Thanksgiving

[MN-Investor]

You can do a 40 minute Zoom meeting for free. I'm seriously thinking of signing up for Zoom Pro. It's $150/year - which I can easily afford - and it allows you to have unlimited meetings. I'm thinking of Christmas where we typically have relatives from 7 states (Massachusetts, Georgia, Michigan, Wisconsin, Minnesota, Colorado, and Washington) gather in the Upper Midwest. We have a Christmas Eve tradition of reading the Christmas story from the Bible, singing Christmas songs, then opening presents. We could certainly Zoom part of that.

[skubikky]

Oct 23, 2020 18:33:44 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

That is my point.  Why are college athletics getting access to so many tests and regular people can't get tested.  

And professional athletics for that matter.  

It's very irritating.
    

Why?
Dough
Ray
Me.....money, money, money

[skubikky]

Oct 26, 2020 13:08:45 GMT -5 swamp said:

I officially cancelled thanksgiving at my house.

You've got a lot of other stuff going on ......
So proud of you...if I may be presumptuous enough to say so....

[swamp]

Oct 28, 2020 10:51:08 GMT -5 skubikky said:

Oct 26, 2020 13:08:45 GMT -5 swamp said:

I officially cancelled thanksgiving at my house.

You've got a lot of other stuff going on ......
So proud of you...if I may be presumptuous enough to say so....

Thank you.

[stillmovingforward]

Agreed. If you're going to bail on Thanksgiving, this is the year you should do it!

[NancysSummerSip]

I have bailed on hosting Thanksgiving. DH's health is compromised and slowly failing. If I could just have my brother and his kids, I'd be fine. His wife is no longer welcome here, partly due to her extreme political views, but then recently, she committed a criminal act. I am not amused, having worked in law enforcement. She is not someone I care to deal with any longer.

[Deleted]

We don't have family so holidays are sort of a non-issue for us.  It's really awkward when the rest of the world is celebrating stuff, but we always get through it somehow.  This year's Thanksgiving will be more challenging because of our limited dietary choices but we'll make it work somehow.  

[❤ mollymouser ❤]

I will probably just cook a brisket in the crock pot for the two of us. With potatoes, celery, onions and carrots. And a bay leaf.

My sister died from Covid-19 in September.
My brother-in-law died from Covid-19 in September.
With the exception of my husband, I'm out of relatives.
And his mother just died in August.
We haven't eaten in a restaurant or had anyone over since February.... and nothing is changing for us in the next few weeks or months.
(I'm immunocompromised.)

[taz157]

Oct 31, 2020 20:07:17 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

I have bailed on hosting Thanksgiving. DH's health is compromised and slowly failing. If I could just have my brother and his kids, I'd be fine. His wife is no longer welcome here, partly due to her extreme political views, but then recently, she committed a criminal act. I am not amused, having worked in law enforcement. She is not someone I care to deal with any longer.

What did your SIL do? I’m being nosy. 🤓

[tcu2003]

My sister invited us over, but we're still undecided. It's her (mostly WFH), her boyfriend (who lives with her, he has to go in to work each day), her daughters (elementary school aged/attending school in person), his son (middle school aged/splits time between his mom's house and sis's house, but he is a fully remote student), and then his mom (my sis says she's taking this seriously, and social distancing well, but I've never met her), and his sister (high or middle school principal, so working in person around a lot of people) and her family (2 kids, also in school in person, and I think a spouse). Plus my mom - who will be staying at our house if we go, but if we don't go, then I'll have her stay at my sister's house.  My aunt and uncle typically attend, but have already declined this year as they are very much still social distancing. 

I'm just not comfortable attending an indoor Thanksgiving this year with people I don't know and expanding our circle that much. If we get lucky and the weather remotely cooperate (we're in the midwest, so doubtful, but once in a while we get lucky), then we may go and eat outside, and then head home, but not sure yet.  

I haven't heard anything about ILs yet, but last year they ended up not celebrating Thanksgiving together, and I'm hoping they'll do the same again this year. If they do celebrate, we will pass, which I think DH will be on board with. We've already been invited to a 1st birthday party for DH's oldest niece's daughter the Sunday before Thanksgiving, which is a hard pass based on everything right now, but especially the "Feel free to wear your mask if you would like" line on the invitation - so clearly, most won't be wearing them. As most of DH's family will attend, plus the niece's husband's family and their friends, I have no interest in seeing anyone in that crowd for at least 2 weeks after the event. 

[TheOtherMe]

Oct 31, 2020 22:29:05 GMT -5 ❤ mollymouser ❤ said:

We haven't eaten in a restaurant or had anyone over since February.... and nothing is changing for us in the next few weeks or months.

It's only me and this is what I've been doing.  Also have only gone in a store a few times.  I have been doing grocery pick up because I live too far out of town for delivery.

[chiver78]

Oct 31, 2020 22:36:17 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Oct 31, 2020 20:07:17 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

I have bailed on hosting Thanksgiving. DH's health is compromised and slowly failing. If I could just have my brother and his kids, I'd be fine. His wife is no longer welcome here, partly due to her extreme political views, but then recently, she committed a criminal act. I am not amused, having worked in law enforcement. She is not someone I care to deal with any longer.

What did your SIL do? I’m being nosy. 🤓

☝ yes, that. 🍿

[countrygirl2]

Hubs said lets have filet mignon and baked potatoes plus dessert for Thanksgiving and Christmas. That's it this year.

We are going nowhere this year. Sad, a whole year since we have seen our sweet little grandson. He won't even remember us I fear.

[Deleted]

I just sent a note to DDIL. I was going to go up to Des Moines for Thanksgiving but the numbers are bad here AND there. They were thinking of having the celebration the weekend before because her DSIL (her brother's wife) works in a grocery store and can't get that weekend off. DSIL has reported that the customers in her "we don't need no stinkin' mask" community in Omaha come into the store without masks and some say that they actually have COVID. Who knows, but that's their attitude. I'm sure she's doing whatever she can to protect herself but it's scary.

I was planning on going up over the actual Thanksgiving weekend if her family gathers the weekend before. We'll see. May also have to re-think plans for taking the girls for haircuts and staying in a hotel one night- totally up to DS and DDIL. Sad but I do not want to be responsible for bringing COVID into the family and do not want to get third-hand COVID from DSIL. Curses upon the so-called management of her store for putting profit from customers above employee safety.

[raeoflyte]

My in-laws are really pushing for a brunch the day of thanksgiving. It would be 10 of us from 3 households. Dh is really torn, and I think wants me to say no. We saw them yesterday, insisted on eating outside, wore our masks inside. And I'm good with a similar set up at thanksgiving.

The kids are going to help me make our own tday dinner so we couldnt stay long.

[Deleted]

Right now neither DGD nor DGS have anybody in particular in their lives. We're still at the five of us, and if we're lucky, neither will have one by Thanksgiving because they both seem to have this thing that their whoevers absolutely must be invited to holiday/birthday dinners. If it's somebody who's been around for a year or so, fine. If not, please don't insist on including them. Please.

[Mardi Gras Audrey]

I’m really torn on what to do for thanksgiving. We usually go to DB and dSIL’s house. Her mom lives with them and then her aunt, 2 adult cousins (plus families), sister and hubby, and sister’s in laws come (plus our mom).

My concern is the crowd plus dSil’s Mom is disabled. Probably ableist of me but I think of her as being more st risk ( she is an amazing woman and think of her as at risk in a health sense only).

I work in a hospital and my kids go to daycare. I know my nephew goes to daycare and has never ending colds so they have been exposed to that but don’t want to bring more to risk everyone’s health.

What makes it worse is our son’s bday is he week before. Was thinking of having dB and sil to our place for a tiny gathering (just our 2 households). How to reconcile that possible gathering with avoiding the one the next week? I don’t want to give dsil’s Mom anything and we would be in their house so....

[Tennesseer]

Nov 1, 2020 8:42:05 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

Hubs said lets have filet mignon and baked potatoes plus dessert for Thanksgiving and Christmas. That's it this year.

We are going nowhere this year. Sad, a whole year since we have seen our sweet little grandson. He won't even remember us I fear.

I hope you and yours are doing Zoom, WhatsApp and other video conferencing on a weekly basis or so with you son and his family. That way, your grandson will remember you. It works.

[NancysSummerSip]

Oct 31, 2020 22:36:17 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Oct 31, 2020 20:07:17 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

I have bailed on hosting Thanksgiving. DH's health is compromised and slowly failing. If I could just have my brother and his kids, I'd be fine. His wife is no longer welcome here, partly due to her extreme political views, but then recently, she committed a criminal act. I am not amused, having worked in law enforcement. She is not someone I care to deal with any longer.

What did your SIL do? I’m being nosy. 🤓

Perfectly OK to ask. There were some burglaries in her neighborhood and a 14-year-old and 15-year-old were arrested. She decided to out their identities on FB. The kids were not charged as adults, although the charges themselves are felonies. Until the police and/or courts release their names, anyone else doing so is a violation of Florida law. She claimed she did it because "they deserved it, and if that was my kid, I would do the same thing."

Well, they are not your kids, and now you've subjected them, their families, friends and fellow student and teachers to harm. Oh, and broke the law.

[pulmonarymd]

Nov 1, 2020 11:55:30 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Oct 31, 2020 22:36:17 GMT -5 taz157 said:

What did your SIL do? I’m being nosy. 🤓

Perfectly OK to ask. There were some burglaries in her neighborhood and a 14-year-old and 15-year-old were arrested. She decided to out their identities on FB. The kids were not charged as adults, although the charges themselves are felonies. Until the police and/or courts release their names, anyone else doing so is a violation of Florida law. She claimed she did it because "they deserved it, and if that was my kid, I would do the same thing."

Well, they are not your kids, and now you've subjected them, their families, friends and fellow student and teachers to harm. Oh, and broke the law.

And I bet she thinks it is unfair that she is being charged, even though it is a law on the bests.

[NancysSummerSip]

Nov 1, 2020 13:39:37 GMT -5 pulmonarymd said:

Nov 1, 2020 11:55:30 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Perfectly OK to ask. There were some burglaries in her neighborhood and a 14-year-old and 15-year-old were arrested. She decided to out their identities on FB. The kids were not charged as adults, although the charges themselves are felonies. Until the police and/or courts release their names, anyone else doing so is a violation of Florida law. She claimed she did it because "they deserved it, and if that was my kid, I would do the same thing."

Well, they are not your kids, and now you've subjected them, their families, friends and fellow student and teachers to harm. Oh, and broke the law.

And I bet she thinks it is unfair that she is being charged, even though it is a law on the bests.

Of course. No biggie ruining their young lives, right? Even if the charges are dropped, or the court case is shielded from view after they turn 18, what goes on FB stays on FB. She's done the damage out of some sick sense of righteousness. I just cannot be around her anymore.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Nov 1, 2020 8:42:05 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

Hubs said lets have filet mignon and baked potatoes plus dessert for Thanksgiving and Christmas. That's it this year.

We are going nowhere this year. Sad, a whole year since we have seen our sweet little grandson. He won't even remember us I fear.

He will remember you.  I’m a military brat, and there were years when I did not see my grandparents.  When we finally got back together, it was as if we had never gone.

You have the advantage of FaceTime, Zoom and cheap phone calls.  That didn’t exist when I was a child.  

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

I offered to do Thanksgiving dinner for my 2 elderly, single neighbors.  I know that both (like TD and myself) have been very careful when they’ve needed to go out and about.  So far, this end of the road has become our own pod.  Since the start of this, if someone goes out they offer to pick up groceries or pet food for the others.  

Now to figure out the menu.  

[TheOtherMe]

Baby in Toronto knows my voice and he is 7 months old.  The more we FaceTime, the more he reacts to me.

[countrygirl2]

Soon as they move and we can, DD and I will fly up and get him, hubs may go too. I said we can drive one time to see the scenery but after that, nope.  I expect to be up there are least 4 times a year. Hoping son comes down for Thanksgiving at least. I want them to be home for Xmas. As a kid I always hated to have to go to relatives, I wanted to be home and play with my things.  

They are planning a smaller home, likely have to for the expense, so I'm prepared to rent a car and stay at a hotel. DD and I will likely enjoy that more. I don't like to impose anyway.

But she will likely spend time with her sister, though she works, so not sure about that.

[haapai]

Nov 1, 2020 14:43:49 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

I offered to do Thanksgiving dinner for my 2 elderly, single neighbors.  I know that both (like TD and myself) have been very careful when they’ve needed to go out and about.  So far, this end of the road has become our own pod.  Since the start of this, if someone goes out they offer to pick up groceries or pet food for the others.  

Now to figure out the menu.  

Oooh!  That could be fun, especially if you are willing to veer away from turkey and mashed potatoes and more toward filet mignon or seafood.  If you aren't distancing, a lovely, simple oyster stew that is hard to make for a crowd can be done.  Lobster is also possible. 

I say that this is the year to ditch the traditional thanksgiving food and go right to December specialties. 

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Nov 1, 2020 16:10:15 GMT -5 haapai said:

Nov 1, 2020 14:43:49 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

I offered to do Thanksgiving dinner for my 2 elderly, single neighbors.  I know that both (like TD and myself) have been very careful when they’ve needed to go out and about.  So far, this end of the road has become our own pod.  Since the start of this, if someone goes out they offer to pick up groceries or pet food for the others.  

Now to figure out the menu.  

Oooh!  That could be fun, especially if you are willing to veer away from turkey and mashed potatoes and more toward filet mignon or seafood.  If you aren't distancing, a lovely, simple oyster stew that is hard to make for a crowd can be done.  Lobster is also possible. 

I say that this is the year to ditch the traditional thanksgiving food and go right to December specialties. 

Yep.  Actually, I’m thinking prime rib might be on the menu instead of turkey.  Cook’s Illustrated this month had a recipe for Beef Wellington that I would like to try.  However, I’d need to do a practice run of this first.

Or maybe buy a bunch of king crab legs, make a big salad and get some crispy bread and have a free for all with these.  

Decisions, decisions......

[Deleted]

The Walk of the Penguin Mich Or maybe buy a bunch of king crab legs, make a big salad and get some crispy bread and have a free for all with these.

Dinner will be served at what time? Asking on behalf of your neighbors...

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Nov 1, 2020 16:52:57 GMT -5 @missrigby said:

The Walk of the Penguin Mich Or maybe buy a bunch of king crab legs, make a big salad and get some crispy bread and have a free for all with these.

Dinner will be served at what time? Asking on behalf of your neighbors...

This really would be easiest - and usually our New Year's eve meal.  But things are screwed up this year, may as well thoroughly screw up traditional menus too!

<hiding my address>

[Deleted]

The Walk of the Penguin Mich Hiding your address? So what you're saying is that I should save myself a cross-country trip. Fine. I'll be fine. Really. Don't give me another thought.

I'll just cook the traditional stuff for DD/DSIL, the g'kids and me. You aren't invited