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Post by Anne_in_VA on May 24, 2022 14:50:08 GMT -5
The floor installer is installing the floor in the addition and the electricians have installed the lighting and outlets. Now they are working on the mini split system for HVAC in that room. We may be able to have the room back by the weekend! Yay!
I’m sitting in my recliner watching old episodes of L&O and listening to the workers speaking Spanish. I wish I knew what they were saying.
I need to get off my duff and do a load of laundry and some dishes. We’re having tamales for dinner tonight. DDIL made them and sent them home with DH on Sunday. I’m looking forward to trying them.
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Post by chiver78 on May 24, 2022 14:53:45 GMT -5
my background noise today has been SVU. I'm happy to hear your project is coming along!
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 14:57:05 GMT -5
That sucks. Not the same thing but the electrician that started installing our exterior lights last Tuesday was supposed to come back in 2 days, to finish, after the concrete he poured for the pole light fixture dried. Mister called him Thursday, he said he wouldn’t be back until Tuesday (today) and would call Mister Monday (yesterday) to set up a time. We have not heard from him and he has not been back. Mister is talking about just finishing it himself, since the electrical has done all of the hard parts, drilling into the bricks on the house to mount those lights, and digging the big hole in the yard for the pole light and running the wiring for that. We’ve been look at at that big hole for a week now, and the red caution tape roped around it, cautioning that there are buried electrical lines. Mister wants it finished, so do I. But idk how it will work payment wise if Mister finishes it all himself, instead of waiting for the electrician to get around to finishing it whenever he feels like it. And this is a real company Mister hired to do this, not just somebody we found that said they could do it. ugh, that sucks, too. I'm also dealing with mooch for the dishwasher installation - he said he'd do it, so I didn't pay the appliance company to do it. I've been waiting since December, and now I've been staring at this damn box since last Thursday. such a tease. if it goes much longer, though, Imma ask my parents to come down for a day so Dad and I can do it. I'm sure I *could* figure it out myself, but I get squidgy on home projects with water or electrical by myself. Mister's done some level of electrical if he does HVAC, though. you guys should easily be able to take care of it if you decide to do so. idk what payment terms you guys have, but I'm sure happy I didn't pay for the whole job when I signed the contract last year. yeesh. good luck with whatever you end up doing! Yes, Mister does have electrical knowledge. He hired it out because he wasn’t confident about drilling into the bricks on the house and possibly messing them up. And also, digging the hole and running the wiring underground to connect to the electricity in the house for the post light he wanted in the front yard where the walkway meets the driveway. He doesn’t have experience with any of that that either. But all of that is done, so he can handle it from there. We haven’t paid anything yet, which I guess will work in our favor if he does finish it himself. He and the electrician will have to figure out a fair price to pay for the work the electrician did do. I would’ve thought the electrician would want to finish it asap, so he can get paid. There are other things I’d like to get done that we’d need an electrician for, like installing a vent in the bathroom in our bedroom. It meets code I guess, because there’s an operable window in the toilet closet, but really, who lets the window up every time they take a shower? And the window that opens is behind another door and not in the part of the bathroom where the shower is, anyway. Our shower gets cruddy with mildew pretty quickly, and it’s a PITA to clean, and I’m hoping adding a fan and vent will help. I believe that requires someone who knows what they’re doing, cutting a hole in the roof, which is another thing Mister isn’t confident about, which is why we had to have a company come out to properly vent our dryer. Anyway, guess what company won’t get calls from us for future projects. Once I find someone that is reasonable and does good work, I keep them lol. Or are we being unreasonable with our expectations as far as timeliness?
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Post by raeoflyte on May 24, 2022 15:09:06 GMT -5
I have a plumber scheduled Friday to install our bathroom sink. I'll start trying to work out finishing the drywall patches and see if we hear from the handyman to get the floor done or figure something out in the meantime. I also have a very nice bathroom vanity/sink sitting under my carport that eventually will need to be installed or re-homed.
But I might have a fully functioning upstairs bathroom by the weekend. It'll be like Christmas.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 15:22:04 GMT -5
I’m just sharing my thoughts, not trying to be ugly. <snip> When I go to the doctor, I still have to fill out a form every time, asking about whether I’ve traveled recently, been exposed to COVID, or have any reason to think I might have it. Why, if it doesn’t matter anymore? And I appreciate that this has been a pretty civilized discussion even though we have different levels of risk tolerance, many affected by our own or loved ones' health vulnerabilities. I fill out the same stuff and it feels pretty pointless. Zapping someone with a forehead thermometer to check for fever is a good precaution- hard to fake although a fever does not necessarily mean COVID or vice versa. Anyone can lie on a form. If your answer is "yes" to any of them maybe you shouldn't be in the office in the first place unless it's to seek treatment for suspected COVID.Thursday I'm donating blood and will answer honestly about travel. I'm planning to take one of the freebie tests I have at home in the morning and will cancel the appointment if it's positive. I said I was going to just leave it alone, but….. How is the bolded any different from being in public period if you can answer yes to any of the questions? I get it about work and school (kinda), but socializing and going here and there is okay, when it’s not okay to be in medical facilities?
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 15:48:59 GMT -5
Mister loves the smell of jasmine, so being the good girlfriend that I am , I ordered a jasmine plant to try to grow for him. It took so long for it to ship, that I actually kind of forgot about it. I thought about it today, and checked my email, and lo and behold, it was delivered Saturday. The first time Mister and I checked the mailbox here, it was a couple of days after we moved, and we were outside at night talking about lights and stuff and wandered up to the mailbox to get the mail out. The mailbox is encased in brick, and in a flowerbed. That night, there were huge bugs running around the bricks surrounding the mailbox, and at least 3 more INSIDE the mailbox when Mister opened it. Needless to say, we left the mail in there that night. A few months later, while DS was visiting, him and DD took pictures and video of all the HUGE spiders hanging from webs in that flowerbed. Pictures and videos I never looked at, and told them to show Mister instead of me. So, of course, I never get the mail because I’m scared. But in my defense, it was creepy enough that Mister doesn’t even like getting the mail, and he doesn’t every day. Maybe once/week, unless he knows from watching informed delivery that there is something important in it. That is the same flowerbed I had Mister help me plant flowers in last spring. Mister did all the digging and planting, I just supervised while keeping an eye out for big ass bugs. I’ve not been really good at tending to those plants other than watering them from a safe distance. But they are thriving anyway, thank goodness. So today I was gonna be brave and get the mail because that’s where the jasmine plant was. I opened the mailbox, which was full, and the first thing I saw was a big ass bug. I tried to be brave, and threw the catalog the bug was on on the ground, but it wouldn’t come out of the catalog. So I tried to be brave again, and slid the jasmine package out of the mailbox and let it fall on the ground in case there was a bug on it too. I didn’t see another bug, but there was still the problem of the mail on the ground with the big bug in it. I scooted it around with my foot, prepared to run when it came out, but it refused to come out of hiding. My nerves couldn’t take any more, so I left the catalog on the ground and didn’t get the rest of the mail out of the mailbox. I was embarrassed to tell Mister what I did, but whatever. I don’t like being like that, and I really, really wish I wasn’t, but it is a real and genuine fear for me. I’m trying to work on it because I want to grow stuff outside and I know that means dealing with bugs, but Good Lord, I’m not ready yet. There’s no telling how long it will be before I try to get the mail again, I don’t care what’s in the mailbox. Well, maybe a check with some commas…… Imma go get that, damn some bugs lol. No check with commas, I can keep waiting until Mister gets the mail lol. Fuck that mailbox. I would not be going near that mailbox, ever, for anything, until it had been drenched (inside and out, as well as surrounding area) with the Ortho 6+ months bug spray. And even then, I'd be very freaked out. I think you did very well, all things considered. I'm not happy about my fear/phobia either. I feel lucky to leave the house sometimes. I do the best I can. I meant to respond to this, but got distracted. A few days after Mister and I went to the mailbox that night, the doorbell rang. When I answered the door, it was the pest control company that the previous homeowners used, coming to do whatever they do. I was surprised that anyone had been working to “control pests “ here after the mailbox incident, and said so. He told me he could make sure he sprayed around the mailbox really good, and give us a good deal….. if we continued the service, we could just pay what the previous homeowner was paying. Ummm…. No thanks. We’ve sprayed the shit out of that area. Many times. But like DD said soon after we moved here, we don’t have normal pest control kind of bugs, we have real wildlife kind of bugs. LOL! It’s only funny because it’s true. I’ve seen so many insects here that I’ve never seen before in my whole life.
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Post by cooper88 on May 24, 2022 15:49:05 GMT -5
It's actually raining here. I don't think it will be much, but honestly I don't remember the last time it rained. We're in a drought and we need this so much.
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Post by countrygirl2 on May 24, 2022 15:49:47 GMT -5
I think a lot of the weak, elderly, and sick have already died from covid. What may be left now are people with more resistance. No evidence, just a thought as the million plus that died likely had little resistance. Not sure how many were vaccinated, but I'm sure all that is being studied.
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Post by giramomma on May 24, 2022 15:56:38 GMT -5
And now the missy isn't feeling well.
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Post by countrygirl2 on May 24, 2022 15:56:43 GMT -5
Hubs tilled the garden for me even though he was tired, afraid it's going to rain tomorrow.
I planted my 2 purple peppers with replacements. I pulled the wheeled seat over them to maybe protect from the raccoons.
Replanted green beans, some came up, turnips, and spinach. I have snow peas and beets to put out, but didn't have the twine and stakes.
Also planted a long row of hollyhocks and sunflowers. Hubs made me a long strip down the fence, hope they grow, will look so pretty there.
My grape vines are loaded with tiny grapes, but something is eating the leaves off so I dusted them all. I'm thinking of putting window screening over them in case its rabbits or some small animal like that.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 15:58:00 GMT -5
I also meant to add that I had the jasmine plant in a pot by the time Mister got home. He got excited when I told him what it was and told me HE’s going to take care of it himself. Whaaaat? Mister has not been interested in any of my plants, he just indulges me as I keep buying them because I like trying to grow stuff. But if he wants to take responsibility for tending to the Jasmine, I’m definitely going to let him. If he turns out to have a green thumb, I’m gonna be SO jealous.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 24, 2022 16:01:13 GMT -5
And I appreciate that this has been a pretty civilized discussion even though we have different levels of risk tolerance, many affected by our own or loved ones' health vulnerabilities. I fill out the same stuff and it feels pretty pointless. Zapping someone with a forehead thermometer to check for fever is a good precaution- hard to fake although a fever does not necessarily mean COVID or vice versa. Anyone can lie on a form. If your answer is "yes" to any of them maybe you shouldn't be in the office in the first place unless it's to seek treatment for suspected COVID.Thursday I'm donating blood and will answer honestly about travel. I'm planning to take one of the freebie tests I have at home in the morning and will cancel the appointment if it's positive. I said I was going to just leave it alone, but….. How is the bolded any different from being in public period if you can answer yes to any of the questions? I get it about work and school (kinda), but socializing and going here and there is okay, when it’s not okay to be in medical facilities? IDK at this point I am assuming anyone in public with me knows the risks and their tolerances and if they were that afraid of catching it they wouldn't be on a plane or have done whatever they can to protect themselves. Medical facilities are already full of sick people. As several of my bosses who worked at the med center have said hospitals are actually THE WORST place to be when sick because you're around other equally sick people but maybe not sick with what you have and now you're going to catch that too. It's much more likely I'm going to be in a medical facility if I am on medication and/or have a chronic condition that needs managed. DH's doctor insisted that he come in and refused to do viral for his medication during the height of COVID. If he went off cold turkey it would have been a nightmare. We fired that one and found one willing to prescribe virtually during 2020. You can't escape sick in a doctor setting. Anyone going to the doctor should be more aware of themselves and those around them.
I'd be all for except for maybe elderly people, disable people and littles to continue to stay in your vehicle until called. Or make a separate room for people who may have contagious illness so they don't pick the one seat next to me despite the entire freaking room being empty. I started thinking about it after it went away, waiting rooms are rather gross and you're forced to go to the doctor's office for most things. I can choose not to travel or modify my plans if need be. It's pretty rare that I would HAVE to fly anywhere.
Unless they offer virtual, which many around here aren't anymore now, I can't choose to NOT physically go to my doctor's office if I need help.
I wouldn't walk into my grandmother's nursing home right now if exposed either. That's a hoard of elderly people who don't get a say if I walk in the door and cannot escape the situation. I'm forcing people who have no other options but to stay trapped with me to be exposed to me in a medical or nursing home type setting. You chose to get on a plane. The guidelines for exposure are right on the CDC website so you are just as aware of it as I am. You chose to accept the risk that you may be sitting next to an asymptomatic person on the plane. If I'm coughing and hacking on you that's one thing and rude regardless. But if I am following the rules I hardly consider that on the level of being a Trumpster or that I am "unwittingly" exposing you since I would assume if you are traveling you have made yourself aware of the possibilities of exposure before doing so. You consented to get on the plane despite all the potential risks involved. You bought a ticket, you boarded, you sat down. At any point in there you could have chosen not to take the risk of asymptomatic exposure. We can argue all day long about people who "have" to be on the plane but do they really? If you are an able bodied adult there are options you could explore or have taken at this point in the pandemic. If you "have" to travel for work I am going to assume you are well aware of the risks and have chosen to keep your job. So if I am following the rules I fail to see how anyone is a bad guy. Going to see my grandma and potentially exposing Betty who has dementia therefore no agency in what happens to her? That's not cool. Same with someone who if they don't go to the doctor is postponing life saving treatment. Dying is not an acceptable alternative to being exposed. Getting another job, missing a wedding, postponing a funeral may not pleasant alternatives but they ARE perfectly acceptable alternatives that you consented to opt out of and take the risk of being with an asymptomatic passenger on the plane. You've had 2 years at this point to adjust to the fact you may be on a plane with an asymptomatic person or really anywhere with one. As long as the asymptomatic person is following the rules I don't see the problem. We're two adults who I assume know the rules, know the risks and consented to take them otherwise why are we both at the airport?
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Post by weltschmerz on May 24, 2022 16:04:47 GMT -5
I just got back from the ENT doc. He had to sign off on my hearing test so I can get a free hearing aid. Right now I'm watching a documentary on Jimmy Hoffa.
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Post by weltschmerz on May 24, 2022 16:26:02 GMT -5
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Post by chiver78 on May 24, 2022 16:59:15 GMT -5
tots and pears, yep! 👍
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Post by weltschmerz on May 24, 2022 17:23:33 GMT -5
The R will claim it's a false flag operation, because 'they're coming for our guns!' The Ds will wring their hands and say 'something must be done!' In the end, NOTHING will change. Nothing.
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Post by finnime on May 24, 2022 17:25:24 GMT -5
This is purely horrific. Elementary school. Elementary school.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 17:32:30 GMT -5
Yes, again. I came in from sitting on the deck with DH enjoying a lovely cool spring afternoon and found this story. I'm trying to get my shite together enough to fix supper. This past week was the anniversary of the Santa Fe school shooting and a dear friend's daughter survived that. With PTSD and all that means for the family. I can't even wrap my head around the families that sent their kid to elementary school on one of the last days of the school year and got that call. Or the teacher's family. Yet it goes on and on and on in towns large and small. I was planning to go to a movie on Memorial Day but we all know that copycat killings happen and I don't want to die watching a film like the folks did in 2012 in Aurora. I'm beyond pissed because I've attended too damn many mass shooting trainings and drills over the last ten years. I'm effing pissed at having to go to the grocery store, or the movie theatre, or anywhere else and immediately scan my environment for potential threats, possible exits, anything that looks "off". I don't have a clue about the answer but I'm incredibly grateful for a safe space here to vent.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 17:41:45 GMT -5
I said I was going to just leave it alone, but….. How is the bolded any different from being in public period if you can answer yes to any of the questions? I get it about work and school (kinda), but socializing and going here and there is okay, when it’s not okay to be in medical facilities? I was addressing your specific example of questionnaires in medical facilities (and, in my case, the blood bank) but if I tested positive I'd pretty much stay home. I'm retired. There's no place I HAVE to be and I'm sure I could figure out how to have groceries delivered. I say "pretty much" because I'd likely do yard work or maybe take a walk outdoors if I felt like it but I sure wouldn't be going to restaurants or concerts and would stay away from church, BF and DS and his family. Just my opinion.
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Post by lurkyloo on May 24, 2022 17:56:22 GMT -5
I am not high risk for severe illness, but I continue to mask as a courtesy to others. You never know who is immunocompromised, or who may be flying despite their risk because they don’t feel they have a choice. My dear friend is immunocompromised and tested negative for antibodies after 3 full vaccine doses. I understand the practical issues, that it’s just not possible to quarantine for five or ten days every time you might have been exposed...but we’re basically condemning high risk people to just stay at home all the time and that’s not fair either I don’t have a good answer. Couple of points-to the best of my knowledge people don’t test positive on rapid antigen tests for months after they are no longer infectious. That seems like more of an issue with PCR tests. Second, I really enjoy not getting sick (although I never realized how bad my allergies were before.). Third, we are spending nine hours in an RV with my elderly and none too healthy in laws in a little over a week so my risk tolerance is basically nonexistent right now.
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Post by lurkyloo on May 24, 2022 18:00:58 GMT -5
I got on a plane in order to see my father before he died. There are different levels of „have to“ but I do take issue with the stance that all air travel is unnecessary.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 18:05:15 GMT -5
I said I was going to just leave it alone, but….. How is the bolded any different from being in public period if you can answer yes to any of the questions? I get it about work and school (kinda), but socializing and going here and there is okay, when it’s not okay to be in medical facilities? I was addressing your specific example of questionnaires in medical facilities (and, in my case, the blood bank) but if I tested positive I'd pretty much stay home. I'm retired. There's no place I HAVE to be and I'm sure I could figure out how to have groceries delivered. I say "pretty much" because I'd likely do yard work or maybe take a walk outdoors if I felt like it but I sure wouldn't be going to restaurants or concerts and would stay away from church, BF and DS and his family. Just my opinion. So it seems to me that the bottom line is you at least agree with me about not being out and about around other people and socializing if you test positive for COVID. When Mister got home from work, I told him about the conversation here and asked his opinion. Some of you might remember that Mister and I have never been on the same page concerning COVID, I took it more seriously and was much more concerned about it than him from day 1. We’ve had arguments and tension in our household because of our differing opinions concerning COVID. Given all that, I felt it was safe to ASSume he wouldn’t automatically be on my side if he felt like I was being ridiculous. But, lo and behold, he agreed with me. I won’t write what he actually said, but he did agree that what I said about the situation here and to him, made sense and I’m not way out in left field somewhere. Anyway, I’m done with it.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 18:20:31 GMT -5
So it seems to me that the bottom line is you at least agree with me about not being out and about around other people and socializing if you test positive for COVID. Yes. Off of the COVID topic: I'm still catching up on my sleep and unpacking. Tomorrow will be crazy- I've got a company coming in to fix I hope) my broken garage door spring since my usual handyman hasn't been able to get a replacement (it's on "back order") and I also heard from the window company- they had a cancellation and would tomorrow be OK for replacing the 3 windows? Well, why not? I really need to clean the house anyway. I need to mow the lawn more but it was raining when I got up and it looks like I'm going to have to wait till Thursday for the rain to clear. Not much I can do about it. The poor birds picked the feeders clean while I was gone. Feeders refilled and they're happily chowing away again. And, in a happy piece of news- I got snowflake money in the mail. Last month I changed insurance companies and there was still time left on my old policies. I cancelled the old ones and got a refund to my credit card- but it turned out that was for only one of the policies. Today I got hard copy checks for the other two, totalling $277. Glad I didn't just assume it was a confirmation of the cancellations.
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Post by giramomma on May 24, 2022 18:29:26 GMT -5
The preferred dress fits. It's second choice color. First choice color didn't come in time. But that is OK.
The nice thing is the dresses that we need to return we can return to a bricks and mortar store. We just need to get underthings now. And maybe shoes.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 18:59:09 GMT -5
When I come here daily I see posts about kids just going into daycare, kids going into kindergarten, teens graduating middle school and being royal pains about their graduation dresses. Hug them all close every single day even when they might be on your last nerve I'm going to watch the election returns, drink way too much, and wonder if the old cat will be alive in the morning. Goodnight y'all
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Post by toomuchreality on May 24, 2022 19:00:18 GMT -5
My next door neighbor went to the hospital toward the end of February. He never returned and no one has heard from him since the end of March. His place is being cleaned out, so they can rent it again. Today, I went over and asked the maintenance guy to turn down his stereo, after hearing it all morning, over the sound of my tv. The bass was up really loud. It was around 1pm. He told me they'd be done for the day around 5. I took that to mean, I am supposed to put up with it until 5. Um, no.
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Post by raeoflyte on May 24, 2022 19:24:36 GMT -5
One of our old friends, dh's best friend from middle school passed away this morning. She had kids in high school and we just loved them so much. We lost touch. She was in a bad relationship and it was impossible to stay close knowing we couldn't help her or the kids. We tried as much as dumbass 20 year olds can at least. Dh even called cps at one point and they questioned him as if he was the one who hit the child, but never checked on or followed up with the family. We eventually reconnected after she was distengaled from the abuser, but it was the grocery store catch ups or fb posts. We saw her and the kids for a real visit right after our son was born. So 13 years ago... I saw her and her dad recently and we said, oh we'll get together. She had another child who is queer and wanted to meet dh and I. Good intentions and all, but of course I didn't do do anything to actually meet up with her.
Her older son reached out to me on messenger to tell us what happened. I didn't even see it until hours later.
It means a lot to me that he reached out. I think dh and I's biggest regret is not being there for them.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 19:29:19 GMT -5
One of our old friends, dh's best friend from middle school passed away this morning. She had kids in high school and we just loved them so much. We lost touch. She was in a bad relationship and it was impossible to stay close knowing we couldn't help her or the kids. We tried as much as dumbass 20 year olds can at least. Dh even called cps at one point and they questioned him as if he was the one who hit the child, but never checked on or followed up with the family. We eventually reconnected after she was distengaled from the abuser, but it was the grocery store catch ups or fb posts. We saw her and the kids for a real visit right after our son was born. So 13 years ago... I saw her and her dad recently and we said, oh we'll get together. She had another child who is queer and wanted to meet dh and I. Good intentions and all, but of course I didn't do do anything to actually meet up with her. Her older son reached out to me on messenger to tell us what happened. I didn't even see it until hours later. It means a lot to me that he reached out. I think dh and I's biggest regret is not being there for them.
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Post by giramomma on May 24, 2022 20:19:58 GMT -5
When I come here daily I see posts about kids just going into daycare, kids going into kindergarten, teens graduating middle school and being royal pains about their graduation dresses. Hug them all close every single day even when they might be on your last nerve I'm going to watch the election returns, drink way too much, and wonder if the old cat will be alive in the morning. Goodnight y'all Oh, trust me. I do. I've got a daily reminder that I could be 6 feet under right now. All I have to do is look across the street and look at my neighbors...
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raeoflyte
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Post by raeoflyte on May 24, 2022 21:10:24 GMT -5
And the shooting today....I just feel heavy. I was walking the dog and thinking about dd telling me about shooter drills. Ds never says much about them, but dd will tell me where and how they hide. Who cried during the drill. How she learned the right way to hide in a bathroom stall and to stay there no matter how long until a teacher gets you.
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