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Post by Phoenix84 on Apr 14, 2016 15:38:58 GMT -5
To a certain extent, I can see her point. I apply concepts and techniques in my professional life to my personal life. Also, for professionals at least, getting the schooling and experience can take many years and a lot of work, and so it becomes a big part of who you are. My adult life, to this point, has more or less been structured around my job. It's determined where I live, at the very least.
But I have never felt the compulsory need to identify myself as my profession to a stranger, especially if I wasn't actively working in the field.
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Post by midjd on Apr 14, 2016 15:41:37 GMT -5
To incorporate? Not at all.
But I do work with someone whose entire identity and sense of self are wrapped up in his career and title. This means (from his POV) that if you have a criticism or suggestion about his work product, you are personally insulting him (and you will usually get a personal insult right back).
At that point, yes, it is unhealthy.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Apr 14, 2016 17:26:46 GMT -5
Maybe she regrets being a SAHM and considers herself a nurse because she is counting down the long, noisy, miserable seconds until she's back working in a hospital.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2016 19:46:37 GMT -5
Maybe she regrets being a SAHM and considers herself a nurse because she is counting down the long, noisy, miserable seconds until she's back working in a hospital. Well, obviously this is it, right
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 14, 2016 20:28:05 GMT -5
Maybe she regrets being a SAHM and considers herself a nurse because she is counting down the long, noisy, miserable seconds until she's back working in a hospital. I don't know.....bc she also had a baby, which means she had another kid after becoming SAHM for her now 3 yr old
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Post by adela76 on Apr 14, 2016 23:06:44 GMT -5
Maybe she regrets being a SAHM and considers herself a nurse because she is counting down the long, noisy, miserable seconds until she's back working in a hospital. I don't know.....bc she also had a baby, which means she had another kid after becoming SAHM for her now 3 yr old Not enjoying being a SAHM is not the same thing as not wanting to be a mother. Can't she want to be a mom with 2 children, while simultaneously looking forward to when they are both in school and she can go back to work? It's a little weird that it was important to her to correct the verb tense of a stranger. But is that more or less weird than a bunch of strangers spending 2 days dissecting the motives of a person they never met based on a single comment as reported by a third party?
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 15, 2016 5:09:34 GMT -5
I don't know.....bc she also had a baby, which means she had another kid after becoming SAHM for her now 3 yr old Not enjoying being a SAHM is not the same thing as not wanting to be a mother. Can't she want to be a mom with 2 children, while simultaneously looking forward to when they are both in school and she can go back to work? It's a little weird that it was important to her to correct the verb tense of a stranger. But is that more or less weird than a bunch of strangers spending 2 days dissecting the motives of a person they never met based on a single comment as reported by a third party? Hmmm....you must be new around here I was actually more interested in how people see them in general, when it comes to their professions and jobs, but YM being YM - we are where we are
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Post by MJ2.0 on Apr 15, 2016 8:49:55 GMT -5
Some jobs affect your lifestyle and the way you look at people and situations. Child care workers, doctors, nurses, therapists, engineers, teachers.... The skills and knowledge they have can easily carry into real world situations outside of work, many times without them consciously aware of it. Other jobs are just jobs - admin workers, secretaries, etc. don't fall into that category. If/when the zombie apocalypse hits, I'm not gonna give a rat's ass if the woman claiming to be a nurse is a SAHM or a full time working nurse. If she has the training and current credentials, she's a nurse.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 15, 2016 8:54:34 GMT -5
IDK doctors seem to die very quickly/horribly on the Walking Dead. Might not be a good idea to admit you are a medical professional during the zombie apocalypse.
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Post by vonna on Apr 15, 2016 12:57:36 GMT -5
I *think* I can see both sides of this discussion. However, I learned from experience that it is much easier to say I am a SAHM, and my husband has learned to say he is a SAHD. We both usually "fudge" a bit in conversations with people we don't know. For background: We are both retired from the military, and have no need for additional income, but have both worked a few times for very little for pay since retirement. We have learned in polite "small talk" that when asked, it is best not to call ourselves retired. So, I call myself a SAHM, and if asked what my husband does, I say he is retired military and now does some contract work (he hasn't had contract work in over 3 years, but who is counting?) My husband calls himself a SAHD, he usually does add that he is retired military, and if asked what his wife does, says she teaches classes part time at a local college (which I only did for a few years, and it was VERY part time) The main difference we have found is that he gets praised for being a SAHD, and I don't get praised for being a SAHM So, in reality, if I was describing "who I am", I will always identify as a retired Navy Commander. I served 20 years, moved 9 times, and was "on call" 24-7. I am fiercely independent (possibly channel Miss Tequila here) and have always been able to take care of myself and my children. Even in retirement, I would be able to take care of myself and my 20 year old college age son, and 10 year old daughter without help from my DH. But, I keep that to myself, because it often brings uncomfortable reactions or questions, and calling myself a SAHM is always accepted, and just easier.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 16, 2016 6:10:31 GMT -5
I *think* I can see both sides of this discussion. However, I learned from experience that it is much easier to say I am a SAHM, and my husband has learned to say he is a SAHD. We both usually "fudge" a bit in conversations with people we don't know. For background: We are both retired from the military, and have no need for additional income, but have both worked a few times for very little for pay since retirement. We have learned in polite "small talk" that when asked, it is best not to call ourselves retired. So, I call myself a SAHM, and if asked what my husband does, I say he is retired military and now does some contract work (he hasn't had contract work in over 3 years, but who is counting?) My husband calls himself a SAHD, he usually does add that he is retired military, and if asked what his wife does, says she teaches classes part time at a local college (which I only did for a few years, and it was VERY part time) The main difference we have found is that he gets praised for being a SAHD, and I don't get praised for being a SAHM So, in reality, if I was describing "who I am", I will always identify as a retired Navy Commander. I served 20 years, moved 9 times, and was "on call" 24-7. I am fiercely independent (possibly channel Miss Tequila here) and have always been able to take care of myself and my children. Even in retirement, I would be able to take care of myself and my 20 year old college age son, and 10 year old daughter without help from my DH. But, I keep that to myself, because it often brings uncomfortable reactions or questions, and calling myself a SAHM is always accepted, and just easier. Holy crap, if it were me I would be bragging about to EVERYONE!!!! And I don't care if if this is not PC, but I think that is huge for a woman. HUGE! It would be sooo cool to have a drink with you and hear your stories!
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Post by tloonya on Apr 16, 2016 13:42:04 GMT -5
I was waiting for my kids at a barber shop and chit chatting with another mom who was also waiting. She told me she quit working 3 yrs ago after her second kid was born and that she used to work in X hospital. So, I said "oh, you were you a nurse? My hat is off to you - such demanding job". She looks at me and says "well, I still am" I pause for a second thinking that I must have not been listening very well bc I thought I heard her say that she quit working. She must have seen my confusion bc she says "You said "were", but I am still a nurse, I just don't work anymore" I didn't say anything after that. But that got me thinking - do people define themselves as whatever profession they had even if they are no longer doing it? After I stopped working I never said "I am an accountant". I would say "I don't work" or "I stay home with the kids". Is it ego? Is it pride? Are people really tied to what they do for a living? Did I offend this lady? How do you describe yourself in that sense? What is your experience with others? I am positive she is STILL a nurse because if god forbid someone collapsed on the street she will come to the rescue. Because she IS a nurse. Same with doctors. I am pretty sure there aren't former pilots as well. Some jobs do define who you are. She is just feeling proud of herself for being able to achieve this in her life and if her child will need some care she will avoid trip to the hospital because she is a NURSE.
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Post by tloonya on Apr 16, 2016 13:44:11 GMT -5
Oh, and agencies who employing people for care for others - if you don't have a case at this time - you are still a caregiver 'inactive'. Legal term.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 18, 2016 6:52:47 GMT -5
I USED to teach school and am always happy to say I USED to!!! Miss the kids. Nothing else.
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