zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 9, 2016 6:42:10 GMT -5
NomoreDramaQ1015 - do you think it's time to reassess your career? You seem very unhappy recently. I used to work for a university (staff) and identify with many of the frustrations surrounding academia. Is there a way for you to enter private industry, even if it means obtaining additional training or qualifications? DH and I have been talking about it but now is not the time. We haven't rebuild our financial house, DH needs kidney stone surgery and daycare is killing us. If we can solve the daycare situation we can move the timeline but at the moment I need to stay put at least another two years. If they would hire someone like they claimed they would I'd be better. As it is I've had a breakdown at work and so has the coworker they shifted a large chunk of my work onto. You'd think two people crying at their desk would indicate something is very wrong. Outsiders who depend on us have picked it up why not them? Because as long as you'll do it, they don't care.
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Post by kjto1 on Oct 9, 2016 7:44:36 GMT -5
Through this whole debacle with my daughter, I've realized that I am way more of a planner/uncomfortable with change than I ever thought. I will create or execute a plan for just about any challenge possible. The plan is me working 80 hour weeks for 3 months? No problem. The plan is me living in a 8x8 room with a sick 4 year old? No worries. Everything will be fine as long as we all stick to the plan. I've got it all worked out and envisioned and it will all be FINE. But when someone changes the plan on me? I turn into a puddle of goo and spend a huge amount of time and emotional energy spinning into a state of anxiety trying to figure out what the possible impacts are and how I am ever, ever going to survive. Even the potential of someone changing the plan gets me worked up right now. In normal life I find it annoying and frustrating when people change plans on me mid-course. During an actual, for real crisis? Puddle of goo.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 9, 2016 9:02:23 GMT -5
I've realized that trying to dye your hair smokey violet out of a drug store box is a really dumb idea! It mixed with my natural color and the blond to turn into this really ugly grayish red purple mess. Now I'm spending $$$ at jcp to get it fixed. Thank god it's working. I'll play with hair chalk from now on if I am tempted by a funky color. I was tempted to buy hair dye to color my hair. I looked at red, blue, pink, and purple. In the end, I bought nothing. I don't want permemamt but I'm still too chicken. Maybe after we close on selling our house in 2.5 weeks... Get it done professionally. Unless you are a natural bleach blonde there is a lot that goes into getting the correct color that the stupid box doesn't mention.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 9, 2016 9:05:02 GMT -5
I was tempted to buy hair dye to color my hair. I looked at red, blue, pink, and purple. In the end, I bought nothing. I don't want permemamt but I'm still too chicken. Maybe after we close on selling our house in 2.5 weeks... Get it done professionally. Unless you are a natural bleach blonde there is a lot that goes into getting the correct blue, pink or purple.that the stupid box doesn't mention. I did my own red for a long time using Vidal Sassoon but I had it done by the beauty school at first. Red is easy to mess up and stays in your hair freaking forever.
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Post by countrygirl on Oct 9, 2016 19:52:19 GMT -5
I did get my hair dyed, went to a local beautician, its to dark but other then that shiny and pretty. I bought a can of spray that makes hair shine but holds good from Bed Head, it was $15 on sale at Walmart.
I got tired of the 2 tone hair. If I pulled it back the front half underneath was grey, the rest was dark brown. It used to get grey then back to brown again over and over, I think its finally ready to be grey. To me it was looking tired and old. I said I wouldn't do this but did, I would go to a professional also. She used a demi permanent color, said its not as harsh but also stays in longer then the other kind.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2016 20:26:23 GMT -5
If I don't know exactly what a task entails, I assume the worst, putting it off day after day, when tackling it usually takes 1/10th of the time and mental energy that actually doing it entails. Yes, I've learned that I spend much more energy dreading doing something I don't want to do for whatever reason and procrastinating, than the energy it takes to just do it and get it over with. Still working on turning that knowledge into action consistently though. I'm another one that's lazy. One good thing about my laziness is that it often makes me try to figure out the most efficient way to get things done. If there's a faster, easier way to get something done well, a lazy person like me will figure it out lol.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 13, 2016 16:27:17 GMT -5
I realized after losing my shit over a missing lab assignment that I'm probably too hard on my kids.
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Post by swasat on Oct 17, 2016 9:46:02 GMT -5
I've realized I've become very picky about who I hang out with. Sigh..... That stems from my dislike of people in general, but it definitely has downsides to it. I have a lot less people who I can go out with and whose company I really enjoy. Being non-religious and generally agnostic to anything religion related also plays a factor int all this. BUT... I am quite an extrovert and I like having fun. So lack of enough friends is no helping I need to make some changes in my attitude. So.not.fun.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Oct 17, 2016 12:00:17 GMT -5
I've realized I've become very picky about who I hang out with. Sigh..... That stems from my dislike of people in general, but it definitely has downsides to it. I have a lot less people who I can go out with and whose company I really enjoy. Being non-religious and generally agnostic to anything religion related also plays a factor int all this. BUT... I am quite an extrovert and I like having fun. So lack of enough friends is no helping I need to make some changes in my attitude. So.not.fun. move to NJ so we can be mean girls together!
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Post by dee27 on Oct 17, 2016 12:24:03 GMT -5
I am picky about friends because I cannot tolerate drama queens and whiners thus I rant in privacy at home.
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Post by swasat on Oct 17, 2016 13:03:45 GMT -5
I've realized I've become very picky about who I hang out with. Sigh..... That stems from my dislike of people in general, but it definitely has downsides to it. I have a lot less people who I can go out with and whose company I really enjoy. Being non-religious and generally agnostic to anything religion related also plays a factor int all this. BUT... I am quite an extrovert and I like having fun. So lack of enough friends is no helping I need to make some changes in my attitude. So.not.fun. move to NJ so we can be mean girls together! Girl, we will paint the town RED! (and BLUE and PURPLE and PINK...)
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Post by Jaguar on Oct 17, 2016 15:21:15 GMT -5
I am picky about friends because I cannot tolerate drama queens and whiners thus I rant in privacy at home. I'm picky cause I cannot stand emotional vampires, so that includes drama queens, whiners and a lot of others. BUT I just freaking LOVE being on my own and all by myself. Yes there is a song in there somewhere.
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Post by Tired Tess on Oct 17, 2016 20:17:48 GMT -5
I have never figured out what I want to be. So, because I type, can answer the phone, and know the alphabet for filing purposes, I have always been in admin assist positions.
If I had an epiphany, stopped working and went to college for the education I would need, at best I would be done in 3 yrs.
I want to be retired in 4 yrs. Time is marching on and I have no idea what I want to be and have no bragging rights to anything close to a career.
On the bright side I have happy, healthy college educated children and a genuine loving marriage of 29.6 yrs.
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