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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 13, 2022 22:14:29 GMT -5
We had to replace a baseboard heater that the dog peed on. The smell never burned off.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 13, 2022 22:25:22 GMT -5
I'm cleaning up messes at work that I didn't create, and taking the brunt of the jerkiness from clients. Gotta say I'm not loving it.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 13, 2022 22:26:51 GMT -5
Well, It's late. And we are not frantic. That's amazing.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 13, 2022 22:27:34 GMT -5
I'm cleaning up messes at work that I didn't create, and taking the brunt of the jerkiness from clients. Gotta say I'm not loving it. That sucks. I'm sorry.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 13, 2022 22:50:28 GMT -5
About ready to go to bed. I have slept poorly the last 2 nights, hope it's better tonight, I am tired. And driving 90 miles or more round trip everyother day isn't helping me. Little guy isn't there on swimming, he needs to continue lessons, if we had a pool I could have helped him. I fear he will have to start over again next summer.
Got laundry caught up, dishes done. All but one bucket of canned beans downstairs, will take it on my last trip down tonight. Cleaned litter boxes upstairs and replaced litter in the one downstairs and vacced around it.
Took little guy to the military museum in the town where he went swimming. It is quite impressive. They have weapons from WWI to the latest war. Lots of uniforms and weapons from many of our leaders. Uniform and other items of Pattens. Tanks, landing craft, planes, a Russian tank, Korean one, German weapons, bombs, and a ton of different items. I was very impressed, had no idea it was that awesome. Also the conning tower from the USS Indianapolis. I'm not sure how impressed little guy was, but he should have been. I think he was kind of tired from swim lessons.
We plan on going fishing in the morning, but I told hubs if I can't get up early enough we will go Saturday morning, hope my worms aren't too cold in the outside fridge, but they wouldn't live in this heat. Little guy has never been fishing, never put a worm on a hook, missing out on a lot of stuff. But son doesn't do much like that either. He likes to fish but won't buy a boat, he really doesn't have time right now anyway.
I wish we had been able to get a pool, I fear grandson will have to start over next summer.
My leg is still killing me where the fly bit me. It was likely a horsefly as they just really hurt me. It's still hot though not quite as swollen. The After Bite treatment helped but didn't get rid of that. Without it likely would have been to doc.
Well, later, about to brush my teeth and head down to bed. Night All!
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 13, 2022 23:23:24 GMT -5
They called and said MIL was not wanting to eat nor drink, they think she is transitioning. The hospice contact said she could start up again and would let us know. I read about 10 years is the length of time for alzheimers to get to the end. But we will see, MIL has come out of this before.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 13, 2022 23:41:04 GMT -5
They called and said MIL was not wanting to eat nor drink, they think she is transitioning. The hospice contact said she could start up again and would let us know. I read about 10 years is the length of time for alzheimers to get to the end. But we will see, MIL has come out of this before. I feel for you, having to go through this. Hugs ♡ Even if DGS has to start over with swim lessons next year, he'll be ahead a where he'd be, had he not taken lessons this year. He'll be more comfortable and confident in the water, which is a plus. Provide him what you can, which will provide a base for him to work on in the future. He's lucky to have you, your husband and your daughter, in his life. As well as his parents. He'll be okay. ♡
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Post by giramomma on Jul 14, 2022 2:24:19 GMT -5
I really hate getting paid every two weeks. I nearly had a heart attack about how much money was left in our account. I get paid at any moment and then another two weeks.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 14, 2022 3:14:12 GMT -5
Well, almost everything is done. I am debating whether or not I should go to sleep.
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Post by finnime on Jul 14, 2022 3:17:31 GMT -5
Good morning, capable and caring invisipeeps of Y Ma'am. I hope the Thursday before you offers you smiles and hugs from those you take care of.
Yesterday's adventures included discovering that the Pod cannot be placed on the road in front of our house. The road is too busy and too narrow. Because our driveway is on a slope and so is the front yard, they are not suitable, either. Which leaves a real dilemma. Neighbors on both sides and across the street have long enough, level driveways that I'm now coveting. Need to figure something out.
Today the electrician and handyman will finish installing 3-prong outlets everwhere and adding an outlet to the kitchen for the garbage disposal and another for the over-the-range microwave, and we hope for the tv mount over the mantle in the living room. Pricing for adding electricity to the attic so we can get a gable fan installed is the final request. Handyman is also installing new light fixtures.
In more mundane news, I have got to file our Maryland taxes today. I swore I wouldn't procrastinate until they were due, but guess what. Friday is the 15th.
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 14, 2022 6:38:08 GMT -5
I'm laying in bed, not wanting to get up and log in to work. ugh.
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Post by finnime on Jul 14, 2022 6:49:03 GMT -5
Ugh! Lola (our puppy) just finished peeing INTO one of our heat vents (this house has them all on the floor). I popped the cover, and cleaned up as best I could, but the stupid vent does an immediate turn underneath the flooring. So now I'm wondering if our house is going to smell this Winter when we turn on the heat. Leave it to me to get a corgi that pees into a vent, rather than sleeping on one. Try chasing the pee down with a pour of this miracle: Rocco & Roxie Odor Eliminator. I'm going to go after the cat pee stink in my basement with it after I clean as best I can with TSP. I'm optimistic that it will work.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 14, 2022 7:59:37 GMT -5
We are doing well. I am pleased. And I kept my cool. Not that I'm not cool, but I get louder when I am stressed. No loudness today..
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 14, 2022 8:26:47 GMT -5
I'm procrastinating on my dissertation, so I just watched Destination Wedding with Keanu Reeves and Winona Ryder. I didn't even know about the existence of this movie until today. I thought it was great. Adding this to my list to watch.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2022 8:27:00 GMT -5
I'm trying to get my rear end moving, with little success. After lunch I have to go over to the church, first to clean and then to be there for the second half of the blood drive. I just bit the bullet and bought a seat on a BA nonstop from Dubrovnik to Heathrow for my return from the E. Europe trip. I'd scheduled one through Paris with an overnight stay at LHR before flying home but with all the craziness I didn't want to risk a connection. I was able to redeem a small pile of BA Avios points I've had forever to cut the price by about $100, which helped. Sometimes I spend $$ to save my sanity.
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Post by flamingo on Jul 14, 2022 8:35:28 GMT -5
How is it not friday yet? I think today and tomorrow are going to be long days. I front loaded a bunch of meetings this week, so I'm not catching up on admin tasks that desperately need done, but I just don't wanna! Plus, it's hot as hades here, which makes me not want to go outside, but also getting outside is usually my sanity saver. Waaahhh!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2022 9:04:09 GMT -5
They called and said MIL was not wanting to eat nor drink, they think she is transitioning. The hospice contact said she could start up again and would let us know. I read about 10 years is the length of time for alzheimers to get to the end. But we will see, MIL has come out of this before. I'm sorry your family is having to go through this
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 14, 2022 9:18:12 GMT -5
Trying to motivate myself to work. I think I'm headed straight home tomorrow after I leave and taking a nap. Been browsing horseback riding prices in Estes Park instead. Good grief. I am with DH we are probably going to skip it again this year. Gwen is pissed but when you factor in the cost and on top of that it is customary to tip it's not a small part of our vacation budget. DH and I do not enjoy it enough to make it worth it and I am not convinced Abby is going to like it that much either. There are other cheaper ways to achieve the same effect out there. I did find a place that if just DH and Gwen go it isn't too bad but she would need to choose that or what she wants DH to do for her birthday gift. We can't afford both and even if we could I wouldn't because I am not setting the bar that high. She needs to learn to prioritize her wants and it's better she learn it while under our roof and we are in control of the outcome. This actually sounds more awesome and is way cheaper. I am not sure I am willing to pilot one but I'd go down with DH once while the kids waited up top. www.mustangmountaincoaster.com/passes-best-mountain-coaster/
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 14, 2022 9:23:27 GMT -5
Thank you. That is my feeling, too. This is something my sister and I agree on. She told him no a few times and he was crushed and cried and cried. He didn't do anything in 24 hours where I needed to say no. I think they are in for it, too. They are smart. It usually doesn't take them long to figure out who will let them get away with things. My grandbabies mind me just fine. I don't ask much from them, but they are learning. Things like, if you stand in the wagon, you don't get to ride in it. If you throw a toy, you don't get to play with it for a while. We are working on table manners, so they sit quietly in their seats until everyone has finished eating. I did the same things with mine when they were little. They've never had Ipads. They can watch PBS or Disney with us, but that's it for screens. We play a lot. He minded grandma and she definitely had rules from when she raised her own children. Most have not changed. Her rules were pretty much your rules for toys, eating, etc. I didn't eat with him and I really can't tell you why. I felt like I needed to be right with him. I know in my heart he didn't need for me to be right there. He feeds himself. The iPad is set for YouTube kids and they are all educational videos. It's where he learned to count, the alphabet frontwards and backwards, hexagons and pentagons and all kinds of things. I still think he wants time with his parents rather than the iPad, but that's my opinion and he isn't my kid. Grandma kept him playing and doing things, many new to him, and he never asked for the iPad. Since he didn't ask, she never gave it to him. She said the games started as soon as they returned from Costa Rica so I guess I shouldn't have been surprised. I think I was shocked by the major difference in his behavior with my few rules and their no rules and how he switched immediately to their no rules when they arrived. I'm guessing he does the same thing with day care because they get told how good he is.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 14, 2022 9:27:14 GMT -5
What a wonderful night of sleep I had. I knew I was very, very tired. Was asleep by 10 and didn't wake up until just after 9 AM. I won't have that luxury tomorrow because I will be driving home.
I am totally planning on a nap. My introverted brain has been on overload for almost a week so this is the day to recharge.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 14, 2022 9:29:13 GMT -5
They are smart. It usually doesn't take them long to figure out who will let them get away with things. My grandbabies mind me just fine. I don't ask much from them, but they are learning. Things like, if you stand in the wagon, you don't get to ride in it. If you throw a toy, you don't get to play with it for a while. We are working on table manners, so they sit quietly in their seats until everyone has finished eating. I did the same things with mine when they were little. They've never had Ipads. They can watch PBS or Disney with us, but that's it for screens. We play a lot. He minded grandma and she definitely had rules from when she raised her own children. Most have not changed. Her rules were pretty much your rules for toys, eating, etc. I didn't eat with him and I really can't tell you why. I felt like I needed to be right with him. I know in my heart he didn't need for me to be right there. He feeds himself. The iPad is set for YouTube kids and they are all educational videos. It's where he learned to count, the alphabet frontwards and backwards, hexagons and pentagons and all kinds of things. I still think he wants time with his parents rather than the iPad, but that's my opinion and he isn't my kid. Grandma kept him playing and doing things, many new to him, and he never asked for the iPad. Since he didn't ask, she never gave it to him. She said the games started as soon as they returned from Costa Rica so I guess I shouldn't have been surprised. I think I was shocked by the major difference in his behavior with my few rules and their no rules and how he switched immediately to their no rules when they arrived. I'm guessing he does the same thing with day care because they get told how good he is. Kids are quite perceptive. They know which adults they can and cannot get away with stuff with. Abby and Gwen's personalities change at FIL's house because he lets them get away with murder. We've had to talk with him about that because then we have had to deal with the fall out. But given his age and everything that has happened we decided not to make it a hill to die on. Instead the kids got the fear of God put into them by me that grandpa may let you do X but you try that with me you'll regret it. It's also why I am not terribly broken up if Abby never plays with those neighbor kids again. I much prefer her playing with the friend whose mom parents similar to us. Abby is a totally different kid at her house and after coming home vs the ones she is now "on a break" with.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 14, 2022 9:36:23 GMT -5
The parents got upset with grandma because she fed him frozen macaroni and cheese. Said they told her to never feed that again. She lives on a farm and there are no fancy grocery stores available like they have in Toronto.
They buy already prepared food at stores and restaurants and heat it up because they don't cook. So they buy lasagna and spaghetti and curry for him and heat it up.
Grandma made him both lasagna and spaghetti and meat balls from scratch but she is a terrible grandma because she fed him frozen macaroni and cheese for one meal.
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 14, 2022 9:38:01 GMT -5
Trying to motivate myself to work. I think I'm headed straight home tomorrow after I leave and taking a nap. Been browsing horseback riding prices in Estes Park instead. Good grief. I am with DH we are probably going to skip it again this year. Gwen is pissed but when you factor in the cost and on top of that it is customary to tip it's not a small part of our vacation budget. DH and I do not enjoy it enough to make it worth it and I am not convinced Abby is going to like it that much either. There are other cheaper ways to achieve the same effect out there. I did find a place that if just DH and Gwen go it isn't too bad but she would need to choose that or what she wants DH to do for her birthday gift. We can't afford both and even if we could I wouldn't because I am not setting the bar that high. She needs to learn to prioritize her wants and it's better she learn it while under our roof and we are in control of the outcome. This actually sounds more awesome and is way cheaper. I am not sure I am willing to pilot one but I'd go down with DH once while the kids waited up top. www.mustangmountaincoaster.com/passes-best-mountain-coaster/OMG! I would totally do that!!
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 14, 2022 9:43:57 GMT -5
The parents got upset with grandma because she fed him frozen macaroni and cheese. Said they told her to never feed that again. She lives on a farm and there are no fancy grocery stores available like they have in Toronto. They buy already prepared food at stores and restaurants and heat it up because they don't cook. So they buy lasagna and spaghetti and curry for him and heat it up. Grandma made him both lasagna and spaghetti and meat balls from scratch but she is a terrible grandma because she fed him frozen macaroni and cheese for one meal. yep, smile and nod. I honestly don't understand people like this. I'm a scratch cook 95% of the time, but I also keep some heavily processed shit around for those nights where I just don't GAF. Kraft dinner, anyone? it doesn't even sound like that was the case for grandma that night. if they aren't even cooking, how can they sit back and judge? does the child get ample opportunity to play in (and eat) dirt, at least? wow.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 14, 2022 9:44:03 GMT -5
I don't think I've ever seen a 3 hour one but once Gwen had one of those tantrums where she threw herself on the ground then got back up if I wasn't looking. I amused myself wandering around the house to see if she would follow me then dramatically turn to look at her. .. boom back on the floor. Took her a few minutes to realize she wasn't getting the reaction she wanted and I was in fact screwing with her. She never had one of those again. Still looking for my will to live. The entire world is just on freaking fire anymore. My parents had an epic fight last night. Not my circus not my monkeys anymore now that I am not worried I'm going to have to pick which parent to live with, but still. Then the business isn't doing well because of everything going on with inflation and gas prices. We're losing small businesses left and right around here. People who made it through COVID finally hit the wall. Eventually all that will be left is chains like in Idiocracy. Then while I do not mind having a break from the hellions that are the neighbor kids behind us it still bothers me. Not once did either of them ask us about their kids' behavior in all this, they just decided my kid is the ringleader. Your kids have been major assholes towards me and my husband. Plus they just come into our house uninvited and eat damn near all my groceries (though this in large part DH's fault because he insists it's being a good host. Yeah in 1973 when groceries cost a nickel maybe). They are all feeding off each other. I'm going to work with reestablishing with her better more respectful manners. We're going to encourage her to play with her other friend when available. T1 had a tantrum like that. I probably had way for fun with it than I should have.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 14, 2022 9:56:22 GMT -5
The parents got upset with grandma because she fed him frozen macaroni and cheese. Said they told her to never feed that again. She lives on a farm and there are no fancy grocery stores available like they have in Toronto. They buy already prepared food at stores and restaurants and heat it up because they don't cook. So they buy lasagna and spaghetti and curry for him and heat it up. Grandma made him both lasagna and spaghetti and meat balls from scratch but she is a terrible grandma because she fed him frozen macaroni and cheese for one meal. Stupid. I grew up on shit like that and still now eat way too much of it. But I made it to 53 perfectly healthy despite that. I can't imagine OCCASIONALLY being a problem at all.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 14, 2022 9:57:16 GMT -5
The parents got upset with grandma because she fed him frozen macaroni and cheese. Said they told her to never feed that again. She lives on a farm and there are no fancy grocery stores available like they have in Toronto. They buy already prepared food at stores and restaurants and heat it up because they don't cook. So they buy lasagna and spaghetti and curry for him and heat it up. Grandma made him both lasagna and spaghetti and meat balls from scratch but she is a terrible grandma because she fed him frozen macaroni and cheese for one meal. yep, smile and nod. I honestly don't understand people like this. I'm a scratch cook 95% of the time, but I also keep some heavily processed shit around for those nights where I just don't GAF. Kraft dinner, anyone? it doesn't even sound like that was the case for grandma that night. if they aren't even cooking, how can they sit back and judge? does the child get ample opportunity to play in (and eat) dirt, at least? wow. Tuesday they went to dinner at a 5 star restaurant in Toronto. It was a 9 course meal. I'm a pretty basic eater and I don't think I would have eaten anything they were served except the dessert. I think we all have days when we just don't want to deal with cooking. My go to is Kraft dinner, but it's not like I eat it every day or month. I doubt he gets to play in and eat dirt. There isn't much of that when you live in a high rise in downtown Toronto. There is a play area at day care. They take him to the park on Saturday and Sunday, weather permitting. This summer he has outgrown the splash pad and goes in the kiddie pool. That is as close to dirt as he will get growing up like that. It sounded like they didn't appreciate that grandma let him sit in the grass and feel it and touch it. He had never done that before and was mystified. He loved watching the birds at her bird feeders. He doesn't see that from the 12th floor. I think a kid being raised in a high rise is going to miss out on a lot of things I took for granted. I wasn't on a farm but we had a yard.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 14, 2022 9:59:51 GMT -5
It's also safest to push limits and have meltdowns with mom and dad (or at least it should be!)
Tantrums aren't fun, but I'd rather they have them with me. 1) because public tantrums are embarrassing for everyone, but 2) because I trust myself to parent them through a tantrum in a way that's consistent with my parenting style meaning compassionately, age appropriately, and without escalating the situation.
We stopped leaving the kids alone with my inlaws when they were fairly young for a lot of reasons, but I wish that had been from day 1. The fact that we had to say - you may not physically discipline my child under any circumstance- should have been the end of that set up before it ever started. (I don't think they ever did, but my kids were ridiculously calm).
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 14, 2022 10:03:26 GMT -5
I may have blocked it out, but I don't remember either one of my kids having tantrums as toddlers. I have the super dramaqueen teens though.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 14, 2022 10:44:11 GMT -5
We didn't have many toddler tantrums. A few of course. Ds had a super rough period at 3 for 1 month, and then at 9.5 was his hardest phase. Hindsight I'm sure that one was hormones. Once dd could talk and walk, i swear she didnt cry for years. But the first semester of full day kindergarten was rough as she held herself to impossible standards during the school day and just came home and exploded.
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