Chocolate Lover
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 20, 2016 14:48:56 GMT -5
I'm not a people person but I can fake it well enough to keep my job. Most of the time, I'm fine but there are some days/weeks where I just want to slap anyone who wants to impede on whatever quiet I get. I even get cranky if DH has a day off when I do. That's when I know to schedule a day off when everyone will not be home. You are creepy. I wonder how many of us are out there .... I seriously started laughing. I know you mean it in a good way. Right?!
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 20, 2016 14:49:28 GMT -5
You are creepy. I wonder how many of us are out there .... My DH travels a lot for work and when he is home, he talks a lot. When people ask me how I can stay alone, I just have to hide my glee - So much peace and quiet I don't even hide my glee about getting quiet time. Good thing my DH knows I love him. And the kids too.
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Post by yogiii on Sept 20, 2016 14:49:55 GMT -5
You are creepy. I wonder how many of us are out there .... I seriously started laughing. I know you mean it in a good way. Right?! Yes, I'm comfortable with myself and therefore, all of us
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 20, 2016 14:53:41 GMT -5
I seriously started laughing. I know you mean it in a good way. Right?! Yes, I'm comfortable with myself and therefore, all of us I'd say we should meet up but that might be more people time than any of us want.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Sept 20, 2016 15:02:35 GMT -5
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder" My wife and enjoyed my short time away in reserves.
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Post by swamp on Sept 20, 2016 15:15:46 GMT -5
I think I realized why I'm so grumpy!!!
I have only limited tolerance for interpersonal interaction. Both my job and my home life require an extensive amount of both. I need some "me" time.
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Post by swamp on Sept 20, 2016 15:18:08 GMT -5
I do have a new question! Why is it soooo much work to keep a conversation going? Do I hate people that much or do my social skills just suck that much? You hate people that much.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 20, 2016 15:27:45 GMT -5
I do have a new question! Why is it soooo much work to keep a conversation going? Do I hate people that much or do my social skills just suck that much? You hate people that much.
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I already knew it but I needed something to talk about.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 20, 2016 18:13:40 GMT -5
Talk about how foolish it was of me to spend 65 minutes on a treadmill just now. My thighs feel like rubber!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Sept 21, 2016 8:18:44 GMT -5
Never skip leg day!!!!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 21, 2016 9:07:11 GMT -5
I just go and treadmill. I figure moving is better than not so at this point, just getting my ass into the gym regularly is a win.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Sept 21, 2016 9:43:38 GMT -5
DH has been home quite a bit lately because of his painful back issues. I'm seriously thinking that a)he can NEVER retire if we are going to stay married or if he is going to stay alive or b)I will have to get a job working 80 hours a week when DH retires if we are going to stay married or if he is going to stay alive. I would like to believe that it is just because he is in so much pain (and he's one of those who openly vocalizes his pain with sighs and gasps and just overall whining) that makes us so incompatible these days, so I'm hanging in there. For now. ETA: So when DH DOES go to work, I hibernate in my house and decompress and re-charge. A friend regularly asks me to go to the noisy, popular, gym with her and I cringe. I'm not completely anti-social (I walk many mornings with a group of very cool dog owners), and it is only situational (and hopefully will resolve itself soon if and when DH gets relief), but it takes ALOT of emotional energy to be supportive to someone in chronic pain, so I hibernate for now.
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Post by giramomma on Sept 21, 2016 11:16:55 GMT -5
I'm seriously thinking that a)he can NEVER retire if we are going to stay married or if he is going to stay alive or b)I will have to get a job working 80 hours a week when DH retires if we are going to stay married or if he is going to stay alive. While not quite the same, growing up, there was a musician couple that worked with a bunch of us. They lived about 7 hours away from each other by car. The wife commuted to our city for long weekends, worked and spent time with her husband, and drove home. Her husband is quite a bit older than her (apparently, she was his student) and therefore retired before her. They were all excited to be together, to live together. Within two years of his retirement, the couple divorced.
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Post by jeep108 on Sept 21, 2016 11:42:04 GMT -5
My husband wants to take FMLA when I have my surgery to remove my ribs and shoulder muscle. I'm not sure this will be such a great idea. He hates sitting around the house and he gets bored easy. He volunteers to work 60 hour weeks, the man is a workaholic. My mom and a few friends want to stay and help too. I'm trying to tell him if he decides that staying home is too much for him that he should just work. I know me, the adjustment to being limited to what I can do is going to be overwhelming and we just may take out our frustrations on each other. Stupid cancer, I really don't want to deal with any of this.
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Post by countrygirl on Sept 21, 2016 11:47:04 GMT -5
I'm sorry but I'm with you. When I'm sick after a certain time I want to be left alone. Initially help is good, then, just go away.
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Chocolate Lover
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 21, 2016 11:48:02 GMT -5
Jeep. He doesn't have to take every single day off, he can take one or two days a week. Just remind him of that too.
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Post by countrygirl on Sept 21, 2016 11:48:03 GMT -5
Reply #584 posted 30 minutes ago GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl likes this
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2 hours ago GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl said:
I'm seriously thinking that a)he can NEVER retire if we are going to stay married or if he is going to stay alive or b)I will have to get a job working 80 hours a week when DH retires if we are going to stay married or if he is going to stay alive.
While not quite the same, growing up, there was a musician couple that worked with a bunch of us.
They lived about 7 hours away from each other by car. The wife commuted to our city for long weekends, worked and spent time with her husband, and drove home.
Her husband is quite a bit older than her (apparently, she was his student) and therefore retired before her. They were all excited to be together, to live together.
Within two years of his retirement, the couple divorced.
Oh God, don't tell me that.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 21, 2016 12:52:46 GMT -5
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2 hours ago GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl said:
I'm seriously thinking that a)he can NEVER retire if we are going to stay married or if he is going to stay alive or b)I will have to get a job working 80 hours a week when DH retires if we are going to stay married or if he is going to stay alive.
While not quite the same, growing up, there was a musician couple that worked with a bunch of us.
They lived about 7 hours away from each other by car. The wife commuted to our city for long weekends, worked and spent time with her husband, and drove home.
Her husband is quite a bit older than her (apparently, she was his student) and therefore retired before her. They were all excited to be together, to live together.
Within two years of his retirement, the couple divorced.
Oh God, don't tell me that. EH. DH has been retired for 3 years. I sleep all day and work all night and he sleeps all day and night. Or "rests his eyes" while listening to the tv, snoring included. I drink to cope. Works for me. Seriously, I am starting to try to get myself out more. He doesn't want to go out but I do. So he gets to stay home and I go do things. I also NEEEEEED a new job so I want to do some online classes towards upgrading my skills so I hide out upstairs where he can't go. Only problem with that is every 20 frickin' minutes he stumps over to the bottom of the stairs to ask me if I need anything and if everything is ok. GAH!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by flamingo on Sept 21, 2016 13:31:04 GMT -5
DH has been home quite a bit lately because of his painful back issues. I'm seriously thinking that a)he can NEVER retire if we are going to stay married or if he is going to stay alive or b)I will have to get a job working 80 hours a week when DH retires if we are going to stay married or if he is going to stay alive. I would like to believe that it is just because he is in so much pain (and he's one of those who openly vocalizes his pain with sighs and gasps and just overall whining) that makes us so incompatible these days, so I'm hanging in there. For now. ETA: So when DH DOES go to work, I hibernate in my house and decompress and re-charge. A friend regularly asks me to go to the noisy, popular, gym with her and I cringe. I'm not completely anti-social (I walk many mornings with a group of very cool dog owners), and it is only situational (and hopefully will resolve itself soon if and when DH gets relief), but it takes ALOT of emotional energy to be supportive to someone in chronic pain, so I hibernate for now. If you change to back issues to foot issues, we could be married to the same man!! WHY does he have to vocalize every.single.twinge of pain? I mean, I thought I broke my toe over the weekend, and instead of moaning and groaning, I just changed into shoes that didn't hurt my toe and got on with life. Later, DH asked me why I was icing it and I told him. He was like, "Why didn't you tell me it hurt sooner? Does it really hurt, though, you didn't say anything? My foot issues are worse than yours!" To which he went on and on and on about his foot issues. Then he asked me to get up and get him water. It took all I had to not the water on his head! But good news, he finally got some good sleep last night, so when he woke up this morning, he was chipper and more talkative than ever! Lucky me!
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Post by movingforward on Sept 21, 2016 13:35:47 GMT -5
And people wonder why I choose to not get married
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Post by giramomma on Sept 21, 2016 13:50:18 GMT -5
While not quite the same, growing up, there was a musician couple that worked with a bunch of us.
They lived about 7 hours away from each other by car. The wife commuted to our city for long weekends, worked and spent time with her husband, and drove home.
Her husband is quite a bit older than her (apparently, she was his student) and therefore retired before her. They were all excited to be together, to live together.
Within two years of his retirement, the couple divorced.
Oh God, don't tell me that. I suspect the husband's interest in young women played into their divorce. I'm sure he dallied with younger women before he married his ex wife. His ex wife was a former student. He had plenty of opportunity to dally with young women after they got married. His access to young women got cut off after retirement and moving. I don't know who initiated the divorce. But if I had a steady supply of younger women who were dumb and naive, I don't know how well I'd react to a mature woman who knew better. If I was that wife, maybe I couldn't ignore my husband's behavior now that I was living with him, and thought, maybe I deserve better. Maybe her husband was a jackass if he wasn't getting sex with a young person. I'm going to assume that your husband does not share the same interest in young women.
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Post by giramomma on Sept 21, 2016 13:53:05 GMT -5
Why do my umbrellas never last for more than a week?
And why do I always lose them?
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Post by movingforward on Sept 21, 2016 14:03:15 GMT -5
This is coming from the unmarried person ...but I think it is really important for couples to have their own individual interest. It is great to have some things in common, of course, but I think having your own interest is a good thing especially in retirement. I can imagine that being with ANYONE 24/7 could really start to wear on you. Being able to go to the golf course, the gym, the movies with friends, etc. without your spouse is a good thing. The other issue IMHO is what happens when your spouse dies if you have absolutely no outside interest? My parents had very few friends and zero individual hobbies. My mother passed away suddenly a year after they retired. My dad was completely lost. More lost IMO than someone who had friends and hobbies would be. The lose of a spouse is hard on anyone but when you have nothing outside of your marriage a lose can be almost unbearable
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Post by Lizard Queen on Sept 21, 2016 14:08:02 GMT -5
My DH is pretty introverted too, so we don't really bother each other. We can chill together and not utter a word to each other and it feels comfortable and normal.
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Post by movingforward on Sept 21, 2016 14:19:19 GMT -5
Why do I keep hurting myself? Last year I fell and cracked a rib. That took 3 months to heal but since then I have developed tennis elbow, that got better but I just recently hurt my shoulder in body combat. It is getting downright annoying.
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Post by yogiii on Sept 21, 2016 14:22:06 GMT -5
Why do I keep hurting myself? Last year I fell and cracked a rib. That took 3 months to heal but since then I have developed tennis elbow, that got better but I just recently hurt my shoulder in body combat. It is getting downright annoying. Sorry, you are old now
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Post by movingforward on Sept 21, 2016 14:22:32 GMT -5
Why do I keep hurting myself? Last year I fell and cracked a rib. That took 3 months to heal but since then I have developed tennis elbow, that got better but I just recently hurt my shoulder in body combat. It is getting downright annoying. Sorry, you are old now
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Post by yogiii on Sept 21, 2016 14:25:50 GMT -5
I am also old, welcome, you have arrived!
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Post by NoNamePerson on Sept 21, 2016 15:03:06 GMT -5
Why do I keep hurting myself? Last year I fell and cracked a rib. That took 3 months to heal but since then I have developed tennis elbow, that got better but I just recently hurt my shoulder in body combat. It is getting downright annoying. Try moving backwards I know that's a groaner BTW if your DOB is correct on profile you are a mere baby to me.
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Post by movingforward on Sept 21, 2016 15:51:16 GMT -5
Why do I keep hurting myself? Last year I fell and cracked a rib. That took 3 months to heal but since then I have developed tennis elbow, that got better but I just recently hurt my shoulder in body combat. It is getting downright annoying. Try moving backwards I know that's a groaner BTW if your DOB is correct on profile you are a mere baby to me. It is correct! Yay! I am just a kid
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