what are you doing right now?

[CCL]

Dec 20, 2022 18:55:06 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

Made good progress today. Our beds had everything washed including the mattress pads. I got hubs to flip the mattresses around, can only do end for end not over. While I was ironing hubs made up the beds for me. DD's pillow cases and blankets washed, clean sheets and pad yesterday. Still need to wash our lap blankets.

My hips have been bothering me when I get up in the mornings. I've been thinking of a new mattress for some time but we both need to get them at the same time. Hubs thinks his is ok.

Got DD's pills set for 2 weeks so we don't have to take all the bottles. Going to do mine next.

Dinner is over. Hubs 3 shirts and pants are ironed. I cleaned up the spilled litter box downstairs  and there was a broke jar in a pile from a month ago I cleaned up also. Then swept part of the basement.

So drying that stuff, throwing some stuff away in the fridge or freezing it. We are eating Subway for dinner tomorrow evening, so I don't have to cook or clean up. Kitties going to vet tomorrow for boarding, I will miss my babies. I like to come home to a clean fridge, kitchen and bedrooms. Would like to have mopping and everything done but doubt I will this time.

Hubs was not happy with Smoke. He was trying to fix the TV and Smoke was fighting with him I guess. Saw 2 scratches on his arm, little ones and he said a bite. He sure blows it out of proportion. Cat draws a bit of blood and its like he was eaten alive. Kitty was likely trying to play. My baby is beside me all curled up and asleep, my little sweetie. They are beautiful kitties now, so soft and velvety.

Ok, off to the shower!

I don't blame your hubby for being upset. It would never be ok for a pet in my house to scratch or bite anyone. 

[daisylu]

Not sleeping. Going to have to find a way to ditch DH in order to get some shopping done today. Winter storm is now scheduled to move in earlier than expected on Thursday, with temps low enough over the weekend to make sure that whatever we get hangs around. Predictions run from rain/freezing rain to 5 inches of ice and snow. We are ALWAYS right on the line.

[toomuchreality]

Dec 20, 2022 12:22:33 GMT -5 snapdragon said:

It's been a morning -

Started about 12;30 Am when someone ordered Door Dash and they attempted to deliver to me instead of the apartment complex next door. I was sleeping pretty well before that happened. -- I am going to have to put the sign up again.

Really tired and want a nap sooo bad but I am dealing with paperwork instead.

The headache I have had for the last few days is much better but still present due to weather (I hope).

What does your sign say?

[giramomma]

Well. I was looking forward to a good day.

Woken up by DH throwing up.

I should try to get back to sleep.

[finnime]

Good morning, savvy and sage invisipeeps, preparing for weather and not. Welcome to Wednesday. I hope your day brings you peace and plans proceed as hoped. Plus, you get cookies!

I'm in a mixed mood. Largely I'm ecstatic because my book is live! On Amazon. I've ordered some copies to give as gifts to kids in my life. And other copies for their grandparents. It's live! Counting Tiny Dinosaurs

What has me really sort of frantic is I don't know when DS is leaving NYC for Denver. It looks like the weather will be extremely rough from Missouri on. He hasn't had much experience driving since he moved to NY 6 years ago. He's driven, just not a lot. This trip, moving, he's taking a UHaul van. I'm worried. Big snow, ice, temperatures below 10--is dangerous. And he's my son. I'm going to call as soon as I think he's up and see what's going on. It's possible he's already under way.

We saw yesterday at the beach tiny dinosaurs getting up from their slumber party, putting on shoes and makeup and getting ready for the day.

[taz157]

Dec 21, 2022 6:20:09 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Well. I was looking forward to a good day.

Woken up by DH throwing up.

I should try to get back to sleep.

Jeezy Peezy! It’s seems your house can’t go one day lately without someone throwing up. Hopefully he’s the last one to do it for a long time. 🤞

Going back to sleep sounds good too!

[giramomma]

how exciting about the book finnime

[toomuchreality]

Dec 21, 2022 6:26:55 GMT -5 finnime said:

Good morning, savvy and sage invisipeeps, preparing for weather and not. Welcome to Wednesday. I hope your day brings you peace and plans proceed as hoped. Plus, you get cookies!

I'm in a mixed mood. Largely I'm ecstatic because my book is live! On Amazon. I've ordered some copies to give as gifts to kids in my life. And other copies for their grandparents. It's live! Counting Tiny Dinosaurs

What has me really sort of frantic is I don't know when DS is leaving NYC for Denver. It looks like the weather will be extremely rough from Missouri on. He hasn't had much experience driving since he moved to NY 6 years ago. He's driven, just not a lot. This trip, moving, he's taking a UHaul van. I'm worried. Big snow, ice, temperatures below 10--is dangerous. And he's my son. I'm going to call as soon as I think he's up and see what's going on. It's possible he's already under way.

We saw yesterday at the beach tiny dinosaurs getting up from their slumber party, putting on shoes and makeup and getting ready for the day.

Congrats on your book!
I'm going to talk to DD2 today about ordering it, for my grands!
It's so exciting!

[Anne_in_VA]

Dec 21, 2022 6:26:55 GMT -5 finnime said:

Good morning, savvy and sage invisipeeps, preparing for weather and not. Welcome to Wednesday. I hope your day brings you peace and plans proceed as hoped. Plus, you get cookies!

I'm in a mixed mood. Largely I'm ecstatic because my book is live! On Amazon. I've ordered some copies to give as gifts to kids in my life. And other copies for their grandparents. It's live! Counting Tiny Dinosaurs

What has me really sort of frantic is I don't know when DS is leaving NYC for Denver. It looks like the weather will be extremely rough from Missouri on. He hasn't had much experience driving since he moved to NY 6 years ago. He's driven, just not a lot. This trip, moving, he's taking a UHaul van. I'm worried. Big snow, ice, temperatures below 10--is dangerous. And he's my son. I'm going to call as soon as I think he's up and see what's going on. It's possible he's already under way.

We saw yesterday at the beach tiny dinosaurs getting up from their slumber party, putting on shoes and makeup and getting ready for the day.

I went and ordered one copy for my grandkids.  Thanks for letting us know!  They’ll love it.

[giramomma]

Dec 21, 2022 6:29:56 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Dec 21, 2022 6:20:09 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Well. I was looking forward to a good day.

Woken up by DH throwing up.

I should try to get back to sleep.

Jeezy Peezy! It’s seems your house can’t go one day lately without someone throwing up. Hopefully he’s the last one to do it for a long time. 🤞

Going back to sleep sounds good too!

Yeah. The last time we were this sick was February of 20. All of us got the same thing at the same time. The only time three bathrooms weren't enough for 6 people.

Turns out I couldn't go back to sleep.

[andi9899]

Dec 20, 2022 22:09:36 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I took Mister out into the garage because I had something to say that I didn’t want to be overheard.

I reminded him how when my Mom came to stay with me, he stopped even coming to visit me for a while, let alone help me with any of the new stuff I had on my plate, and I reminded him of how upset I was with him during that time. Which he said he remembers.

I told him that I’m not trying to be a bitch, and I’m not interested in tit for tat, I just wanted the record to show the difference between what he did back then, and what I’m doing now when his parents need help and his Dad is staying with us.

He said that he just wasn’t comfortable continuing as we had been when my Mom started staying with me. I asked if he thinks I’m comfortable with his Dad wandering around the house in his boxers sometimes and feeling like it’s on me to try to make sure I don’t see him nekkid. Never mind that even though he does prepare meals for his Dad, him being here is still more work for me. And I’m okay with that. I just want it to be acknowledged that he handled me differently when it was my parent.

I told him it reminded me of a coworker whose Mom was really sick the last year of her life. My coworker and some of his siblings (there are 9 of them, I think) took turns going home (a couple hours away) on weekends to give their sisters that were caring for their Mom every day a break. This coworker’s wife bitched and complained about the weekends he went to spend with his Mom. The wife refused to go with him, she just bitched and complained about it. His Mom died. Less than a year later, the wife’s Mom got sick enough that she couldn’t live by herself. The wife moved her Mom from out of state, to live with them, and didn’t think she should at least have a conversation with my coworker, her husband, before doing all of that. Like her Mom was more special or important than his Mom was. And her Mom living with them was a lot more and totally different than when he’d been going to spend a weekend with his Mom once a month.

So my point to Mister was how things look different when it’s you and your family, and you expect whatever you do to try to see about them, to be okay. And how he didn’t give me the same grace with my situation with my Mom, that I’ve been giving him.

I don’t want him to do anything differently, I’m good with his Dad being here if we can care for him properly. I just wanted to make a point. I’ve let it go how he did me back then, but I haven’t forgotten it. That’s one of my “toxic traits”, I don’t forget SHIT. So, I just wanted him to know that I haven’t forgotten and I wanted him to acknowledge the difference in how we’ve handled things.

I'm confused. If you've let it go, why bring it up? You yourself have said you wouldn't move your mom in with you. You've also said you don't have a problem with him being there. What's the point of an "I'm better than you" conversation? Or is it just to be "toxic"?

[andi9899]

Putting in a Target order before the snow. We're expecting 2-4" which is better than the blizzard we were supposed to get. Trying to think about things I may be forgetting.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

We made it to Fort Lauderdale last night.  Our flight left over an hour late, and by the time we got out luggage and an Uber, we got to the hotel closer to 7:30.  By the time we got out room, and I was able to change out of a sweater for a t shirt and go to dinner, it was 8.  Good Mexican place for dinner last night for dinner, nothing like we have in WA…..it was more like TX.  Both of us crashed last night. 
Today, I want to maybe make a Target run to pick up some last minute things and we are scheduled to have dinner with friends tonight.  We board tomorrow around noonish, I guess.  

[andi9899]

Dec 21, 2022 6:26:55 GMT -5 finnime said:

Good morning, savvy and sage invisipeeps, preparing for weather and not. Welcome to Wednesday. I hope your day brings you peace and plans proceed as hoped. Plus, you get cookies!

I'm in a mixed mood. Largely I'm ecstatic because my book is live! On Amazon. I've ordered some copies to give as gifts to kids in my life. And other copies for their grandparents. It's live! Counting Tiny Dinosaurs

What has me really sort of frantic is I don't know when DS is leaving NYC for Denver. It looks like the weather will be extremely rough from Missouri on. He hasn't had much experience driving since he moved to NY 6 years ago. He's driven, just not a lot. This trip, moving, he's taking a UHaul van. I'm worried. Big snow, ice, temperatures below 10--is dangerous. And he's my son. I'm going to call as soon as I think he's up and see what's going on. It's possible he's already under way.

We saw yesterday at the beach tiny dinosaurs getting up from their slumber party, putting on shoes and makeup and getting ready for the day.

Going to have to order this for grandbaby. Yay!

[lurkyloo]

Dec 20, 2022 20:25:07 GMT -5 @athena53 said:

Dec 20, 2022 19:54:41 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

DH told me yesterday that someone had proposed a cookie swap at his work.  I asked whether he’d told them his wife would divorce him if he suggested it, he responded that that was why he hadn’t told me about it until it was over.  Good husband 

No reason DH couldn't bake cookies himself if he were so inclined (DH was a WONDERFUL cookie baker) or bring something fancy from the bakery.

If he were so inclined...but he is/was not in the slightest.  However he correctly concluded that I would feel obligated if I knew about it, and frustrated with myself if I decided it was too much, and decided not to open that can of worms predicated on my lack of healthy boundaries.  

[minnesotapaintlady]

I panic Christmas shopped last night and am mostly done after deciding the liquor store was the best place for most of the gifts.

I'm taking my computer home with me tonight and hunkering down for the next 3 days while this crap goes through.

[swamp]

Dec 21, 2022 9:33:11 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

I panic Christmas shopped last night and am mostly done after deciding the liquor store was the best place for most of the gifts.

I'm taking my computer home with me tonight and hunkering down for the next 3 days while this crap goes through.

I think it's the perfect place to find gifts. 

[cooper88]

I'm not feeling super motivated today. I need to visit one nursing home and four assisted livings today, which will include about three hours total of driving. I'm just looking in the mirror and saying "It's showtime!" That should do it.

[swamp]

One of the employee's wives made homemade scones.  They are fabulous 

[TheOtherMe]

I'm taking my first Uber today--if someone picks up the trip.  

[toomuchreality]

My 2 main gifts were supposed to arrive tomorrow (Thursday). We get together and celebrate on Saturday. When I checked the FedEx delivery tracking today, it says they'll be delivered on Monday. I'm not a happy camper.

[lurkyloo]

Dec 21, 2022 9:50:59 GMT -5 swamp said:

Dec 21, 2022 9:33:11 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

I panic Christmas shopped last night and am mostly done after deciding the liquor store was the best place for most of the gifts.

I'm taking my computer home with me tonight and hunkering down for the next 3 days while this crap goes through.

I think it's the perfect place to find gifts. 

Right?!?  Can’t believe I wasted all that time on Amazon!

[lurkyloo]

Dec 21, 2022 9:54:13 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

My 2 main gifts were supposed to arrive tomorrow (Thursday). We get together and celebrate on Saturday. When I checked the FedEx delivery tracking today, it says they'll be delivered on Monday. I'm not a happy camper.

Oh, that sucks!  Any possibility you could get them a little earlier by picking them up in person?  Fingers crossed the tracking is wrong.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Dec 21, 2022 10:01:33 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

Dec 21, 2022 9:50:59 GMT -5 swamp said:

I think it's the perfect place to find gifts. 

Right?!?  Can’t believe I wasted all that time on Amazon!

Brother, brother-in-law, my mom, my stepmom, my stepdad, sister, sister-in-law.  LOL

I was there late at night so the place was pretty empty.  The lady working there was like "doing a little Christmas shopping?", I said, "No, just having a rough week at work". 

[raeoflyte]

Dec 21, 2022 8:57:21 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Dec 20, 2022 22:09:36 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I took Mister out into the garage because I had something to say that I didn’t want to be overheard.

I reminded him how when my Mom came to stay with me, he stopped even coming to visit me for a while, let alone help me with any of the new stuff I had on my plate, and I reminded him of how upset I was with him during that time. Which he said he remembers.

I told him that I’m not trying to be a bitch, and I’m not interested in tit for tat, I just wanted the record to show the difference between what he did back then, and what I’m doing now when his parents need help and his Dad is staying with us.

He said that he just wasn’t comfortable continuing as we had been when my Mom started staying with me. I asked if he thinks I’m comfortable with his Dad wandering around the house in his boxers sometimes and feeling like it’s on me to try to make sure I don’t see him nekkid. Never mind that even though he does prepare meals for his Dad, him being here is still more work for me. And I’m okay with that. I just want it to be acknowledged that he handled me differently when it was my parent.

I told him it reminded me of a coworker whose Mom was really sick the last year of her life. My coworker and some of his siblings (there are 9 of them, I think) took turns going home (a couple hours away) on weekends to give their sisters that were caring for their Mom every day a break. This coworker’s wife bitched and complained about the weekends he went to spend with his Mom. The wife refused to go with him, she just bitched and complained about it. His Mom died. Less than a year later, the wife’s Mom got sick enough that she couldn’t live by herself. The wife moved her Mom from out of state, to live with them, and didn’t think she should at least have a conversation with my coworker, her husband, before doing all of that. Like her Mom was more special or important than his Mom was. And her Mom living with them was a lot more and totally different than when he’d been going to spend a weekend with his Mom once a month.

So my point to Mister was how things look different when it’s you and your family, and you expect whatever you do to try to see about them, to be okay. And how he didn’t give me the same grace with my situation with my Mom, that I’ve been giving him.

I don’t want him to do anything differently, I’m good with his Dad being here if we can care for him properly. I just wanted to make a point. I’ve let it go how he did me back then, but I haven’t forgotten it. That’s one of my “toxic traits”, I don’t forget SHIT. So, I just wanted him to know that I haven’t forgotten and I wanted him to acknowledge the difference in how we’ve handled things.

I'm confused. If you've let it go, why bring it up? You yourself have said you wouldn't move your mom in with you. You've also said you don't have a problem with him being there. What's the point of an "I'm better than you" conversation? Or is it just to be "toxic"?

If it were my dh the point would be to explain the entitlement and double standard to try to prevent it in the future.

I've had some luck. Dh at least knows that uttering "not my problem" about my problems will find him wishing they were his.

[giramomma]

Dec 21, 2022 9:33:11 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

I panic Christmas shopped last night and am mostly done after deciding the liquor store was the best place for most of the gifts.

I'm taking my computer home with me tonight and hunkering down for the next 3 days while this crap goes through.

Is it supposed to be bad for you?

We're down to 4" of snow over the next 24 hours  Some wind, but not what I consider blizzard wind.

[lurkyloo]

Trying to focus on completely reworking a high priority statement of work and wishing I was related to MPL 

[giramomma]

I still haven't found anything much for DH.

He bought himself an apple watch (on my target card)  and I was thinking about covering that for Christmas.

He doesn't really ask for much. And anything I get him ends up tucked away, anyway.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Dec 21, 2022 10:08:30 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Dec 21, 2022 8:57:21 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I'm confused. If you've let it go, why bring it up? You yourself have said you wouldn't move your mom in with you. You've also said you don't have a problem with him being there. What's the point of an "I'm better than you" conversation? Or is it just to be "toxic"?

If it were my dh the point would be to explain the entitlement and double standard to try to prevent it in the future.

I've had some luck. Dh at least knows that uttering "not my problem" about my problems will find him wishing they were his.

That's what I was thinking. If it were my DH it's about accountability, learning empathy and how to function as an adult.

I don't beat DH over the head but if he's serious part of the process is atonement.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

We've changed on the weather front too. Yesterday we were all going to die in a blizzard.

Now it's snowing today and just really fucking cold tomorrow.

Depending on roads I might be late tomorrow but probably going in.