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Post by yogiii on Feb 4, 2016 12:15:51 GMT -5
Trying to get myself happy and excited... NOT WORKING! I think I'd be having the same reaction, I have a hard time relaxing. Try to think about the alternative, still looking and not having any leads. It's been a stressful few weeks but you were able to get a job and keep your family in the house etc., you did good.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Feb 4, 2016 12:21:12 GMT -5
Thanks. Maybe, but I don't have any experience with that kind of bookkeeping (although I have lots just in AR). Plus, my degree is Finance. I am taking a QuickBooks class to try to get a job doing that sort of thing. All my experience has been with AS 400 and ERP systems-- not anything a smaller place would have. Of course, they want someone with the exact experience with the exact software, never mind the fact I could figure out much more complicated systems... There was a lady in my class who mentioned how she makes probably $35/hr entering addresses into QB (they pay per address). That sounds crazy-high to me, but I thought I might ask her more about it if I get the chance. So are you looking for a full time job or you are more interested in a part time one for now? Part-time, primarily afternoons (where most PT openings seem to be 3 days/week, or mornings), with a lot of flexibility for DR appointments and dealing with some school/daycare pickup limitations. I know I'm asking for a lot, which is why I've been really flexible on pay and job duties. Still, I can't commute 45 minutes for less than $15/hr. That just makes no sense for a few hours of work I'm screwed
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 12:21:54 GMT -5
Trying to get myself happy and excited... NOT WORKING! I think I'd be having the same reaction, I have a hard time relaxing. Try to think about the alternative, still looking and not having any leads. It's been a stressful few weeks but you were able to get a job and keep your family in the house etc., you did good.
Thank you, the alternative is not pretty. I am grateful in theory... But not feeling it. Life is so complicated.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Feb 4, 2016 12:31:29 GMT -5
that is exactly what happened to me - and I was able to secure myself a signing bonus b/c they weren't able to accommodate my request to reconsider vacation time. sounds like you made out okay too. yay! For some reason I am not as happy as I thought I would be once I had an offer and I knew the amount... I got a 3k raise and potential to double my bonus... Yet meh.... What is wrong with me? You like drama, you greedy rascal!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 4, 2016 12:32:02 GMT -5
It's hard to go from panic mode to yay I have a job. Feelings aren't like light switches.
Then for me even though I was thrilled to get out of BT, starting over again was scary. I'd been at the cop for five years and now here I was with two different jobs in a four month time span.
Toxic environments also do a number on your psyche. It's hard to shake the newly formed paranoia and distrust. I'm three months in and will say its taken that long for me to stop waiting every day for the other shoe to drop. I still have my moments.
You'll get there over time. It's totally normal to not be jumping up and down right now.
I know I am better off and I like my job. My confidence is slowly coming back and I am feeling the way people think I should have back in November.
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 12:32:09 GMT -5
For some reason I am not as happy as I thought I would be once I had an offer and I knew the amount... I got a 3k raise and potential to double my bonus... Yet meh.... What is wrong with me? You like drama, you greedy rascal! Lol... I need to stop my bitching
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Post by ohmomto2boys on Feb 4, 2016 12:32:49 GMT -5
This happened to my DH a couple years ago. He finally was getting an offer from a company he REALLY wanted to work for, but when it came through, the base salary was a bit less - he was bummed. However, with the benefits and bonus structure, it made for a much better job financially. Now that he has been there a couple years, it was a good move.
Good luck!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 4, 2016 12:37:44 GMT -5
You like drama, you greedy rascal! Lol... I need to stop my bitching Well, yes and no. You're entitled to feel what you feel. They're your emotions and all that kind of thing.
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 12:39:33 GMT -5
This happened to my DH a couple years ago. He finally was getting an offer from a company he REALLY wanted to work for, but when it came through, the base salary was a bit less - he was bummed. However, with the benefits and bonus structure, it made for a much better job financially. Now that he has been there a couple years, it was a good move. Good luck! Basically my situation 100%... With the bonus structure (double the one I had) I am far ahead financially and (basically replacing my wife income or close to it)... But base is a bit less than I was hoping for. And I kept on hearing my wife and mom voice telling me not to be greedy, I need a job so I did not push. But all considered it is a GOOD SOLID OFFER! My brain just having a hard time accepting it. Hopefully like your husband I will be happier in the long run (toxic work environment behind me and all).
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Post by Cookies Galore on Feb 4, 2016 12:47:20 GMT -5
This happened to my DH a couple years ago. He finally was getting an offer from a company he REALLY wanted to work for, but when it came through, the base salary was a bit less - he was bummed. However, with the benefits and bonus structure, it made for a much better job financially. Now that he has been there a couple years, it was a good move. Good luck! Basically my situation 100%... With the bonus structure (double the one I had) I am far ahead financially and (basically replacing my wife income or close to it)... But base is a bit less than I was hoping for. And I kept on hearing my wife and mom voice telling me not to be greedy, I need a job so I did not push. But all considered it is a GOOD SOLID OFFER! My brain just having a hard time accepting it. Hopefully like your husband I will be happier in the long run (toxic work environment behind me and all). It is a good offer and you and your wife will be fine, but it's still okay to be a little meh over it being "just" a good solid offer. When I was offered a job with the company I'm currently with, the salary offer was slightly more than what I made before I was laid off, but I still took home less each month because of the city wage tax (3.5% vs. 1%). But, the benefits were (and still are) ridiculously amazing and the work seemed interesting. Seven years later I'm making much more and I'm happy as well with my work!
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Post by flamingo on Feb 4, 2016 12:49:16 GMT -5
Trying to get myself happy and excited... NOT WORKING! When I was fired it took four months for me to find a job, 5 to start actually working. I wasn't officially excited about things until I'd been at the new job for a month or two. My confidence in myself had been shaken, I'd been go go go on job hunting for 3 straight months, then I had a cross country move to plan. All I wanted was life to be normal, and it took a while for things to settle down for me. Plus, I was so scared I was jumping into another toxic environment (again, that confidence thing). And, while I was offered more money at the job I took, like you, I'd had a higher number in mind. I work in higher education, where the potential to negotiate starting salary is LOW. I was lucky in that the hiring manager misspoke when she told me the salary (she told me $3k higher than HR said it was) so I got that extra $3k, but it still was a blow to realize that I wasn't going to get the extra $10k above what I had been making. So, I get it. Give yourself a break. Have something special for dinner tonight and an extra cocktail. Take a deep breath and try to enjoy life for a few minutes. You'll get to the excitement part.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 4, 2016 12:49:31 GMT -5
So are you looking for a full time job or you are more interested in a part time one for now? Part-time, primarily afternoons (where most PT openings seem to be 3 days/week, or mornings), with a lot of flexibility for DR appointments and dealing with some school/daycare pickup limitations. I know I'm asking for a lot, which is why I've been really flexible on pay and job duties. Still, I can't commute 45 minutes for less than $15/hr. That just makes no sense for a few hours of work I'm screwed You're not screwed. It's actually better imo that you know what can and can't settle for. If it were me, I would probably try to branch out (definitely talk to the lady about the data entry gig) to see what opportunities are available that do meet your criteria. It may be different than what you were doing, but that doesn't mean you can't go back to the other. I have a very limited amount of understanding of everything you go through with your mom from watching my mom take care of dgm. We don't have a language barrier, but navigating senior healthcare can be very difficult and emotionally draining.
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 12:59:46 GMT -5
Thank you everyone for understanding... I have 1 more phone interview tomorrow and the HT interview next Wednesday.
Need to keep working on the budget...
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2016 13:06:01 GMT -5
Congrats Carl! I'd be doing cartwheels if I got a job offer like that! I'll trade ya.
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 13:10:52 GMT -5
Congrats Carl! I'd be doing cartwheels if I got a job offer like that! I'll trade ya. Did you see my budget thread? But yes, thank you
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 13:45:19 GMT -5
Oh my god I am so freaking happy and excited!!!
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Feb 4, 2016 13:47:22 GMT -5
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Post by Lizard Queen on Feb 4, 2016 13:48:11 GMT -5
Are you guys pregnant?
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Feb 4, 2016 13:53:42 GMT -5
Inquiring minds want to know!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 4, 2016 14:04:26 GMT -5
Damnit, TheHaitian get your ass back in here and SPILL. It's not right to post and run like that!!!!!!
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 14:06:31 GMT -5
Just find out one of my good friends at my former job also accepted an offer with Shaw's and will be leaving. My salary bump did not make me happy but this have me over the moon. He was one of the 4 external candidates. I am so freaking happy for him and us; we bonded over our mutual misery at work! He got a 20% raise and I know he could really use it so I am happy for him; he was underpaid compared to other store managers. We are both putting this hell hole behind us
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Post by wvugurl26 on Feb 4, 2016 14:09:59 GMT -5
See? Now you can be happy.
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 14:12:17 GMT -5
See? Now you can be happy. I am freaking ecstatic!!! So freaking awesome....
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Post by Cookies Galore on Feb 4, 2016 14:14:13 GMT -5
See? Now you can be happy. I am freaking ecstatic!!! So freaking awesome.... It's funny how some stuff just really makes the difference. Congrats to you AND your buddy!
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 14:16:34 GMT -5
I am freaking ecstatic!!! So freaking awesome.... It's funny how some stuff just really makes the difference. Congrats to you AND your buddy! Indeed and thank you
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 17:15:25 GMT -5
5:00 PM and still no offer letter! But I am still in good spirits.
My friend plan to resign on Monday and we will co-ordinate start dates this way we can commute into the corporate office today / orientation together.
Looking at 2/15 if they escort him out that day or 2/22 if they let him work his 2 weeks.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Feb 4, 2016 17:18:21 GMT -5
5:00 PM and still no offer letter! But I am still in good spirits.
My friend plan to resign on Monday and we will co-ordinate start dates this way we can commute into the corporate office today / orientation together.
Looking at 2/15 if they escort him out that day or 2/22 if they let him work his 2 weeks.
Did he get his offer letter yet?
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 17:24:32 GMT -5
5:00 PM and still no offer letter! But I am still in good spirits.
My friend plan to resign on Monday and we will co-ordinate start dates this way we can commute into the corporate office today / orientation together.
Looking at 2/15 if they escort him out that day or 2/22 if they let him work his 2 weeks.
Did he get his offer letter yet? No...
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 4, 2016 17:54:14 GMT -5
So with the clarification about the bonus, salary potential at Shaw's is as good as HT.
What would you pick if you were me?
-> relocate, 85k base + 50% salary bonus potential But more opportunities career wise for my wife but downside lifestyle (rent).
- stay put, 88k base + 40k/year bonus potential. Same MA, we kinda like it here for now while wife is getting her PhD.
My wife wants to make sure I will not regret turning down HT if they make an offer; we always talked about living in DC / surrounding areas.
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Post by NastyWoman on Feb 4, 2016 18:04:40 GMT -5
Stay where you're at until (a) your wife has her PhD and (b) you are done with fertility treatments (hopefully with a mini Mr and/or Ms Carl in tow). No need to add extra stress at this time. JMO
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