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Post by 973beachbum on Apr 29, 2017 14:46:34 GMT -5
Can you set up a storage area in the garage for cleaning supplies or check Pinterest for ideas? The link I had will not post, sorry. The garage may end up being my only option but I can't put the vacuum out there bcuz of the humidity. Plus it's a small garage and already has, much to my sadness, the washer and dryer in it. My car is going in the garage. That is not negotiable. As a teeny tiny house person for years the easiest way is probably to use one of the guest bedrooms closet as storage for things like the vacuum. I always put my broom and dustpan in the space between the fridge and the wall or cabinet next to it. Of course a broom closet would have been perfect but we lived in a 965 sq rancher. I was lucky I had room in the kitchen for the fridge let alone a broom closet.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 29, 2017 16:04:06 GMT -5
The garage may end up being my only option but I can't put the vacuum out there bcuz of the humidity. Plus it's a small garage and already has, much to my sadness, the washer and dryer in it. My car is going in the garage. That is not negotiable. As a teeny tiny house person for years the easiest way is probably to use one of the guest bedrooms closet as storage for things like the vacuum. I always put my broom and dustpan in the space between the fridge and the wall or cabinet next to it. Of course a broom closet would have been perfect but we lived in a 965 sq rancher. I was lucky I had room in the kitchen for the fridge let alone a broom closet. That probably is the best solution
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Post by Jaguar on Apr 29, 2017 16:14:13 GMT -5
My brother gave me one of these and I got my microwave on it. Mine has drawers just below, with wine rack and two shelves under the drawers. It's a real space saver. Something like this one with triple drawers, not a single drawer.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Apr 29, 2017 17:17:11 GMT -5
azucena, I came across this thread last night and wanted to let you know you are not alone, in both your house hunting and dad's health situation.
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Post by azucena on Apr 29, 2017 18:45:49 GMT -5
Thanks again for all of the support. I woke up feeling better today. Not a single open house to go to. It's been raining for 2 days and supposed to rain 5 more so guessing some listings may have been postponed. Feels like I'm just sitting here waiting instead of doing something. How many houses do you think will be listed on weds when I'm stuck at the hospital? If someone else is also there, I may go anyway if the right one is listed. My dad only wanted to be dropped off and picked up anyway.
My dad has only admitted to dealing with depression since the cancer diagnosis at the end of 2015 even though he's clearly had it for years. Getting him to take meds is probably not going to happen. He thinks people should pull themselves up by their bootstraps and shake it off. He bragged about only taking otc stuff after the first surgery even though even the dr told him that was dumb and may slow healing. Have I mentioned we have typically had a strained relationship.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 29, 2017 19:53:12 GMT -5
Thanks again for all of the support. I woke up feeling better today. Not a single open house to go to. It's been raining for 2 days and supposed to rain 5 more so guessing some listings may have been postponed. Feels like I'm just sitting here waiting instead of doing something. How many houses do you think will be listed on weds when I'm stuck at the hospital? If someone else is also there, I may go anyway if the right one is listed. My dad only wanted to be dropped off and picked up anyway. My dad has only admitted to dealing with depression since the cancer diagnosis at the end of 2015 even though he's clearly had it for years. Getting him to take meds is probably not going to happen. He thinks people should pull themselves up by their bootstraps and shake it off. He bragged about only taking otc stuff after the first surgery even though even the dr told him that was dumb and may slow healing. Have I mentioned we have typically had a strained relationship. DH said the same thing. Argued big time with his doctor. Finally the doctor said it was part of the recovery protocol and he was going to take them. I even asked for his dose to be upped before he went to rehab. Best thing for him. Of the Doctor had disagreed, he'd have not done it. It was the right call for DH. It takes time for it to kick in.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 29, 2017 19:59:26 GMT -5
Remember the person isn't thinking clearly. They're upset, frightened, and need support. My Aunt's cancer has spread to her bones and she's feeling hopeless right now. I wish she'd get on them. She needs them. I'm still on a very small dose recommended by a poster here and although I also hate being on them, I'm not willing to take a chance of getting off them.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Apr 30, 2017 4:30:09 GMT -5
Hugs zib I was on antidepressants for several years and it was kind of scary contemplating going off them, but I eventually did. I think what helped was I was finally in a good place in my life with no major drama or life altering events happening. If I ever get to where I think I need to be on them again, I won't hesitate. It's a chemical imbalance, not a failing on your part! Too many people think they failed themselves or are not strong enough, but that isn't what's really happening.
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Post by Jaguar on Apr 30, 2017 10:35:15 GMT -5
I had to take antidepressants after my mom died, if I wanted any sleep. So my doctors prescribe one for me and I took it for about 5 months. They are there to get through the dark days. It's not weakness to take them, it's making yourself strong enough to not need them. Falling down a rabbit hole of dark emotions and feelings, one needs tools to climb out, these are good tools.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2017 11:03:24 GMT -5
I had PPD after my second was born and went on antidepressants. They helped, but then about 6 months later my grandmother died and I couldn't even cry at her funeral, which bothered me a lot. I decided I needed SOME sadness to be happy (weird I know), so I weaned myself off of them. I wouldn't hesitate to go back on though if things got bad. I actually do take a very mild one every day as a migraine preventative, but it's way below the mental health therapeutic dose level.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 30, 2017 17:49:41 GMT -5
I'm going to ask dr at my physical when I can get off them. She was adamant with her NO at our last appointment. I still miss DH and always will but I'm no longer suicidal and not being able to sleep nights isn't because of him, I hope.
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Post by azucena on Apr 30, 2017 17:55:12 GMT -5
I've dealt with depression myself and have taken medication two different times. Convincing him will be difficult.
Zib I'm glad that you're feeling well enough to ask and also glad you're working with the dr to wean off appropriately.
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2017 13:45:16 GMT -5
I'm going to ask dr at my physical when I can get off them. She was adamant with her NO at our last appointment. I still miss DH and always will but I'm no longer suicidal and not being able to sleep nights isn't because of him, I hope. I don't know what you're on, but Zoloft screwed up my sleeping a lot. I would wake up several times a night and had freaky dreams. I never had sleeping problems before that. Now I take amitriptyline for migraines. It's also prescribed for insomnia and I sleep like a rock. I mean, I am OUT. LOL
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Post by zibazinski on May 1, 2017 15:18:45 GMT -5
Shoot, I'm not sure what it is.
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Post by suesinfl on May 1, 2017 16:24:28 GMT -5
Hugs zib I was on antidepressants for several years and it was kind of scary contemplating going off them, but I eventually did. I think what helped was I was finally in a good place in my life with no major drama or life altering events happening. If I ever get to where I think I need to be on them again, I won't hesitate. It's a chemical imbalance, not a failing on your part! Too many people think they failed themselves or are not strong enough, but that isn't what's really happening. I can't like this bolded part enough. It is what my dr. told me when I wanted to stop the 10 mg of Lexapro. I've run out of them a couple of times and within 2 months time I couldn't wait to get my refills. I'm a much better person/parent when I take it.
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Post by suesinfl on May 1, 2017 16:27:01 GMT -5
Stupid question, but when a listing says 1200 sq ft, does that include garage/carport?
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Post by zibazinski on May 1, 2017 17:20:09 GMT -5
Stupid question, but when a listing says 1200 sq ft, does that include garage/carport? It's not supposed to unless they've converted it into living space.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on May 1, 2017 17:27:40 GMT -5
Not usually unless it' been converted to living space such as closing off the garage door and putting in carpet, etc.
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Post by suesinfl on May 1, 2017 21:17:51 GMT -5
Thank you, I thought it was actual living space, but was not sure because it is under the roof.
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Post by azucena on May 2, 2017 6:32:25 GMT -5
Inspection report on the house I'm selling was finished today. They want a couple minor repairs that we can easily complete. They also said 4 of the windows have broken counterbalances. They still function fine so we hadn't noticed. Highly recommended window company coming out tomorrow for estimates - she said roughly $60/each on the phone. Should be no problem.
Third request is to seal all of the gaps in the driveway. This is the one that kept me up last night. Driveway is very long, can park 5 cars deep and two across. There are several concrete slabs set on rock with a retaining wall (that we replaced 2 years ago at $8k). Driveway is roughly 25 yrs old (neighbor had his done at the same time). It's sunken and quite uneven in several places with gaps up to 1 inch. It did pass the municipal inspection already which our real estate agent was a little worried about, but it passed when we bought it 10 yrs ago and hasn't really gotten worse. Concrete guy that came from an estimate said it really needs to just be taken out and start over - to the tune of $15k. Based on the footage, filling the gaps and caulking will run $3k. Even that seems like too much for a $160k house. Going to call the agent this morning and see if she thinks they will take a $500 credit or something.
My dad had a colonoscopy this morning to check for any tumors inside the intestines. Dr found several polyps in the large intesting which are undergoing rush pathology hopefully in time for the surgery tomorrow. My dad doesn't seem to realize that this greatly increases the likelihood that they just remove his colon and give him a permanent ostomy. Doesn't make sense to remove all the rest of his insides and leave a "fixable" possible cancer site.
I was early to the office this morning and pulled into the garage and was hit with overwhelming sadness and started crying. Wouldn't you know that the big boss pulled in right next to me. He's an older gentleman and waited for me to walk into the office together. So I gathered myself and got out of the van. He said it's only Tues and looks like you're having a rough week, let me buy you a coffee and then told me all about the hockey game last night to change the subject. I'm pretty sure he knows about my dad and definitely about my moving plans. Thank God I work with such great people.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 2, 2017 6:52:19 GMT -5
Hugs azucena.
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Post by zibazinski on May 2, 2017 7:16:27 GMT -5
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Post by suesinfl on May 2, 2017 7:50:03 GMT -5
Sometimes a good cry, even if it once a day, can do a world of good for your mind. It's wonderful that you work with some wonderful people, they can be a good distraction and no more added stress to your life. Many hugs to you and your family.
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Post by busymom on May 2, 2017 8:00:35 GMT -5
A great boss truly is a gift from God. Glad you've got a good one azucena. Hang in there!
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Post by azucena on May 6, 2017 6:22:14 GMT -5
So haven't updated in a few days because I've been working and going to visit my dad in the hospital and then picking up the kids and doing evening family stuff.
Dads surgery was indeed 10 hours but they think they got all of the cancer. Not sure if I mentioned it has an 85%chance of recurring, trying to be positive but realistic. He got out of icu last night and is recovering well so far. He still has an ng tube in his nose draining his stomach while intestines wake up from surgery and also heal. This is interfering with his cpap machine for sleep apnea, can't get a good seal. So he isn't sleeping well or even at all really. I kept asking lots of questions yesterday and they all seem stumped which is irritating because surely cpap aren't that rare. Tube is probably in 2 more days.
On the house front, we responded to our inspection about fixing 2 out of 3 items and allowing them to switch to fha loan as compromise for not fixing the 3rd.
Realtor called at 5 yesterday and the contract fell thru on the house that got away. So we upped our offer from 335k to 340k (listing price was 325k) and removed our contingency on closing because their agent said they wouldn't accept it. At this point they gave the impression that we were second runner up last time and are getting an exclusive chance before they open back up to the market.
Then I took my daughter to see mandisa and Britt nicole in concert. Man did they feed my soul after this week.
Then I got home and had been tagged on fb in one of the local mommy groups where I've been asking about houses coming up for sale. Yeah, a neighbor of my dream house had posted a link to zillow at 9 pm saying the contract fell thru and they are looking for nice neighborhoods. It had 15 responses at midnight with everyone saying how beautiful and how quickly it will sell. Shoot potentially there goes my exclusive. I sent her a pm and nicely asked her to take it down and tried to appeal to her by talking about how devastated my family was when we lost it. I also noted two young daughters in her profile that are probably right between mine in age so mentioned their ages and how there are literally no kids in our current neighborhood. Hopefully that's not creepy, but there are 5000 members on this site and house requests are pretty frequent.
Then I tried to sleep but really only got a few hours. It's going to be a long day. They have until 7 to respond.
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Post by zibazinski on May 6, 2017 7:05:24 GMT -5
Good luck sometimes the right house just falls in your lap and sometimes you have to work for it.
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Post by busymom on May 6, 2017 8:20:44 GMT -5
Glad you & your DD got to see Mandisa in concert, azucena. I find her music uplifting, too. I'm also glad your Dad got through surgery, although I've said for years that a hospital is no place to get any sleep. Wishing him a full recovery! Hope you get your favorite house. If not, keep up the faith. The last time DH & I were house-hunting (and yes, we lost some favorites), we ended up building the one we're living in now. To date, it's the best house we've owned. The house you're meant to get will find you, if you don't find it first.
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Post by azucena on May 7, 2017 6:59:33 GMT -5
We got the house! Now just need to keep going thru all the hoops to get there. Trying to figure out what to pack first over the next few weeks. 75% is already packed and in storage. I'm worried I'll pack too early if there is such a thing and then have to deal with not having stuff we use everyday. I already cut way back on groceries to the point where it is tough to find something to eat here lol.
Our buyer responded to our inspection response. Because we are not fixing the driveway he wants $500 closing credit and still fha. At this point I'll probably just cave. $500 was what dh and I tossed around offering but decided to try without it first. Close on new house 6.6 and going to ask to bump ours up from 6.15 to 6.8.
Dh and I had a huge fight last night. He's been harboring a lot of resentment. Some of it justified. Just not at all what I needed to deal with right now. But of course its better that he bring it out in the open rather than continue to hide iy like he has been.
My dad's illness and surgery has been tremendously hard for me to process because it's eerily similar to my husband's struggle with ulcerative colitis and multiple surgeries. It's bringing up a lot of unprocessed emotions for me along with the complicated relationship that I already have with my dad. It's overwhelming.
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Post by zibazinski on May 7, 2017 8:56:39 GMT -5
It's a lot all at once that's for sure. Congrats on the house though.
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