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Post by anciana on Jun 8, 2023 15:02:36 GMT -5
Both cards are in use so the kid would need a brand new membership. Can't you have more than 2 cards? I thought any member of the household over 18 qualified for a card on the same membership? I thought we’re allowed only two cards per membership. It would be great if we could get the kid added to our current account. I can’t find anything about that on their website, just that the primary member can receive one additional card for a household member.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2023 15:06:15 GMT -5
You are overly generalizing. I don't need security to walk me anywhere including my front yard at 3 am if Penny needs to go. There are no bars on my windows. And don't tell me people never get robbed or shot where you live. That place is somewhere over the rainbow. If those are your only requirements, the bar is pretty low. Soup and Stew posted that people need security to walk to their cars from Walmart in her area. I'm going by what she said. I don't recall mentioning a security escort at WalMart, especially since I haven't shopped at one since 2019. WalMart does, as virtually all stores do, have monitored security cameras and security patrols in the parking lot. Luxury shopping areas such as the Houston Galleria do offer a security escort because "jugging", where purchasers of high-end merchandise are followed and either attacked in the parking lot or followed home and attacked, are definitely on the rise here. For years, most shopping malls have offered a security escort during peak shopping times such as Christmas.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jun 8, 2023 15:10:09 GMT -5
Can't you have more than 2 cards? I thought any member of the household over 18 qualified for a card on the same membership? I thought we’re allowed only two cards per membership. It would be great if we could get the kid added to our current account. I can’t find anything about that on their website, just that the primary member can receive one additional card for a household member. I would ask. This sure sounds like you can get as many as you need.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2023 15:13:29 GMT -5
DH changed the sheets and ran them through the washer/dryer, and I'm doing the same with our towels. Tomorrow is floor and toilet cleaning. We'll pack 99% of our stuff tomorrow afternoon and just add toiletries Saturday morning.
Final touches will be securing jewelry and guns in the locked car in the garage, and putting a dish with ice cubes in the freezer. That's an old trick for making sure your food is safe - if the ice cube is no longer a cube, but a frozen puddle in the dish, your freezer was off long enough to make your food unsafe.
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Post by chiver78 on Jun 8, 2023 15:16:07 GMT -5
I’ve been looking at the old “prepare for college“ thread and couldn’t find the answer. Has anyone bought stuff for their college bound kid st Costco and dealt with returns while the kid is out of state? I’d like to buy kid some stuff to take to an out of state college so he’ll be too far away for me to do any returns myself. Does anyone know how that would work? Would it work? Should we open a basic Costco account in kid’s name, buy stuff through his membership so that he can take care of returns? If we use our membership, we get rewards, so it’s a money question 🙃 Why don't you just add the kid as an authorized user on your Costco card? That's what I did with DS2 and he was able to use it at college and I reaped the rewards (and paid for his purchases). does the person returning an item need to be a member? if the credit is being returned to the original payment, does it matter whether the returnee is a member or not? *my mom worked in the home office at BJs, and my membership there is lifetime. the closest Costco is 45min away from where I live now, it's not a thing for me. I have zero clue on any of their policies.
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Post by anciana on Jun 8, 2023 15:19:28 GMT -5
I thought we’re allowed only two cards per membership. It would be great if we could get the kid added to our current account. I can’t find anything about that on their website, just that the primary member can receive one additional card for a household member. I would ask. This sure sounds like you can get as many as you need. Thanks, I might just need to set aside some extra time when I visit. The lines at customer service are always long so I was hoping to find answers online or some here might know. This is what I found for Executive membership: “Executive Membership is $120 (plus applicable taxes) per 12-month period from the date of enrollment of the Primary cardholder. This entitles the Primary cardholder to one personalized membership card and Household card. ” I believe your quote is for business membership.
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 8, 2023 15:26:44 GMT -5
Soup and Stew posted that people need security to walk to their cars from Walmart in her area. I'm going by what she said. I don't recall mentioning a security escort at WalMart, especially since I haven't shopped at one since 2019. WalMart does, as virtually all stores do, have monitored security cameras and security patrols in the parking lot. Luxury shopping areas such as the Houston Galleria do offer a security escort because "jugging", where purchasers of high-end merchandise are followed and either attacked in the parking lot or followed home and attacked, are definitely on the rise here. For years, most shopping malls have offered a security escort during peak shopping times such as Christmas. OK, so it wasn't Walmart. I do recall you mentioning being followed out to the parking lot with security, so you're not attacked.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jun 8, 2023 15:35:44 GMT -5
I would ask. This sure sounds like you can get as many as you need. Thanks, I might just need to set aside some extra time when I visit. The lines at customer service are always long so I was hoping to find answers online or some here might know. This is what I found for Executive membership: “Executive Membership is $120 (plus applicable taxes) per 12-month period from the date of enrollment of the Primary cardholder. This entitles the Primary cardholder to one personalized membership card and Household card. ” I believe your quote is for business membership. My quote was from the link I posted which was the rules for both.
It also states only one membership allowed per household, so your over 18 kids still using your address couldn't even get their own membership (which seems kind of weird that they'd care since it's just more money for them)
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Post by anciana on Jun 8, 2023 15:44:50 GMT -5
Thanks, I might just need to set aside some extra time when I visit. The lines at customer service are always long so I was hoping to find answers online or some here might know. This is what I found for Executive membership: “Executive Membership is $120 (plus applicable taxes) per 12-month period from the date of enrollment of the Primary cardholder. This entitles the Primary cardholder to one personalized membership card and Household card. ” I believe your quote is for business membership. My quote was from the link I posted which was the rules for both.
It also states only one membership allowed per household, so your over 18 kids still using your address couldn't even get their own membership (which seems kind of weird that they'd care since it's just more money for them)
Well, crap, if we can only have one membership per household and only two cards per membership, we’ll need to get creative. This is from your link once I click on the customer service link on that same page (only business membership allows adding affiliates): Executive Membership: $120.00 Annual membership fee ($60 membership fee, plus $60 upgrade fee)* Includes a free Household Card Valid at all Costco locations worldwide Annual 2% Reward on qualified Costco purchases (terms and conditions apply) Additional benefits and greater savings on Costco Services Extra benefits on select Costco Travel products Business Membership: $60.00 Annual membership fee* Includes a free Household Card Add Affiliate Cardholders for $60 each* Valid at all Costco locations worldwide Purchase for resale Business Members must provide Costco with the appropriate resale information
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Post by giramomma on Jun 8, 2023 15:46:59 GMT -5
One of the positions I applied for was cut as part of the state budget. It was at DH's workplace, so the story checks out. DH was able to corroborate. Moving on.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jun 8, 2023 15:49:44 GMT -5
My quote was from the link I posted which was the rules for both.
It also states only one membership allowed per household, so your over 18 kids still using your address couldn't even get their own membership (which seems kind of weird that they'd care since it's just more money for them)
Well, crap, if we can only have one membership per household and only two cards per membership, we’ll need to get creative. This is from your link once I click on the customer service link on that same page (only business membership allows adding affiliates): Executive Membership: $120.00 Annual membership fee ($60 membership fee, plus $60 upgrade fee)* Includes a free Household Card Valid at all Costco locations worldwide Annual 2% Reward on qualified Costco purchases (terms and conditions apply) Additional benefits and greater savings on Costco Services Extra benefits on select Costco Travel products Business Membership: $60.00 Annual membership fee* Includes a free Household Card Add Affiliate Cardholders for $60 each* Valid at all Costco locations worldwide Purchase for resale Business Members must provide Costco with the appropriate resale information I'm just not understanding where you see you can only have 2 cards per household. It says everyone over 18 from the same household can have a card, but they're all on the same membership.
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Post by anciana on Jun 8, 2023 16:02:37 GMT -5
Well, crap, if we can only have one membership per household and only two cards per membership, we’ll need to get creative. This is from your link once I click on the customer service link on that same page (only business membership allows adding affiliates): Executive Membership: $120.00 Annual membership fee ($60 membership fee, plus $60 upgrade fee)* Includes a free Household Card Valid at all Costco locations worldwide Annual 2% Reward on qualified Costco purchases (terms and conditions apply) Additional benefits and greater savings on Costco Services Extra benefits on select Costco Travel products Business Membership: $60.00 Annual membership fee* Includes a free Household Card Add Affiliate Cardholders for $60 each* Valid at all Costco locations worldwide Purchase for resale Business Members must provide Costco with the appropriate resale information I'm just not understanding where you see you can only have 2 cards per household. It says everyone over 18 from the same household can have a card, but they're all on the same membership. All I’m finding on their main page where you can join Costco is that both Gold and Executive offer only one additional household card while a Business membership can add additional affiliates 🤷♀️ Executive Membership: Includes a free Household Card Business Membership: Includes a free Household Card Add Affiliate Cardholders for $60 each*
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jun 8, 2023 16:20:53 GMT -5
Just call or email them to ask, you shouldn't have to stand in line at customer service to find that out.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 8, 2023 16:24:44 GMT -5
Just got results from cancer marker in blood. Before treatment was 6000 (normal is 25), then last month down to 3000 , yesterday 700. Very happy to see efficacy in numbers also feeling better! YAY! That's great news! ♡
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 8, 2023 16:37:47 GMT -5
I talked to an old friend today, for the first time in at least 25 years. We met when I was 17 or 18, when we worked at the same grocery store, and were good friends for 4 or 5 years, and slowly drifted apart after that. She had been on her own and estranged from her family since she was about 16yo, her parents were Jehovah Witnesses and used their religion as a reason to treat her badly. We were pregnant at the same time and she came and stayed with us the last few weeks of her pregnancy because she was afraid to be in her apartment by herself toward the end of her pregnancy. Her child’s father was an asshole, and actually an HS classmate of mine. He did take responsibility for the child after he was born, but she went through the pregnancy by herself. After I had my baby, I was a SAHM, and I kept her baby for her while she was working.
She sent me a friend request on FB last year, but we still never actually talked until today. We talked until the battery ran down on my phone. It was like we’d never skipped a beat, even though we’d obviously skipped a lot of beats since we were catching up on our lives over the years. She’s been through a lot of stuff, but I love her spirit about all the challenges, she isn’t all woe is me at all.
She is clearly a fighter, just from figuring out how to take care of herself as a teenager with no family and the support good families provide. Within the last decade, she suffered a spinal injury on a job, and couldn’t walk for a few years. She was told she’d never walk again. But she refused to believe that and kept working on it, and is able to walk today, without assistance, as long as she doesn’t overdo it. But she is still in constant pain. Her employer (a major corporation) gave her a tiny settlement to make her go away, even though her injury was/is severe enough for her to get SSDI. That kind of made me angry on her behalf, but like all the other things she’s been through, she doesn’t dwell on it, and focuses instead on what she CAN do.
I really hope we stay in touch, because I really enjoyed talking to her today. And I think I could learn a thing or 2 from her about overcoming adversity and dealing with challenges with the kind of spirit she has. Hopefully I would have something to offer as well if we rekindle our friendship.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 8, 2023 17:14:28 GMT -5
College sports season may come to an end for me tonight. I am watching the College Softball World Series. Oklahoma has a very dominant team. If not tonight, it was end tomorrow as its the best 2 out of 3.
Maddow is having a hard time adjusting to his new food. He wants the food that hurts his urinary tract. He can't get to it. The door closes. He has eaten more of the prescription food than any other day, so I see that as a good sign.
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Post by Opti on Jun 8, 2023 17:20:56 GMT -5
Our AQI is 369 right now. Oof. Gonna break out an N95 for my five minute walk to my breakfast meeting. Hope things are improving. I noticed all the places worse than here, like where you are when I got into work. Be safe. I should have said everything above 300 is real bad.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 8, 2023 17:22:57 GMT -5
The NP I saw Friday, prescribed 5 days of antibiotics. I took the last one yesterday morning, and last night I kept getting up, feeling like I really needed to pee, but only a little came out. All day today, I’ve been feeling pressure like I really need to pee. It’s not exactly painful, but very uncomfortable. So I guess the antibiotics didn’t complete the job.
I left a message for her this morning, and she still hasn’t called me back. I guess I will call my PCP tomorrow. If it’s not one thing making me feel bad, it’s another, and I am OVER all of it.
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Post by susana1954 on Jun 8, 2023 17:33:41 GMT -5
Those that are allowed to take their paperwork or training material to work from home couple of days a month would be grateful for it. They can see how the ones working from home even a couple of days a week are saving on gas, time and comfort. They were given the same raise as the rest of us that still need to come to office/lab every day and we were not given a smidge more to offset that. That was the suggestion or that when I WFH I start working on developing the next phase of my career. As I pointed out in the job thread I have a unique skill set that would make me valuable towards the idea that there become a micro/chemistry joint team. I can do literature digs from anywhere I have access to the internet. And several people in the lab pointed out it doesn't have to be an every single week thing for any of us either. We'd all just like the equal opportunity to do so. Like instead of burning vacation should DH need someone to watch the kids I can actually WFH instead. It was also suggested our days would be scheduled in advance, nobody gets an email of "hey was in the mood to work from home". We'd arrange them around our schedules and if like I got slammed I would just cancel my WFH day that week or we'd trade days with someone. Training back-ups was brought up so more people can cycle through areas so that way the person here doesn't get hosed and/or the person WFH doesn't walk into a shit show. There were some really good ideas to make it as fair as possible for everyone. It was only one upper person that kept pointing out "Well that's just how it is with some jobs". That is how you breed resentment and eventually lose people. I don't know, Drama. You may just have to accept that yours is a job that isn't suitable for WFH. I listen to my teacher friends complain that theirs can be done from home; they did it during Covid. I'm not sure how well, but ever since then, they've griped about it. Remember that I taught at a high school so these kids are a little old to need a babysitter like elementary kids might. I would tell them the same thing I just told you!
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 8, 2023 17:54:59 GMT -5
My job is manual labor, so there’s no way it can be done working from home. Did I feel some type of way during COVID when the people that worked in offices were able to stay safe, working at home, while us worker bees had to go to work and risk exposure, yes I did. I have a friend that works at headquarters, and she was working from home because of the pandemic. I wanted her to be able to keep herself safe, but I wanted to be able to keep myself safe too. But that was impossible due to the nature of my job.
Over 20 years ago, when I accepted the offer to work my current job, who knew a pandemic would happen and any of that would ever even be an issue? I’m guessing nobody, definitely not me. I didn’t like it at all, but I understood why I was considered an essential employee during that time, because my employer and my position as a worker bee played a necessary and important role in keeping things together for our nation during the pandemic.
In 2021, my side gig, where we traveled to a seminar every year before COVID, had us do the seminar virtually. It was wonderful sitting on my deck while I attended the virtual seminar, and made what amounted to about $80/hour. I got paid what I would’ve made in 8 hours at my real job (my side gig is for my union, and they pay me the same hourly rate my real job does), for sitting on my deck for less than 3 hours, in a virtual meeting and taking notes. How is that not appealing and something someone like me would wish they could do every day?
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Post by Opti on Jun 8, 2023 18:05:15 GMT -5
the cardboard Punk ate back in March put her over $20k in lifetime payouts from her Trupanion policy. well worth its premium value, IMO. b/c if I still had my head up my ass about the level of debt I was in back in my last house, there's no way I could have paid for any of the three surgeries. if any of you with new pups would like a referral code, please lmk! the worst thing LD's ever done was to counter surf while a whole chicken was cooling on the stove (pushed back from the edge, too ). neither pup looked to be in discomfort, so I just had to wait it out. well, 2 or 3 days later, he finally unloaded on my white quilt around 1am. Punk got a paw in it, and climbed me like a tree to get away from the pile. so it got all over my pillows, in my hair, etc. I threw both of them out back while I rolled everything up and trashed it, including pillows and mattress cover. then all three of us took an outdoor shower before I'd let them back in the house. I opened my bedroom windows to air it out, shut that door and slept on the couch that night. OMG yuck! Sometimes I miss having a pet, mostly fun happy dogs. Then I read the ‘adventures’ of pet owners here and I again convince myself not even a fish!!! Small fish can't eat a chicken and puke on your quilt. And you could always choose to make a Koi Pond. The tricky thing I've been told by one family; is trying to make sure they aren't eaten by roving herons, egrets and the like.
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Post by Opti on Jun 8, 2023 18:07:29 GMT -5
One of the positions I applied for was cut as part of the state budget. It was at DH's workplace, so the story checks out. DH was able to corroborate. Moving on.
Sorry. Always tough when it's because of budget cuts for whatever reason.
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 8, 2023 18:11:43 GMT -5
I had to go dig in my closet for my fan, and I found a box of old photographs. Hundreds and hundreds of them, the kind that came with negatives. I went right down the rabbit hole. It made me sad. So many people now dead. My youth is dead. I used to be so very slim and beautiful. Now I'm an od crone with grey hair, walking with a cane. Pictures of my very handsome husband. Now I don't even know if he's dead or alive. Lots of people I don't recognise. Lots of pictures of me posing in bathing suits, with some guy's arm thrown around me, and I don't even know what country I was in. Ahh, memories. Makes me want to belt out the song.
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Post by Opti on Jun 8, 2023 18:13:24 GMT -5
We decided we are not going to rock the boat with the nursing home. Doing the math that is not a shit ton of Tylenol and being blunt she's probably not much longer for this Earth so it's not likely liver damage will catch up with her. I got the shitty granddaughter lecture because I forgot the meeting. She's also livid because according to her grandma's mail shouldn't be forwarded to my dad she "blocked that" and he's "not allowed" to have it. Pfft. No where in the decree did it say my dad can't have mail forwarded to his house. I can also talk to him as much as I want, the only thing he cannot do is sign the checks themselves. I went over this with the lawyer beforehand he said the nursing home cannot forbid me from talking to my dad about his mother in private. Just don't be dumb enough to do it in front of them it's bad optics. According to the lawyer the nursing home cannot yank medical POA my dad did nothing wrong in that regard. They certainly think they did though. IDK what she thought she won because if something happens to grandma we're her only next of kin. She and the nursing home certainly are not authorized to make any decisions for my grandmother in the event she ends up in the hospital like MIL or my mother. Since according to her there is no POA it defaults to my dad and myself as her closest living competent relatives. So suck it bitch. I also according to the rules have every right to question why she is being charged for 186 Tylenol a month because I am looking out for her financial best interest but whatever. They cannot tell me "why" she is taking them but they damn well can confirm whether or not they are actually giving her that many and the bill is accurate. But whatever. We are so damn close to the finish line and we are so fucking tired it's not worth kicking the hornet's nest over. Dad has an offer to buy the business. $60k so he would come out $20k ahead from what they put into starting it. He is burned out and his heart is not in it anymore now that my mom is gone. Him and J have buried the hatchet. She asked for the opportunity to try to come up with money for a counter. My dad gave her a payment amount he wants to see upfront and agreed that if she can do that he will stay on to help her and she pays him $1000 a month till she reaches the $60k offer. She misses a payment ownership goes back to him. If she can do it he will sit down and get it all drawn up legally. He would prefer it go to someone who truly cares about it than someone who just sees dollar signs. So we'll see. I would be sad to see it go but would prefer even with all the BS drama for it to go to J. She has earned the opportunity from a business perspective. I think it is time for my dad to start planning the next phase of his life and if selling the business will help him continue to move forward he has my blessing. Sorry Grandma is being such a PITA. I think you need a catchphrase to repeat over and over when she trying to make you feel bad etc. I think I'd go with "I guess you should have planned better, huh?" each and every time. Obviously keep changing it up until you find something that works or at the very least shuts her up. I'm glad you and your dad are ready to move away from the business. I hope that brings peace to all involved.
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 8, 2023 18:14:26 GMT -5
The NP I saw Friday, prescribed 5 days of antibiotics. I took the last one yesterday morning, and last night I kept getting up, feeling like I really needed to pee, but only a little came out. All day today, I’ve been feeling pressure like I really need to pee. It’s not exactly painful, but very uncomfortable. So I guess the antibiotics didn’t complete the job. I left a message for her this morning, and she still hasn’t called me back. I guess I will call my PCP tomorrow. If it’s not one thing making me feel bad, it’s another, and I am OVER all of it. I'm sorry. I know the feeling, as I've had that with a UTI. It's very uncomfortable.
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 8, 2023 18:19:44 GMT -5
College sports season may come to an end for me tonight. I am watching the College Softball World Series. Oklahoma has a very dominant team. If not tonight, it was end tomorrow as its the best 2 out of 3. Maddow is having a hard time adjusting to his new food. He wants the food that hurts his urinary tract. He can't get to it. The door closes. He has eaten more of the prescription food than any other day, so I see that as a good sign. Yeah, Sushi is not too crazy about his very expensive urinary tract food, but if it's the only thing in his bowl, he'll eat it.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 8, 2023 18:29:06 GMT -5
Mister left work early today to meet his Dad and his brother at an appointment with Dad’s neurologist this afternoon. I asked Mister how it went when he got home and he said it was a waste of time.
Dad was upset and crying, so the neurologist felt like it wasn’t a good time to do the tests to see how well he is or isn’t functioning. Great! NOT! Because now Dad knows that if he starts crying, they will leave him alone. And even though I do believe something is really going on with his brain, I also truly believe that he is very well aware of a lot of the stuff he does, and uses certain things to his advantage. I will not be surprised if from now on, every time he goes to a doctor, he will start crying. He’s done it before when Doctors get on him about his blood pressure and him not doing what he needs to do to take care of himself. He also does it with Mister, but it doesn’t work with Mister and pisses him off instead of making him back down.
Mister doesn’t have much patience for whining and crying because you are dealing with consequences of your own actions, when you already knew you were doing something you shouldn’t. He didn’t have patience with his Aunt’s wailing and crying last week after he and Brother discovered her laying on the floor at her house, where she’d been for who knows how long, which is why he was fussing at her. Her friend had tried to get her to go to the hospital to see about her leg the day before, but she refused and insisted he just take her to McDonalds because her leg was so messed up she couldn’t drive herself anywhere. Then she tripped over something later that night because her house is such a mess and couldn’t get up and off the floor because of that same leg. And when Mister and his brother got in her house, her leg was so swollen and big, it looked like it might burst. So Mister’s issue was that if she’d gone to see about her leg the day before, like her friend tried to get her to do, she wouldn’t have ended up laying on the floor for hours until somebody called him to go check on her, and he wouldn’t have had to drive 40 minutes to her house and call his brother to bring the keys to her house after she started screaming and crying when she heard Mister at the door, and they wouldn’t have had to deal with calling an ambulance to get her to a hospital.
And he got even more irritated with her because while they were waiting on the ambulance, when she finally stopped wailing, she was talking about what she wanted to cook and eat, and what nightgown she wanted to wear in the hospital, like it was all no big deal.
Mister is 10 toes deep when something unexpected happens to his loved ones that’s out of their control. He’ll still come through even if it’s some bullshit that could’ve easily been avoided, but he’s going to make it clear that he’s irritated and tell you why. Even with me, so when I get myself in a bad situation unnecessarily I try to fix it myself instead of going to him with it. Because I can’t really blame him for expecting adults to not create unnecessary problems and then expect him to fix them.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2023 18:38:40 GMT -5
Mister left work early today to meet his Dad and his brother at an appointment with Dad’s neurologist this afternoon. I asked Mister how it went when he got home and he said it was a waste of time. Dad was upset and crying, so the neurologist felt like it wasn’t a good time to do the tests to see how well he is or isn’t functioning. Great! NOT! Because now Dad knows that if he starts crying, they will leave him alone. And even though I do believe something is really going on with his brain, I also truly believe that he is very well aware of a lot of the stuff he does, and uses certain things to his advantage. I will not be surprised if from now on, every time he goes to a doctor, he will start crying. He’s done it before when Doctors get on him about his blood pressure and him not doing what he needs to do to take care of himself. He also does it with Mister, but it doesn’t work with Mister and pisses him off instead of making him back down. Mister doesn’t have much patience for whining and crying because you are dealing with consequences of your own actions, when you already knew you were doing something you shouldn’t. He didn’t have patience with his Aunt’s wailing and crying last week after he and Brother discovered her laying on the floor at her house, where she’d been for who knows how long, which is why he was fussing at her. Her friend had tried to get her to go to the hospital to see about her leg the day before, but she refused and insisted he just take her to McDonalds because her leg was so messed up she couldn’t drive herself anywhere. Then she tripped over something later that night because her house is such a mess and couldn’t get up and off the floor because of that same leg. And when Mister and his brother got in her house, her leg was so swollen and big, it looked like it might burst. So Mister’s issue was that if she’d gone to see about her leg the day before, like her friend tried to get her to do, she wouldn’t have ended up laying on the floor for hours until somebody called him to go check on her, and he wouldn’t have had to drive 40 minutes to her house and call his brother to bring the keys to her house after she started screaming and crying when she heard Mister at the door, and they wouldn’t have had to deal with calling an ambulance to get her to a hospital. And he got even more irritated with her because while they were waiting on the ambulance, when she finally stopped wailing, she was talking about what she wanted to cook and eat, and what nightgown she wanted to wear in the hospital, like it was all no big deal. Mister is 10 toes deep when something unexpected happens to his loved ones that’s out of their control. He’ll still come through even if it’s some bullshit that could’ve easily been avoided, but he’s going to make it clear that he’s irritated and tell you why. Even with me, so when I get myself in a bad situation unnecessarily I try to fix it myself instead of going to him with it. Because I can’t really blame him for expecting adults to not create unnecessary problems and then expect him to fix them. I'm so sorry it went down like that today. I can see why Mister is very frustrated about the situation
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Post by daisylu on Jun 8, 2023 18:44:14 GMT -5
I had to go dig in my closet for my fan, and I found a box of old photographs. Hundreds and hundreds of them, the kind that came with negatives. I went right down the rabbit hole. It made me sad. So many people now dead. My youth is dead. I used to be so very slim and beautiful. Now I'm an od crone with grey hair, walking with a cane. Pictures of my very handsome husband. Now I don't even know if he's dead or alive. Lots of people I don't recognise. Lots of pictures of me posing in bathing suits, with some guy's arm thrown around me, and I don't even know what country I was in. Ahh, memories. Makes me want to belt out the song. That shouldn't make you sad, except for the not knowing who and where you are. You have lived an amazing life. Age (usually) gets all of us one day. Try to focus on the good stuff.
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 8, 2023 19:07:55 GMT -5
I had to go dig in my closet for my fan, and I found a box of old photographs. Hundreds and hundreds of them, the kind that came with negatives. I went right down the rabbit hole. It made me sad. So many people now dead. My youth is dead. I used to be so very slim and beautiful. Now I'm an od crone with grey hair, walking with a cane. Pictures of my very handsome husband. Now I don't even know if he's dead or alive. Lots of people I don't recognise. Lots of pictures of me posing in bathing suits, with some guy's arm thrown around me, and I don't even know what country I was in. Ahh, memories. Makes me want to belt out the song. That shouldn't make you sad, except for the not knowing who and where you are. You have lived an amazing life. Age (usually) gets all of us one day. Try to focus on the good stuff. This is true. I have led an amazing life. A very interesting life. A life many people can only dream of. From taking limos to see shows on Broadway to living on a sailboat in the Caribbean. I should be happy. I'll try.
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