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Post by whoami on Jul 5, 2015 14:30:48 GMT -5
Phoenix84,
I'll add that it would be odd for a man in my dating range 50s-early 60s to have never owned a home.
ETA: And in CA no one gives up their prop 13 status willingly! Prop 13 status? In CA, you can own a house valued at $600K and pay $700 a year in property taxes, thanks to prop 13.
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Post by TheHaitian on Jul 5, 2015 14:33:26 GMT -5
How old are you? If you are pushing mid 30's the "no kids" will need to be evaluated. 30 And yeah, I expect I may have to relX the "no kids" rule at some point. You are my age :eek::eek::eek:
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jul 5, 2015 14:36:35 GMT -5
Easy! You find somebody who turns you on and then slowly beat him into something that resembles what will be "perfect" for you.
Man, I feel sorry for Mr. POM. LOL! I'll be sure to tell him that some single dude on the internet who can't get a gf feels sorry for him. I'm sure he'll me asap after 28 years together for a better wife due to my smart mouth. And he's over 6', has his hair, owns a house (well - 1/2 of one) with some money so he could replace me in seconds!
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Post by justme on Jul 5, 2015 14:42:15 GMT -5
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 5, 2015 14:48:42 GMT -5
30 And yeah, I expect I may have to relX the "no kids" rule at some point. You are my age :eek::eek::eek: LOL, why's that a problem?
I've known all along you and I were pretty much the same age.
Feeling bad about being 30?
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Post by TheHaitian on Jul 5, 2015 14:51:05 GMT -5
You are my age :eek::eek::eek: LOL, why's that a problem?
I've known all along you and I were pretty much the same age.
You posts come across as more mature, older, set in their ways kinda person. Like Virgil, I was surprised to hear he was not an old man in his 70's! That is all... Not a bad thing!
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 5, 2015 14:52:54 GMT -5
I'm not set in my ways as much as you'd think.
I've had 4 different jobs and lived in 6 different states since graduating from college at 22.
I live on the edge man!
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Post by Bonny on Jul 5, 2015 14:54:19 GMT -5
Has to do with property taxes: there is a maximum % they can raise the assesment basis of your home annually (Bonny is it 1 or 2%?) but it resets at the time a home sells. So you don't sell and keep the low basis. It is one of the few items (if not the only one) were CA is a "tax haven" compared to much of the rst of the country 1% of sales price with a maximum increase of 2% per year.
As an example the house we bought 20 years ago for $332k + $50k add on is being assessed at $495k today. Market value is about $1.2M.
Under prop 60 once you're over 55 you can transfer that basis one time to the same or cheaper house. Therefore if we wanted to downsize to a smaller house or condo we could transfer that basis (as long as the house is in same county).
Under prop 90 there are some cooperating counties. For example we can relocate from San Mateo County to San Diego since they are cooperating counties.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 5, 2015 14:57:58 GMT -5
Sounds like it's a way to keep people who bought their homes in California a while back in them when they bought the house for 200k in the 70's or 80's and now it's priced at like 2 million.
But it also sounds like it'd constrict the sale of real estate.
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Post by Bonny on Jul 5, 2015 14:58:17 GMT -5
In CA, you can own a house valued at $600K and pay $700 a year in property taxes, thanks to prop 13. Can you believe my idiot brother lost my parents home (purchased in 1963) to foreclosure with property taxes of $700/yr?
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jul 5, 2015 14:59:49 GMT -5
In CA, you can own a house valued at $600K and pay $700 a year in property taxes, thanks to prop 13. Can you believe my idiot brother lost my parents home (purchased in 1963) to foreclosure with property taxes of $700/yr? You know I can believe it.
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Post by Bonny on Jul 5, 2015 15:00:29 GMT -5
Sounds like it's a way to keep people who bought their homes in California a while back in them when they bought the house for 200k in the 70's or 80's and now it's priced at like 2 million.
But it also sounds like it'd constrict the sale of real estate. The argument that was used back in 1973 was that long time homeowners were being pushed out of their homes because of increasing property taxes.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2015 15:02:35 GMT -5
Here's my standards.
1. Some sort of attraction 2. Some sort of job skill and able to earn a living 3. treats me well. 4. No kids 5. Has own place to live, own car, and lives independently. How old are you? If you are pushing mid 30's the "no kids" will need to be evaluated. I think he is still dating women in mid 20's; so 'no kids' is reasonable expectation. But at some point it does become less likely. No kids because you don't ever want kids, or you just don't want used kids?
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 5, 2015 15:05:49 GMT -5
"Used kids"? Really?
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Post by TheHaitian on Jul 5, 2015 15:06:00 GMT -5
Sounds like it's a way to keep people who bought their homes in California a while back in them when they bought the house for 200k in the 70's or 80's and now it's priced at like 2 million.
But it also sounds like it'd constrict the sale of real estate. The argument that was used back in 1973 was that long time homeowners were being pushed out of their homes because of increasing property taxes.
It is true for some part of NY/NJ when I lived there. Many people cannot afford the property taxes on their houses anymore, and they lived there forever. Ex: my parents house valued at 340k they paid 15k in taxes last year. Using their next door neighbor that is retired and on social security, have owned that house since the 60's. Someone on social security cannot afford a 15k/year property tax bill. My step dad friend was facing the same with his house in now the "it" neighborhood that he purchased 40 some odd years ago. When they purchased it is was 1/5 if not less of the current value and taxes weren't so high. He is one of 3 original owners, everyone left because they couldn't afford the property taxes anymore, so sold house and moved to Florida. If you are on a fixed income like social security, a big property tax bill is not fun. In MA they passed a law that they cannot increase it by more than 2% every year because retired people cannot afford the constant increases. They had found some loophole around to raise money : like having to buy trash bags for trash pickup.
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Post by TheHaitian on Jul 5, 2015 15:07:17 GMT -5
I'm not set in my ways as much as you'd think.
I've had 4 different jobs and lived in 6 different states since graduating from college at 22.
I live on the edge man! Awesome sauce!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2015 15:09:18 GMT -5
Sounds like it's a way to keep people who bought their homes in California a while back in them when they bought the house for 200k in the 70's or 80's and now it's priced at like 2 million.
But it also sounds like it'd constrict the sale of real estate. Holding property taxes at a reasonable level is a way not to force older folks out of their home. When I moved into my current home my taxes were about $100/month, now they are $500-600/month. I will move out of this county to a lower cost one, because in other counties my property tax payment alone would get me a 1-2BR apartment. Stupid to pay this much for the privilege of my home sitting on a piece of land in a HCOLA. For seniors on a fixed income, the fact that the taxes can go up substantially each year eventually forces them out. At the moment I am a little ticked off that the public library is pulling $200/year from me. I don't pay that much for the zoo or science center family membership! Why should library be able to reach into my purse without constraint?
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 5, 2015 15:23:29 GMT -5
Used kids, that's funny!! I like thing 1 and thing 2 as well!!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2015 15:24:50 GMT -5
Well . . . . what do you call them?
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Post by nutty on Jul 5, 2015 15:26:38 GMT -5
I want chemistry, I would prefer no children at home and I have met a few who's children are older than 18. I was down at the pool and met someone (well we had a conversation) he was swoonworthy to me, maybe not everyone. I like short hair and tall, and someone big, never have liked skinny. But I surprisingly have run the gamut on who I am attracked to in the last yr.
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Post by whoami on Jul 5, 2015 15:53:13 GMT -5
In CA, you can own a house valued at $600K and pay $700 a year in property taxes, thanks to prop 13. Can you believe my idiot brother lost my parents home (purchased in 1963) to foreclosure with property taxes of $700/yr? Yep. Can you believe my MIL used to bitch about her $700 a year taxes? We pay more than that...a month.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 5, 2015 16:16:23 GMT -5
How old are you? If you are pushing mid 30's the "no kids" will need to be evaluated. I think he is still dating women in mid 20's; so 'no kids' is reasonable expectation. But at some point it does become less likely. No kids because you don't ever want kids, or you just don't want used kids? Because being a part of a step family is not how I imagined my life going, and being part of a step family can create a whole host of issues.
Don't get me wrong, I know a lot of people make them work, but at the end of the day, if I have kids, I want to be their dad, not "just the guy mom married" or "a good male role model." Those are about the best you can hope for with step kids, from what I've heard.
It creates all kinds of problems, from dealing with the ex husband to who diciplines the kids to who pays for the kids expenses. Yeah, you can work those things out, but it just seems like a whole new set of challenges on top of the challenge of meeting, dating, and getting married.
But, as I said, I'm realistic enough to know that eventually I'll have to start considering it.
Most of the women I am attempting to date are in their mid to late 20's to early 30's.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 5, 2015 16:19:47 GMT -5
I want chemistry, I would prefer no children at home and I have met a few who's children are older than 18. I was down at the pool and met someone (well we had a conversation) he was swoonworthy to me, maybe not everyone. I like short hair and tall, and someone big, never have liked skinny. But I surprisingly have run the gamut on who I am attracked to in the last yr. We have almost the same taste in physical appearance.
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Post by TheHaitian on Jul 5, 2015 16:25:01 GMT -5
I think he is still dating women in mid 20's; so 'no kids' is reasonable expectation. But at some point it does become less likely. No kids because you don't ever want kids, or you just don't want used kids? Because being a part of a step family is not how I imagined my life going, and being part of a step family can create a whole host of issues.
Don't get me wrong, I know a lot of people make them work, but at the end of the day, if I have kids, I want to be their dad, not "just the guy mom married" or "a good male role model." Those are about the best you can hope for with step kids, from what I've heard.
It creates all kinds of problems, from dealing with the ex husband to who diciplines the kids to who pays for the kids expenses. Yeah, you can work those things out, but it just seems like a whole new set of challenges on top of the challenge of meeting, dating, and getting married.
But, as I said, I'm realistic enough to know that eventually I'll have to start considering it.
Most of the women I am attempting to date are in their mid to late 20's to early 30's.
Into black women or strictly Caucasian?
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 5, 2015 16:31:04 GMT -5
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Post by TheHaitian on Jul 5, 2015 16:33:20 GMT -5
Just trying to help a brother out I know a lot of educated, good job, can support themselves black women that are single And NO KIDS!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 5, 2015 16:38:05 GMT -5
ALL THE SINGLE LADIES (all the single ladies) ALL THE SINGLE LADIES (all the single ladies) ALL THE SINGLE LADIES (all the single ladies) ALL THE SINGLE LADIES Now put your hands UP!
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 5, 2015 17:24:44 GMT -5
Sure, I'd consider black ladies.
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Post by justme on Jul 5, 2015 17:49:55 GMT -5
It's YM blind date!
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