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Post by HoneyBBQ on Jan 19, 2015 14:22:14 GMT -5
They didn't show up to an event they said they would? Happens all the time. Though I have my doubts kid prefer to go to t grandma to a BDay party. Right. Assholes are everywhere. Hence why I hang out with dogs more than people.
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Post by tloonya on Jan 19, 2015 15:01:19 GMT -5
Happens all the time. Though I have my doubts kid prefer to go to t grandma to a BDay party. Right. Assholes are everywhere. Hence why I hang out with dogs more than people. This what Hitler used to say...
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2015 15:18:56 GMT -5
His father claimed he did not have contact information for the boy’s mother to let her know Alex had changed his mind and would no longer be attending the party. It wasn’t long after the party that the five-year-old brought home an envelope in his backpack that contained an invoice for almost $24. The invoice was from the friend’s mother for a “child’s party no show fee.”
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2015 15:21:31 GMT -5
Bringing a friend to a BDay party And no extra gift of course... I actually had someone do this at the kids B-Day party Saturday. One of the families we invited lives about 30 minutes from us. They were going to do something in the City in between us earlier in the day with a friend and then they had to go back to the City after the party that afternoon and wasn't going to have time to take the other friend home. Since I hadn't met another family's foster kids until the party, it didn't bother me that we had an extra kid running around. And where do you guys get no shows at your parties? We invited 26 people and had 27 show up. But I didn't let DS invite friends from school for that reason. I get invites in his stuff for other parties and I just groan and don't respond at all. This year he isn't that close to his friends at school. So, it wasn't a big deal to not invite them. so your kid gets invites to parties and you don't bother to RSVP?
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Post by bean29 on Jan 19, 2015 15:25:25 GMT -5
A five year old going skiing? My College student went skiing/snowboarding this weekend and I was worried about him getting injured. I am not surprised some parents may not have sent their kids off to a birthday party without being sure of who would be supervising the kids and what experience they had. I would expect there would need to be a lot of communication with the other parents to make this really work.Actually, learning to ski at this age is really optimal and you are more likely to get injured if you are older. I learned how to ski when I was in HS - when everyone I was with knew how to ski since they were a toddler. When your center of gravity is higher, it is a lot harder to learn how to ski. Little kids just bounce! I never did learn to be anything more than a mediocre skiier (and now it is not an option for me anymore), but it is a hell of a lot of fun. This may be true, but if the parents themselves are not Siiers, they may err on the side of overprotectiveness, I know I would.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2015 15:28:47 GMT -5
A five year old going skiing? My College student went skiing/snowboarding this weekend and I was worried about him getting injured. I am not surprised some parents may not have sent their kids off to a birthday party without being sure of who would be supervising the kids and what experience they had. I would expect there would need to be a lot of communication with the other parents to make this really work.Actually, learning to ski at this age is really optimal and you are more likely to get injured if you are older. I learned how to ski when I was in HS - when everyone I was with knew how to ski since they were a toddler. When your center of gravity is higher, it is a lot harder to learn how to ski. Little kids just bounce! I never did learn to be anything more than a mediocre skiier (and now it is not an option for me anymore), but it is a hell of a lot of fun. This may be true, but if the parents themselves are not Siiers, they may err on the side of overprotectiveness, I know I would. then they never should have RSVP'd yes.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jan 19, 2015 15:35:41 GMT -5
A five year old going skiing? My College student went skiing/snowboarding this weekend and I was worried about him getting injured. I am not surprised some parents may not have sent their kids off to a birthday party without being sure of who would be supervising the kids and what experience they had. I would expect there would need to be a lot of communication with the other parents to make this really work.Actually, learning to ski at this age is really optimal and you are more likely to get injured if you are older. I learned how to ski when I was in HS - when everyone I was with knew how to ski since they were a toddler. When your center of gravity is higher, it is a lot harder to learn how to ski. Little kids just bounce! I never did learn to be anything more than a mediocre skiier (and now it is not an option for me anymore), but it is a hell of a lot of fun. This may be true, but if the parents themselves are not Siiers, they may err on the side of overprotectiveness, I know I would. Then they should not have RSVPed yes in the first place.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2015 15:36:02 GMT -5
If we aren't going, nope. I detest the invite the whole class somewhere kind of expensive to show off our wealth birthday parties anyway. They're always put on by the parents I can't stand, with the obnoxious spoiled kids, that I also can't stand. Besides they all think I'm nuts because I spend the whole party estimating what they spent on stuff and telling them how much my Phil Script says it would have been worth if they hadn't spent it showing off to their child's class. so when you send out invites for something you're good with people just not letting you know if they're coming or not? I think it's incredibly rude regardless of how you feel about the parents or kids.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jan 19, 2015 15:47:29 GMT -5
I actually had someone do this at the kids B-Day party Saturday. One of the families we invited lives about 30 minutes from us. They were going to do something in the City in between us earlier in the day with a friend and then they had to go back to the City after the party that afternoon and wasn't going to have time to take the other friend home. Since I hadn't met another family's foster kids until the party, it didn't bother me that we had an extra kid running around. And where do you guys get no shows at your parties? We invited 26 people and had 27 show up. But I didn't let DS invite friends from school for that reason. I get invites in his stuff for other parties and I just groan and don't respond at all. This year he isn't that close to his friends at school. So, it wasn't a big deal to not invite them. so your kid gets invites to parties and you don't bother to RSVP? WEll the couple times it has happened, I inadvertently forgot to RSVP. But I don't know these parents, I don't know these kids. DS goes to preschool near my office - the kids he is going to preschool with are not the kids he would be going to elementary school with. Elementary school, yeah I will try to do a better job of RSVPing.... or i would have if we were staying in the area because I would be dealing with the same kids and parents for the next 13 years. I meant to RSVP and simply forgot. For some reason, the 3 parties DS has been invited from school have occurred during times that have been crazy busy for us - the week after we got back from Florida (so yes, the school year was already over), the weekend my parents were visiting, and the Sunday before Thanksgiving. I was trying to figure out how to make these parties and then got overwelmed and forgot. I RSVP to my neighbors when they throw parties.
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Post by AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP on Jan 19, 2015 16:07:00 GMT -5
www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/let-lesson-learnt-angry-mum-5004545OK, let's stipulate that it was stupid, and never should have been done. That being said, be honest: who else share's my view that the lost art of the RSVP pisses them off? Basically, we've resigned ourselves to preparing to entertain and serve as many people as we invite to things. People that never responded show up, people that respond in the positive don't. I've never thought of invoicing people- but I can certainly relate to the frustration.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Jan 19, 2015 16:11:05 GMT -5
Right. Assholes are everywhere. Hence why I hang out with dogs more than people. This what Hitler used to say... You were friends with Hitler?
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Post by gooddecisions on Jan 19, 2015 16:51:58 GMT -5
Oh wow, I just read the conversation and it's so awkward. I would have told my kid that since he committed to going to the party, he had to go. But, I am very big on following through on commitments. I'm sure telling the host mom he wanted to hang out with grandma and grandpa instead pissed her off even more. The lesson she wanted him to learn is to follow through on commitments. Why was that so hard for the no-shows mom to see? That said, I never hold it against no-shows. Crap happens.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2015 17:23:24 GMT -5
Would they charge kids that show up but forgot to bring present too?
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jan 19, 2015 17:36:26 GMT -5
Would they charge kids that show up but forgot to bring present too? This isn't the point. Too many people RSVP yes and don't show. Other than the fact that it is incredibly rude (in fact, I think it is more rude to RSVP yes and not show, than not RSVP at all). In many cases, it leaves the host out a considerable sum of money that is essentially going to waste.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2015 17:59:01 GMT -5
Suing means law or contract broken. I don't think invitation say "if you RSVP and no show, you will be responsible for costs".
Rude, yes. Don't get to sue for bad manners.
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Post by Works4me on Jan 19, 2015 18:21:08 GMT -5
Eh - to me, no RSVP means not going - I am always far more upset with those who say they are going to attend and flake out, as in this case. I think it was incredibly tacky to no-show, worse to send a bill, and just as bad not to pay said bill. The only good part of this is it shows all the other parents who the nuts are - ie, best to avoid interacting with both of these families.
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Post by marvholly on Jan 20, 2015 6:21:20 GMT -5
heard about this on the VERY early news this am.
The bday's parents are DUMB for having guarnteed an exact amount of kids attending. Most places are prepared for a certain amount of leeway. There ar ALWAYS no shows at any party including weddings (MUCH more $$). Kids (and anyone) get sick. Sometimes adults just plain forget or have a family emergency (parent/sibling rushed to hospital) or a car has a flat/breaks down.
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Post by Shooby on Jan 20, 2015 6:49:13 GMT -5
Some people really just like creating their own drama in life.
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Post by bean29 on Jan 20, 2015 7:35:36 GMT -5
We don't invite 30 kids to birthday parties. We typically do something with just family and a couple friends who we invite in person. No need for invitations and RSVPs. The schools here say if you hand out the invites at school, you have to invite the whole class. Sarajesse, if I don't get an RSVP I assume they are not planning to come (unless the invite says "RSVP Regrets Only").
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2015 7:38:13 GMT -5
The fact that she re-confirmed the RSVP by phone the day she had to pay is the thing that sticks out to me. Still handled all wrong. On both sides.
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Post by Shooby on Jan 20, 2015 7:39:38 GMT -5
Yes, if you RSVP that you are going and can't go, at least call and tell them you can't go. 5 yr olds do get sick, etc . so at least have that courtesy.
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Post by Shooby on Jan 20, 2015 7:40:54 GMT -5
We don't invite 30 kids to birthday parties. We typically do something with just family and a couple friends who we invite in person. No need for invitations and RSVPs. The schools here say if you hand out the invites at school, you have to invite the whole class. Sarajesse, if I don't get an RSVP I assume they are not planning to come (unless the invite says "RSVP Regrets Only"). Well, that's fine to invite the whole class in Kindergarten but is there a point in life where you have to understand that sorry you don't get invited to everyone's party? I mean, yes teach your kids to be discreet but they shouldn't have to invite the whole class forever.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jan 20, 2015 7:55:15 GMT -5
Be glad this didn't happen in the US. Family would have been sued for $1,000,000. And if their reason for not showing up was that they were all killed in auto accident on way to party the estate would have been sued.
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Post by violagirl on Jan 20, 2015 8:22:53 GMT -5
Was I raised old school? If you can't afford to host a party - then dont' have one.
Is it not the hosts responsibility to pay? That would be why they are the "host". It is like someone throwing you a party and then sending you the bill. That is just strange.
Why would you let your kids go hang out with strangers? You don't know how to contact the parents but you would drop your kid off with them?
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Post by tloonya on Jan 20, 2015 9:45:05 GMT -5
This what Hitler used to say... You were friends with Hitler? He died before I was born. So, answer is no. But your age is not known to me.
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Post by tloonya on Jan 20, 2015 9:47:02 GMT -5
so your kid gets invites to parties and you don't bother to RSVP? WEll the couple times it has happened, I inadvertently forgot to RSVP. But I don't know these parents, I don't know these kids. DS goes to preschool near my office - the kids he is going to preschool with are not the kids he would be going to elementary school with. Elementary school, yeah I will try to do a better job of RSVPing.... or i would have if we were staying in the area because I would be dealing with the same kids and parents for the next 13 years. I meant to RSVP and simply forgot. For some reason, the 3 parties DS has been invited from school have occurred during times that have been crazy busy for us - the week after we got back from Florida (so yes, the school year was already over), the weekend my parents were visiting, and the Sunday before Thanksgiving. I was trying to figure out how to make these parties and then got overwelmed and forgot. I RSVP to my neighbors when they throw parties. It is reminding me of my suggestion to serve filet mignon to guests you care about and meatballs to those you don't.
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Post by AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP on Jan 20, 2015 10:01:16 GMT -5
Would they charge kids that show up but forgot to bring present too? It's not about covering the cost of people who RSVP in the positive and show up- it's about paying for a no-show that isn't dead or in the ER.
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 20, 2015 10:02:07 GMT -5
Both sides are assholes. They deserve to fight with each other. End of story. How is charged party is an assholes? (1) They RSVP's and then confirmed the RSVP, but then just let the kid decide to do whatever he wanted. (2) They took this fight to international news sources instead of just sending $25 in an envelope to the parent they slighted. Or, at the very most, causing a ruckus in their school, but not giving an interview to every reporter that comes knocking. Why did he talk to the receptionist at the school about a non-school issue?
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Post by AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP on Jan 20, 2015 10:05:55 GMT -5
I actually had someone do this at the kids B-Day party Saturday. One of the families we invited lives about 30 minutes from us. They were going to do something in the City in between us earlier in the day with a friend and then they had to go back to the City after the party that afternoon and wasn't going to have time to take the other friend home. Since I hadn't met another family's foster kids until the party, it didn't bother me that we had an extra kid running around. And where do you guys get no shows at your parties? We invited 26 people and had 27 show up. But I didn't let DS invite friends from school for that reason. I get invites in his stuff for other parties and I just groan and don't respond at all. This year he isn't that close to his friends at school. So, it wasn't a big deal to not invite them. so your kid gets invites to parties and you don't bother to RSVP? I wish I could say it's unusual. I keep tabs, though- those families don't get invites from us a second time. I also don't spend a lot of time kevetching about kids knowing they weren't invited. I'm not inviting the whole class. Want an invite- get to know my kid. Or make sure your dad has a fishing boat.
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Post by bean29 on Jan 20, 2015 10:06:11 GMT -5
The schools here say if you hand out the invites at school, you have to invite the whole class. Sarajesse, if I don't get an RSVP I assume they are not planning to come (unless the invite says "RSVP Regrets Only"). Well, that's fine to invite the whole class in Kindergarten but is there a point in life where you have to understand that sorry you don't get invited to everyone's party? I mean, yes teach your kids to be discreet but they shouldn't have to invite the whole class forever. Sorry, I am pretty sure it is a grade school thing. My DD got a cell phone in 4th grade. I am not even sure how kids invite other kids to b-day parties anymore. Do they still use cardstock invites? Do they send Facebook Messages? I get a few FB invites a year.
You know I am sure over time that my kids did RSVP they were going to a party and did not attend...but if that were the case I would have sent over a gift anyways. We always taught our kids that you invite people to your party because you want them to share in the event, but gifts are not expected or "owed". The way I understand the "Bill" being sent, it was the next day...so they did not even wait to see if their child would receive a gift from the non-attendee. Once I got the bill, I would not have sent the gift.
And no court is going to award this family $$ because the child did not show up at the party. It is Akin to saying if you RSVP'd you owe me a gift.
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