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Post by swasat on Aug 22, 2015 20:16:45 GMT -5
And I feel like a royal BITCH  DD(almost 8) is notorious for pushing our buttons. Willful, talks back, talk-to-the-hand, I-don't-care-about-rules, smart mouth, sassy pants!! She is AWESOME and polite with anyone outside of the family, but reserves that special whiny tone and you-all-suck voice for me. Specially me since I am the now who enforces discipline and rules more than DH. We are not dictatorial parents, but basic rules like use your polite voice, be nice to everyone, don't whine, don't make us ask you a 100 times to do something, finish the minimal chores given to you kind of rules are a battle with her. We had 2 instances this morning when we were out and about and she argued with me in public and I had to verbally reprimand her. Then in the evening she came inside after playing outside, asked me whats for dinner and the moment I said "quesadillas" the whining and tantrum started. And this when she has never EVER had any issues eating quesadillas! She always loved them. So I giver her a warning to control herself and she stomps and screams and stalks away. I tell her again to mind herself and she screams back at me "FINE!!!! I don't even want the dinner!!" By then I lost it. Its been years of similar behavior and I am so DONE!! I decided its not going to hurt an almost 8 year old to skip dinner one night. She was asked to go straight to bed after taking a shower. Now comes the crying and sad face and "I am starving" complaints, nobody-cares-about-me, I-am-alone-in-this-world and all kinds of emotional drama. Long story short, I stuck to my guns and told her that this is a family and in family everyone works for everyone else. If she cannot respect her family members and the effort they are making for her and does not respect food...then she is not going to get any. So now she is in bed, sobbing and I feel like a complete and utter failure and a horrible, horrible mother   DH is out of town, its me one with the kids and I just feel terrible. I just needed to get that off my chest. Flame away!! |
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Post by tallguy on Aug 22, 2015 20:22:52 GMT -5
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Aug 22, 2015 20:25:34 GMT -5
Good for you!!!!! Stand firm. Once someone learns how to get their way with you using emotional manipulation, it is a slippery slope.
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Post by alabamagal on Aug 22, 2015 20:26:29 GMT -5
Not going to flame.
She sounds like my youngest who is now 20.
Everything we did was a battle. He was the lid you had to push.
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Post by swasat on Aug 22, 2015 20:29:16 GMT -5
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Post by Jaguar on Aug 22, 2015 20:29:55 GMT -5
<<< Big Hugs >>>
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Post by msventoux on Aug 22, 2015 20:29:59 GMT -5
Good for you. Now maybe the little princess will at least be smart enough to hold the tantrum until after dinner is eaten.  Hugs to you, I don't know how anyone puts up with kids like that. Maybe this will help!  |
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Post by Tennesseer on Aug 22, 2015 20:31:08 GMT -5
I saw this video yesterday and thought about starting a thread asking if this is what it was like to have cranky kids (seeing I have none to compare).
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Aug 22, 2015 20:32:19 GMT -5
I pray this is her wake up call and she will act nicely toward you in the future.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Aug 22, 2015 20:34:43 GMT -5
Yes, TNr, it is.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2015 20:36:18 GMT -5
No flames. I might have picked a different battle, but you are right in that she is unlikely to starve. And consistent 'sticking to your guns' is necessary with a child of that temperament. If you give in now, the sobs will be longer and louder next time.
(If anything, if you really feels she is hungry, a sincere apology might earn her the cold quesedia she could have had otherwise? )
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Post by Tennesseer on Aug 22, 2015 20:36:37 GMT -5
You poor, poor, parents. My condolences.  |
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 22, 2015 20:38:21 GMT -5
You'll not get any flames from me, swasat. She got exactly what she asked for, right down to not having to eat that horrible quesadilla! Her idea - her reward. I'm all for it. Sometimes, the best thing to do is institute some tough love. This was the perfect situation for that. |
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Post by swasat on Aug 22, 2015 20:39:25 GMT -5
No flames. I might have picked a different battle, but you are right in that she is unlikely to starve. And consistent 'sticking to your guns' is necessary with a child of that temperament. If you give in now, the sobs will be longer and louder next time. (If anything, if you really feels she is hungry, a sincere apology might earn her the cold quesedia she could have had otherwise? )You know oped......she called me from the stairs asking if she is at least allowed to have ice cream?  Like ice cream is not considered "food". Little turkey! |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2015 20:40:43 GMT -5
Lol. It will be funny... Some day. Well, probably  |
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Post by giramomma on Aug 22, 2015 20:42:59 GMT -5
My DD1 is closing in on 8 and is behaving similarly. Though for us, it hasn't been happening for years. She also will blames everyone else when you correct her... That part pisses me off the most. The kids are going through a phase where now they change what they'll eat like 500 times. I can't keep up. And DH's not a short order cook. They know there's always PB&J. I hope you have a chance to relax and unwind tonight and get a good night's rest. I'm sure things will look better tomorrow morning. |
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Aug 22, 2015 20:43:20 GMT -5
You poor, poor, parents. My condolences. I'm grandma now having survived parenthood. Thanks.  |
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 22, 2015 20:44:40 GMT -5
I don't know when she started this behavior but glad for you you've had enough of it.
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 22, 2015 20:53:24 GMT -5
Tennesseer, you got me hooked on parrot videos! Those are hilarious!
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Post by Tennesseer on Aug 22, 2015 20:57:24 GMT -5
Tennesseer, you got me hooked on parrot videos! Those are hilarious! I laugh at it everytime I watch it. There is another version where whatever the bird is saying is interpreted and captioned. It is saying familiar words to its owner(s). Even funnier. |
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Post by swasat on Aug 22, 2015 21:00:06 GMT -5
giramomma, she has always been a child we have had to push. But last year or so, as she has become more independent, more confident and more outgoing, its been like this. Its almost like she is "too" confident. KWIM?? Like she can take on the world and knows it all.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 22, 2015 21:00:17 GMT -5
I know a kid that sounds just like this!!
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Post by tallguy on Aug 22, 2015 21:01:32 GMT -5
Why? I have a feeling I will be...... Not by people who have actually BEEN parents.
And the rest you don't have to worry about....
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Post by Jaguar on Aug 22, 2015 21:07:13 GMT -5
I saw this video yesterday and thought about starting a thread asking if this is what it was like to have cranky kids (seeing I have none to compare). Holy crap THAT is priceless, like I heard "I want it right now" lmao |
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Post by Tennesseer on Aug 22, 2015 21:17:29 GMT -5
I saw this video yesterday and thought about starting a thread asking if this is what it was like to have cranky kids (seeing I have none to compare). Holy crap THAT is priceless, like I heard "I want it right now" lmao Apparently, Gotcha the cockstoo is a minor Internet celebrity. There are a number of Gotcha videos if you want to watch them. Gotcha the Cockatoo videos |
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Post by busymom on Aug 22, 2015 21:26:09 GMT -5
(She's 7, right?) You can tell her if she'd grown up in Busymom's childhood home, Busymom's father would've given her 7 smacks in the butt with a wooden fanny paddle. (We learned young not to mess with my Dad. You got one hit for each year you'd been on this planet.) Missing dinner would've been a preferred punishment. |
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 22, 2015 21:29:39 GMT -5
I'm only on year 5 of parenting, but it does seem like the stricter the better when this kind of behavior starts in. We were extra lenient during a weekend getaway, and the kids were extra bratty the whole following week.
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Post by whoami on Aug 22, 2015 21:32:33 GMT -5
Ive had my own hissy fits on occasion where dinner, plates and all, go directly into the trash after hearing that its "gross" or whatever adjective they decided to use.
Dont like it, make your own or go hungry....I didnt care.
These days, if I cook 2-3 times a week, that's a lot. You are pretty much on your own in this house.
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Post by sesfw on Aug 22, 2015 22:09:29 GMT -5
And this when she has never EVER had any issues eating quesadillas! She always loved them.
E arly hormones? .............. sure hope not but it might be the beginning. Stick to your guns. Don't forget who the parent is. Your job is to love her and teach her how to be a good adult, not a whiney little brat all of her life. Unfortunately I know a few of those. Good luck ......... and no ice cream. LOL
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Post by sunshinegal1981 on Aug 23, 2015 5:01:00 GMT -5
She had the balls to ask for ice cream after this went down?!? Wow... My jaw is on the floor.
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