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Post by NoNamePerson on Aug 9, 2016 11:57:54 GMT -5
When I got divorce all I ever heard was you won't meet anyone decent in a bar!! Well I picked up a honey and we lived together around 8 yrs. But as far as the OP goes, I went into it knowing marriage was out of the question and he knew that up front. I had no desire to tie the knot or do anything "jointly" again. BTDT Near the end he started mentioning the M word so I ended it - that way he could get out there and find a wife Apparently I was destined to meet people in odd places. I can say that I actually met and went out on a few date with a guy I met at the grocery store. (I know I feel so cliche) I swear I wasn't trolling the produce aisle asking men if they had any tips for picking a good cucumber I met a guy at a restaurant who was at a bachelor party while I was having dinner with my family. I think we spoke for about 5 min, exchanged phone numbers and ended up going out a few times. The coup de gras was meeting MrSroo at a St Patrick's Day Parade. I couldn't have planned that one if I tried. Everyone else I dated was guys that I met in a bar. I heard the same things about only crazy drunk people with ill intent go to bars to meet people. I believed it, right up until I thought "Hey I'm not a crazy drunk person with ill intent, I go to bars, surely other normal people go too" That's what I thought and besides during the early 80's the bars were the place to be!! At least for me
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Aug 9, 2016 12:06:45 GMT -5
When I got divorce all I ever heard was you won't meet anyone decent in a bar!! Well I picked up a honey and we lived together around 8 yrs. But as far as the OP goes, I went into it knowing marriage was out of the question and he knew that up front. I had no desire to tie the knot or do anything "jointly" again. BTDT Near the end he started mentioning the M word so I ended it - that way he could get out there and find a wife Apparently I was destined to meet people in odd places. I can say that I actually met and went out on a few date with a guy I met at the grocery store. (I know I feel so cliche) I swear I wasn't trolling the produce aisle asking men if they had any tips for picking a good cucumber I met a guy at a restaurant who was at a bachelor party while I was having dinner with my family. I think we spoke for about 5 min, exchanged phone numbers and ended up going out a few times. The coup de gras was meeting MrSroo at a St Patrick's Day Parade. I couldn't have planned that one if I tried. Everyone else I dated was guys that I met in a bar. I heard the same things about only crazy drunk people with ill intent go to bars to meet people. I believed it, right up until I thought "Hey I'm not a crazy drunk person with ill intent, I go to bars, surely other normal people go too" I agree. I never understood the "I won't date anybody I meet in a bar" train of thought. I have a friend who says that. My response was, "Weren't you in the bar, too?" It's pretty arrogant to think you are the only "good" person in there!
I can't think of any place I'd go that I'd exclude from dating possibilities...except maybe an STD clinic or the Democratic National Convention - both places I'd never be seen at so I guess I don't have to worry!
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Post by justme on Aug 9, 2016 12:07:33 GMT -5
I met a lot more guys out and about when I looked more my age. Now I still look mid 20s or younger and an wondering where all those guys in the early 30s that hit on young looking girls are! If I get hit on it's almost 24 and under. And ya gotta have like Olympic diver body for me to deal with the stupidness of most guys that age.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 9, 2016 15:02:55 GMT -5
The funny thing is none of these people who being played can't give 1 example of being played. But the word is still flying.
And you know, how many of us at some point were in love LUST for whole 2 days to change it 180 degree one day. I didn't want to play anyone. 'Love' evaporized. But I wasn't playing. I WAS in love LUST when I said I was but it went somewhere. So if I continue to see that person that would be playing I guess. No, it doesn't fly. Does it? Naah...playing is something else.
Fixed No, I was young and there was no sex. We were going together for years and I waited for him from army. Then it was gone. Still can't explain it to myself. My wedding was planned...
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 8:50:09 GMT -5
I met a lot more guys out and about when I looked more my age. Now I still look mid 20s or younger and an wondering where all those guys in the early 30s that hit on young looking girls are! If I get hit on it's almost 24 and under. And ya gotta have like Olympic diver body for me to deal with the stupidness of most guys that age. My husband just got hit on by 21 y/old. He is 60! Lol
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Aug 10, 2016 9:49:32 GMT -5
The young women are looking for the money of an older man (married or not) with one foot on the banana peel toward the grave. Most older men know how to keep their cash at arms length but pick the low hanging fruits.
I have spent a lifetime watching "players" of different varieties. A marriage in name only is better than being out on the playing field.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 9:52:08 GMT -5
The young women are looking for the money of an older man (married or not) with one foot on the banana peel toward the grave. Most older men know how to keep their cash at arms length but pick the low hanging fruits. I have spent a lifetime watching "players" of different varieties. A marriage in name only is better than being out on the playing field. Huh? Elaborate please
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 9:57:21 GMT -5
My husband's SIL is a head doctor. She said young generation is so weak on taking no for an answer because they growing up with parents who are too busy to tell then no - it is easier to get them that toy to shut them up than explain why not...so when for the first time boy hearing 'no I don't want to date you' - his shock is so great that all he can think of is to buy flowers and step out of the second store window. (true story btw, happened at HS my friend's kids are students).
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Post by andi9899 on Aug 10, 2016 11:32:05 GMT -5
I'm not a player, I just crush a lot.
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Post by andi9899 on Aug 10, 2016 12:02:32 GMT -5
I'm not a player, I just crush a lot. So now I have been walking around the house singing that song and the girls are over it.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Aug 10, 2016 13:29:30 GMT -5
I'm not a player, I just crush a lot. And I just lust a lot!!
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Aug 10, 2016 14:04:38 GMT -5
The young women are looking for the money of an older man (married or not) with one foot on the banana peel toward the grave. Most older men know how to keep their cash at arms length but pick the low hanging fruits. I have spent a lifetime watching "players" of different varieties. A marriage in name only is better than being out on the playing field. Huh? Elaborate please I know who and what I am dealing with. Out playing the field of dates, you have no idea what that person is into. Drugs and multiple partners are my two big rejections. The screening process when you are single is long and arduous at best.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 10, 2016 14:15:44 GMT -5
I know who and what I am dealing with. Out playing the field of dates, you have no idea what that person is into. Drugs and multiple partners are my two big rejections. The screening process when you are single is long and arduous at best. yeah... OR you could find someone who is wonderful and a great match for you. You can have guaranteed unhappiness or possible happiness. I'd rather take the chance on possible happiness.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Aug 10, 2016 14:40:16 GMT -5
The young women are looking for the money of an older man (married or not) with one foot on the banana peel toward the grave. Most older men know how to keep their cash at arms length but pick the low hanging fruits. I have spent a lifetime watching "players" of different varieties. A marriage in name only is better than being out on the playing field. Hmmm, had to think about this before posting. I could have stayed married just knowing that my EX would inherit probably 2 or 3 million from his parents. Would have been another 15 years in a marriage in name only. I would have been crazy as a loon trying to carry that off. So I hit the road and played the field. Absolutely no regrets on this end for my decision.
I have a friend who had a marriage in name only and still "played the field" anyway. Her kids found out and lost all respect for her. I guess seeing that also helped me make up my mind to drag up. No way would I risk the good relationship I have with my son.
But I guess there are some who go by the Loretta Lynn theory "Why give up an old fool you know for a new fool you don't know?" Heard her say that in an interview long ago when asked about her husbands infidelities.
Just not for everyone. I kinda like the new fools I met/dated/lived with along the way!!
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 21:37:48 GMT -5
I'm not a player, I just crush a lot. What do you do to us women so we can say 'he played me' at the end?
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 21:40:14 GMT -5
I'm not a player, I just crush a lot. So now I have been walking around the house singing that song and the girls are over it. So you just quoted yourself. Does it mean you are narcissc in some way?
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 21:41:18 GMT -5
I'm not a player, I just crush a lot. And I just lust a lot!! Whats your 'game'? Do you 'play' women? How?
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Post by naughtybear on Aug 10, 2016 21:43:21 GMT -5
I kind of don't want to admit it but I am a player.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 21:44:28 GMT -5
I know who and what I am dealing with. Out playing the field of dates, you have no idea what that person is into. Drugs and multiple partners are my two big rejections. The screening process when you are single is long and arduous at best. Rules of your game? If you are a player...do you tell drugged prostitute you love her and will marry her just after the sex? So you don't have to pay?
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 21:46:11 GMT -5
I kind of don't want to admit it but I am a player. Come out! Please explain. HOW do you play and why and with whom...do you get them by...what qualities? Please, open my eyes!
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 21:49:14 GMT -5
I know who and what I am dealing with. Out playing the field of dates, you have no idea what that person is into. Drugs and multiple partners are my two big rejections. The screening process when you are single is long and arduous at best. yeah... OR you could find someone who is wonderful and a great match for you. You can have guaranteed unhappiness or possible happiness. I'd rather take the chance on possible happiness. Hon, I know you are tough and smart! Couldn't get your message however. What did you mean by that?
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Post by naughtybear on Aug 10, 2016 21:52:21 GMT -5
I don't know, if I talk about it I will probably get shamed and maligned here.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 21:58:35 GMT -5
The young women are looking for the money of an older man (married or not) with one foot on the banana peel toward the grave. Most older men know how to keep their cash at arms length but pick the low hanging fruits. I have spent a lifetime watching "players" of different varieties. A marriage in name only is better than being out on the playing field. Hmmm, had to think about this before posting. I could have stayed married just knowing that my EX would inherit probably 2 or 3 million from his parents. Would have been another 15 years in a marriage in name only. I would have been crazy as a loon trying to carry that off. So I hit the road and played the field. Absolutely no regrets on this end for my decision.
I have a friend who had a marriage in name only and still "played the field" anyway. Her kids found out and lost all respect for her. I guess seeing that also helped me make up my mind to drag up. No way would I risk the good relationship I have with my son.
But I guess there are some who go by the Loretta Lynn theory "Why give up an old fool you know for a new fool you don't know?" Heard her say that in an interview long ago when asked about her husbands infidelities.
Just not for everyone. I kinda like the new fools I met/dated/lived with along the way!!
I think this is more complicated issue than what I was talking about. These kids are 'played' by being dumped without marriage, kids or money. They are just feeling played for no apparent reason. 'After 2 dates he disappeared and never called me again'...'I had been played'! NO, stupid! He just moved on with his life...and you should move on with yours as well...
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 21:59:48 GMT -5
I don't know, if I talk about it I will probably get shamed and maligned here. pm me. I will not judge. I promise not to post it here unless you beg me to
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Post by naughtybear on Aug 10, 2016 22:02:58 GMT -5
Ok Tloony, I will. LOL
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Post by Jaguar on Aug 10, 2016 22:08:46 GMT -5
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 10, 2016 22:10:19 GMT -5
Thank you
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 22:15:43 GMT -5
Is it really hard to quote so we all know who are you are thanking to? zib, you know better by now...
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 10, 2016 22:18:05 GMT -5
Sugilite knew. That's what counts.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 10, 2016 22:35:42 GMT -5
Sugilite knew. That's what counts. So...is it a clique thing? I am just wondering... Or you are too lazy or don't know how to quote?
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