what are you doing right now?

[anciana]

Oct 2, 2023 14:19:18 GMT -5 flamingo said:

My dad seems to be doing better today, though they are keeping him another night. I texted my mom to check on her (b/c even though she;s not the one in the hospital, I know it's stressful for her) and she's being all weird. Short, one word replies, weird sign off. I mean, I'm sure she's busy and has a bunch of stuff on her mind, it was just unusual for her. Whatever, I'm happy to leave them to it and get back to my busy day.

In happier news, I found out exactly what my raise is going to be, and I'm plenty happy with it. I also have a decent idea of what my bonus is, but my boss gave me 2 slightly different figures, so I guess I'll find out the exact amount when it hits my bank account in 60 days, haha.

Glad to hear your dad seems to be doing better but even more so that they’re still keeping a close eye on him. You know your mom better than anyone but would it be a good idea to call her later, maybe once she’s home after visiting your dad? She might have not been able to check in with you in more detail as she would want to and would appreciate being able to, later, when she can wrap her head around it all.

[anciana]

Oct 1, 2023 13:23:42 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Heartbroken.  

My old undergraduate advisor died this morning.  Other than the fact that this man was a tremendous teacher, he was a concentration camp survivor from Auchwitz (complete with his number tattooed on his forearm).  The outpouring from his students on Facebook is incredible, the man touched so many lives and inspired so many careers.  

He will be missed.

Very sorry for your loos, he sounds like a great person and a wonderful teacher 🥀

[busymom]

Oct 2, 2023 15:43:48 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Oct 2, 2023 15:38:42 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister asked his brother if he paid the mortgage on the house and his brother started going on about how everything is just so difficult, trying to accept that their parents are both gone. Mister told him that the mortgage company doesn’t give a damn about any of that, they just want their money. And maybe if he sat down and tried to figure shit out, and handled his business, or even better, try to find a j.o.b., it might temporarily distract him from all those thoughts about how hard it is losing their parents.

I told him he should have told his brother, imagine how much MORE sad you’re gonna be when you don’t have anywhere to live anymore if you don’t pay that mortgage.

I feel like that would be an asshole kind of thing to say, for most people, but not coming from Mister since it was his parents too, and Mister did all the heavy lifting with holding things together until now.

I don't think it's an asshole thing to say.  I would probably be even meaner than that.  

I have no sympathy for brother.  You rolled the dice allowing yourself to be dependent on your parents to the point of where you now face potential homelessnes if you don't pull your head out your ass.  The house always collects eventually.  Karma is a bitch.

  Agreed.  I had a coworker who lost her house in 3 months when she got behind in payments. She even came up with the money late, and the bank wouldn't take her money, but they sure did take that house.  I'd be giving Mister the heads up that he'd better be prepared to turn his brother away if he comes begging for a place to stay after losing his parent's house.  I can already see where this is going...  

[anciana]

Sept 30, 2023 10:15:43 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

I'm watching The Birdcage. it is still fantastic.

I can hear LD snoring in the other room. Punk is sprawled out across my bed, giving me dirty looks here and there. I'm on the laptop right now, I just put in an Amazon order for a nasal spray that is apparently out of stock at every pharmacy anywhere nearby. WTF? I had a neighbor ready to go pick up whatever I needed, which is absolutely appreciated.

Love that movie so much that we waited for the kids to be old enough and watched it as a family more recently, it’s just fantastic!
Has anyone seen that they made A League Of Their Own series now that it’s been cancelled? Need to check it out as I loved that movie too.

[lurkyloo]

You’re a good dog mom, pink    Mister is not a great dog dad, although he’s had a pretty rough time lately so some slack is maybe appropriate.
And cute as they are, there are a sort of heartbreaking number of pitties and pit mixes in the shelters.  I think you’d be better off calling a trainer for Mister rather than listening to people spouting off about their ideals online 

Signed, someone who went for the poorly trained but extremely joyful golden retriever, since she is nowhere near as good a trainer as Pink and has an even more softhearted partner hanging around the house

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 2, 2023 15:43:48 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Oct 2, 2023 15:38:42 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister asked his brother if he paid the mortgage on the house and his brother started going on about how everything is just so difficult, trying to accept that their parents are both gone. Mister told him that the mortgage company doesn’t give a damn about any of that, they just want their money. And maybe if he sat down and tried to figure shit out, and handled his business, or even better, try to find a j.o.b., it might temporarily distract him from all those thoughts about how hard it is losing their parents.

I told him he should have told his brother, imagine how much MORE sad you’re gonna be when you don’t have anywhere to live anymore if you don’t pay that mortgage.

I feel like that would be an asshole kind of thing to say, for most people, but not coming from Mister since it was his parents too, and Mister did all the heavy lifting with holding things together until now.

I don't think it's an asshole thing to say.  I would probably be even meaner than that.  

I have no sympathy for brother.  You rolled the dice allowing yourself to be dependent on your parents to the point of where you now face potential homelessnes if you don't pull your head out your ass.  The house always collects eventually.  Karma is a bitch.

I don’t have sympathy for him either. It upsets my nerves that he wouldn’t do anything Mister asked him to, to help handle things, even if it was just gathering information or making some phone calls. And his excuse was always and still is how he was just so overcome with grief when their Mom died, and even more now that Dad died too. As if they weren’t Mister’s parents too, who Mister had close relationships with, and Mister’s feelings and grief don’t matter. That makes me angry enough that even if I wanted to try to have sympathy for him, I wouldn’t be able to.

But now it doesn’t matter if he keeps on with those same excuses. Mister feels like his responsibility and all the things he’d taken on, ended when his Dad was buried and what his brother does or doesn’t do has nothing to do with him.

[lurkyloo]

Distracted today.  Call with assoc superintendent was less than satisfying, although we will hold them to having a second adult present for gym class.  Lawyer rescheduled call to tomorrow, which should help but I think the distraction ship has sailed.

On the bright side I discovered somewhat belatedly a note in DS’ backpack pocket with the number of his friend’s mom, and we have a playdate scheduled tentatively for weekend after next    This is a different friend than the gaggle of girls that came over yesterday-he seems to have been adopted by one of the popular girls circles (yes, I’m keeping an eye out but they seem to actually be friends…although I’m sure it doesn’t hurt that we have basically every toy known to man  . My awkward and socially inappropriate but sweet and kind kid is finding his way 

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 2, 2023 16:07:17 GMT -5 busymom said:

Oct 2, 2023 15:43:48 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I don't think it's an asshole thing to say.  I would probably be even meaner than that.  

I have no sympathy for brother.  You rolled the dice allowing yourself to be dependent on your parents to the point of where you now face potential homelessnes if you don't pull your head out your ass.  The house always collects eventually.  Karma is a bitch.

  Agreed.  I had a coworker who lost her house in 3 months when she got behind in payments. She even came up with the money late, and the bank wouldn't take her money, but they sure did take that house.  I'd be giving Mister the heads up that he'd better be prepared to turn his brother away if he comes begging for a place to stay after losing his parent's house.  I can already see where this is going...  

Mister has always said his brother can’t come live with us. I think his brother kinda tried to put it out there a few years ago, and Mister shut that down and said NO. He told me he can’t live with his brother, he leaves all the lights on, and he is even messier than he (Mister) is. Which, if it’s more than Mister would want to deal with, you already know I’m not trying to deal with it.

His brother has had time to try to get his shit together again, instead, he got comfortable being dependent on their parents. Mister has never liked that situation. Like I said a few days ago, Mister has some very strong ideas and feelings about what men are supposed to do, including his brother. I seriously doubt he would change his mind and let his brother come stay here. And if he did, we would have a problem because I would object. My own brother is homeless, what I look like letting Mister’s brother come mooch off of us, when I won’t let my own brother come here?

[weltz]

Oct 2, 2023 15:45:04 GMT -5 bean29 said:

Oct 2, 2023 15:26:18 GMT -5 weltz said:

DS just called me, crying. A friend who he has known since grade school died of an overdose...fentanyl. The dog has been lying on his body for the last 5 days, and won't let the cops or paramedics near him.
DS had been trying to get him help for a long time. DS and his friends got him into rehab, but Ryan always leaves after 2 days. 
DS is freaking out. Ryan texted him just before he died, and Simon didn't answer.

I am sorry your DS lost his friend in this horrible way.  I don't think there is anything else he could have done.  Even successfully completing rehab, would not guarantee that he would not relapse.  My DN that just died, his baby momma #1 OD'd after going through rehab.  She really wanted to be a Mother, but she still OD'd and died from a fentanyl overdose.  It has been a few years, now DN just OD'd.  Not sure if they called it an OD, but I am sure that is what it was.  He collapsed and they could not revive him.  I think his little brother did not want to share all the details.

I saw this coming, as Ryan was always a very troubled kid.  What's killing me is that Simon will blame himself, for 'letting his friend die", by not answering that final text.  When Ryan is on a bender, Simon doesn't want to hear his 'nonsensical and incoherent rambling.' Who knew?
He will carry that burden for a very long time. I know him.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 2, 2023 16:18:07 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

You’re a good dog mom, pink    Mister is not a great dog dad, although he’s had a pretty rough time lately so some slack is maybe appropriate.
And cute as they are, there are a sort of heartbreaking number of pitties and pit mixes in the shelters.  I think you’d be better off calling a trainer for Mister rather than listening to people spouting off about their ideals online 

Signed, someone who went for the poorly trained but extremely joyful golden retriever, since she is nowhere near as good a trainer as Pink and has an even more softhearted partner hanging around the house

Thank you.

Yes, I do give Mister some slack. There’s also the fact that OG died just a few months before we got Boy. OG had been Mister’s baby for over 10 years and losing her was very painful for him. Then right after we got Boy, Mister’s Mom got sick, and things went downhill from there. And there was Boy, showering Mister with all his unconditional love, and cuddly, loving ways, right when Mister needed a friend. So, it really has been a lot, and the comfort and joy Boy has given Mister means a lot to me. He’s not going anywhere. Mister and I just have to get our shit together and get on the same page with our expectations of him, and train him. I bitch and moan about him, but he really is a good dog, he just needs some work and consistency from us.

I often joke that it is easier to train dogs, than it is to “train” humans.

[NastyWoman]

Oct 2, 2023 15:47:29 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

The Sacklers need to burn in hell.  Every last one of them.

I had to Google them but now I say wholeheartedly 

[lurkyloo]

On another note…I very rarely demand to be addressed as Dr, but you better believe I’m dragging out the PhD and dusting it off for these school discussions.  “Is this Ms Loo?”. “ Yes, this is Dr Loo.  My husband would like to be conferenced in to this call, he is also Dr Loo.”.   I generally prefer to keep things on friendly terms but that line got crossed a ways back      If the associate superintendent is going to introduce herself as Dr she can return the favor.

[daisylu]

Oct 2, 2023 15:26:18 GMT -5 weltz said:

DS just called me, crying. A friend who he has known since grade school died of an overdose...fentanyl. The dog has been lying on his body for the last 5 days, and won't let the cops or paramedics near him.
DS had been trying to get him help for a long time. DS and his friends got him into rehab, but Ryan always leaves after 2 days. 
DS is freaking out. Ryan texted him just before he died, and Simon didn't answer.

So sad.

[lurkyloo]

Oct 2, 2023 17:07:09 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Oct 2, 2023 15:47:29 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

The Sacklers need to burn in hell.  Every last one of them.

I had to Google them but now I say wholeheartedly 

More or less single-handedly caused the opioid epidemic.
The deal that would have granted them immunity far too cheaply was put on hold last I checked.  $6B versus the number of lives they cost and pain they caused, not close to fair.

[countrygirl2]

Misters brother is a man, he needs to "man up" and take care of his own sh**. If Mister starts helping him sounds like he would be sponging off him like his parents. I'm betting he wants him to make payments "until he gets on his feet". Which likely would be never.

I got my RSV shot today and found out I don't need the pneumonia for 2 years. I told the pharmacist I try to get them when they come out. He said my shots are more up to date than about anybodies. Hubs will get his also.

He had a list of all my vaccines, he said there is a national data base they can pull from, he gave me the list. So our health information is out there for many to see. I also know there is a data base for opiods. My doctor was transcribing while in the office with me that my score was so high because of all the specialty doctors I see. Apparently when you see a lot of docs they may think you are opiod shopping. And yet my primary sends me to all these specialists!  Go figure!!

I need to make a pie tonight as the apples I picked are getting very ripe. I made stewed apples 2 days ago.  They smell wonderful, I would love to get more, there are hundreds on that tree but they will just rot, sadly. I will peel some to eat though.

Tomorrow after noon DD and I  go to Ulta for hair cuts and my color.

Today DD went to doc and I got my oil changed, cabin filter replaced, and air cleaner, they never have been. And they put on a new tire sensor, $269 for all of it. My 2018 only has 55k miles and had 15k when I bought it, so its in good shape.

I saw a car at our house for sale, I'm hoping someone is looking at it to buy, but may be the realtor putting a box on it. They took poor pictures of the inside.

[TheOtherMe]

Oct 2, 2023 16:45:17 GMT -5 weltz said:

Oct 2, 2023 15:45:04 GMT -5 bean29 said:

I am sorry your DS lost his friend in this horrible way.  I don't think there is anything else he could have done.  Even successfully completing rehab, would not guarantee that he would not relapse.  My DN that just died, his baby momma #1 OD'd after going through rehab.  She really wanted to be a Mother, but she still OD'd and died from a fentanyl overdose.  It has been a few years, now DN just OD'd.  Not sure if they called it an OD, but I am sure that is what it was.  He collapsed and they could not revive him.  I think his little brother did not want to share all the details.

I saw this coming, as Ryan was always a very troubled kid.  What's killing me is that Simon will blame himself, for 'letting his friend die", by not answering that final text.  When Ryan is on a bender, Simon doesn't want to hear his 'nonsensical and incoherent rambling.' Who knew?
He will carry that burden for a very long time. I know him.

I am so sorry, Weltz.

My former boss' granddaughter died of fentanyl.  His mom worked where I did.  She always left rehab and she had spent quite a bit of time in prison.  She was able to get drugs in prison and the first thing she would do when she got out of prison, is look for her dealer.

The last time she got out of prison the stimulus money was in her bank account and her parents could not stop her from spending the money on drugs.

She had overdosed before, but the last time, her mom didn't hear the water in the shower running.  When she finally went in, she was already dead.  She had agreed to go to rehab and they were waiting on a bed.

[TheOtherMe]

The Toddler was in a very good mood last night when we talked.  He was showing off all of his skills 

We talk after his bath and when we get done, it's time for bed.  He only lets mommy brush his teeth so when mommy says it's time to brush your teeth he looks for ways to keep talking.

So last night we had a very long goodbye.  We did our usual good night, I love you and blew kisses.  Then he was just blowing kisses.  Then he starting waving and saying good night.  I don't know how long he would have waved until mommy said it's time.  

I miss seeing that kid.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 2, 2023 17:15:09 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

On another note…I very rarely demand to be addressed as Dr, but you better believe I’m dragging out the PhD and dusting it off for these school discussions.  “Is this Ms Loo?”. “ Yes, this is Dr Loo.  My husband would like to be conferenced in to this call, he is also Dr Loo.”.   I generally prefer to keep things on friendly terms but that line got crossed a ways back      If the associate superintendent is going to introduce herself as Dr she can return the favor.

I love it!

My cousin that organized my family feeding Mister’s family after his Mom’s funeral, is Dr. Cousin. I and am very proud of her and everything she has accomplished, but when I hear her addressed as Dr. Cousin, I still think  “who”?! LOL! I guess I’ve still not gotten use to it because I’ve only ever heard it the rare times I’ve been around when she’s on a work related call. It’s not like she introduces herself like that outside of her work life, unless maybe she does it in certain situations for reasons like you are planning. To me, she’s still *just* my bossy cousin who was like my older sister when I was growing up, so I forget the Dr. part. I like hearing it though, because I know how hard she worked for it.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 2, 2023 17:22:41 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

Misters brother is a man, he needs to "man up" and take care of his own sh**. If Mister starts helping him sounds like he would be sponging off him like his parents. I'm betting he wants him to make payments "until he gets on his feet". Which likely would be never.

I got my RSV shot today and found out I don't need the pneumonia for 2 years. I told the pharmacist I try to get them when they come out. He said my shots are more up to date than about anybodies. Hubs will get his also.

He had a list of all my vaccines, he said there is a national data base they can pull from, he gave me the list. So our health information is out there for many to see. I also know there is a data base for opiods. My doctor was transcribing while in the office with me that my score was so high because of all the specialty doctors I see. Apparently when you see a lot of docs they may think you are opiod shopping. And yet my primary sends me to all these specialists!  Go figure!!

I need to make a pie tonight as the apples I picked are getting very ripe. I made stewed apples 2 days ago.  They smell wonderful, I would love to get more, there are hundreds on that tree but they will just rot, sadly. I will peel some to eat though.

Tomorrow after noon DD and I  go to Ulta for hair cuts and my color.

Today DD went to doc and I got my oil changed, cabin filter replaced, and air cleaner, they never have been. And they put on a new tire sensor, $269 for all of it. My 2018 only has 55k miles and had 15k when I bought it, so its in good shape.

I saw a car at our house for sale, I'm hoping someone is looking at it to buy, but may be the realtor putting a box on it. They took poor pictures of the inside.

Mister’s brother can want whatever, but I do believe Mister is done. 

My 2010 Jeep had 66k miles on it when we bought it in 2020. It still has less than 80k. How’s that for a random comment?

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Watching Wilbur destroy his stuffed Halloween toy and spread its guys all over my couch.

[Opti]

Oct 2, 2023 11:27:05 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Oct 2, 2023 2:20:49 GMT -5 weltz said:

The poor puppers has been trying to cope with the inconsistent expectations of his owners. Then trying to cope with all the toxic stress and tension in the house. Now he's trying to cope with with Pink suddenly not liking him. You think he hasn't picked up on that?
He's expressing his anxiety in the only way he knows how....destructive behaviour.
If I could take that dog, I would.  He doesn't deserve this.

He doesn’t deserve what? To live where he is cuddled and petted instead of ignored all the time, where the costs for all natural dog food and treats for 2 dogs that eat twice/day is more than some people’s grocery budget, where he lives inside a comfy home instead of outside, where he has plenty of toys to play with, where he gets to go run around in a large backyard every day, accompanied by an adult human keeping an eye on him and/or using gadgets to help him get specific types of exercise, where he goes to the vet for routine stuff and when it seems like something might be wrong? He doesn’t deserve those things?

If we had known everything that was about to happen was going to happen after we got him, getting a puppy would’ve been the last thing we did. But there was no way for us to know that, was it? And despite all of that, he has never been mistreated. The way his litter mates were given away, I’m guessing that he is much better off than most of his other 8 siblings. I guess he doesn’t deserve that either.

Expressing anxiety…. He has been destructive from day 1. I know puppies chew on stuff, but I’ve never had a puppy as destructive as he is. He chewed the corner off the trim on a freaking WALL. He tore up my large outdoor rug on the deck, and the cushion on the sofa out there. Am I supposed to be pleased about things like that? It’s not like I can put those things away to keep them from him, like keeping shoes in the closets. He has plenty of toys, we can’t buy him regular dog toys, we have to buy stuff advertised as indestructible and tends to cost a pretty penny. He gets play time, he gets exercise, and he is still destructive. 

If you haven’t figured it out, I am insulted by what you said. He is curled up at my feet right now, and the way you make it sound, he should be fearful that I might kick him at any moment. I would never do that, or mistreat him in any way, no matter how much he gets on my nerves. And you are wrong for insisting that he must be miserable and mistreated living here.

I understand a bit what Weltz is saying if not kindly. I think the poor pup has never had real peace as you definitely rescued him from a not great start in life. Far too young puppies should not be loaded up with worms. 

Its unfortunate his life and yours has been complicated since he's arrived. I know you don't hate him but are just frustrated with how everything has happened since. I will pray for peace and stability for you both, which you both need and deserve. He is living a better life with you than the coworker, so I am not surprised Mister would have rescued another one had you been OK with it.

[wvugurl26]

I'm skeptical the Supreme Court will hold the Sacklers responsible. They want immunity/release from future claims/lawsuits in exchange for contributing $6 billion to the bankruptcy settlement fund. The government is arguing they shouldn't get a release from the Purdue bankruptcy because they have not personally filed bankruptcy. The lower courts have sided with the Sacklers so now it's up to the Supreme Court. Arguments are in December.

I've been told by several people that Painkiller on Netflix is excellent. It's on my watch list.

[giramomma]

Oct 2, 2023 17:07:09 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Oct 2, 2023 15:47:29 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

The Sacklers need to burn in hell.  Every last one of them.

I had to Google them but now I say wholeheartedly 

If you haven't Dopesick, it's worth the time.

[finnime]

Oct 2, 2023 13:13:03 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

I guess the past couple days of being awake well past midnight caught up to me. I didn't wake up between 5-6, and the pups didn't wake me up it was really bright out. er, well, I didn't hear them til then. I looked at my phone and was shocked - it was almost 1030am.      oops. they were starving and inhaled their breakfasts. I showered and dressed, then threw them in the car and we went for a 2h leisurely drive. today is Day 6! I'm free! (ish)  I did mask up to run in to Walmart for a couple things for them, but we were in our glory in the car with all the windows open. 

finnime - did you hear us beep/wave?    we took the numbered route all the way from here toward you, and turned around a loop to cut back, where I'd turn to get to your house. Punk is now out cold on the deck, and LD went to bed. I'm getting more sun, and farting around on my laptop while it's still warm and sunny. 

Oh, that was you, leaning on the horn with your dogs hanging out the window! I couldn't wave fast enough myself--you should slow down on that numbered route!!

[lurkyloo]

(waves hand) PP also chewed the baseboards off the walls.  He chewed through computer cords as well, and he pulled so hard on walks that we had to switch him to a harness because I was legit afraid he was going to choke himself unconscious-he would have coughing fits and go straight back to pulling on the collar.  I was out walking him once, put my hand in the pocket of my Eddie Bauer raincoat bc it was cold; he took off after a leaf in the wind so suddenly and so hard he ripped the pocket out. He would also come try to wake us up at 3 am for playtime, until we started shutting him downstairs, at which point he’d get bored and chew more baseboard off. He thought nipping at fingers was a fun time too. He was an absolute pain in the butt.  Puppies are cute bc they can be so awful they would never survive to adulthood otherwise.

It occurs to me Boy is still a puppy-I don’t think he’s two yet, is he? I think their frames finish growing about 5-6 months but their minds are still maturing for a good long while.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 2, 2023 19:34:44 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

(waves hand) PP also chewed the baseboards off the walls.  He chewed through computer cords as well, and he pulled so hard on walks that we had to switch him to a harness because I was legit afraid he was going to choke himself unconscious-he would have coughing fits and go straight back to pulling on the collar.  I was out walking him once, put my hand in the pocket of my Eddie Bauer raincoat bc it was cold; he took off after a leaf in the wind so suddenly and so hard he ripped the pocket out. He would also come try to wake us up at 3 am for playtime, until we started shutting him downstairs, at which point he’d get bored and chew more baseboard off. He thought nipping at fingers was a fun time too. He was an absolute pain in the butt.  Puppies are cute bc they can be so awful they would never survive to adulthood otherwise.

It occurs to me Boy is still a puppy-I don’t think he’s two yet, is he? I think their frames finish growing about 5-6 months but their minds are still maturing for a good long while.

I’ve said a million times that Boy is lucky he’s so cute lol.

He turned a year old in July.

[seriousthistime]

Painkiller is excellent.  There was also a limited series on Hulu or Showtime called Dope Sick, which is also excellent. 

The Sacklers are pigs.  John Oliver did a segment a while back, pointing out that the settlement essentially costs the Sacklers nothing.

[andi9899]

Oct 2, 2023 11:27:05 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Oct 2, 2023 2:20:49 GMT -5 weltz said:

The poor puppers has been trying to cope with the inconsistent expectations of his owners. Then trying to cope with all the toxic stress and tension in the house. Now he's trying to cope with with Pink suddenly not liking him. You think he hasn't picked up on that?
He's expressing his anxiety in the only way he knows how....destructive behaviour.
If I could take that dog, I would.  He doesn't deserve this.

He doesn’t deserve what? To live where he is cuddled and petted instead of ignored all the time, where the costs for all natural dog food and treats for 2 dogs that eat twice/day is more than some people’s grocery budget, where he lives inside a comfy home instead of outside, where he has plenty of toys to play with, where he gets to go run around in a large backyard every day, accompanied by an adult human keeping an eye on him and/or using gadgets to help him get specific types of exercise, where he goes to the vet for routine stuff and when it seems like something might be wrong? He doesn’t deserve those things?

If we had known everything that was about to happen was going to happen after we got him, getting a puppy would’ve been the last thing we did. But there was no way for us to know that, was it? And despite all of that, he has never been mistreated. The way his litter mates were given away, I’m guessing that he is much better off than most of his other 8 siblings. I guess he doesn’t deserve that either.

Expressing anxiety…. He has been destructive from day 1. I know puppies chew on stuff, but I’ve never had a puppy as destructive as he is. He chewed the corner off the trim on a freaking WALL. He tore up my large outdoor rug on the deck, and the cushion on the sofa out there. Am I supposed to be pleased about things like that? It’s not like I can put those things away to keep them from him, like keeping shoes in the closets. He has plenty of toys, we can’t buy him regular dog toys, we have to buy stuff advertised as indestructible and tends to cost a pretty penny. He gets play time, he gets exercise, and he is still destructive. 

If you haven’t figured it out, I am insulted by what you said. He is curled up at my feet right now, and the way you make it sound, he should be fearful that I might kick him at any moment. I would never do that, or mistreat him in any way, no matter how much he gets on my nerves. And you are wrong for insisting that he must be miserable and mistreated living here.

Notice there was no apology for insulting you. Typical.

[raeoflyte]

Oct 2, 2023 19:43:59 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Oct 2, 2023 19:34:44 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

(waves hand) PP also chewed the baseboards off the walls.  He chewed through computer cords as well, and he pulled so hard on walks that we had to switch him to a harness because I was legit afraid he was going to choke himself unconscious-he would have coughing fits and go straight back to pulling on the collar.  I was out walking him once, put my hand in the pocket of my Eddie Bauer raincoat bc it was cold; he took off after a leaf in the wind so suddenly and so hard he ripped the pocket out. He would also come try to wake us up at 3 am for playtime, until we started shutting him downstairs, at which point he’d get bored and chew more baseboard off. He thought nipping at fingers was a fun time too. He was an absolute pain in the butt.  Puppies are cute bc they can be so awful they would never survive to adulthood otherwise.

It occurs to me Boy is still a puppy-I don’t think he’s two yet, is he? I think their frames finish growing about 5-6 months but their minds are still maturing for a good long while.

I’ve said a million times that Boy is lucky he’s so cute lol.

He turned a year old in July.

I absolutely blamed dh (still do!) but devil dog was intolerable from 8-24 months. And that was with a metric shit ton of training and consistency. He's been pretty good, but actually today started barking through the fence at the neighbors dog and not coming in when called and I wanted to lose my shit with him multiple times.

[TheOtherMe]

Oct 2, 2023 17:45:44 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Oct 2, 2023 17:15:09 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

On another note…I very rarely demand to be addressed as Dr, but you better believe I’m dragging out the PhD and dusting it off for these school discussions.  “Is this Ms Loo?”. “ Yes, this is Dr Loo.  My husband would like to be conferenced in to this call, he is also Dr Loo.”.   I generally prefer to keep things on friendly terms but that line got crossed a ways back      If the associate superintendent is going to introduce herself as Dr she can return the favor.

I love it!

My cousin that organized my family feeding Mister’s family after his Mom’s funeral, is Dr. Cousin. I and am very proud of her and everything she has accomplished, but when I hear her addressed as Dr. Cousin, I still think  “who”?! LOL! I guess I’ve still not gotten use to it because I’ve only ever heard it the rare times I’ve been around when she’s on a work related call. It’s not like she introduces herself like that outside of her work life, unless maybe she does it in certain situations for reasons like you are planning. To me, she’s still *just* my bossy cousin who was like my older sister when I was growing up, so I forget the Dr. part. I like hearing it though, because I know how hard she worked for it.

I call DN1 and his wife by their first names.  I changed the kid's diapers.  Since I am their US address, I get mail to Dr.  I beam with pride over what they have accomplished.

I think DN1 got his PhD in spite of himself.  He talked to his advisor about what programs to apply.  He didn't listen and only applied to the best programs in the country.  He got reject letters from all but one.  That one sent him a you are on the wait list.  He didn't get accepted until a couple of weeks before classes started.

He is stubborn and that gave him motivation.  He decided that since everyone knew he was the last one in, he was going to graduate with the highest gpa.  He accomplished that.

Then I look at his wife coming to the US at age 18 on a State Department scholarship, living in a foreign country where you can't go home.  When she first got here things like FaceTime did not exist.  Her English was not as good as it is now.  She thinks she has too much of an accent, so she is taking speech lessons.  

I am very proud of both of them and I do not think she married him for the green card.