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Post by naughtybear on Jan 23, 2017 17:02:58 GMT -5
I like to be alone. I've had a few friends say "oh no you really want a boyfriend come on everyone does" I know they may be kidding or they may not be.
I do like to be alone. I grew up with 4 siblings, vacations were spent with other families or family friends, then a half brother and a half sister came along. Then I was married for nearly 25 yrs. Hell yeah I like to be alone.
I like to do what I what when I want, I like not having to check in or coordinate. I like everything about living alone nay I LOVE everything about living alone.
It's not that freaking strange is it?
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Post by billisonboard on Jan 23, 2017 17:08:32 GMT -5
Yes.
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Post by naughtybear on Jan 23, 2017 17:11:03 GMT -5
good to know.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jan 23, 2017 17:19:52 GMT -5
I like being alone but I'm not actually alone. 3 kids and a spouse means I'm practically never alone. I love getting quiet time at work and the drive home. Now and then I take a day off to try to avoid the rest of the humans.
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Post by engineerdoe on Jan 23, 2017 17:24:02 GMT -5
Before I got a cat, I would normally go the whole weekend not speaking at all. It's great. I even prefer to go to the movies by myself but the humans of the world have even ruined that for me now.
We have a couple family mottos but the one that fits this situation is "How can I miss you if you won't go away?"
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Post by naughtybear on Jan 23, 2017 17:42:55 GMT -5
HAHA, the ex used to travel a lot and I liked it (well there was a tipping point like 6 weeks.) I just sometimes think about things and wonder if there are people out there like me.
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Post by dannylion on Jan 23, 2017 18:15:50 GMT -5
Before I got a cat, I would normally go the whole weekend not speaking at all. It's great. I even prefer to go to the movies by myself but the humans of the world have even ruined that for me now. We have a couple family mottos but the one that fits this situation is "How can I miss you if you won't go away?" Yeah, I never go to the movies anymore because there are Other People there.
On the other hand, I'll strike up a conversation with anyone (within reason) if I'm in a place where talking is appropriate. I've had the loveliest conversations with strangers while waiting in line at Costco and with people randomly encountered in other normal, everyday situations. I haven't met my new best friend yet, but if I don't interact with others, I never will. I'm not really looking for a new best friend; it's just a metaphor. (Do I mean metaphor, or do I mean analogy? Or possibly something else?) When I'm home, I'm alone, and I'm fine with that. I go for days without seeing anyone except the neighbor's dog (we've bonded) and sometimes a brief chat with the neighbor who is the dog's person. I don't feel lonely, and I don't get bored.
I actually like people (except for Other People Who Do Not Know How To Behave), but I'm fine by myself.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jan 23, 2017 18:31:39 GMT -5
Before I got a cat, I would normally go the whole weekend not speaking at all. It's great. I even prefer to go to the movies by myself but the humans of the world have even ruined that for me now. We have a couple family mottos but the one that fits this situation is "How can I miss you if you won't go away?" Yeah, I never go to the movies anymore because there are Other People there.
On the other hand, I'll strike up a conversation with anyone (within reason) if I'm in a place where talking is appropriate. I've had the loveliest conversations with strangers while waiting in line at Costco and with people randomly encountered in other normal, everyday situations. I haven't met my new best friend yet, but if I don't interact with others, I never will. I'm not really looking for a new best friend; it's just a metaphor. (Do I mean metaphor, or do I mean analogy? Or possibly something else?) When I'm home, I'm alone, and I'm fine with that. I go for days without seeing anyone except the neighbor's dog (we've bonded) and sometimes a brief chat with the neighbor who is the dog's person. I don't feel lonely, and I don't get bored.
I actually like people (except for Other People Who Do Not Know How To Behave), but I'm fine by myself.
That was me!!!! But seriously I could have written this post well except for the best friend part. I've been around so friggin long that I do have a few select good friends of very long standing. I enjoy the company of others up to a point and then they start breathing my air and I get antsy.
I don't get lonely or bored but I think being an only child sometimes prepares you for not being bored or lonely. Besides who needs RL friends when you have PB
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 23, 2017 18:42:38 GMT -5
It's me and the cat. I've lived alone since 1975, except for a few brief periods when people were staying for various reasons.
I don't want it any other way and Lucy always agrees with me.
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Post by gacpa on Jan 23, 2017 18:43:53 GMT -5
I am such a big old introvert, I love being by myself! I am comfortable around others in public and enjoy meeting new people. But I am also comfortable at home by myself.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2017 18:44:02 GMT -5
Like naughtybear, I grew up with 4 siblings. I like people and can carry on a good conversation but I'm basically an introvert and have to have time by myself. I shared a room with my sister, then a dorm roommate, and I was ecstatic when I moved off-campus and had a whole top floor (basically a freezing-cold attic in an ancient Victorian house) to myself. MY room. MY TV. MY schedule.
One of the biggest mistakes I ever made was buying a 2-family house at one point with a friend who was a raving extravert. He never wanted to stay in his section- always wanted to be around me. I also had a difficult first marriage, but at least the guy was an introvert and didn't need to be yakking all the time.
I lost my second husband on November 15 after 13 years of marriage. I miss being able to talk to him about my day, interesting things I've seen or read, or picking up grammatical errors when we watched TV together. BUT- you know, living alone isn't bad at all. I get to the gym every day and have a lot of outside activities so I do have human contact. I now tuck the bottom bedsheet in at the foot. DH hated that. I can watch shows that didn't interest him. I've scheduled 2 trips to places we couldn't visit together- Central America in April (he didn't handle warm weather very well) and India in March, 2018 (didn't interest him at all). It would take a heck of a guy for me to give up this freedom and I'm not actively looking for one.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 23, 2017 18:57:01 GMT -5
I'm both an introvert and an extrovert. I'm very friendly and outgoing. I will talk to random people all the time. I genuinely like people...at least not assholes
On the flip side, I do like my alone time. That was the one thing I noticed when I got divorced. If the kids were at my exes I was alone...in my own house! That never happened before
I work a lot, have kids and a serious boyfriend so my alone time is limited. But I'm content pouring wine, soaking in the jacuzzi and reading.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2017 19:11:31 GMT -5
I liked being alone for about the first five or six years after my divorce. I realized then that I had never had my own room or even space in my entire life. I dated some, but there was no one to tell me what I should be doing with my time. Then I dated ex-bf, and we moved in together. I discovered I liked togetherness, too. But that didn't work out. Ironically, DH was the person I dated some. We married, and it's a great kind of togetherness. We genuinely enjoy time together and apart. @athena53 described it perfectly. P.S. I still have my own room. Well, I share it with Wonder Dog, but that doesn't count.
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Post by chiver78 on Jan 23, 2017 19:16:27 GMT -5
Before I got a cat, I would normally go the whole weekend not speaking at all. It's great. I even prefer to go to the movies by myself but the humans of the world have even ruined that for me now. We have a couple family mottos but the one that fits this situation is "How can I miss you if you won't go away?" Yeah, I never go to the movies anymore because there are Other People there.
On the other hand, I'll strike up a conversation with anyone (within reason) if I'm in a place where talking is appropriate. I've had the loveliest conversations with strangers while waiting in line at Costco and with people randomly encountered in other normal, everyday situations. I haven't met my new best friend yet, but if I don't interact with others, I never will. I'm not really looking for a new best friend; it's just a metaphor. (Do I mean metaphor, or do I mean analogy? Or possibly something else?) When I'm home, I'm alone, and I'm fine with that. I go for days without seeing anyone except the neighbor's dog (we've bonded) and sometimes a brief chat with the neighbor who is the dog's person. I don't feel lonely, and I don't get bored.
I actually like people (except for Other People Who Do Not Know How To Behave), but I'm fine by myself.
all of this. actually, since moving to 2nd shift, I'm finding myself seeking out Other People a little more than I used to. Right now, I'm essentially by myself from about 6pm on, and I spend my mornings with the dogs - who can't answer me back. today, I went out for lunch on my way in to work, and chatted with the bartender and other people around me at the bar. I think it might become a Monday routine, fun spot. but, I need that alone time to unwind and reset myself. so I guess, balance.
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Post by billisonboard on Jan 23, 2017 19:28:26 GMT -5
There is the idea that introvert/extrovert is about where you go to "recharge your batteries". I love being on stage. I then have to go off by myself because I am totally drained by the experience. My ex hated being on stage. She could sit around with a group of people and talk until 2 or 3 in the morning and then not be able to sleep because she was so energized.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 23, 2017 19:36:25 GMT -5
I hate being alone. I miss DH.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2017 19:51:48 GMT -5
The late and great Laura Branigan? I guess, actually, she wanted to be alone with a d00d. (damn what a voice!) In all seriousness, i used to really like a LOT of alone time, but now that I have a DW and kids, I get a little antsy after a half day or so max. Antsy with them or without them?
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jan 23, 2017 20:22:11 GMT -5
At first it kind of bothered me. I'd never been alone until that point though for more than a few hours. I've since learned that as long as I get some human contact somehow during the day I'm good. I enjoy having time alone and I love having the bed all to myself. Traveling for work is glorious. It's all mine!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2017 20:30:55 GMT -5
OMG. Not only do I like to be alone, I NEED to or I lose it. I put younger to bed at 7:30 or so if we're home and older moves to the basement. That's when I start to decompress and probably why I stay up way too late every night. Every other weekend they're both gone and it's heaven. I miss them but relish every moment at the same time. When I was a teen just out of high school I would housesit for this wealthy couple on a horse farm out in the middle of nowhere. It was usually a good week before I would wander into town for human interaction.
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Post by Jaguar on Jan 23, 2017 20:45:12 GMT -5
OMG. Not only do I like to be alone, I NEED to or I lose it. I put younger to bed at 7:30 or so if we're home and older moves to the basement. That's when I start to decompress and probably why I stay up way too late every night. Every other weekend they're both gone and it's heaven. I miss them but relish every moment at the same time. When I was a teen just out of high school I would housesit for this wealthy couple on a horse farm out in the middle of nowhere. It was usually a good week before I would wander into town for human interaction. I'm the same way, I NEED TO BE ALONE, for my sanity and everyone else's.
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Post by Tiny on Jan 23, 2017 21:00:48 GMT -5
I don't mind being alone... I rarely feel lonely (actually, I sometimes feel a hint of loneliness when I'm out with a big group - even if I know people there...) I pretty much have always been "alone" or the "outsider"... I've got siblings but they are much older and we don't "share" many childhood memories. I was a late in life baby - so I missed having cousins my age - and then when I was a teen my 2nd cousins were too young to interact with. My parents settled in a post WWII neighborhood - where there were plenty of kids for my older sibs to hang with. We got sent to a Catholic School in the suburb next (we lived on the dividing line) instead of the Catholic School in the suburb we lived. It wasn't so bad for my older siblings - because there were zillions of kids that lived across the divide - when they were in GS each class had 60 or more kids.... Then I come along...as the number of kids were dwindling -- my GS class was the smallest with 28 kids the entire 9 years. I hated the new school year - I knew exactly where I'd be sitting and which other kids would be around me and they'd have groups of kids that did stuff together during the summer and then there was me. it was exactly the same EVERY year. Nothing changed. When I was in 5th grade the class sizes starting growing starting with that Kindergarten class... There were no little kids on my block - or the surrounding blocks. I use to ride my bike and go to the empty local playground alone. I didn't really hang with the kids I went to GS with - I couldn't go to their Library (or even use the Bookmobile) or park district or after school/summer programs because I did not live in the same suburb and none of my classmates lived near me. High School was better. Needless to say, I learned how to amuse my self and have fun by my self at an early age... So, actually I don't mind being alone.... my "hanging with friends" skills are pretty sparse - cause I didn't really have "friends" until HS... I like to go to the movies alone - I just try not to go at peak times - so there's some space between me and the other audience members.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2017 22:04:46 GMT -5
I like being alone. I am not a fan of the majority of the human race, DH included sometimes.😛 All I need are my kitties and some wine and I can have awesome conversations with myself and it's not like I'm really going to argue with myself.😏
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Post by rob base on Jan 23, 2017 22:27:53 GMT -5
I like being alone as long as I have a few vices of choice with me--reading materials, cable TV, internet, movies rented, hobby, etc.
It's going to be a real test of our marriage in 7 years. I "should" be able to retire at 53 yrs old. She always thinks I'm kidding--she says "won't you be bored" and things like that. She can't believe understand that I would stop working tomorrow if possible.
I hate most people
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jan 23, 2017 22:35:35 GMT -5
I lived alone from the time I graduated college until I moved in with TD 5 years ago. It has been an adjustment for me, but it helps that I get a decent stretch of time alone each day.
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Post by busymom on Jan 24, 2017 0:27:24 GMT -5
I do my best work when I'm the only one in the house. Don't get me wrong, I love chatting it up with people too. But, the best way to recharge my battery is to enjoy the peace & quiet. In fact, after attending the annual family reunion with DH's family, I need that quiet time at the hotel (we don't even bother to find out where the rest of the family is staying anymore).
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Post by emma1420 on Jan 24, 2017 1:36:20 GMT -5
I like being alone most of the time. Heck, I'm in Hawaii right now alone. I booked a cabin in an isolated area so I have peace and quiet. However, I do like having the emotional suooorf from others, so while I prefer to be alone 98% of the time there are some times I want to be around close friends.
While I love my family, there are five kids plus grandkids, and I find visiting exhausting (as they are far away enough I have to go for a week or more). I think my perfect vacation would be a cabin on a beach with no one around.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Jan 24, 2017 8:07:45 GMT -5
Like many others here stated, I am an introvert/extrovert. I like being around people, but need my alone time to recharge. I've found that if I don't get enough alone time, I get cranky. It helps that I work from home 3 days a week. I have to be on conference calls some of the time, but mostly I can work without talking to anyone if I want to. If it gets too lonly, I can always find some excuse to call a coworker.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jan 24, 2017 8:54:17 GMT -5
While I would like to have a SO, I can't deny I do appreciate my alone time. Sometimes it is nice to shut out the world and enjoy an evening or weekend in.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jan 24, 2017 9:44:28 GMT -5
As much I love being around people, I really cherish my alone time. I read, watch movies, cuddle with my cats, stare at the wall and think. Whatever I want! I also like being alone while surrounded by people. Sometimes I'll go to a park and lay on a blanket with a book and people watch. I'll go window shopping at the mall. I'll wander around Philly. Go out to eat by myself. I love my running club but I usually like to go on my runs alone and meet up with everyone for the camaraderie afterward. Of course after too much alone time I go insane. I work from home Tuesdays (love it!) but I'm usually bouncing off the walls waiting for hubs to get home. I also have way more time off available to me than he does (44 PTO days this year for me, 10 for him) so I end up taking a lot of time off work. I usually try to plan most of the time off with other friends, but keep a couple of days just for me.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2017 10:37:17 GMT -5
When I was in high school, I lived with my father and he travelled for his job. I was home alone all week. I didn't tell anybody because I didn't want my friends coming over and trashing the place.
After high school, I lived alone for 25 years. Some Fridays I would get off work, go home, and not leave again until I had to work Monday morning. My neighbor felt sorry for me but I didn't mind it. I planned it so I could stay home - got my groceries, reading materials, movies, etc.
For the past 4 years, BF has lived with me. It's not too bad. He works 7 days a week so I still have time alone.
At times I wonder if I would rather be alone . . . like on BF's crabby nights or the nights he doesn't let me sleep.
I don't read nearly as much as I used to. Sometimes I miss that. I also miss eating cereal for supper the nights I don't feel like cooking or cleaning the kitchen. Sometimes I fantasize about getting a motel so I can read and sleep.
ETA: I must be an introvert/extrovert because when I do go out - I am a party animal!
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