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Post by sesfw on Jul 17, 2016 21:02:55 GMT -5
the smoke smell will make it more difficult to sell. We were looking for a place to buy and walked into one home that was empty. Didn't get past the front door and walked out again. The stale smoke was overwhelming to the point I couldn't breathe. As I remember it was a nice home.
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Post by milee on Jul 17, 2016 21:13:34 GMT -5
the smoke smell will make it more difficult to sell. We were looking for a place to buy and walked into one home that was empty. Didn't get past the front door and walked out again. The stale smoke was overwhelming to the point I couldn't breathe. As I remember it was a nice home. Used cars have the same issue. I love to buy gently used cars - like 2 years old just off lease - but am always surprised how many otherwise nice looking cars smell like smoke. Pass.
Rental cars, too; even the ones marked "nonsmoking". I know people think that if they roll the windows down the smoke smell doesn't get or stay in the car, but it does. Blech.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2016 21:19:13 GMT -5
Thank you for the thread. I smoke, not in my car, not in the house, not during work (I don't take breaks to smoke) DH does not. Never has, never will. IF I haven't totally cleaned up after a cigarette, I hear about it. I don't have a defense, I have tried multiple times. Cold turkey, patches, acupuncture, drugs, hypnosis....
The best I can offer is I try very hard to not infect others with second hand smoke. With as little as I do smoke, you would think that I would quit. He tries to be patient for the 15 minute time out.
I'll hire my DH to you to help you quit smoking. he will nag you so incessantly that you will be happy to quit just to get him to STFU!! 2 pack a day smoker and I quit after about 5 years or so just to shut him off. of course, watching my mother kill herself with COPD and smoking until 2 days before she died didn't hurt either. Of course, I do miss the side benefit of smoking when drinking instead of eating when drinking. I'm a LOT fatter now, damn it!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2016 7:53:07 GMT -5
Books pick up the smell. I once loaned some texts without thinking. They were unusable when they came back.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 19, 2016 8:51:54 GMT -5
My friend asked me over the weekend if I wanted to stand outside with her while she smoked. Um, no. It's crazy humid and I'm having a hard enough time breathing, then you want to throw your smoke on top of it? I can't.
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Post by billisonboard on Jul 19, 2016 9:21:27 GMT -5
30 years since I smoked and there are still times I go out of my way for a second hand smoke hit.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jul 19, 2016 9:50:50 GMT -5
DH smokes. He only does it outside and after the kids are in bed. Before I met him it was always a deal-breaker for me, but for some reason I don't mind when he does. I will even sit out on the patio with him at night. He's careful to stand with the smoke blowing away from me. I would say he has a pack every week or every 2 weeks, so clearly not a lot.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jul 19, 2016 10:00:04 GMT -5
DH smokes. He only does it outside and after the kids are in bed. Before I met him it was always a deal-breaker for me, but for some reason I don't mind when he does. I will even sit out on the patio with him at night. He's careful to stand with the smoke blowing away from me. I would say he has a pack every week or every 2 weeks, so clearly not a lot. With God's help he will overcome this burden.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jul 19, 2016 10:01:23 GMT -5
DH smokes. He only does it outside and after the kids are in bed. Before I met him it was always a deal-breaker for me, but for some reason I don't mind when he does. I will even sit out on the patio with him at night. He's careful to stand with the smoke blowing away from me. I would say he has a pack every week or every 2 weeks, so clearly not a lot. With God's help he will overcome this burden. Can you imagine how scandalous this has been for him? Serious guilt and shame. Lol!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jul 19, 2016 14:17:49 GMT -5
My DH smoked. Has since he was 15. He does not smoke in the house. He will smoke in the screened in porch and in the garage. He always makes sure that people aren't near him (or downwind) when he smokes outside. He does not smoke in the car. He will smoke outside and the kids are near, but he tries not to pick up the kids when he is smoking (sometimes it can't be helped, but he'll put the cigarette down as soon as possible).
I never thought I would date (let alone be married for more than a decade) to a smoker, but I only rarely notice it.
A year ago, DH started valine and smoking. He would vape inside on a regular basis. Then he stopped vaping for a while and went back to smoking full time. Then he hung with his brother and started vaping again.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 19, 2016 14:43:41 GMT -5
I'm baffled by why people start in the first place.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2016 14:49:35 GMT -5
I'm baffled by why people start in the first place. I can see back in my day and earlier when the "cool kids" were smoking and then ending up addicted, but whenever I see someone under the age of 40 smoking I'm really surprised. It's not socially acceptable and it's expensive as hell.
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Post by lexxy703 on Jul 19, 2016 15:11:58 GMT -5
I'm baffled by why people start in the first place. My freshman year of college I gained weight. I noticed that the skinny girls smoked instead of munched. It worked & I lost weight. 30 years later I still smoke. Oh the high cost of vanity!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 19, 2016 15:50:56 GMT -5
Smoking was a rule breaker for me...and now I'm dating a guy that smokes. Sigh. But he is a very courteous smoker so I guess that makes me feel better. He never smokes in his car (even if he is alone), he smokes outside and makes sure to smoke downwind. I do wish he would quit for health reasons but I would never harp on him about it. I started dating him knowing that he is a smoker so it would be very unfair of me to bitch at him for it.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 19, 2016 15:53:51 GMT -5
I'm baffled by why people start in the first place. I can see back in my day and earlier when the "cool kids" were smoking and then ending up addicted, but whenever I see someone under the age of 40 smoking I'm really surprised. It's not socially acceptable and it's expensive as hell. I assume it's because their parents smoked. That's what I've seen be a bit of a ripple effect.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2016 16:00:53 GMT -5
I can see back in my day and earlier when the "cool kids" were smoking and then ending up addicted, but whenever I see someone under the age of 40 smoking I'm really surprised. It's not socially acceptable and it's expensive as hell. I assume it's because their parents smoked. That's what I've seen be a bit of a ripple effect. I've seen that too and that is one of the big reasons I didn't want to ever date a smoker after I had a kid. I don't really care a whole lot if other adults choose to smoke (as long as it's not in my house/car), but I would be really sad if either of my boys started.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 19, 2016 16:09:14 GMT -5
Books pick up the smell. I once loaned some texts without thinking. They were unusable when they came back. I got a book from the library and the moment I opened it it stank up the entire house! DH came home from work and asked who the hell had been smoking in our house. That book they keep. .. I get a book with a small stain on the edge of a few pages and they make me pay $32.00 for it saying it's unusable. How about the smoke book in the CHILDREN'S section?
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Post by flamingo on Jul 19, 2016 16:09:20 GMT -5
My DH smoked until 1 month before we started dating. He stopped on his own for health reasons. That was 10 years ago. He will occasionally smoke a cigar, but only outside and not around other people. He'll smoke a cigar sometimes when we are taking a walk but he makes sure he's downwind. He's a big boy and responsible for his own health. While I don't like that he smoke the occasional cigar, me making a stink (hehe) about it won't change things and will just cause us to fight. I don't want that. He does immediately brush his teeth and will change his clothes if I can smell the cigar on him. He also says that now, 10 years late, the smell of cigarette smoke makes him nauseous.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jul 19, 2016 16:17:59 GMT -5
DH smokes. He only does it outside and after the kids are in bed. Before I met him it was always a deal-breaker for me, but for some reason I don't mind when he does. I will even sit out on the patio with him at night. He's careful to stand with the smoke blowing away from me. I would say he has a pack every week or every 2 weeks, so clearly not a lot. I smoke. A few months ago, my brother who lives up in the northeast was visiting for a few days. I smoke in the house because it is just me. I asked him if he minded if I smoked while he was visiting and if he did, HE could step outside while I smoked.
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Post by sesfw on Jul 19, 2016 16:29:39 GMT -5
I smoke in the house because it is just me.
Hope you are saving funds for a major renovation when you decide to sell. I agree, your house, your rules but please think of the future also.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 19, 2016 16:30:55 GMT -5
I can see back in my day and earlier when the "cool kids" were smoking and then ending up addicted, but whenever I see someone under the age of 40 smoking I'm really surprised. It's not socially acceptable and it's expensive as hell. I assume it's because their parents smoked. That's what I've seen be a bit of a ripple effect. My parents did and I was embarrassed by it when I met other friends parents. Educated people didn't smoke. It showed that my parents weren't compared to theirs.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 19, 2016 16:32:41 GMT -5
I can see back in my day and earlier when the "cool kids" were smoking and then ending up addicted, but whenever I see someone under the age of 40 smoking I'm really surprised. It's not socially acceptable and it's expensive as hell. I assume it's because their parents smoked. That's what I've seen be a bit of a ripple effect. My parents never smoked and both my sister and I did.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 19, 2016 16:36:55 GMT -5
I assume it's because their parents smoked. That's what I've seen be a bit of a ripple effect. My parents never smoked and both my sister and I did. Why did you two start ?
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jul 19, 2016 16:47:01 GMT -5
Smoking was a rule breaker for me...and now I'm dating a guy that smokes. Sigh. But he is a very courteous smoker so I guess that makes me feel better. He never smokes in his car (even if he is alone), he smokes outside and makes sure to smoke downwind. I do wish he would quit for health reasons but I would never harp on him about it. I started dating him knowing that he is a smoker so it would be very unfair of me to bitch at him for it. That is how I feel about my husband. I knew he was a smoker before we started dating. But I still get annoyed that 12 years of being together and he's never made a real effort to quit.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 19, 2016 17:59:17 GMT -5
My parents never smoked and both my sister and I did. Why did you two start ? I had a friend who smoked and I did it because she was and thought I was cool. My 13 yo mind didn't think about the consequences. As far as my sister, I don't know. Maybe because her older sister did.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 19, 2016 18:28:55 GMT -5
Smoking was a rule breaker for me...and now I'm dating a guy that smokes. Sigh. But he is a very courteous smoker so I guess that makes me feel better. He never smokes in his car (even if he is alone), he smokes outside and makes sure to smoke downwind. I do wish he would quit for health reasons but I would never harp on him about it. I started dating him knowing that he is a smoker so it would be very unfair of me to bitch at him for it. That is how I feel about my husband. I knew he was a smoker before we started dating. But I still get annoyed that 12 years of being together and he's never made a real effort to quit. Well we have only been dating 7 months. Too soon for me to be annoyed about it. But my daughter lectures him!lol. He doesn't smlke around Her but she sees him go outside. It's pretty funny to watch my little one turn into a nag!ll
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Post by honeysalt on Jul 20, 2016 0:03:19 GMT -5
Can you please share your experiences? How do you deal? Are there rules around when/where SO can or can't smoke? MJ2.0, I like you. I think you are smart, you seem to be exploring the bounds of who you could be, and you are sassy. With that said, please don't compromise when it comes to s SO. I get the sense that you have never practiced catch and release in dating, which involves loving your single life so much you couldn't compromise it for anyone who didn't add to it exponentially. I might be wildly out of bounds here, but, to me, smoking isn't something most people can compromise on (said as a former smoker married to a non-smoker).
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Post by Deleted on Jul 20, 2016 2:28:32 GMT -5
I assume it's because their parents smoked. That's what I've seen be a bit of a ripple effect. My parents did and I was embarrassed by it when I met other friends parents. Educated people didn't smoke. It showed that my parents weren't compared to theirs. Educated people can be addicts also. Now I must stay away from this thread it's making me crave a smoke.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 20, 2016 3:06:49 GMT -5
My parents did and I was embarrassed by it when I met other friends parents. Educated people didn't smoke. It showed that my parents weren't compared to theirs. Educated people can be addicts also. Now I must stay away from this thread it's making me crave a smoke.
Not in my limited experience. I was ashamed when before I just accepted it. Even now I know absolutely no one that smokes.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 20, 2016 5:02:15 GMT -5
I assume it's because their parents smoked. That's what I've seen be a bit of a ripple effect. My parents did and I was embarrassed by it when I met other friends parents. Educated people didn't smoke. It showed that my parents weren't compared to theirs. I know a few educated people who smoke or have smoked. One was my dad who quit to help save his marriage (didn't help). Others were co-workers and I've worked in public accounting firms in which they were CPAs.
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