Phoenix84
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 15, 2016 23:01:45 GMT -5
Like the OP, I have a pretty wide cynical streak, which impairs any attempt at the "nice person" label.
While I'm certainly not unnecessarily cruel to anyone, and am cordial and polite, I don't generally go out of my way to be "nice."
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Tired Tess
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Post by Tired Tess on Jul 16, 2016 7:50:33 GMT -5
I'm nice.
I enjoy being nice on what I consider the "easy stuff". Let a car merge into my lane, hold a door open for a person, complement a woman on her purse. Easy-peasy.
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jkapp
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Post by jkapp on Jul 16, 2016 21:36:33 GMT -5
I'm too cynical to be nice. And I hate people too much
I think I remember that I used to be nice...but then I started working jobs where I had to deal with customers. And then that was it...no more nice.
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toomuchreality
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 17, 2016 2:43:09 GMT -5
I'm nice. I enjoy being nice on what I consider the "easy stuff". Let a car merge into my lane, hold a door open for a person, complement a woman on her purse. Easy-peasy. Me too. Nice, yes. Doormat, no. HUGE difference!
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gracendignity
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Post by gracendignity on Jul 17, 2016 6:27:10 GMT -5
Niceness, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.
I think I'm generally a pretty nice person. And when I'm not nice, later on I am usually ashamed of myself.
Most people who know me think I'm pretty nice.
Just last week my sister and 2 sisters-in-law told me I'm way too nice in my approach to my never-ending divorce.
HOWEVER, ask the Ex if I'm nice and he will most likely have a different opinion, especially since he is now aware I'm filing motions against him for not fulfilling financial obligations outlined in our divorce decree.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2016 6:48:02 GMT -5
I consider myself having learned how to respond nicely whether I am feeling tender-hearted or not. Hmmmm-- I guess me actually feeling tender-hearted is relative to my nice responses? It would be nice if both were hand in hand at all times..
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 17, 2016 12:14:06 GMT -5
My wife used to get upset by the way that our old landlord would treat me. He would be over working on something that had broken and lecture me like I was 16. She said he was being very disrespectful to me. I told her sure he was and I never had any problem getting him to come over promptly to fix what I needed/wanted him to fix because he perceived me to be incompetent (which when it comes to home repair he isn't wrong). I feel rather sad for people who feel the need to use me as their punchbag or use me as a self-esteem boost. I think what a pitiful life they must have to have to deal with others that way. I know it has nothing to do with me so I can let it flow past me most of the time. Wow. I have way too much mouth to just deal with people talking to me any kind of way.
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thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 17, 2016 20:48:57 GMT -5
I don't think I am all that nice. But, I appear to have some people fooled. Maybe they just have really low standards.
A gal that I work with sent me an email a few months after her husband died saying how she appreciated me for all the support I gave her during her troubles. I purposely did not say a thing to her about her husband because (a) I usually fuck up that situation and (b) I am freaked by people dying young, so I don't like to talk about it unless I have to. So - I am not sure what support I gave her, except that I didn't chew her butt for a few mistakes that were made. I wouldn't have chewed her butt anyway, because shit happens.
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happyhoix
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Post by happyhoix on Jul 18, 2016 7:49:00 GMT -5
Hmm, I think I'm also one of those who used to think the world was a fun place and we should all be nice to each other, and then life happened and I became an old cynical broad.
I'm good at 'getting along' at work and with relatives. Probably most of my coworkers consider me nice and accommodating. I always get high marks from my boss for working well in a group.
I have a snarky interior monologue, though. If I ever get some kind of disease that eliminates my filter and allows me to speak what I think, I'll probably be run out of town on a rail.
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Miss Tequila
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 18, 2016 7:59:39 GMT -5
I generally like people so I do think I'm a nice person. I don't put up with bullshit, whiners, miserable people or people that try to ram their views down your throat....so I guess it depends on who you ask if I'm nice or not...lol
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whoisjohngalt
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jul 18, 2016 8:31:15 GMT -5
My wife used to get upset by the way that our old landlord would treat me. He would be over working on something that had broken and lecture me like I was 16. She said he was being very disrespectful to me. I told her sure he was and I never had any problem getting him to come over promptly to fix what I needed/wanted him to fix because he perceived me to be incompetent (which when it comes to home repair he isn't wrong). I feel rather sad for people who feel the need to use me as their punchbag or use me as a self-esteem boost. I think what a pitiful life they must have to have to deal with others that way. I know it has nothing to do with me so I can let it flow past me most of the time. Wow. I have way too much mouth to just deal with people talking to me any kind of way. I am no wall flower, but I just don't care enough about most people to react to how they talk to me. Now, if it's my husband or my children - that's a different story. One of my bosses yelled at me a few times, so loud, that many people heard it and wondered when am I going to report her to HR. I never even considered it. She was so inconsequential to my life. Now, if her actions resulted in me not getting a raise or something - then it would be different. But people being rude to me? I just don't care at all! I keep hearing that I am setting a bad example for my kids. That's a hard part, bc at least one of them has a potential to be a push over. But for me - I know who I am, I know that I can shot back, I just don't find it necessary to waste my energy.
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