what are you doing right now?

[andi9899]

Dec 27, 2022 10:59:04 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

Southwest is epically melting down. My SIL and her family were supposed to fly home Monday night. Flight was canceled. The next flight I could see was Wednesday night which would defeat the purpose of the trip. Her mom/my MIL turned 75 yesterday. The big dinner is Wednesday night.

They rebooked her on Tuesday night flight. When she tried to check in, it was also canceled. She spent 8 hours on hold to never get through.

At this point all the planes and all of the staff are out of position. I saw a story about flight attendants on hold for 7-8 hours to speak to scheduling and get a new assignment.

When the dominoes fall like this, it's just ugly.

I saw that a bunch of people were having trouble getting their bags too. I like Southwest, so I hope this is a fluke.

[stillmovingforward]

Two weeks later, my cold is finally receding. I have one week off vacation left. I was going to travel but decided to just stay put one I got sick. One of those times I'm glad I don't make travel plans.

Should i go to Alaska or the Yukon this summer though? A road trip sounds good.

[toomuchreality]

Dec 27, 2022 9:19:34 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Dec 26, 2022 23:12:11 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

That just sounds so painful!

It really wasn't.  What was more disconcerting to me was the "pop!" sound of the cartilage when they pushed the needle through.

Then every once and awhile I snag the post on something.  I got it caught on a towel once that was interesting because I was standing there in the bathroom with a towel hanging off my nose debating on if it was worth hurting my pride to call DH for help or should I just go ahead and risk ripping my nose off? 

OMG! So what did you do?

You all are braver than me. It makes my nose and brain hurt, just thinking about it! I couldn't do it!

[giramomma]

Dec 27, 2022 11:10:13 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Dec 27, 2022 7:57:33 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I feel that. Mine is done.

On the upside, I've put in my time doing the domestic thing, and it is also done.

My fridge is full of leftovers.  DH hasn't cooked a full meal since Friday.

ETA: I also decided I'm going to do a modified 12in12 on new years eve.

Same. And my counterpart is out this week so I'm doing both of our jobs the whole week. Joy.

Lord that blows.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Dec 27, 2022 15:49:21 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Dec 27, 2022 9:19:34 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

It really wasn't.  What was more disconcerting to me was the "pop!" sound of the cartilage when they pushed the needle through.

Then every once and awhile I snag the post on something.  I got it caught on a towel once that was interesting because I was standing there in the bathroom with a towel hanging off my nose debating on if it was worth hurting my pride to call DH for help or should I just go ahead and risk ripping my nose off? 

OMG! So what did you do?

You all are braver than me. It makes my nose and brain hurt, just thinking about it! I couldn't do it!

I got it off myself but it took me about 10 minutes.  I learned to gently pat my face with the towel, don't rub it when you have a nose piercing.

[giramomma]

Dec 27, 2022 11:21:06 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Dec 27, 2022 7:57:33 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I feel that. Mine is done.

On the upside, I've put in my time doing the domestic thing, and it is also done.

My fridge is full of leftovers.  DH hasn't cooked a full meal since Friday.

ETA: I also decided I'm going to do a modified 12in12 on new years eve.

What's a 12in12?

On NYE, you either start 12 new projects starting at noon and work on them for an hour each or you find 12 WIPS (works in progress) and work on them an hour each staring at noon.

I found a project that I've wanted to start that's 9 halloween blocks (one for every letter of halloween). They are small. So that could count for the 9 of the 12.

It would be fun to start a couple new projects. I did find one in about 3 minutes. That brings me up to 10.

I want to dig through my bins and find my old friends and say hello to pick out the last couple

I think I need to find happy mediums this year. I think I've swung too far into austerity, responsibility, etc. I am pretty unhappy with that decision.

[giramomma]

Dec 27, 2022 15:46:49 GMT -5 stillmovingforward said:

Two weeks later, my cold is finally receding. I have one week off vacation left. I was going to travel but decided to just stay put one I got sick. One of those times I'm glad I don't make travel plans.

Should i go to Alaska or the Yukon this summer though? A road trip sounds good.

Alaska.

[wvugurl26]

Dec 27, 2022 14:07:41 GMT -5 steph08 said:

I'm watching the Southwest mess closely - we are scheduled to fly to Disney next Tuesday. I thought I was being smart and proactive by flying Southwest this year - using points, rebooking when fares went down, not going with Spirit even when I've had no real issues with them.

And it's biting me in the butt. I am thinking of booking Spirit and canceling SW for next week. I could reschedule, but i have trained for six months to run the Dopey Challenge (5k, 10k, half marathon, full marathon on a thursday-sunday), that rescheduling is really a last resort.

I hope you make it! My coworker is there now and scheduled to come back Friday.

And now I know who does those challenges!

[busymom]

Dec 27, 2022 14:01:15 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

We just went to brunch with a gift certificate. DH spent his Christmas money at the kitchen store; he bought another Wusthof. 

I need to let this go, so I'm hoping saying it here helps me with that: My mother gifted my husband three items of very processed food that if he consumes will land him in the hospital. She is either massively more passive-aggressive right now than normal or she's really not interested in grasping that my husband was incredibly ill and has had a life-changing effect on his dietary structure. WTE is wrong with her?


I have not worked at all since last Thursday, so I'm about to start up again albeit from my couch. 

     Wow!  Is your Mom the type to gift alcohol to someone who is battling alcoholism?(I know the type...)  I'd hide her gifts, then "accidentally" throw them out.  I'm sure you could buy him something he'd love that wouldn't harm his health.  

[Deleted]

I don't have any piercings and, after reading your descriptions of the process here and remembering when my friend got hers caught in the zipper of her jeans, I will not be getting any either

[empress of self-improvement]

Sitting at the animal hospital waiting for the brat. She has a follow-up and it was found that not all the hair around her eyes was gone. So round 2 was today. Apparently her eyes are more of a mess than we ever thought. Poor baby. Jeez

[skeeter]

Dec 27, 2022 10:03:41 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

I gave up on trying to fall back asleep around 530, and came downstairs so I could turn on the TV and not wake the pups. about 10min later, I hear whining from the top of the stairs - Punk wanted out. she came back inside and followed me downstairs. we both dozed off from about 7-9am. LD was down here when we woke up for good. they have been out, fed, the trash is at the curb, and I'm working on a cup of coffee. we are back downstairs again watching serial killer stories on Oxygen. I don't see a high energy day ahead of me.

If you get bored watching the Oxygen Channel, the original Law & Order (not SVU) is on all day and night on the WE Channel (#502 here) in case you're interested.

[giramomma]

Dec 27, 2022 14:01:15 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

I need to let this go, so I'm hoping saying it here helps me with that: My mother gifted my husband three items of very processed food that if he consumes will land him in the hospital. She is either massively more passive-aggressive right now than normal or she's really not interested in grasping that my husband was incredibly ill and has had a life-changing effect on his dietary structure. WTE is wrong with her?

My bet is that your mom is not interested in your life, outside of what you can do for her.

I know my mom isn't really interested in how things are going for me, outside of whatever emotional hit she wants to use me for.

[Pink Cashmere]

I had my second virtual appointment with the therapist today. I really like her.

Without getting into all the backstory of today’s visit, my assignment is to commit to making my yoga room (actually the dining room that has no dining room furniture in it) completely mine, my safe (and clean) space to retreat to, complete with everything that will make it a relaxing, soothing space for me, and USE it. I am to spend at least 15 minutes/day in there, and practice yoga or learning to belly dance (don’t ask lol) twice/week. 

That sounds doable. I didn’t mention to her that the only doors I can use to close the room off are the doors to the kitchen. There’s an open, wide doorway to the living room. I can add pretty curtains on the dining room side of that wall that I can close, and make it so that when they are open, they aren’t visible from the living room. And when they are closed, hopefully YD will respect that she needs to go through the den to get to the kitchen instead of taking the long way, through the living room and yoga room to get to the kitchen, like she prefers, for whatever reason.

I am kind of excited about really claiming that space as “mine”. YD always pretends she doesn’t know what room I’m referring to when I mention my yoga room, so I guess once I get it together, that will have to be clarified once and for all. The biggest thing is that I don’t want outside shoes worn in there, which I’ve already said multiple times. I’d actually prefer outside shoes not be worn in the house period, but I’m not ready to fight that battle yet. So just respect that room, please.

I don’t think that’s unfair, Mister has “his” room, that has an actual door he can close. It’s not my fault it’s gotten so junky he doesn’t even want to spend time in there lol.

I am really hopeful that as I continue to work with this therapist, I’ll be able to make progress on some things.

Another awesome thing is that, because they are virtual visits through my health insurance, my visits with her are covered 100%. I also discovered while I was looking things over to make an appointment with a therapist, that I can also make appointments with a registered dietician to help me figure out healthier eating, and those are covered 100% also. I really need to figure my food out, to lose a little weight, address the fact that I am apparently pre-diabetic, and just make better food choices to be healthier overall. Also, if need be, I can also make appointments with psychiatrists, if things get to the point that I might need medicine to help me with depression and/or anxiety, or even a dermatologist. Right now, I’m just interested in the therapist and dietician, but it’s good to know there are other professionals and Doctors that I have virtual access to, that won’t cost me any money OOP if I need them.

My insurance also offers a free program to help you with joint health and whatever. I have to look into it, but it caught my attention because it sounded like it could maybe help with some of my aches and pains due to my job.

If all of these things are benefits of my health insurance plan and don’t cost me any extra money, I feel like it would be wise of me to use the ones that can help me be healthier mentally and physically.

I am feeling pretty positive and hopeful today, and just that is enough to make me feel happy.

[toomuchreality]

Dec 27, 2022 16:48:38 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

Sitting at the animal hospital waiting for the brat. She has a follow-up and it was found that not all the hair around her eyes was gone. So round 2 was today. Apparently her eyes are more of a mess than we ever thought. Poor baby. Jeez

She's lucky, she ended up in your care. Someone who genuinely loves and cares about her.

[empress of self-improvement]

Dec 27, 2022 17:05:46 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Dec 27, 2022 16:48:38 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

Sitting at the animal hospital waiting for the brat. She has a follow-up and it was found that not all the hair around her eyes was gone. So round 2 was today. Apparently her eyes are more of a mess than we ever thought. Poor baby. Jeez

She's lucky, she ended up in your care. Someone who genuinely loves and cares about her.

I don't think she's feeling that way right now. She's whacking into everything with the cone on😆

[giramomma]

Pink, reclaiming some space in my own house, was awesome for me.

With DS back home, it has been hard to have space.

I love him. And I need a space that children do not invade.

[stillmovingforward]

Dec 27, 2022 17:26:33 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Pink, reclaiming some space in my own house, was awesome for me.

With DS back home, it has been hard to have space.

I love him. And I need a space that children do not invade.

Very much this!
I love all my children, I really do. I was so happy when they left home and I hope they don't came back for a long time other than to visit. I need my space without them and their needs.

[Deleted]

Okay, it's been a bit of a late afternoon but everything worked out. DH went off to shave and came back to tell me the water heater was off which happens occasionally. So I followed him out to the garage and held the flashlight and eventually got on the floor to read the re-lighting instructions he can't (blames it on the bifocals, right? No chance it's the old prescription). He/we got it re-lighted and I took a photo of the instructions which I planned to enlarge and email to him. But in the process I accidentally hid the Inbox on his email which triggered a whole other thing until I googled the fix and did it.

So thankful for wine. Planning to go shopping tomorrow by myself.

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 27, 2022 17:26:33 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Pink, reclaiming some space in my own house, was awesome for me.

With DS back home, it has been hard to have space.

I love him. And I need a space that children do not invade.

When my children were growing up, my bedroom was my private space. I didn’t have a SO, so that worked for me.

Even though it’s been over 3 years now, I still haven’t found my groove in this household. And that might be part of the reason, I’ve never had a private space, just for me, like I’d had for 20 years before I met Mister. In hindsight, I realize that even though we spent most of our nights together during the years before we moved here, I still spent a night or 2 home alone every week or 2, and those nights mattered more than I realized at the time.

And since I got kind of excited about my “assignment” today, maybe that really is something I didn’t realize I need. So I’m very pleased that my therapist got something out of what I was talking about today, that led her to make those suggestions. I am the one that labeled them my “assignments” lol.

I’ve already started working on my yoga room. That room and the living room have become sort of “holding spots” for things I don’t know what to do with. So I moved most of that stuff out of the yoga room and stuck it all in the living room. I’ll deal with the living room later lol. I moved “Big Bertha” (a huge corn plant that I’ve managed to keep alive for about 8 or 9 years, which is a record for me) out of the middle of the floor. When I brought my lemon tree inside a week ago, I put it in front of the window, where Big Bertha had been, and left Big Bertha in the middle of the floor because I didn’t know what to do with her. So I moved Big Bertha against a wall and even managed to get my old grow lights to work, and set them up for Big Bertha in her new home. 

The room wasn’t really bad, but it is looking better already, just with those small things done. 

[stillmovingforward]

I just verified the yeast in my fridge is still good. I guess that means I should see if I remember how to make bread. We'll find out tomorrow.

[taz157]

As I posted on Christmas Day, 3 of my household tested positive for Covid and I’m assuming the 4th member is too. We haven’t retested yet to see if we are negative. No one has a fever but basically cold symptoms now. We’ve been staying home this whole time.

On New Year’s Eve, we are supposed to go to DH’s best friend’s house. Assuming we have negative Covid tests before we go, is that still reasonable or should we still stay home?

FWIW, DH and his best friend have been friends since just before I knew DH so 24 years. We have spent many New Year’s together and always have a great time! Best friend has a wife and 2 DDs (14.5 and 10.5). My DDs get along with their DDs.

[raeoflyte]

Dec 27, 2022 18:38:21 GMT -5 taz157 said:

As I posted on Christmas Day, 3 of my household tested positive for Covid and I’m assuming the 4th member is too. We haven’t retested yet to see if we are negative. No one has a fever but basically cold symptoms now. We’ve been staying home this whole time.

On New Year’s Eve, we are supposed to go to DH’s best friend’s house. Assuming we have negative Covid tests before we go, is that still reasonable or should we still stay home?

FWIW, DH and his best friend have been friends since just before I knew DH so 24 years. We have spent many New Year’s together and always have a great time! Best friend has a wife and 2 DDs (14.5 and 10.5). My DDs get along with their DDs.

The last time I checked it was isolate for 5 days, and then if symptoms are gone you can stop isolating at that point, but mask for another 5 days.

[taz157]

Dec 27, 2022 18:59:42 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Dec 27, 2022 18:38:21 GMT -5 taz157 said:

As I posted on Christmas Day, 3 of my household tested positive for Covid and I’m assuming the 4th member is too. We haven’t retested yet to see if we are negative. No one has a fever but basically cold symptoms now. We’ve been staying home this whole time.

On New Year’s Eve, we are supposed to go to DH’s best friend’s house. Assuming we have negative Covid tests before we go, is that still reasonable or should we still stay home?

FWIW, DH and his best friend have been friends since just before I knew DH so 24 years. We have spent many New Year’s together and always have a great time! Best friend has a wife and 2 DDs (14.5 and 10.5). My DDs get along with their DDs.

The last time I checked it was isolate for 5 days, and then if symptoms are gone you can stop isolating at that point, but mask for another 5 days.

That’s what I’ve been seeing too. Thanks!

[toomuchreality]

Dec 27, 2022 18:38:21 GMT -5 taz157 said:

As I posted on Christmas Day, 3 of my household tested positive for Covid and I’m assuming the 4th member is too. We haven’t retested yet to see if we are negative. No one has a fever but basically cold symptoms now. We’ve been staying home this whole time.

On New Year’s Eve, we are supposed to go to DH’s best friend’s house. Assuming we have negative Covid tests before we go, is that still reasonable or should we still stay home?

FWIW, DH and his best friend have been friends since just before I knew DH so 24 years. We have spent many New Year’s together and always have a great time! Best friend has a wife and 2 DDs (14.5 and 10.5). My DDs get along with their DDs.

I don't know the answer to this. Back when I had it, even though I didn't have any symptoms, I stayed home for 2 weeks. That was hard!
Maybe ask the family what their thoughts are on the subject?

[TheOtherMe]

I would also ask them what they think.  

[TheOtherMe]

I brought in my monthly Amazon delivery and there is fresh snow on the sidewalk and driveway.  I totally missed that happening.

[taz157]

We will definitely ask the best friend too.

[Deleted]

Pink Cashmere your therapist sounds like a very savvy woman and I'm glad you are moving forward with your "assignments"

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 27, 2022 19:10:21 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Dec 27, 2022 18:38:21 GMT -5 taz157 said:

As I posted on Christmas Day, 3 of my household tested positive for Covid and I’m assuming the 4th member is too. We haven’t retested yet to see if we are negative. No one has a fever but basically cold symptoms now. We’ve been staying home this whole time.

On New Year’s Eve, we are supposed to go to DH’s best friend’s house. Assuming we have negative Covid tests before we go, is that still reasonable or should we still stay home?

FWIW, DH and his best friend have been friends since just before I knew DH so 24 years. We have spent many New Year’s together and always have a great time! Best friend has a wife and 2 DDs (14.5 and 10.5). My DDs get along with their DDs.

I don't know the answer to this. Back when I had it, even though I didn't have any symptoms, I stayed home for 2 weeks. That was hard!
Maybe ask the family what their thoughts are on the subject?

I still remain more cautious when it comes to COVID than most people, so consider that when I share my opinion.

If I were you, and I wanted to go, I would share the situation and the latest information I have with the host (including negative test results if you have them by then) and ask them how they felt about us coming. I would try to make it clear that if, given the information I provided, they preferred we didn’t come, there would absolutely not be any hard feelings or offense taken on my end. 

Since COVID seems to have little rhyme or reason and can make even people with the vaccines terribly ill (or worse), even though the vaccines make that less likely, I give people I know and socialize with, the same courtesies I’d like them to give me, if there is a known potential for exposure. 

Visiting with people I know is different from hanging out in public places with random strangers imo. If I go out in public, I am taking the risk that somebody might be there knowing they have COVID. Being willing to take that risk is on me. But, hanging out with people I know is different, I feel like I have a responsibility to be upfront with them if I have a situation.

But that’s just me, with my admission that I am still kind of weird about COVID.