.
I did change GI docs because of just that, not being able to get through. This one actually has real people answer, love that. My heart doc not so much but can deal.
In 2 weeks go to the endocrinologist so we will discuss the use of ozempic and see what I can do otherwise. I just know that I cannot put weight back on or I won't be able to walk again and I can't live like that.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2023 22:00:12 GMT -5
Supper was late, my bad, so I'm going to start fixing at 3:30/4:00 going forward. DH is doing some sort of intermittent fasting thing, but I don't know the timing, just that he needs to eat early for that and medication timing and acid reflux while sleeping. Too bad he can't actually honestly share the timing of anything but that would deprive him of something to bash me about, wouldn't it? I can come pinch him really hard and tell him he better be nice, OR ELSE, if you like.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jan 10, 2023 22:00:30 GMT -5
Must have been exposed, think I am catching a cold already. Slept the rest of the afternoon till 8:30 but don't think there will be a problem sleeping tonight. DD is saying her glands are swollen, not sick, no sore throat, so will watch that and see if anything develops.
My lovie kitty wanted in his room tonight. Sometimes he wants to lay on my lap, sometimes just go in for the night. What a sweetie.
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Post by Opti on Jan 10, 2023 22:10:20 GMT -5
How is today only Tuesday? This week is already killing me and I still have 3 hellish days left I can hardly wait to see how many more meetings I have just dripping with condescension from the higher up’s. Uughhh. I wanted to give up on the week yesterday, so I hear you.
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Post by weltschmerz on Jan 11, 2023 0:02:27 GMT -5
Must have been exposed, think I am catching a cold already. Slept the rest of the afternoon till 8:30 but don't think there will be a problem sleeping tonight. DD is saying her glands are swollen, not sick, no sore throat, so will watch that and see if anything develops. My lovie kitty wanted in his room tonight. Sometimes he wants to lay on my lap, sometimes just go in for the night. What a sweetie. Sushi now sleeps with me every night. He starts screaming at me at 5:30......'Let's go to bed!!" As soon as I'm in bed, he lies down against me, I put my arm around him, and he purrs so hard it keeps me awake.
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Post by finnime on Jan 11, 2023 3:17:24 GMT -5
I'm sorry your medical issues are continuing, Pink Cashmere . There are an unfortunately large number of doctors who disdain to treat something no matter how horrific the symptoms unless they have reached a diagnosis. In the meantime, the patients suffer. For me, I say, treat the symtoms! Even if the condition is not potentially fatal, quality of life matters hugely. Some doctors just don't get it. I wish you had a different PCP, too.
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