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Post by hoops902 on Jun 25, 2015 8:39:31 GMT -5
Drink water! Not just throughout the day, but when you're thinking about eating that snack. It's what I do when my wife is on me to either stop eating junk or drinking soda. When I want something I tell myself I'll drink a big water first, then have whatever I'm craving. I'm always completely sure that even after I drink the water I'll still be craving whatever I'm craving...and almost always I'm not. I even get the pop and water at the same time, then the pop just sits there unopened.
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Post by hoops902 on Jun 25, 2015 8:49:37 GMT -5
So far after reading this thread I realized that 1. I am VERY old as in *my* dating days I've never heard of anyone receiving or sending pictures of anyone's "treasures" 2. I will never eat the actual Thai food again. LMAO! I'm sorry! Don't take it out on actual Thai food - it's delish! And I'd just like to make a PSA to all the single guys on here that are active in the dating world: DON'T send pictures of your junk unless they are requested! That's not really much of a PSA, because you're basically admitting that it gets the desired response. The entire point is that it takes zero effort, so even if it works 1% of the time it's worth it. Same reason before all the fancy picture phones and all that, that guys would send the same generic text to girls in their phone. It doesn't matter that 48 out of 50 know it's generic and are offended, the 2 that are willing to come over make it worthwhile. Think of it the same way as spam email. It doesn't do anything for most of the population, but some % of the population is reading and taking action.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 25, 2015 9:00:28 GMT -5
in my defense, that usually doesn't work on me - I'm just in a unique situation right now.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 25, 2015 9:00:57 GMT -5
Drink water! Not just throughout the day, but when you're thinking about eating that snack. It's what I do when my wife is on me to either stop eating junk or drinking soda. When I want something I tell myself I'll drink a big water first, then have whatever I'm craving. I'm always completely sure that even after I drink the water I'll still be craving whatever I'm craving...and almost always I'm not. I even get the pop and water at the same time, then the pop just sits there unopened. I'm working on that now.
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Post by tallguy on Jun 25, 2015 9:33:22 GMT -5
And I'd just like to make a PSA to all the single guys on here that are active in the dating world: DON'T send pictures of your junk unless they are requested! That is something I would never do even if it WAS requested. Think about it. If anyone does that, they are basically saying that that is all that sex means to them. It does not imply that they are particularly concerned about you at all, only in "that." You'd likely die of thirst.
I could be the best sex of someone's life without ever even getting undressed. And if they haven't gotten at least a taste or two of water before I even get to "that" it's a bad night. Or a quick one!
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 25, 2015 17:51:24 GMT -5
So, get a Thai Food Buddy there was one guy I was talking to the other day who basically offered me that. Cute, nice body, "gifted" (no, I didn't ask to see it, he sent it... which I *HATE* but then I was picturing it like "dammmmmmnnnn" ). But I had to play coy with him like a stupid 20-something girl who doesn't know what she wants. SIGH! I'm always caught between "he's hot, we both want it, just do it!" and "I want him to like me and respect me and hang out with me." UUUGGGGGHHHHHH!!!! Respect can sometimes be overrated. Think of it as a health situation. It does a body good!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 25, 2015 19:29:49 GMT -5
And I'd just like to make a PSA to all the single guys on here that are active in the dating world: DON'T send pictures of your junk unless they are requested! That is something I would never do even if it WAS requested. Think about it. If anyone does that, they are basically saying that that is all that sex means to them. It does not imply that they are particularly concerned about you at all, only in "that." You'd likely die of thirst.
I could be the best sex of someone's life without ever even getting undressed. And if they haven't gotten at least a taste or two of water before I even get to "that" it's a bad night. Or a quick one!
I thought I told you to shut your face.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 25, 2015 19:32:33 GMT -5
So I both placed an order and texted HGG back. We made tentative plans for Sunday, so I was all like "YEAH BABY!" So of course my item isn't set to ship until July 21st. And I didn't keep track of the calendar, so I may not be able to partake in any Thai Food on Sunday. Why does God hate me?
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Post by tallguy on Jun 25, 2015 20:27:07 GMT -5
That is something I would never do even if it WAS requested. Think about it. If anyone does that, they are basically saying that that is all that sex means to them. It does not imply that they are particularly concerned about you at all, only in "that." You'd likely die of thirst.
I could be the best sex of someone's life without ever even getting undressed. And if they haven't gotten at least a taste or two of water before I even get to "that" it's a bad night. Or a quick one!
I thought I told you to shut your face. That's not what you really want, is it?
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Post by joemilitary on Jun 25, 2015 20:30:13 GMT -5
what did you order that you have to wait for in order to have Thai Food on Sunday w/ HGG
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 25, 2015 21:31:18 GMT -5
what did you order that you have to wait for in order to have Thai Food on Sunday w/ HGG A whopping order of Being a Woman.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 25, 2015 21:37:08 GMT -5
I thought I told you to shut your face. That's not what you really want, is it? I hate you so much right now.
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Post by TheHaitian on Jun 25, 2015 22:15:23 GMT -5
what did you order that you have to wait for in order to have Thai Food on Sunday w/ HGG You need to keep up! She ordered a dildo and did not realize her period would be here on Sunday when she is meeting with guy that sent picture of his huge junk. Clear enough?
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Post by tallguy on Jun 25, 2015 23:24:07 GMT -5
That's not what you really want, is it? I hate you so much right now. I know, but that's not really new though, is it?
(The other option was, "What?! Moi??!!
It's too bad, though. Angry sex, you know....
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Post by honeysalt on Jun 25, 2015 23:53:59 GMT -5
LMAO! I'm sorry! Don't take it out on actual Thai food - it's delish! And I'd just like to make a PSA to all the single guys on here that are active in the dating world: DON'T send pictures of your junk unless they are requested! That's not really much of a PSA, because you're basically admitting that it gets the desired response. The entire point is that it takes zero effort, so even if it works 1% of the time it's worth it. Same reason before all the fancy picture phones and all that, that guys would send the same generic text to girls in their phone. It doesn't matter that 48 out of 50 know it's generic and are offended, the 2 that are willing to come over make it worthwhile. Think of it the same way as spam email. It doesn't do anything for most of the population, but some % of the population is reading and taking action. Seriously. This guy is being completely honest with you about the extent of the relationship he wants. It doesn't extend past his genitals. He may or may not be active in the dating world....It seems like he is marketing his assets in the hook up world. There are men out there who tell women all kinds of stuff that isn't true to try to get them into bed. He is offering you a candid description of what he has to offer and what you can expect from him, which is either something you are into or you're not. Either way, no judgement from me, equally so, not judgement towards him. Being honest about what you have to offer and what you want in return is a pretty sophisticated form of adult interaction, even if it involves junk shots.
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Post by tallguy on Jun 26, 2015 0:16:43 GMT -5
That's not really much of a PSA, because you're basically admitting that it gets the desired response. The entire point is that it takes zero effort, so even if it works 1% of the time it's worth it. Same reason before all the fancy picture phones and all that, that guys would send the same generic text to girls in their phone. It doesn't matter that 48 out of 50 know it's generic and are offended, the 2 that are willing to come over make it worthwhile. Think of it the same way as spam email. It doesn't do anything for most of the population, but some % of the population is reading and taking action. Seriously. This guy is being completely honest with you about the extent of the relationship he wants. It doesn't extend past his genitals. He may or may not be active in the dating world....It seems like he is marketing his assets in the hook up world. There are men out there who tell women all kinds of stuff that isn't true to try to get them into bed. He is offering you a candid description of what he has to offer and what you can expect from him, which is either something you are into or you're not. Either way, no judgement from me, equally so, not judgement towards him. Being honest about what you have to offer and what you want in return is a pretty sophisticated form of adult interaction, even if it involves junk shots.
Yeah, but it also indicates that he is in it for...HIM! Not her at all, basically.
I never understood that. Being both a thinker and, well, not a jerk, I always believed things to be different. Instead of being like those guys, always trying to find...someone, I thought there was a better way. It's hard to find a new woman every time you go out, and the guys doing that are the ones who can't get the same woman again. I always thought it easier and better to get the same woman multiple times, and the best way to do that was to make them WANT to come back. Make it about her, and make it good for her, and you won't have to keep finding new ones. Pretty obvious to me....
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Post by honeysalt on Jun 26, 2015 0:54:07 GMT -5
Seriously. This guy is being completely honest with you about the extent of the relationship he wants. It doesn't extend past his genitals. He may or may not be active in the dating world....It seems like he is marketing his assets in the hook up world. There are men out there who tell women all kinds of stuff that isn't true to try to get them into bed. He is offering you a candid description of what he has to offer and what you can expect from him, which is either something you are into or you're not. Either way, no judgement from me, equally so, not judgement towards him. Being honest about what you have to offer and what you want in return is a pretty sophisticated form of adult interaction, even if it involves junk shots.
Yeah, but it also indicates that he is in it for...HIM! Not her at all, basically.
I never understood that. Being both a thinker and, well, not a jerk, I always believed things to be different. Instead of being like those guys, always trying to find...someone, I thought there was a better way. It's hard to find a new woman every time you go out, and the guys doing that are the ones who can't get the same woman again. I always thought it easier and better to get the same woman multiple times, and the best way to do that was to make them WANT to come back. Make it about her, and make it good for her, and you won't have to keep finding new ones. Pretty obvious to me....
I agree with you. I have never had a one night stand because I have always felt the hottest thing is to be able to communicate what I want. For me, that takes some familiarity and trust. Other people have different sexual interests, which are just as valid as mine. I have had many friends who have described equally satisfying relations based on hot body parts. If it works for them, it works for me. The fact that this guy posted his junk doesn't mean he doesn't want to please her sexually, it just means that is likely the only way he is interested in pleasing her. Sometimes, physical pleasure is all we ladies are after. It doesn't have to be about a relationship, because engaging in a purely sexually based relationship doesn't mean we are being used...We are equally sexual and primal beings, who are equally capable of getting our physical needs met without our emotions getting us all tripped up, in spite of what culture tells us about what women and men want.
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Post by tallguy on Jun 26, 2015 1:09:53 GMT -5
Yeah, but it also indicates that he is in it for...HIM! Not her at all, basically.
I never understood that. Being both a thinker and, well, not a jerk, I always believed things to be different. Instead of being like those guys, always trying to find...someone, I thought there was a better way. It's hard to find a new woman every time you go out, and the guys doing that are the ones who can't get the same woman again. I always thought it easier and better to get the same woman multiple times, and the best way to do that was to make them WANT to come back. Make it about her, and make it good for her, and you won't have to keep finding new ones. Pretty obvious to me....
I agree with you. I have never had a one night stand because I have always felt the hottest thing is to be able to communicate what I want. For me, that takes some familiarity and trust. Other people have different sexual interests, which are just as valid as mine. I have had many friends who have described equally satisfying relations based on hot body parts. If it works for them, it works for me. The fact that this guy posted his junk doesn't mean he doesn't want to please her sexually, it just means that is likely the only way he is interested in pleasing her. Sometimes, physical pleasure is all we ladies are after. It doesn't have to be about a relationship, because engaging in a purely sexually based relationship doesn't mean we are being used...We are equally sexual and primal beings, who are equally capable of getting our physical needs met without our emotions getting us all tripped up, in spite of what culture tells us about what women and men want. No doubt, but if he is actually pleasing her it is more likely a lucky accident, not his primary intent. (And yes, I am well aware that some women sometimes just want sex!)
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Post by Opti on Jun 26, 2015 3:47:57 GMT -5
what did you order that you have to wait for in order to have Thai Food on Sunday w/ HGG You need to keep up! She ordered a dildo and did not realize her period would be here on Sunday when she is meeting with guy that sent picture of his huge junk. Clear enough? IDK. I need a picture. (BTW, thanks for the translation. )
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Post by nutty on Jun 26, 2015 5:21:19 GMT -5
OH tallguy, you are absolutely right. We love to a regular too, safer, easier etc.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 26, 2015 8:09:41 GMT -5
I knew a guy that seemed to think that since he brought a platter to the table instead of a normal size plate, you were suppose to prepare, season and serve the Thai food while he just enjoyed the meal. AND it's ok for him to feast on the meal and get full and ready to take a nap before you even sit down at the table. Ummm, no. And to this day, he can't seem to understand why I am so not interested in indulging in Thai food with him, even though I'm not shy about explaining why. Platters don't impress me if that's all you bring to the table. I'd rather stay hungry than put a masterpiece on an empty platter and end up hungry AND mad. Let him tell it, I'm the only person that's been less than impressed. Ummm..... Okay.
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Post by TheHaitian on Jun 26, 2015 8:42:46 GMT -5
I knew a guy that seemed to think that since he brought a platter to the table instead of a normal size plate, you were suppose to prepare, season and serve the Thai food while he just enjoyed the meal. AND it's ok for him to feast on the meal and get full and ready to take a nap before you even sit down at the table. Ummm, no. And to this day, he can't seem to understand why I am so not interested in indulging in Thai food with him, even though I'm not shy about explaining why. Platters don't impress me if that's all you bring to the table. I'd rather stay hungry than put a masterpiece on an empty platter and end up hungry AND mad. Let him tell it, I'm the only person that's been less than impressed. Ummm..... Okay. I think that is a huge problem in the black community. My female friends that are not black and have dated black men have said the same, they tend to be "selfish". As I explained to a friend, we think of it in "men" terms. Since we are (on average) bringing a bigger piece of meat to the table to satisfy the hunger, we feel that is enough and there is nothing else we need to do. I mean after all it is a nice chunk of meat... What else would a women want? It takes age and wisdom to know the meat is not enough, you need to pre-heat the oven, give it some loving, get the temperature right before you stick the meat in there. Only then will the nicely warm oven and the well seasoned meat will give you a wonderful entree that will satisfy both parties I also believe time and being comfortable with each other help. My wife and I are not shy with telling each other exactly how fast, slow, Rough, not rough, here, there, teeth, no teeth, some teeth, pull, grab or don't... How we want it. I remember a married friend telling me while she was really aggravated: you know what is worse than being horny and not having sex? ---> it is being horny and having sex and the sex is terrible and still leave you unhappy/unsatisfied. I understood that day men were not like women because for me at that point sex was like pizza, even a bad pizza is still better than no pizza. Some women rather go without pizza than have a bad pizza!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 26, 2015 8:48:09 GMT -5
I was just about to say...no, no more metaphors!
Then the metaphors stopped. And I am like... Bring back the metaphors.
And then...
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Post by Deleted on Jun 26, 2015 8:54:20 GMT -5
I was just about to say...no, no more metaphors! Then an the metaphors stopped. And I am like... Bring back the metaphors. And then... LOL! And then... what? I did try to be delicate, but clear. But it was early in the morning. Did I not do so well?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 26, 2015 8:58:11 GMT -5
I was reading Carl actually. The whole oven thing made me say no more! Then the actual details were like, ok, maybe we need a layer of imagery between us and the details... Then he went to pizza and I'm like, maybe not...
Cant make up my mind...
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 26, 2015 11:03:26 GMT -5
just to give you even more information you really don't need, HGG and I have had a few conversations before his "dicture" that indicated that he was willing and eager to make sure I got mine. oped, LMAO!!!
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Post by joemilitary on Jun 26, 2015 12:10:07 GMT -5
I guess I been married too long....the code was going over my head....
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Post by nutty on Jun 26, 2015 13:11:05 GMT -5
Oh these metaphors are cracking me up. I like a regular diet of Thai food on a plate, not a platter. Cake is good too, roast beef is yummy but sliced ham will do in a pinch. I don't like to eat alone so I have a friend I eat with a lot.
I have found out that dinnerware comes in different sizes and mostly all of the patterns are pretty but in the end oversell themselves.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 26, 2015 13:29:24 GMT -5
Oh these metaphors are cracking me up. I like a regular diet of Thai food on a plate, not a platter. Cake is good too, roast beef is yummy but sliced ham will do in a pinch. I don't like to eat alone so I have a friend I eat with a lot. I have found out that dinnerware comes in different sizes and mostly all of the patterns are pretty but in the end oversell themselves. Sometimes you think you're getting a platter but then come to find out it's a teacup.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jun 26, 2015 14:16:03 GMT -5
Ah, now I see about 10 people said pretty much the same thing before me. Yeah, but one was Archie. Thursday is "Archie's opinions don't count" day.
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