Who really likes to be alone?

[tractor]

I don't like to be alone, but I don't feel the need to engage with everyone either. When my wife goes out of town I often go out to eat just to be around other people and some activity. It gets pretty quiet in my house without some kind of movement and it just leaves me unnerved for some reason.

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

There is a distinct difference between being alone and being lonely.  

The two don't automatically go together, although, of course, they do for some.  

In the same vein, it is possible to be painfully lonely in a large group of people -- even among family members.  

I LOVE my alone time and get cranky when someone or something interferes with it.  Don't surprise me and drop by uninvited -- I might not want human contact at that moment and/or I might be very busy in my head, LOL.  

I also LOVE to be around other people when I have met my alone time quota.  

It's a balance.  

[Blonde Granny]

I usually think it would be nice to have a SO, but then I stop and think that I'd have to take all the bad that would come along with it, just for the sake of having someone to watch a football game with.

I'm not ever washing anyone else skid marked jockey shorts, I'm not fixing anyone breakfast, lunch or dinner. Just because he would adore his pickup, I'm just not into them. I'm not going to have someone tell me what and when to do something or ask to borrow money from me. He certainly would NEVER drive my vehicle, I wouldn't care who he was.

So, I'll keep my singleness and widowhood and let someone else have all the troubles. Me....I'm out.

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

Jan 24, 2017 12:02:07 GMT -5 Blonde Granny said:

I usually think it would be nice to have a SO, but then I stop and think that I'd have to take all the bad that would come along with it, just for the sake of having someone to watch a football game with.

I'm not ever washing anyone else skid marked jockey shorts, I'm not fixing anyone breakfast, lunch or dinner. Just because he would adore his pickup, I'm just not into them. I'm not going to have someone tell me what and when to do something or ask to borrow money from me. He certainly would NEVER drive my vehicle, I wouldn't care who he was.

So, I'll keep my singleness and widowhood and let someone else have all the troubles. Me....I'm out.

Get a friend with benefits.   

No obligation, no commitment, just good times.  

[Chocolate Lover]

Jan 23, 2017 22:35:35 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

I lived alone from the time I graduated college until I moved in with TD 5 years ago.  It has been an adjustment for me, but it helps that I get a decent stretch of time alone each day.  

Posts like this make me realize how fast time flies. It seems like you just went out there!

(These posts, the size of my kids, the age of fellow posters' kids...)

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Jan 24, 2017 14:31:00 GMT -5 Chocolate Lover said:

Jan 23, 2017 22:35:35 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

I lived alone from the time I graduated college until I moved in with TD 5 years ago.  It has been an adjustment for me, but it helps that I get a decent stretch of time alone each day.  

Posts like this make me realize how fast time flies. It seems like you just went out there!

(These posts, the size of my kids, the age of fellow posters' kids...)

Yep, Dec. 2011 started my year of Medical Hell.  I was released from the rehab place the last day of Jan. 2012 and moved into TD's house.

[Chocolate Lover]

Jan 24, 2017 14:35:26 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Jan 24, 2017 14:31:00 GMT -5 Chocolate Lover said:

Posts like this make me realize how fast time flies. It seems like you just went out there!

(These posts, the size of my kids, the age of fellow posters' kids...)

Yep, Dec. 2011 started my year of Medical Hell.  I was released from the rehab place the last day of Jan. 2012 and moved into TD's house.

I know it's been a while, but it so doesn't seem like 5 years.

[MJ2.0]

Jan 24, 2017 9:44:28 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

As much I love being around people, I really cherish my alone time. I read, watch movies, cuddle with my cats, stare at the wall and think. Whatever I want! I also like being alone while surrounded by people. Sometimes I'll go to a park and lay on a blanket with a book and people watch. I'll go window shopping at the mall. I'll wander around Philly. Go out to eat by myself. I love my running club but I usually like to go on my runs alone and meet up with everyone for the camaraderie afterward.
Of course after too much alone time I go insane. I work from home Tuesdays (love it!) but I'm usually bouncing off the walls waiting for hubs to get home. I also have way more time off available to me than he does (44 PTO days this year for me, 10 for him) so I end up taking a lot of time off work. I usually try to plan most of the time off with other friends, but keep a couple of days just for me.

DAFUQ?!?! 

Are you hiring?

[taz157]

Jan 24, 2017 14:31:00 GMT -5 Chocolate Lover said:

Jan 23, 2017 22:35:35 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

I lived alone from the time I graduated college until I moved in with TD 5 years ago.  It has been an adjustment for me, but it helps that I get a decent stretch of time alone each day.  

Posts like this make me realize how fast time flies. It seems like you just went out there!

(These posts, the size of my kids, the age of fellow posters' kids...)

Yeah that and I only thought she had been out there for 2-3 years, not 5!

[Cookies Galore]

Jan 24, 2017 18:48:32 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Jan 24, 2017 9:44:28 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

As much I love being around people, I really cherish my alone time. I read, watch movies, cuddle with my cats, stare at the wall and think. Whatever I want! I also like being alone while surrounded by people. Sometimes I'll go to a park and lay on a blanket with a book and people watch. I'll go window shopping at the mall. I'll wander around Philly. Go out to eat by myself. I love my running club but I usually like to go on my runs alone and meet up with everyone for the camaraderie afterward.
Of course after too much alone time I go insane. I work from home Tuesdays (love it!) but I'm usually bouncing off the walls waiting for hubs to get home. I also have way more time off available to me than he does (44 PTO days this year for me, 10 for him) so I end up taking a lot of time off work. I usually try to plan most of the time off with other friends, but keep a couple of days just for me.

DAFUQ?!?! 

Are you hiring?

Yeah, but you'd start at 21 days. The 44 days is only for 2017 because we changed leave systems and were allowed to carryover 10 days instead of the usual five. Next year I'll "only" get 34 PTO days but will most likely carry over five, because how the hell am I going to use up 44 days?!

[Deleted]

Quite sure I could figure out a way to use those days!!! Aren't you in some sort of editing/writing field? I would love to pick your brain about online editing, if you wouldn't mind.😀

[Deleted]

I   being alone, but not unapproachable, or left untouched by the outside world. 

[Cookies Galore]

Jan 24, 2017 23:05:29 GMT -5 @empressspunkles said:

Quite sure I could figure out a way to use those days!!! Aren't you in some sort of editing/writing field? I would love to pick your brain about online editing, if you wouldn't mind.😀

Yes, I am a medical editor. I don't do any sort of online editing work, though, so it would probably hurt my brain if you pick at it!

[Deleted]

Jan 25, 2017 15:48:01 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

Jan 24, 2017 23:05:29 GMT -5 @empressspunkles said:

Quite sure I could figure out a way to use those days!!! Aren't you in some sort of editing/writing field? I would love to pick your brain about online editing, if you wouldn't mind.😀

Yes, I am a medical editor. I don't do any sort of online editing work, though, so it would probably hurt my brain if you pick at it!

Have some wine. Pickle it then I'll pick it.

[movingforward]

Jan 23, 2017 18:57:01 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

I'm both an introvert and an extrovert. I'm very friendly and outgoing. I will talk to random people all the time. I genuinely like people...at least not assholes

On the flip side, I do like my alone time. That was the one thing I noticed when I got divorced. If the kids were at my exes I was alone...in my own house! That never happened before

I work a lot, have kids and a serious boyfriend so my alone time is limited. But I'm content pouring wine, soaking in the jacuzzi and reading.

Same here. I have always been a social person, but I also enjoy being alone. I enjoy my own company - LOL! I have the personality of a cat, I like being social when I want to be. Sometimes I am the life of the party and sometimes I just want to order a pizza and binge watch Netflix by myself. I like living alone because it is really easy for me to have people over or go out when I want social interaction, but also easy to get alone time when I want it. I am actually quite spoiled because I pretty much do whatever I want whenever I want to do it.

My ex was a little baffled by me. Unlike a lot of women, I was telling him to go play golf on Saturday because I wanted to hang out with my BFF. I had no problem with him watching sports all day on Sunday - GOOD! I will go to yoga and then binge watch Netflix by myself or read! YIPPEE!

I do like having people to talk to though. I am not one of those people that can go for days with no social interaction.

[cktc]

I like being alone under the right conditions, basically with a security blanket of people out there. It's nice having online friends at my finger tips, someone to call, the occasional in person interaction. Generally, as long as I'm busy I'm happy. 

[raeoflyte]

I'm basically never alone at this point, so right now I'd say I love alone time because its a treat.  

[Bonny]

You don't think the property trips I do out of town are really about inspecting the property and overseeing the contractors do you?

I love my husband but since he's retired there's waaaay too much "unalone" time. I was used to him traveling once or twice a month. Now he tells me how to load the dishwasher a chore I've done since I was 8.

[wvugurl26]

Jan 30, 2017 16:55:44 GMT -5 Bonny said:

You don't think the property trips I do out of town are really about inspecting the property and overseeing the contractors do you?

I love my husband but since he's retired there's waaaay too much "unalone" time. I was used to him traveling once or twice a month. Now he tells me how to load the dishwasher a chore I've done since I was 8.

Well since he knows how to do it that should be his job!!

[Bob Ross]

I like my alone time, but was not so great at being single.

I think there is a general difference in the genders where solitary males are much more likely to be judged as creepy / threatening / serial killers.

Or at least I am.  I wonder why?