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Post by thyme4change on Dec 22, 2015 9:52:03 GMT -5
Since he is out of town for the holidays, why not just text him something simple like "When you get back from your trip, we should hang out" (or have dinner, or see a movie, or pick another phrase that works for you.)
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Post by swamp on Dec 22, 2015 10:07:01 GMT -5
No he is not Zib, Women are always attracted to the bad guy, They think they can change them, they can't, but they will try. I did that until I was 25. Ain't no one got time for that now.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2015 10:56:23 GMT -5
No he is not Zib, Women are always attracted to the bad guy, They think they can change them, they can't, but they will try. I did that until I was 25. Ain't no one got time for that now. Not to mention your husband wouldn't approve.
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Post by Opti on Dec 22, 2015 11:13:18 GMT -5
No he is not Zib, Some Women are always attracted to the bad guy, They think they can change them, they can't, but they will try. You forgot the word some. just like Z. I have never been attracted to a bad guy ever, so I resent all these posts that are not true.
If you are a man attracted to a woman who likes jerks, she's not the only one with an attraction problem. You can only work on the issue of being attracted to women who like jerks. Fix yourselves. Maybe some "nice" guys don't want nice women. Just good-looking drama queens?
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 22, 2015 11:41:09 GMT -5
No he is not Zib, Women are always attracted to the bad guy, They think they can change them, they can't, but they will try. men always seem to say this - but is it true? If in fact there is a significant main effect, If we factor out looks and dressing style - would it still hold? I think gooddecisions nailed it. We're attracted to who we're attracted to - some of those people happen to be bad. It goes for guys too because I've seen lots of guys go for the hot, dramatic girl over the normalish, nice girl.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Dec 22, 2015 11:42:22 GMT -5
good looking people are dicks because they can be. Plain people are nice because they have to be. Ugly people are trolls because, well they just look like it. Both sexes.
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Dec 22, 2015 13:39:42 GMT -5
Not always, but it can be. Depends on how clear she's been prior to that point in expressing her interest. And not in female language, because guys don't speak that. I was talking more in general than the specifics in the OP. In their case two long hugs and exchanging numbers is pretty clear. Or at the very very least enough of a hint that any sane guy should be willing to take the risk and ask her out. Not that it has to happen that way. I don't know any guys that would say no to a date offer from somebody they're interested in just because she asked him out first. Always being the one who has to ask first and get rejected isn't actually fun. We don't do it because the process is enjoyable, we do it because we'd like to get laid at some point between puberty and death. If you agree that two long hugs and exchanging numbers is pretty clear, then why the "playing games" comment?
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Post by swamp on Dec 22, 2015 14:02:38 GMT -5
He gives you a dick in a box.
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Post by weltschmerz on Dec 22, 2015 14:44:25 GMT -5
well - actually I'm wondering if guys just see the women they'd like to date going out with a good looking stylish guy and assume he's a "bad boy"? Because, I'm sorry, but this continued narrative is annoying. It seems to be "I didn't get to date the women I wanted to, and it's because women are flawed" ...or "she must be a lesbian". How could she not like ME?
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Post by ktunes on Dec 23, 2015 2:24:41 GMT -5
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Post by weltschmerz on Dec 23, 2015 5:03:59 GMT -5
He's French. He's used to being asked. French women don't play games. in the dating culture, women are the pursuers? or how does it work? Well, let's just say French women take lovers, and are unapologetic about it.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 23, 2015 5:50:08 GMT -5
Well, I have found that "okay" looking men seem to be the best bets for me. Not always. I've met some real weirdos there, too. But I've usually found that people that have trouble with finding a good person, aren't really looking for one. But even super unattractive men with nothing to offer think they deserve a ten. Women tend to be a little more realistic. They may want a ten but they'll settle for a five. I'm prejudiced and admit it, to attractive men. I like to look at them but I'd never date one anymore. Being burned in the past has made me a sadder but wiser person. I joined a meetup group. Oddly enough, more men than women show up so far. Everyone is nice though except for a couple of guys. It's been a good way to force myself to do things. Caroling tonight.
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Post by OldCoyote on Dec 23, 2015 8:03:27 GMT -5
No he is not Zib, Some Women are always attracted to the bad guy, They think they can change them, they can't, but they will try. You forgot the word some. just like Z. I have never been attracted to a bad guy ever, so I resent all these posts that are not true.
If you are a man attracted to a woman who likes jerks, she's not the only one with an attraction problem. You can only work on the issue of being attracted to women who like jerks. Fix yourselves. Maybe "nice" guys don't want nice women. Just good-looking drama queens?
Thanks for the correction, I should have worded that way.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 23, 2015 8:07:19 GMT -5
Yup, some men like the drama of being "rescuers" as well as some women. Sick IMHO.
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Post by swamp on Dec 23, 2015 8:53:42 GMT -5
in the dating culture, women are the pursuers? or how does it work? Well, let's just say French women take lovers, and are unapologetic about it. Where do they take them?
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Post by Tennesseer on Dec 23, 2015 9:05:54 GMT -5
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Post by tloonya on Dec 23, 2015 10:46:50 GMT -5
well I texted yesterday to ask him how the rest of the night went when I left - one guy said we could all go back to his place and he'd order pizza (there were like 7 or 8 of us left at that point). Turns out he lived about 45 mins south of me and it was close to 1:30am by that point so I just called it a night. Frenchie kept asking me if I was coming and I told him I was going home since it was too far for me at that time of night/morning. He texted back and said people fell asleep pretty quickly and that's when he left. He came with some blond German guy who wasn't bad on the eyes either. I did say I wanted a European guy..... Fist I thought YESS but after that... YOU texted him and this is all he said?
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Post by tloonya on Dec 23, 2015 10:58:22 GMT -5
good looking people are dicks because they can be. Plain people are nice because they have to be. Ugly people are trolls because, well they just look like it. Both sexes. Archie, do you think if you liked someone and hugged her and exchange phones...wouldn't you think about getting together for more? and would call her for that almost immediately if you know what I mean... This guy seems having other options as well so he is just put that phone in a pile... Hope I am wrong. I really all for the romance. But when it is click - guys don't let you wonder. They CALL!
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Dec 23, 2015 11:00:39 GMT -5
good looking people are dicks because they can be. Plain people are nice because they have to be. Ugly people are trolls because, well they just look like it. Both sexes. Archie, do you think if you liked someone and hugged her and exchange phones...wouldn't you think about getting together for more? and would call her for that almost immediately if you know what I mean... This guy seems having other options as well so he is just put that phone in a pile... Hope I am wrong. I really all for the romance. But when it is click - guys don't let you wonder. They CALL! I have no idea what I would do. I was so terrible at reading signals that I waited for the women to make every move. I did not want to have gotten the wrong signal and get shoot down. I was too fragile for that.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 23, 2015 11:10:08 GMT -5
Archie, do you think if you liked someone and hugged her and exchange phones...wouldn't you think about getting together for more? and would call her for that almost immediately if you know what I mean... This guy seems having other options as well so he is just put that phone in a pile... Hope I am wrong. I really all for the romance. But when it is click - guys don't let you wonder. They CALL! I have no idea what I would do. I was so terrible at reading signals that I waited for the women to make every move. I did not want to have gotten the wrong signal and get shoot down. I was too fragile for that. Ok, she has already texted you...your move? And whew I didn't know you are such a coward
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Dec 23, 2015 11:11:46 GMT -5
I have no idea what I would do. I was so terrible at reading signals that I waited for the women to make every move. I did not want to have gotten the wrong signal and get shoot down. I was too fragile for that. Ok, she has already texted you...your move? And whew I didn't know you are such a coward I would ignore the text. Too needy.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 23, 2015 11:18:31 GMT -5
Ok, she has already texted you...your move? And whew I didn't know you are such a coward I would ignore the text. Too needy. Noooo! That is rude...though I agree with you. As strange as it is. I do to think that if man wants you - he will jump out of his skin to get you. Not 'thanks for krimplets'...
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Post by tloonya on Dec 23, 2015 11:20:36 GMT -5
What if he likes you and her and another one? Same eyes...trust me.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2015 13:02:37 GMT -5
From my experience, both personally and through friends, if you have to ask the question then he's not that into you.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 24, 2015 9:11:20 GMT -5
Someone owes us an update, doesn't she? We've got to know is right... or wrong
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 24, 2015 9:22:59 GMT -5
I guess you failed to read the multiple posts about him being out of the country until after the new year....
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Post by tloonya on Dec 24, 2015 9:48:41 GMT -5
I guess you failed to read the multiple posts about him being out of the country until after the new year.... Phone is international. No? Even back then people communicated as wrote letters...etc.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 24, 2015 10:09:33 GMT -5
Well then I guess he doesn't like me. Or he's busy catching up with family and friends that he hasn't seen in several months. Time will tell.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 24, 2015 11:11:13 GMT -5
Well then I guess he doesn't like me. Or he's busy catching up with family and friends that he hasn't seen in several months. Time will tell. Forget about him. I am telling you - if man wants you he will find a way to text 'good morning' while at the toilet seat. I suppose they are not THAT close with family so they accompany him to the bathroom. Get yourself another one. Pronto! Good luck!
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