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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2015 11:16:42 GMT -5
In the last couple weeks, the Twilight Zone has entered my life, and it appears to still be around... Dude and I were having wonderful conversations and all was well. He told me he wanted to come up and see me and we were making plans. Got up the next day and he messaged me that he didn't want to come see me. And, he unfriended and blocked me on FB. I have ZERO idea WTF happened. Nor at this point do I care. If he can't be an adult enough to talk to me about whatever happened, then he isn't for me. Moving on. I'm sad at losing a friend of the last couple years without any explanation. But, I guess it solves a few problems as well.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 2, 2015 11:18:11 GMT -5
I'm sorry. I know you really liked him. Next!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jul 2, 2015 11:23:53 GMT -5
That sucks. Sorry to hear that.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jul 2, 2015 11:34:17 GMT -5
That has to be hurtful. At the same time, his reaction is more than a little strange so you're probably much better off out of the situation. I know you don't feel that way right now but I hope you do soon.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jul 2, 2015 11:38:03 GMT -5
Definitely ouch!
However, it's better to find out now than after you'd moved there!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 2, 2015 11:39:23 GMT -5
Wonder if there is another lady in the picture and she got wise. That would explain why he disappeared and blocked you.
Sorry to hear that but now you're free to check out all those other guys that came out of the woodwork.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 2, 2015 11:41:14 GMT -5
Sounds like he geeked out completely. And good riddance to someone who is not mature enough to speak to you face-to-face instead of FB to FB. I know electronic uncoupling is "the way" now, but I think it's childish and cowardly and completely lacks basic manners. You don't need this Class-A jerk around. And if he somehow decides to communicate his way back into your life, you can tell him I said to take his "unfriend" and block his sorry ass with it.
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Post by 973beachbum on Jul 2, 2015 11:42:50 GMT -5
Wow that was not what I expected you to say. All I can offer you is my sympathy and hope that you can get out there and meet someone else.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 2, 2015 11:51:13 GMT -5
Wonder if there is another lady in the picture and she got wise. That would explain why he disappeared and blocked you.
Sorry to hear that but now you're free to check out all those other guys that came out of the woodwork. Or he lurks on here and is appalled that she's posting for advice from us.
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Post by Robert not Bobby on Jul 2, 2015 12:11:12 GMT -5
In the last couple weeks, the Twilight Zone has entered my life, and it appears to still be around... Dude and I were having wonderful conversations and all was well. He told me he wanted to come up and see me and we were making plans. Got up the next day and he messaged me that he didn't want to come see me. And, he unfriended and blocked me on FB. I have ZERO idea WTF happened. Nor at this point do I care. If he can't be an adult enough to talk to me about whatever happened, then he isn't for me. Moving on. I'm sad at losing a friend of the last couple years without any explanation. But, I guess it solves a few problems as well. First thing I would do is stop calling him "dude"...we have names. He got tired of you. Sorry, but it happens all the time...you know that.
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Post by simser on Jul 2, 2015 12:28:05 GMT -5
Just had that happen with my guy. Dated 6 months, he dumped me over text 9 hours before I was to get on a plane to see him (he moved away 6 weeks ago).
As one of my friends said "it's insulting and infuriating".
I'm sorry it happened to both of us!!
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Post by midjd on Jul 2, 2015 12:31:15 GMT -5
In the last couple weeks, the Twilight Zone has entered my life, and it appears to still be around... Dude and I were having wonderful conversations and all was well. He told me he wanted to come up and see me and we were making plans. Got up the next day and he messaged me that he didn't want to come see me. And, he unfriended and blocked me on FB. I have ZERO idea WTF happened. Nor at this point do I care. If he can't be an adult enough to talk to me about whatever happened, then he isn't for me. Moving on. I'm sad at losing a friend of the last couple years without any explanation. But, I guess it solves a few problems as well. First thing I would do is stop calling him "dude"...we have names. He got tired of you. Sorry, but it happens all the time...you know that. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't want her to post his actual name on an anonymous internet message board... Shasta, I'm sorry. I agree with the others that anyone who behaves like that doesn't deserve to be in your life. (FWIW, someone I know got a very similar treatment after her long-distance bf's wife found out they had been talking, so I don't think that guess is too off-base.)
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 2, 2015 12:44:13 GMT -5
Wonder if there is another lady in the picture and she got wise. That would explain why he disappeared and blocked you.
Sorry to hear that but now you're free to check out all those other guys that came out of the woodwork. I wonder if he was doing a little catfish and when it came time to meet, he knew the jig was up and panicked and deleted everything and blocked her.
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Post by Robert not Bobby on Jul 2, 2015 12:45:25 GMT -5
Sorry, I guess I was a little insensitive.
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Post by kittensaver on Jul 2, 2015 12:46:22 GMT -5
Wonder if there is another lady in the picture and she got wise. That would explain why he disappeared and blocked you.
Sorry to hear that but now you're free to check out all those other guys that came out of the woodwork. I wonder if he was doing a little catfish and when it came time to meet, he knew the jig was up and panicked and deleted everything and blocked her. This was my first thought.
I'm sorry this happened to you @workingshasta. People can be really jerks sometimes - especially when anonymity is involved, then their very worst characteristics come out!
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 2, 2015 12:46:58 GMT -5
Dating sucks, end of story.
You'd think after you go out a few times you'd at least be owed an explanation, but alas, that's rarely the case.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 2, 2015 12:50:14 GMT -5
Sorry, I guess I was a little insensitive. It was pretty harsh. Your posts usually aren't. What's up with that?
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jul 2, 2015 12:57:05 GMT -5
Shasta.....did you ever google this guy and find out if he was what he said he was?
After you chat online, you can get a lot of information and it's fairly easy to see if all the info you've been told matches up to what you find online. I know I spent a LONG time googling TD before I agreed to meet him. I also told him too.
I'm sorry he turned into a turd. That really wasn't fair to you, at the very least he could have been honest with you.
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Post by Robert not Bobby on Jul 2, 2015 13:01:16 GMT -5
Hey Andi...yeah, that was a little bit out of character, and I've apologized.
Lots of stuff going on in my life.
Hope all is well in your world.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jul 2, 2015 13:09:07 GMT -5
That was also my first thought.
If that's the case, better for you that this happened now - before meeting and then things getting "complicated".
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Post by swamp on Jul 2, 2015 13:23:55 GMT -5
I'm sorry he turned out to be a douche. I'm happy you found out he was a douche before you invested too much energy into him.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 2, 2015 13:29:54 GMT -5
Hey Andi...yeah, that was a little bit out of character, and I've apologized. Lots of stuff going on in my life. Hope all is well in your world. We're here if you need.
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Post by dannylion on Jul 2, 2015 13:38:43 GMT -5
Wonder if there is another lady in the picture and she got wise. That would explain why he disappeared and blocked you.
Sorry to hear that but now you're free to check out all those other guys that came out of the woodwork. I wonder if he was doing a little catfish and when it came time to meet, he knew the jig was up and panicked and deleted everything and blocked her. I was thinking catfishing, too.
Whatever it was, I'm sorry your friend turned out not to be worthy of you, Shasta.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Jul 2, 2015 13:48:46 GMT -5
In the last couple weeks, the Twilight Zone has entered my life, and it appears to still be around... Dude and I were having wonderful conversations and all was well. He told me he wanted to come up and see me and we were making plans. Got up the next day and he messaged me that he didn't want to come see me. And, he unfriended and blocked me on FB. I have ZERO idea WTF happened. Nor at this point do I care. If he can't be an adult enough to talk to me about whatever happened, then he isn't for me. Moving on. I'm sad at losing a friend of the last couple years without any explanation. But, I guess it solves a few problems as well. First thing I would do is stop calling him "dude"...we have names. He got tired of you. Sorry, but it happens all the time...you know that. I get really tired of lack of empathy.... FFS.
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Post by yogiii on Jul 2, 2015 13:52:45 GMT -5
Sorry he did that to you.
I have never heard the term catfishing. Seriously am I just a 90 y/o woman now?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 2, 2015 14:12:09 GMT -5
Sorry he did that to you. I have never heard the term catfishing. Seriously am I just a 90 y/o woman now?
You and me both. I never heard the term either. I remember the Manti Te'o story. We used to use another word for describing that kind of behavior. Lying. I think we called it lying.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2015 14:19:03 GMT -5
As posted before, I sought him out as an expert in his field. He is up for the Nobel Prize in Physics next year. I am serious. And, yes, he is who he said he is...
I know he is not married. I know he wasn't involved with anyone. We didn't just chat for a couple weeks and he freaked.
We have talked for over 2 years and in the last couple months started having a much more personal relationship. We were making plans to get together. He discovered something new and made a big deal out of naming it after me.... Then the next morning he sends me a message that if I want a boyfrind to find one where I live and not to talk to him. I said "whatever" because that was all my brilliant mind could come up with at the time because I was pissed off.
The following day he blocked me.
I blocked him last night.
I am a bit sad. And, I am pissed off that he is "researching" on my rare rocks and now I probably won't get them back...
And ultimately, I have NO idea WTF happened on his end. But, at this point, if that is how he deals with conflict, then he had to go at some point. It just sucks.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2015 14:20:46 GMT -5
And, before someone makes a comment about "rare rocks" I discovered a local area that has a special mineral that is $100 per slice when it is cut. He now has my whole bag of them.... asshat.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 2, 2015 14:23:58 GMT -5
Sorry he did that to you. I have never heard the term catfishing. Seriously am I just a 90 y/o woman now?
You and me both. I never heard the term either. I remember the Manti Te'o story. We used to use another word for describing that kind of behavior. Lying. I think we called it lying. Have you not seen the TV show either then? I like it. Max and Nev are great!
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