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Post by azucena on Apr 25, 2017 9:59:10 GMT -5
We saw this house on Friday - www.redfin.com/MO/Ballwin/679-Henry-Ave-63011/home/93504285
It basically ticks off everything on our wish list and then some. It's like our dream house. The view of the lake and the common ground access are fantastic. The basement had one nice wide open area with kitchenette and then 3 other large finished rooms. I could go on and on.
However, Henry is a very busy road with no shoulder. Yes, I knew that going in, but was willing to consider it given the house. The speed limit is 25 but traffic usually goes 40 because it is a straight road. The driveway looks longer in the photo than real life. If you pull the first car all the way up to the garage you can just barely fit a second car behind it (so 4 cars total plus our 2 in the garage). Otherwise, parking for guests is 1.5 block down on the opposite side of Henry where there are 4 spots. The side streets for the next two blocks are marked no parking. The driveway is not wide enough to turn - my husband tried and failed. So you're left backing onto Henry. Myself, my husband, and the realtor all drove separately and met at the house 3 hours after it was listed. Each of us had to wait and wait to back out and even then ended up making the oncoming car/truck slow way down.
Also keep in mind that I have 2 young kids which makes that street even more of deal-breaker.
Ugh, it was heart-breaking. It also didn't help that it was a split vote with my husband, and I exercised veto power. It's still listed today as is another house 2 blocks down (2 weeks on the market) which is unheard of in the current market here so I'm not the only one that has an issue with that road.
Nothing new worth considering has been listed since then. Hopefully some will open up in the next few days/weekend.
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Post by bean29 on Apr 25, 2017 10:50:40 GMT -5
We saw this house on Friday - www.redfin.com/MO/Ballwin/679-Henry-Ave-63011/home/93504285
It basically ticks off everything on our wish list and then some. It's like our dream house. The view of the lake and the common ground access are fantastic. The basement had one nice wide open area with kitchenette and then 3 other large finished rooms. I could go on and on.
However, Henry is a very busy road with no shoulder. Yes, I knew that going in, but was willing to consider it given the house. The speed limit is 25 but traffic usually goes 40 because it is a straight road. The driveway looks longer in the photo than real life. If you pull the first car all the way up to the garage you can just barely fit a second car behind it (so 4 cars total plus our 2 in the garage). Otherwise, parking for guests is 1.5 block down on the opposite side of Henry where there are 4 spots. The side streets for the next two blocks are marked no parking. The driveway is not wide enough to turn - my husband tried and failed. So you're left backing onto Henry. Myself, my husband, and the realtor all drove separately and met at the house 3 hours after it was listed. Each of us had to wait and wait to back out and even then ended up making the oncoming car/truck slow way down.
Also keep in mind that I have 2 young kids which makes that street even more of deal-breaker.
Ugh, it was heart-breaking. It also didn't help that it was a split vote with my husband, and I exercised veto power. It's still listed today as is another house 2 blocks down (2 weeks on the market) which is unheard of in the current market here so I'm not the only one that has an issue with that road.
Nothing new worth considering has been listed since then. Hopefully some will open up in the next few days/weekend. I vote no, I have heard numerous times of visitors to houses like this parking on the highway for a party, and kids/adults being hit by a car as they are leaving the car. 4 spots down a block and a half a way is not much at all. DH and I have 2 kids, and 6 cars, a three car garage and a driveway that could fit at least 6-7 cars and our neighborhood frequently has cars parked on the street. We have a truck used occasionally and a Mustang DH drives in the summer. We often park a car on the street if someone needs to use the truck or if they will be in and out. DH has a thing for not having our cars on the street though, so usually it is only an hour or two unless w have a party.
How could you ever have a party though? We had Easter and our guests came in at least 10 cars. It is not just when your own kids start driving, it is your nieces an nephews too.
I have a cousin who lived in a rural house on a highway. Her daughter's fiancé was pulling out of their driveway in a driving rain, and a semi pulled onto the shoulder and hit him in the driveway and he was killed. I don't know if the semi was passing on the wrong side, or if he drifted into the emergency lane b/c of the weather - we live 3 hours away so I heard about it long after it happened. They had a very long driveway, he was pulling out not backing out. Having to back onto a busy road, no way.
I vote you keep looking.
I also told my DH we had to be in a subdivision, and no busy roads. The houses just one block up are in our subdivision, but the road basically goes from one very good higway to the other end of the city. Some people consider it a "shortcut" and drive way to fast down the road. The houses on that road are sold much more frequently than the houses further in the subdivision, on residential streets.
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Post by azucena on Apr 25, 2017 11:11:01 GMT -5
wxyz - some interesting ideas. Our realtor is familiar with the HOA and said they are among the most difficult.
bean - you get me. A big reason we are moving is to have spaces to entertain - both our own friends and our daughters. We want to become the pre-teen and teen house to visit. I stood there and watched the traffic and shuddered to think about friends being dropped off for play dates and then new teen drivers in a few short years. I really tried to get used to the idea but just couldn't.
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Post by azucena on Apr 26, 2017 6:14:10 GMT -5
Saw another great house last night. Listed at 2 pm, realtor got us an appt at 3:30. We made an offer at 6 for $10k over listing with an escalation clause up to $5k more if they had other offers. Putting 20% and even wrote a personal letter about how well the house fit our family. At 9, they accepted another contract that didn't have the contingency on closing that ours did. Dammit! Had they given us a second chance I may have considered removing that contingency - our realtor did her best to tell them that but got shut out. She also told them that our buyer closed on his house on Monday so that our own contingency is basically gone. Our house was inspected today - waiting on results - that's a big hurdle in my mind because it's one more chance for something to go wrong. Maybe once we clear that, I'll feel better about not having that contingency but it's still more risky than I'd like to be. Too many what ifs.
The house was live on MLS but photos were never posted. At 8 pm, they took the listing down. My suspicion is that the buyer they chose may have been working with a realtor in the same agency as the seller. When we commented about lack of pics, their realtor said something about the broker jumping the gun on listing it publicly.
This morning I'm cycling between shocked and pissed. This whole process is no fun at all anymore. Add in the fact that I spent 2 hours at the doctor with my dad discussing his upcoming 12 hr tumor removal surgery next week including a 50% chance of an ostomy -> I could desperately use a vacation.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2017 9:03:23 GMT -5
Well, I found a PERFECT place for me (as perfect as can be without being in the country). 3BR/2BA with potential for another BR in the finished basement if you put in an egress, big fenced yard in a nice neighborhood, walking distance to work, attached two car garage with a shop and a separate other outbuilding (chickens!) backyard butted up to a park, so no close neighbors...only 154K asking price. I was waiting for them to get all the interior pictures uploaded and it now says "offer contingent", so I guess someone else jumped on it.
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Post by azucena on Apr 26, 2017 12:47:51 GMT -5
Yes there is a coming soon on another house in the same neighborhood as last night and I'm very tempted to go knock on their door and at least ask if it meets some of my requirements before it's listed live and swarmed by the masses.
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Post by azucena on Apr 28, 2017 16:57:16 GMT -5
About to have a nervous breakdown. Is 430 too early to just give up and go to bed?! Today has been shit.
Haven't seen a house listed that comes anywhere close to what we want since Monday when we lost that nice one. I drove by it on my way to work tues, weds, and thurs and cried and I am so not a crier.
As is that isn't stressful enough my dad has colon cancer and is undergoing a 12 hour surgery on weds to try to remove all of the tumors, followed by 4 days in icu and 4 weeks in the hospital. 50% chance he ends up with an ostomy. My husband has one so I know that's not the end of the world. He was scheduled to stay with his sister after the hospital but she backed out today saying she has to babysit her grandkids (9 and 11) when school is out for summer. I kinda called her out on that flimsy excuse and then she admitted that she is scared to have him stay after something so major. I'm trying to be understanding but it's really thrown me because my husband had 15 surgeries over our first 10 yrs of marriage. The first when we were 22 yrs old. And we were living away from family so I took him home by myself each time because that's just what you do. Drains, feeding tube, ostomy, hip replacements and whatever else. So I'm irritated with her and feeling scared and sorry for my 22 yo self if that makes any sense. And trying to figure out where he should go but will just have to wait and see what shape he's in. There's no room in my current house and oh yeah we are trying to move so everything is up in the air.
Not to mention trying to grieve about the cancer in general and how my dad and I have never been close, stereotypical closed off Vietnam vet. But this cancer has him scared too and has mellowed him so much that 2 months ago he hugged me for the first time I can remember. And now fucking cancer is going to take him anyway.
And work has decided to blow up and the kids screamed all the way home from school for the second day in a row and my husband came home sick from work. I put them in front of a movie and told them all I was taking a time out in my room.
Dh comes in anyway and wants to go our the inspection report for our house and everything they requested to be fixed including replacing 5 windows that are perfectly fine and I said not now, just not tonight and then he wants to show me a newly listed house that I had already seen that needs a ton of work and isn't cheap. And then he picks a fight when I said again not now.
FML. And now it's 5 and I am seriously going to cry myself to sleep. Tomorrow must be better.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 28, 2017 17:11:50 GMT -5
Massive hugs azucena, if you want them. And booze probably helps too.
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Post by mmhmm on Apr 28, 2017 17:29:40 GMT -5
zibazinski, I love the new home! I know you'll make it just the way you want it. So very happy for you!
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 28, 2017 17:30:56 GMT -5
About to have a nervous breakdown. Is 430 too early to just give up and go to bed?! Today has been shit. Haven't seen a house listed that comes anywhere close to what we want since Monday when we lost that nice one. I drove by it on my way to work tues, weds, and thurs and cried and I am so not a crier. As is that isn't stressful enough my dad has colon cancer and is undergoing a 12 hour surgery on weds to try to remove all of the tumors, followed by 4 days in icu and 4 weeks in the hospital. 50% chance he ends up with an ostomy. My husband has one so I know that's not the end of the world. He was scheduled to stay with his sister after the hospital but she backed out today saying she has to babysit her grandkids (9 and 11) when school is out for summer. I kinda called her out on that flimsy excuse and then she admitted that she is scared to have him stay after something so major. I'm trying to be understanding but it's really thrown me because my husband had 15 surgeries over our first 10 yrs of marriage. The first when we were 22 yrs old. And we were living away from family so I took him home by myself each time because that's just what you do. Drains, feeding tube, ostomy, hip replacements and whatever else. So I'm irritated with her and feeling scared and sorry for my 22 yo self if that makes any sense. And trying to figure out where he should go but will just have to wait and see what shape he's in. There's no room in my current house and oh yeah we are trying to move so everything is up in the air. Not to mention trying to grieve about the cancer in general and how my dad and I have never been close, stereotypical closed off Vietnam vet. But this cancer has him scared too and has mellowed him so much that 2 months ago he hugged me for the first time I can remember. And now fucking cancer is going to take him anyway. And work has decided to blow up and the kids screamed all the way home from school for the second day in a row and my husband came home sick from work. I put them in front of a movie and told them all I was taking a time out in my room. Dh comes in anyway and wants to go our the inspection report for our house and everything they requested to be fixed including replacing 5 windows that are perfectly fine and I said not now, just not tonight and then he wants to show me a newly listed house that I had already seen that needs a ton of work and isn't cheap. And then he picks a fight when I said again not now. FML. And now it's 5 and I am seriously going to cry myself to sleep. Tomorrow must be better. I'm sorry.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 28, 2017 17:32:02 GMT -5
zibazinski , I love the new home! I know you'll make it just the way you want it. So very happy for you! Thank you. Most of the paperwork is done as well so now it's just a waiting period.
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Post by busymom on Apr 28, 2017 17:36:26 GMT -5
About to have a nervous breakdown. Is 430 too early to just give up and go to bed?! Today has been shit. Haven't seen a house listed that comes anywhere close to what we want since Monday when we lost that nice one. I drove by it on my way to work tues, weds, and thurs and cried and I am so not a crier. As is that isn't stressful enough my dad has colon cancer and is undergoing a 12 hour surgery on weds to try to remove all of the tumors, followed by 4 days in icu and 4 weeks in the hospital. 50% chance he ends up with an ostomy. My husband has one so I know that's not the end of the world. He was scheduled to stay with his sister after the hospital but she backed out today saying she has to babysit her grandkids (9 and 11) when school is out for summer. I kinda called her out on that flimsy excuse and then she admitted that she is scared to have him stay after something so major. I'm trying to be understanding but it's really thrown me because my husband had 15 surgeries over our first 10 yrs of marriage. The first when we were 22 yrs old. And we were living away from family so I took him home by myself each time because that's just what you do. Drains, feeding tube, ostomy, hip replacements and whatever else. So I'm irritated with her and feeling scared and sorry for my 22 yo self if that makes any sense. And trying to figure out where he should go but will just have to wait and see what shape he's in. There's no room in my current house and oh yeah we are trying to move so everything is up in the air. Not to mention trying to grieve about the cancer in general and how my dad and I have never been close, stereotypical closed off Vietnam vet. But this cancer has him scared too and has mellowed him so much that 2 months ago he hugged me for the first time I can remember. And now fucking cancer is going to take him anyway. And work has decided to blow up and the kids screamed all the way home from school for the second day in a row and my husband came home sick from work. I put them in front of a movie and told them all I was taking a time out in my room. Dh comes in anyway and wants to go our the inspection report for our house and everything they requested to be fixed including replacing 5 windows that are perfectly fine and I said not now, just not tonight and then he wants to show me a newly listed house that I had already seen that needs a ton of work and isn't cheap. And then he picks a fight when I said again not now. FML. And now it's 5 and I am seriously going to cry myself to sleep. Tomorrow must be better. I'm sorry. Me too. I'd contact the hospital social worker, to tell them there's currently no where for him to go as he heals up from surgery. They deal with stuff like this all of the time. I'm guessing Dad might go to a rehab center until he's well enough to manage in his own home.
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Post by mmhmm on Apr 28, 2017 17:44:30 GMT -5
I'm sorry. Me too. I'd contact the hospital social worker, to tell them there's currently no where for him to go as he heals up from surgery. They deal with stuff like this all of the time. I'm guessing Dad might go to a rehab center until he's well enough to manage in his own home. Yep, that's the probable solution. I'd suggest you do some research into what's available in your area and visit/ask around those facilities rather than just leave it to the social worker. They have a tendency to just place the patient in whatever opening they find and some of them you won't find suitable.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 28, 2017 17:49:24 GMT -5
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Post by azucena on Apr 28, 2017 19:07:42 GMT -5
Cried for an hour and then slept for an hour until the kids came looking for me and woke me up. Probably wouldn't have slept thru the night anyway so just as well. Almost like a scheduled breakdown that Shenandoah has described during her own nightmarish situation. Next time I need to give DH the heads up that it is coming.
I'm grateful for the supportive responses. Yeah I'll start looking around for rehab places and get referrals from our ostomy nurse friends who will know the good and bad ones. Just sucks because he has depression issues alrrady and being in the hospital that long is going to be disheartening and take him to the edge. And then to just move to another facility. Ugh.
I think it's really driving home the fact that it's going to be even worse when it comes to end of life care for him. Surgery gives him a 50% chance of survival to 5 yrs. His type of colon cancer has an 85% chance of recurring. Surgery said this surgery is really just trying to reset the clock. It will be brutal, taking out everything in his abdomen that he doesn't need to live hoping to get all of the cancer and then bathing his insides with a chemo wash heated to 110 degrees to kill the cancer cells that are microscopic.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 28, 2017 20:17:15 GMT -5
Cried for an hour and then slept for an hour until the kids came looking for me and woke me up. Probably wouldn't have slept thru the night anyway so just as well. Almost like a scheduled breakdown that Shenandoah has described during her own nightmarish situation. Next time I need to give DH the heads up that it is coming. I'm grateful for the supportive responses. Yeah I'll start looking around for rehab places and get referrals from our ostomy nurse friends who will know the good and bad ones. Just sucks because he has depression issues alrrady and being in the hospital that long is going to be disheartening and take him to the edge. And then to just move to another facility. Ugh. I think it's really driving home the fact that it's going to be even worse when it comes to end of life care for him. Surgery gives him a 50% chance of survival to 5 yrs. His type of colon cancer has an 85% chance of recurring. Surgery said this surgery is really just trying to reset the clock. It will be brutal, taking out everything in his abdomen that he doesn't need to live hoping to get all of the cancer and then bathing his insides with a chemo wash heated to 110 degrees to kill the cancer cells that are microscopic. Have them start him on an antidepressant. The pharmacist who was a classmate of DH's daughter told her to tell me to ask doctor to put him on it and it's a very good thing I did because his mind was fine but his body was weak. So he became depressed over it.
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Post by dee27 on Apr 28, 2017 20:24:25 GMT -5
-hug-azucena
You have so much on your plate and prayers for a successful surgery for your dad. Ask his doctor about sending him to a rehab facility until he is stronger and able to live on his own.
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Post by suesinfl on Apr 28, 2017 20:39:14 GMT -5
I am so, so sorry that you are having to deal with all of this stuff. I'm glad that you had a good cry and got some sleep, but remember to breath and take care of yourself.
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Post by 973beachbum on Apr 29, 2017 7:47:36 GMT -5
You can google it. 4610 S Woodlyn Dr. Tampa. The bedrooms are decent sized. The bathrooms are tiny but they can be helped. The kitchen is small but having a too big refrigerator doesn't help. The yard front and back is lovely. New AC. Needs a garage door opener and interior paint. If I get the house I'll redo the kitchen and master bath before I move in as well as paint and install opener. Can I stalk you and take the kitchen out before you redo it? That kitchen looks great to me.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 29, 2017 9:02:03 GMT -5
You can google it. 4610 S Woodlyn Dr. Tampa. The bedrooms are decent sized. The bathrooms are tiny but they can be helped. The kitchen is small but having a too big refrigerator doesn't help. The yard front and back is lovely. New AC. Needs a garage door opener and interior paint. If I get the house I'll redo the kitchen and master bath before I move in as well as paint and install opener. Can I stalk you and take the kitchen out before you redo it? That kitchen looks great to me. It photographs well but is very small. It'll be alright for me. I'm getting a smaller refrigerator so it doesn't stick out so much. Plus a storage cabinet in the blank space.
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Post by dee27 on Apr 29, 2017 10:16:39 GMT -5
The house is very cute. What is wrong with the kitchen?
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 29, 2017 10:51:32 GMT -5
It's narrow and very little cupboard or counter space. I'll add some storage in a space that's not being used. No room for an island but I'll try to find a narrow one that's not built in but can be moved. I may also be able to add some extra cabinets on the opposite side or maybe some shelves
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 29, 2017 10:52:25 GMT -5
There's no place to even put a vacuum or broom or cleaning supplies. I've been spoiled by lots of storage!!
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Post by dee27 on Apr 29, 2017 11:16:05 GMT -5
There's no place to even put a vacuum or broom or cleaning supplies. I've been spoiled by lots of storage!! Can you set up a storage area in the garage for cleaning supplies or check Pinterest for ideas? The link I had will not post, sorry.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 29, 2017 13:10:26 GMT -5
There's no place to even put a vacuum or broom or cleaning supplies. I've been spoiled by lots of storage!! Can you set up a storage area in the garage for cleaning supplies or check Pinterest for ideas? The link I had will not post, sorry. The garage may end up being my only option but I can't put the vacuum out there bcuz of the humidity. Plus it's a small garage and already has, much to my sadness, the washer and dryer in it. My car is going in the garage. That is not negotiable.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 29, 2017 13:13:13 GMT -5
I think I'm getting one of those as a cast off from DS and his girlfriend when they move to their new apartment.
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