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Post by The Captain on Jun 24, 2015 8:58:14 GMT -5
I know, but I'll buy it when im out too! I'm starting to think one of the triggers is the lack of Water and Thai Food. Almost like I need to be satiated in one way or another.... Should I be worried that I understand the code here? Wish I had some words of wisdom for you. Good luck.
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 24, 2015 9:34:39 GMT -5
I should be able to swing a PF basic membership. Couldn't go on the days I have DS though (no daycare inside), but I'd still be able to use it the rest of the week.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jun 24, 2015 9:52:53 GMT -5
I should be able to swing a PF basic membership. Couldn't go on the days I have DS though (no daycare inside), but I'd still be able to use it the rest of the week. Friends of mine were switching to one with a daycare for that reason. Maybe if you went on the days ex has him it's be a start. I'm sure things are tight so I just wanted to suggest it.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 24, 2015 10:10:26 GMT -5
MJ, be nice to yourself.
You just went through one of the most stressful, life-altering events a person can deal with.
You are raising a little person who needs and depends on you for so much.
Your XH and XILs are not exactly the most on-the-ball bunch on the planet. It would be nice if they were kind and helpful, but it seems that's not the case at the moment.
Quit dissecting every mouthful you take. An extra bite of ice cream is not the end of the world. A slice of bread is not a diet killer, and an occasional sweet tea won't send you to the land of stretch pants. Plan your meals as much as you can; not to the last lettuce leaf, but at least write out a weekly meal plan on a whiteboard, so you can shop and cook ahead. And that meal plan should deliberately include some indulgences. If you schedule a small ice cream sundae once a week, it won't destroy everything your workouts accomplish, and it will make the workouts worthwhile.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 24, 2015 10:55:43 GMT -5
I'm not one of those "OMG I had TWO Reece's Cups - I am such a heffer!" types. If it was just the occasional treat, I wouldn't be concerned. But "occasional" has become "daily", and "small" is now "moderate/large". But I think I might have found a temporary solution. I've not been completely on the ball at work lately (or anywhere for that matter). I forgot to decorate the cube for one of my associate's birthdays (it's tomorrow but he's out tomorrow). I'm usually on top of that stuff but him being off tomorrow until July 6th threw me off. So I feel shitty because I had no problem remembering everyone else's birthday. I'm gonna rush and decorate while he's at lunch, but the damage has been done. And then I forgot to let my boss know he was going to be out for over a week. So now I'm in a crappy mood and not anywhere in the mood to eat. so... yay?
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Post by yogiii on Jun 24, 2015 10:57:44 GMT -5
It's a funk. I hope you find your way out soon.
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Post by tskeeter on Jun 24, 2015 12:58:52 GMT -5
My dating has slowed down a bit in the last couple of months - partly because I hadn't been finding anyone interesting, and partly because people are flaky and just downright idiotic. I have been trying to keep busy with work, DS, and learning how to have fun by myself on my "off" days. I fell off the workout wagon a little but I am getting back into the swing of things. My problem is that I'm eating more and I'm thinking about eating more. I've always loved food (used to be overweight as a kid & my family struggles with weight issues) but I finally got a handle on eating well and exercising around the age of 25-26. I like a lot of vegetables and fruits. But lately all I want to do is eat junk food, baked goods, and ice cream while binge watching Netflix. One night I actually ate a scoop and a half of ice cream while watching Scandal - at 10:30pm! I almost NEVER eat past 8. And most of the time I'm not hungry! Sunday I ate so much at lunch that I had a bad stomach ache and didn't eat for the rest of the day. No amount of working out is going to counteract all this, and I'm already starting to get a little belly. Any ideas before I need to start being wheeled around? I find that I'm a stress, boredom, lack of exercise eater. When I was racing bicycles, I noticed that during racing season, when I was really fit, I didn't want ice cream, french fires, and the like. In the off season, when I wasn't training as hard, I'd want high fat foods almost daily. I also eat when I'm bored. So later at night I tend to eat. Even when I'm not hungry. It's salty, crunchy, or just plain tastes good. So I eat it. Getting back into your fitness routine might help in a few ways. It might change the foods you crave, it'll occupy some of your time so you're less likely to get bored, and it'll probably tire you out a bit so you go to bed before you get bored. Something else you might try is flavored water when you're chillin in the evening. Add a slice or two of lemon or lime to your glass. I've read articles about how popular fruit flavored waters that college cafeterias made are with students. Some crushed fruit with tap water? I was surprised that the most popular flavor was cucumber. I'd imagine that a flavored drink made with carbonated water would be even more interesting.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2015 13:03:28 GMT -5
So, get a Thai Food Buddy
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 24, 2015 13:13:08 GMT -5
So, get a Thai Food Buddy there was one guy I was talking to the other day who basically offered me that. Cute, nice body, "gifted" (no, I didn't ask to see it, he sent it... which I *HATE* but then I was picturing it like "dammmmmmnnnn" ). But I had to play coy with him like a stupid 20-something girl who doesn't know what she wants. SIGH! I'm always caught between "he's hot, we both want it, just do it!" and "I want him to like me and respect me and hang out with me." UUUGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 24, 2015 13:13:48 GMT -5
So, get a Thai Food Buddy there was one guy I was talking to the other day who basically offered me that. Cute, nice body, "gifted" (no, I didn't ask to see it, he sent it... which I *HATE* but then I was picturing it like "dammmmmmnnnn" ). But I had to play coy with him like a stupid 20-something girl who doesn't know what she wants. SIGH! I'm always caught between "he's hot, we both want it, just do it!" and "I want him to like me and respect me and hang out with me." UUUGGGGGHHHHHH!!!! He emailed you a picture of his junk?
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 24, 2015 13:15:00 GMT -5
my other associates helped me fix the situation with the "forgotten" one and now it's all good. So my appetite is back.
I might have to text Hot Gifted Guy back. The prospect of Thai Food should be enough to curb some of the over-eating.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 24, 2015 13:16:29 GMT -5
there was one guy I was talking to the other day who basically offered me that. Cute, nice body, "gifted" (no, I didn't ask to see it, he sent it... which I *HATE* but then I was picturing it like "dammmmmmnnnn" ). But I had to play coy with him like a stupid 20-something girl who doesn't know what she wants. SIGH! I'm always caught between "he's hot, we both want it, just do it!" and "I want him to like me and respect me and hang out with me." UUUGGGGGHHHHHH!!!! He emailed you a picture of his junk? yeah. What is with guys doing that? I can see if I asked for it (which I never do), but why just send it unprompted? It's not the most beautiful thing ever.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 24, 2015 13:17:39 GMT -5
He emailed you a picture of his junk? yeah. What is with guys doing that? I can see if I asked for it (which I never do), but why just send it unprompted? It's not the most beautiful thing ever. What do you care if he doesn't respect you then. I am sure you have no respect for him. Use him for his junk and toss him to the curb when you are done.
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Post by souldoubt on Jun 24, 2015 13:18:54 GMT -5
He emailed you a picture of his junk? yeah. What is with guys doing that? I can see if I asked for it (which I never do), but why just send it unprompted? It's not the most beautiful thing ever. From some guys perspective it's like hitting on women at a bar. You hit on them or in this case send that out and all you need is one to be interested. He isn't trying to bat 1.000 he's just trying to get a hit. Edit - maybe I should have stuck to the food or going to the well metaphors.
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Post by joemilitary on Jun 24, 2015 13:19:22 GMT -5
I only do one "craft" right now and it's not portable and it makes a mess (making scented moisturizers). I may have to take up sketching again. I offer my modeling services for any nude sketching :-)
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 24, 2015 13:28:31 GMT -5
Good point. I guess I can see that point. Still, I don't need to get a picture of it. do you also offer barf bags and brain bleach?
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Post by souldoubt on Jun 24, 2015 13:32:25 GMT -5
I get that you don't need a pic of it but said yourself:
"there was one guy I was talking to the other day who basically offered me that. Cute, nice body, "gifted" (no, I didn't ask to see it, he sent it... which I *HATE* but then I was picturing it like "dammmmmmnnnn" )."
So as much as you hate it he had you thinking about it. That's someone you go to the well with for fun and don't expect anything else out of. If you're hoping for more than don't waste your time.
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Post by justme on Jun 24, 2015 13:52:11 GMT -5
I think guys do it as a last ditch effort or when they just care about getting laid.
I don't think they realize that when they don't score off the pic it's sent around her gfs or at least talked about while we laugh.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jun 24, 2015 14:27:43 GMT -5
My dating has slowed down a bit in the last couple of months - partly because I hadn't been finding anyone interesting, and partly because people are flaky and just downright idiotic. I have been trying to keep busy with work, DS, and learning how to have fun by myself on my "off" days. I fell off the workout wagon a little but I am getting back into the swing of things. My problem is that I'm eating more and I'm thinking about eating more. I've always loved food (used to be overweight as a kid & my family struggles with weight issues) but I finally got a handle on eating well and exercising around the age of 25-26. I like a lot of vegetables and fruits. But lately all I want to do is eat junk food, baked goods, and ice cream while binge watching Netflix. One night I actually ate a scoop and a half of ice cream while watching Scandal - at 10:30pm! I almost NEVER eat past 8. And most of the time I'm not hungry! Sunday I ate so much at lunch that I had a bad stomach ache and didn't eat for the rest of the day. No amount of working out is going to counteract all this, and I'm already starting to get a little belly. Any ideas before I need to start being wheeled around? I know what you are eating. When you were married, you fixed and shared meals. Your body is missing this association so it finds food. I did this after Div1. I would bake snack breads and eat and eat. I had 2 children at home. I was eating the emotions of divorce. When I had a steady beau, the eating slowed up. I did the same when DH went on a snowmobiling trip. I cooked a huge roast, special potatoes and dessert then ate that for a week. I knew what I was doing and why; but did it anyhow. I did not know how to stop it. The abandonment issue was justified in more than one way. The positive was, I wasn't eating Whopper and fries everyday. Back to you, you know you are going to eat it if it's in the house. Don't buy it. I know impossible. Second, buy a healthy alternative like freezing yogurt for your ice cream, baked lower calorie chips and other snack items. Measure the one serving size and put the package away. Sit down at the table to eat every time. Shut the TV off. Eat soup like Healthy Choice where the whole can is only 250 calories once a day. Or buy one of the soup starters and make a large pot. Freezing individual portions so you'll have some for a few days. Make yourself eat at least one serving of vegetables and one of fruit before you eat anything. Chewing gum can also help. Brushing your teeth. Logging your food is a hassle but will make you accountable. myfitnesspal.com and caloriecounter.com both have newsletters to help change high calories meals into manageable calories Best wishes. I'm having over eating issues and do follow most of my own advice.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jun 24, 2015 14:32:27 GMT -5
Use some self-care with mineral oil. No scent, hypo-allergenic. Takes the edge off.
Become a hugger.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 24, 2015 14:38:40 GMT -5
yeah. What is with guys doing that? I can see if I asked for it (which I never do), but why just send it unprompted? It's not the most beautiful thing ever. What do you care if he doesn't respect you then. I am sure you have no respect for him. Use him for his junk and toss him to the curb when you are done. Does she get to keep his junk when she tosses the rest of him? (Hey, just asking. Any dude who sends a snapshot of his nether bits needs to understand that it's a possibility).
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 24, 2015 14:44:17 GMT -5
Note to self: don't ask what a "hugger" is.
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Post by souldoubt on Jun 24, 2015 14:47:06 GMT -5
I think guys do it as a last ditch effort or when they just care about getting laid. I don't think they realize that when they don't score off the pic it's sent around her gfs or at least talked about while we laugh. Someone that sends a pic like that out that quick just cares about getting laid and is playing the odds. Also guys that do that don't care about women sending the picture around laughing because they really have no shame. Every guy has a friend or acquaintance like that who is usually one of the most shameless and scandalous people you'll ever meet. Some of those people grow out of it and others turn into my mid to late 30's friends who are out at the bar hitting on woman they're old enough to be the father of.
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Post by joemilitary on Jun 24, 2015 19:16:24 GMT -5
do you also offer barf bags and brain bleach?
MJ- PM me your cell number and I will text you a photo of all of me as a preview........it seems you are into that
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jun 25, 2015 7:25:38 GMT -5
So far after reading this thread I realized that
1. I am VERY old as in *my* dating days I've never heard of anyone receiving or sending pictures of anyone's "treasures"
2. I will never eat the actual Thai food again.
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Post by nutty on Jun 25, 2015 7:43:23 GMT -5
You need to find a solid FWB.
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Post by bobosensei on Jun 25, 2015 7:47:43 GMT -5
So, get a Thai Food Buddy there was one guy I was talking to the other day who basically offered me that. Cute, nice body, "gifted" (no, I didn't ask to see it, he sent it... which I *HATE* but then I was picturing it like "dammmmmmnnnn" ). But I had to play coy with him like a stupid 20-something girl who doesn't know what she wants. SIGH! I'm always caught between "he's hot, we both want it, just do it!" and "I want him to like me and respect me and hang out with me." UUUGGGGGHHHHHH!!!! Let me be honest. Any guy that starts of the relationship like that isn't looking for an innocent 20 year old virgin. I know you know this. So "use" him for what you want. He will not mind. You can find a serious relationship later. He will hang out with you if you are both compatible for friendship and if he knows you aren't trying to trap him into something more than he wants. So if you can handle that kind of relationship go for it. Given your situation it might work, for now.
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Post by bobosensei on Jun 25, 2015 7:50:57 GMT -5
Ah, now I see about 10 people said pretty much the same thing before me.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 25, 2015 8:01:39 GMT -5
So far after reading this thread I realized that 1. I am VERY old as in *my* dating days I've never heard of anyone receiving or sending pictures of anyone's "treasures" 2. I will never eat the actual Thai food again. LMAO! I'm sorry! Don't take it out on actual Thai food - it's delish! And I'd just like to make a PSA to all the single guys on here that are active in the dating world: DON'T send pictures of your junk unless they are requested!
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Post by gs11rmb on Jun 25, 2015 8:06:53 GMT -5
I'm going to state the opposite opinion and suggest you don't contact this man. From your posts it seems as if you are hoping to meet a man for a serious, potentially long-term committed relationship. Contacting the man who sent you the photograph will take care of an immediate 'need' but won't give you what you really want and is likely to leave you just as unhappy or frustrated. I second the advice to go shopping on Amazon!
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